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Re: Life For A Woman After A Divorce.... by Metalgoong(m): 5:21am On Sep 11, 2012 |
USAMarshal: Are you implying that the American hubby was also a homo who was getting sp.erm from his man lovers . |
Re: Life For A Woman After A Divorce.... by Sexxymom(f): 5:39am On Sep 11, 2012 |
dasparrow: @Posteveryone's is entitle to their own opinion. There are 2 sides to a story.u've heard the op's side what about d ex? she got married to a divorcee,did she find out what TRULY happened with his previous marriage? What if she lacked some qualities(no one's perfect), what if she nagged him or wasnt good in bed,cooking or any other thing? was she willing to correct it? A man is d head of a family while d woman is d neck of a family,they both need eachother to stand.not everything u say online,d op cant tell u d whole story or did u or me live with them to knw if all she says are correct |
Re: Life For A Woman After A Divorce.... by Metalgoong(m): 5:48am On Sep 11, 2012 |
Sexxymom: everyone's is entitle to their own opinion. There are 2 sides to a story.u've heard the op's side what about d ex? she got married to a divorcee,did she find out what TRULY happened with his previous marriage? What if she lacked some qualities(no one's perfect), what if she nagged him or wasnt good in bed,cooking or any other thing? was she willing to correct it? A man is d head of a family while d woman is d neck of a family,they both need eachother to stand.not everything u say online,d op cant tell u d whole story or did u or me live with them to knw if all she says are correct Don't worry, she will soon tell you how stupid and ignorant you Nigerian women are, and how you Nigerian women are the cause of how those chauvinistic, misogynistic, bad , and wicked Nigerian men are treating you all . . lol Nice post though. |
Re: Life For A Woman After A Divorce.... by Metalgoong(m): 5:49am On Sep 11, 2012 |
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Re: Life For A Woman After A Divorce.... by Tedpgrass: 5:50am On Sep 11, 2012 |
afam4eva: You got over it the moment you signed the divorce papers. Be sensitive, man... Or simply leave without making comments There were alleged "IVF issues" so It's a little more complicated than petty matters. Thank you. , |
Re: Life For A Woman After A Divorce.... by Nobody: 5:53am On Sep 11, 2012 |
LMAO, nothing someone won't read on this forum. @Topic Pslm23, I am so sorry for what you are going through. I remember your thread on bad spousal habits, your thread on IVF. I remember your posts and I pray God sees you through as you face this very difficult situation. 10 years isn't lost, just see it as a leaning class you had to endure and graduated from it after so much struggle. The God I know will wipe away your tears and like the igbos will say "onu kuru'njo ge ku nma" . Continue with therapy and thank God you came out of it Alive. Stay away from men for now and ask yourself what exactly you want from a man and where you plan to be in the next 5 years. Do not let people say you won't find someone else, if it is Gods will you will. I love you 4 Likes |
Re: Life For A Woman After A Divorce.... by Sexxymom(f): 5:55am On Sep 11, 2012 |
Kobojunkie:this is d part where i would say "love is blind" but guess what?my love is wearing a sharp glasses so i can see well and clear. Sometimes d sign r there but we choose to ignore beliving it will get better and on d long run its get worst.i dnt have to wait to b rejected,once i see and feel d signs i reject d person.a strong woman should learn to controll her emotions and not her emotions controlling her. Gudluck kobo. |
Re: Life For A Woman After A Divorce.... by Sexxymom(f): 6:05am On Sep 11, 2012 |
Metalgoong:u just siad nigerian women( i am an indivdidual) i speak and act for myself.i dnt have to act like u or nigerians,i am me cos u dnt run my emotions and thinking for me. "YES I AM A NIGERIAN" but we all think and see things diffently cos not d same mama gave birth to us all.( address d individual dnt generalise)am sure where u come from u've got good and bad people. |
Re: Life For A Woman After A Divorce.... by Nobody: 7:31am On Sep 11, 2012 |
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Re: Life For A Woman After A Divorce.... by ifyalways(f): 7:59am On Sep 11, 2012 |
How does having grown children make him a divorcee?not possible that the wife is late? Na wao for us oh. @Psalm, in as much as you didn't ask for this and I don't know what really happened, I wish you take time off to think all your decisions through rationally. You are sad and in pains and its very normal to be but is there any hope of forgiveness, working it all out? Don't close that window. You still have a lot to thank God and stay positive for. Stay strong! |
Re: Life For A Woman After A Divorce.... by richyblink1(m): 8:50am On Sep 11, 2012 |
God can mend a broken hrt only if we can gv him all d pieces. Poster,when life seems to b so tough & u feel u r alone;take a deep breath & reflect on all d positive things in ur life,u will sure see a reason to smile. Its time to move on,mix with positive peepz. Read motivational books which will help u discover D GIANT IN U. In life there will always b challanges,bt mind u;THERE WILL ALWAYS B TOMORROW. |
Re: Life For A Woman After A Divorce.... by manbuchai: 9:14am On Sep 11, 2012 |
pslm23: Thank you all for your kind words and encouragement. This is indeed a road i never thought i'd walk! When i said "I Do" to him, i fully intended to stay married forever. What this has taught me though is that we as humans might have our own pre-conceived ideas on how we want our lives to turn out but in the long run,God has the ultimate say so! |
Re: Life For A Woman After A Divorce.... by doubleroti: 12:27pm On Sep 11, 2012 |
One thing i have to say is this, It's possible to look back at these times and moments in some months or years to come, and boldly declare that "Even though it was rough, hard and hopeless, I came out just fine".......YES it's very possible and the only way i know is through God and his Word. Cling unto him and seek comfort in him. It most probably won't be an easy process, but you will have a reason to believe for a happy life at the end of the day. I pray for strength and grace with you. |
Re: Life For A Woman After A Divorce.... by USAMarshal: 12:53pm On Sep 11, 2012 |
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Re: Life For A Woman After A Divorce.... by Kobojunkie: 1:15pm On Sep 11, 2012 |
Sexxymom: this is d part where i would say "love is blind" but guess what?my love is wearing a sharp glasses so i can see well and clear. Sometimes d sign r there but we choose to ignore beliving it will get better and on d long run its get worst.i dnt have to wait to b rejected,once i see and feel d signs i reject d person.a strong woman should learn to controll her emotions and not her emotions controlling her. Gudluck kobo. Soooooooooooo . . . when a woman is dealing with divorce, she should control her emotions, BECAUSE there is a medal for those who bottle-it-up? I don't understand what the heck that advice even means. If anything it sounds stoopoid. I mean why would any person choose NOT TO MOURN, not to WEEP, not to let go . . what makes you think or believe that is what makes people strong? What made that crap up? Let me guess, do you also believe that men who cry are week men? Unbelievable! a strong woman should learn to control her emotions and not her emotions controlling her. Why in the world does an adult in the year 2012 cling to this sort of nonsense? 2 Likes |
Re: Life For A Woman After A Divorce.... by Kobojunkie: 1:35pm On Sep 11, 2012 |
USAMarshal: sperm. you need sperm and eggg for IVF I get that, I just don't get what you mean by he took it from a street walker? What for? Usually during IVFs it is ok for the donors to be those seeking help. Anyways, I am not informed on the IVF side of this so I don't think it should matter what the man did there. |
Re: Life For A Woman After A Divorce.... by Nobody: 1:35pm On Sep 11, 2012 |
I can tell that YOU will be fine from your old threads i see a strong, passionate woman who will fight for what she wants. Never giving up spirit and sometimes that is all you need and there is no shame in what happened to you, the beauty of every story is that someone somewhere will learn from it and it is ok to fall apart and mend again. Do you know you have been an inspiration for so many people world wide to keep trying against all odds. You are a champion lady. Maybe you can start by writing a book. loads of love and hugs. |
Re: Life For A Woman After A Divorce.... by Nobody: 1:47pm On Sep 11, 2012 |
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Re: Life For A Woman After A Divorce.... by Ivynwa(f): 2:18pm On Sep 11, 2012 |
chaircover: Ewoo, Nne her husband is an angel. Yes o-o he is even the most favorite angel before Angel Michael came to be. I hope you are happy now that I am keeping the unwritten rules of some persons in nairaland. You have to sit nice and prim and read it to me that I called a man (that is taking birth control measure yet watching his wife going through rigorous IVF treatment) a devil. What have you said to the persons reminding her that she married a divorcee and others telling her that she is being punished for the part she played in another marriage? If you want to counsel her your own way/method, why don't you close the thread and go counsel her alone that way you won't need to see the comment of other posters instead of writing your own script to put in my mouth to comment. If you want to read only what you want to hear here then start with admonishing the main culprits that throw acid and atomic bomb of words on people when they come sharing their sorrows here or do you enjoy it when certain persons mock people sharing their problems here? We are all reading and feeling sorry for this lady, I hope things work out good for her as it won't be up to six months when the mockers in the section will start rubbing it in her face and laughing at her how she is below them for having no husband and a broken marriage. You know what am talking about woman, a pregnant woman has been made jest of because of her financial state, distressed women in unhappy marriages insulted and called names, just two days ago a man that has shared his divorce story was mocked right in your face madam and you never said a word because the persons that mock people here are untouchables/too big in your eyes to be admonished. You can tell the moderator to ban me for not commenting the way you want, You can even open a thread and be telling the unmarried lady how complicated marriage is, you can also come and sweep me out of the forum and section nah as I no carry marriage certificate like una wey dey feel married and on top of the world. Excuse me. |
Re: Life For A Woman After A Divorce.... by Nobody: 2:25pm On Sep 11, 2012 |
Ivynwa: Ivy nwa'm madam CC's right. I mean I went through her previous posts and saw how much her husband supported her while she was TTCing. Abeg the man try jor . . . I still find it difficult to believe that he will go through all that and then go and take birth controls pills behind her back. Looks like he 'said' that just to spite her! Let's not help her to crucify him yet. No man who stands through a woman through all that is worth being called a Devil! |
Re: Life For A Woman After A Divorce.... by Nobody: 2:27pm On Sep 11, 2012 |
Ivynwa: So uncalled for . . . . Nobody feels better off just cos they are married. I hope your insecurities is not getting the better of you. You are bigger than such pettiness my sister! 1 Like |
Re: Life For A Woman After A Divorce.... by Ivynwa(f): 2:35pm On Sep 11, 2012 |
Who cares whether she is right or wrong? If she wants to be right about admonishing she should admonish when people gets mocked about in the forum, she can't tell me that they are trying to counsel somebody and that I shouldn't say what I said. The forum is for everybody not for a certain some. You can type in all that you want to say too. Thanks. |
Re: Life For A Woman After A Divorce.... by DBestDoc(f): 2:40pm On Sep 11, 2012 |
I'm really scared of life. Yeah, i followed through your IVF post last year and i was really impressed by your resilience, couldn't help but pray for you and ur hubby everyday. Im So shocked and short of words.I'm sure this too will pass and you will go through this unbroken. MAN CAN FAIL YOU,BUT GOD NEVER FAILS.HIS LOVE IS UNCONDITIONAL,YOU DON'T HAVE TO EARN IT COS HE LOVES YOU JUST PERFECTLY. |
Re: Life For A Woman After A Divorce.... by Nobody: 2:44pm On Sep 11, 2012 |
Ivynwa: Who cares whether she is right or wrong? If she wants to be right about admonishing she should admonish when people gets mocked about in the forum, she can't tell me that they are trying to counsel somebody and that I shouldn't say what I said. The forum is for everybody not for a certain some. You can type in all that you want to say too. Thanks. Haba . .. na fight? There's no need for you to get antagonistic over a minor correction. Anyways na you sabi. Me I don tire to talk today jare . . . |
Re: Life For A Woman After A Divorce.... by ifyalways(f): 2:49pm On Sep 11, 2012 |
Uju, ivy unu akpasukwana m iwe. Ozugo nu. She needs our support not for us to nuso onwe anyi ogu. Biko. |
Re: Life For A Woman After A Divorce.... by Ivynwa(f): 2:50pm On Sep 11, 2012 |
Ujujoan: Go about your business sweetheart. Where did the word "fight" emanate from? Be the lady that you are and walk on please. Thanks very much. |
Re: Life For A Woman After A Divorce.... by Nobody: 2:56pm On Sep 11, 2012 |
ifyalways: Uju, ivy unu akpasukwana m iwe. Ozugo nu. Ivy ma na ike adi ro'm taata! Ivynwa: Shaking my b0tt0m right and left . . . making shakara and walking away! |
Re: Life For A Woman After A Divorce.... by Ivynwa(f): 3:00pm On Sep 11, 2012 |
Ujujoan: Now I couldn't resist not laughing at that, yes shake what mama gave you . |
Re: Life For A Woman After A Divorce.... by Nobody: 3:51pm On Sep 11, 2012 |
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Re: Life For A Woman After A Divorce.... by pslm23(f): 4:53pm On Sep 11, 2012 |
He's a widower. before we got married, we talked about having kids. 3 as a matter of fact. Androgel is a cream used to treat low testetorone in men but usually it is men who have no intention of having more kids that use this cream because of what it does to the s.p.erm count! and they tell any woman who has intentions of having children, not to come in contact with the cream cos it will affect her ability to get pregnant. He never told me that he had started using this cream until the day of my ER when it was time to collect his sample and it turned out that he had not even one swimmer alive. He was told to stop using it for the next 6 months so his count will come back up. He did not. He continued using it. When he gave me his confession after i caught them, he told me that he was very relieved now to have that secret off his back because the guilt has been hitting him hard. He knew he didn't want any more kids early last year but he says he didn't know how to tell me! I was a good wife. i respected him as best as i could. He was my best friend, the only family i had here. we had rocky times in the marriage but that is normal! We still weathered all storms and made it past 10 years. Right now, i guess the Androgel is working big time and making him feel all macho cos he was the first to sign the papers and all and he is living his life to the hilt! I would never have stood in his way if he had just been honest with me from the first time he started feeling like he wanted out of the marriage! Better i walked away healthy than have to perform "wifely" duties with a man who just came from another street walker's arms! I posted what i was going through here because during my IVF journey, many of you gave me the strength i needed to see this thing through. I am not asking for pity, love or condemnation. I just wanted a shoulder to cry on outside of my sister's, i just wanted anybody that knows or has been through a divorce to encourage me. Dealing with property division, insurance stuff and so many other things you built together can be very tough, knowing that in about 3 weeks, i will have my father's name back after being known as something else for so long, knowing that he will go on and keep having a fantastic life while i am here afraid to move on and trust another person! My dreams of having my own child will happen with or without a husband! The eggs that were collected on that faithful day are presently being frozen and stored at the clinic until i decide whether to go ahead with a donor! Right now, i'm in no frame of mind to make any decisions regarding them. I do sincerely thank all of you for your positive feedback and encouragement and even those who gave their negative comments, thank you! Everyday is a learning process. I have learnt a thing or two from what has happened! Good and bad Today i am stronger than i was yesterday and it is because of those of you here that reached out to me privately and here. Thank you! 11 Likes |
Re: Life For A Woman After A Divorce.... by freecocoa(f): 5:05pm On Sep 11, 2012 |
Sister thank God you are pulling through, just stay strong, you will smile again. Btw that her husband wicked, i can't help saying it abeg, he was just deceiving her all those years and well God go judge am sha. 2 Likes |
Re: Life For A Woman After A Divorce.... by Nobody: 5:44pm On Sep 11, 2012 |
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