Meanwhile.. I learnt of a Lady who started dating this guy. That as soon as she came into his life, she started acting like a wife. She would pick out his clothes, buy and replace his socks (if they are torn), replace his underwears and boxers (Stuff that most guys tend to always forget to do), cook meals for him to come back from work to, bring him surprise (home cooked) lunch at work, buy and replace things like toilet rolls, bathing sponge and soap, deodorant, perfumes, e.t.c whilst keeping his house clean. When the guy gave her a key to his flat, he didnt know.. They were married after barely a year of courting. The guy became so dependent of her it was almost like she had used juju on him. MEANWHILE.. This babe schooled in Jand o!! MSc. holder.

Beloved1993: This is simply not true. You should say some ladies. My hubby is a traditional man, as I am a family woman. I am a Dr, but my family comes before my career.
I cook and my hubby helps especially if I am not able to cook for any reason, he is actually a very good cook. It doesn't make him less of a traditional man.
My religion and my culture teaches me that the man is the head of the family, so no amount of western education can change that.

slimyem: Men are just confused.They want traditional wives and also want independent intellectual women perpetually looking like cleopatra while also contibuting to family coffers.
The meeting point of both is thin.
Traditional men usually want a boss-sevant relationship and well,modern women won't suscribe to such. Who wants a man who sees her as nothing more than a subordinate who's supposed to be at his beck and call all day everyday?
A man who wants a wife that'd take his briefcase as soon as he walks in the door,arrange his bath water,set food on the table and watch him eat and go warm his bed afterwards...or isn't that the stereotype?
Abeg!
If you are a traditional man who wants a traditional wife,look in the right place.Take the fastest bus to your village and find a qualified mgbeke who has been specially trained to SERVE you her husband all her life...and goodluck with that!

Okija_juju:


You are also getting it twisted...

Say I be traditional man no mean say I no go help my Nwa baby.

But the point here is that most of you women here dont see these chores as your responsibility. And thats where the problem lie.

I can go into the market for my wife whilst she does cleans the house or even sleeps sef. However, it has to be because I want to and not because my wife does not know how to do it.

SO do you agree that a womans responsibility in a home is to cook, clean, do the dishes, do the laundry, go shopping, tend o the kids and all other domestic chores/duties?!

oyb: does afam want a traditional woman?

do nigerian men really want a traditional woman - one that will lie down like log of wood in bed, is not concerned about her weight, will only wear traditional attire, is unable to give any advice, is little more than a child rearing machine. . .




this is a traditional woman? a girl who had a boyfriend? in a traditional setting, that is a slut. a traditional babe is one whose parents marry her off usually at 19 or 20 for a tidy sum.

all this one is double talk and ridiculous attempts at nostalgia

jay bee: Who is a traditional man?

kulyie: There's something my mom told me and i wont forget it.she said you are too educated,exposed and beautiful to marry a traditional man.they wont bring out the best in you,they will make you subservient to them,they will reduce you to properties of their own and you wont have a life of your own.you will only live and aspire for them.marry a friend,a companion and confidant not a ruler,a domineering man oregocentric man which is associated with traditional men.many of them even have violent tendencies and will have their way through violence.mind you my mom is married and not just married,she has been happily married some thirty something years back.anyway what is good for a might be repulsive to b,as for me o,i cant marry a traditional man.even the educated ones are not different from the way mechanics,tailors,drivers and gateman will think.their school of thought judging from what i've studied about them,a mans problem is his wifes problem too,a wife's problem is her own problem and buisness.she doesnt have an opinion a voice and a say.she is suseptible to violence and threat at any time.some ladies may like traditional men o,thats their cup of tea,but for me o and people around me i know of,they cant marry traditional men.i remember mumsi also saying the ladies that will find traditional men ok with them are illiterates,semi illiterates,sales girls,house girls,janitors and messengers because they know next to nothing and they believe whatever their husby says is final.fortunatly for me,i am blessed my parents are still alive and together,my idad is an example.he is a partner to my mom and not a domineering man.he is my model for having a man.such a liberal man

afam4eva: If there's one thing I've noticed in life, it is that people always embrace things that will benefit them. With the infiltration of western culture into Nigeria, our ladies have been mostly receptive to this culture. They embrace it and even carry it into their search for a spouse. I've heard ladies say things like "I can't marry a traditional man". Meaning that, they don't want a man who's a stickler for African tradition. I think this is just because these ladies know that African culture does not favour them so, they'll rather marry someone who has a western outlook on life.

They want a man who won't require them to cook as a typical African woman will readily do.

They want a man that will give them the kind of freedom that they desire to do whatever they want? Ask Tonto Dike.

They want a man that won't rule over them as the head of the family. Infact they want someone they won't submit to.

Isn't it ironic that the same ladies will want advice young people that they should respect their elders because it's part of African culture.

You can see that these ladies use and dump African culture when it suits them.

free2ryhme:


is there anything wrong in a graduate(female ) pounding yam or cooking bitter leaf soup ....?

free2ryhme:


is there anything wrong in a graduate(female ) pounding yam or cooking bitter leaf soup ....?

Vikin:

Talk true, if you be woman you will do the same. The reason most men are here talking about tradition and all, it's because it really favour's them.

Abeg, I got one life to live and am not ready to kill myself for a man because I can't pound yam properly or I don't know how to do the local ewedu soup with broomstick.

I rather focus on my Dy Dx, make the cash with hubby together then go on sweet vacation every now and then and have sweet s e.x.x.x while looking like under 15.

No time!

Vikin: Traditionally Men? You are on your own.

Had one as a colleague who insisted his future wife must know how to pound yam because he loves pounded yam? In this modern world?
I was even suggesting for him yam powder or to do the pounding while the wife cooks the yam, he said no way! Lol. The same person also wants a working graduate.

Another one that was seeking for marriage was enquiring about me and one of the questions he asked my cousin was if I can cook bitter leaf soup because he doesn't joke with that.

Anyway,

A shout out to all traditional Men, wake up, it 2013 already..keep the useful traditions( if you like) and drop the ones that will send your future wives earlier to grave. I don talk finish!

Beloved1993: This is simply not true. You should say some ladies. My hubby is a traditional man, as I am a family woman. I am a Dr, but my family comes before my career.
I cook and my hubby helps especially if I am not able to cook for any reason, he is actually a very good cook. It doesn't make him less of a traditional man.
My religion and my culture teaches me that the man is the head of the family, so no amount of western education can change that.

kulyie: There's something my mom told me and i wont forget it.she said you are too educated,exposed and beautiful to marry a traditional man.they wont bring out the best in you,they will make you subservient to them,they will reduce you to properties of their own and you wont have a life of your own.you will only live and aspire for them.marry a friend,a companion and confidant not a ruler,a domineering man oregocentric man which is associated with traditional men.many of them even have violent tendencies and will have their way through violence.mind you my mom is married and not just married,she has been happily married some thirty something years back.anyway what is good for a might be repulsive to b,as for me o,i cant marry a traditional man.even the educated ones are not different from the way mechanics,tailors,drivers and gateman will think.their school of thought judging from what i've studied about them,a mans problem is his wifes problem too,a wife's problem is her own problem and buisness.she doesnt have an opinion a voice and a say.she is suseptible to violence and threat at any time.some ladies may like traditional men o,thats their cup of tea,but for me o and people around me i know of,they cant marry traditional men.i remember mumsi also saying the ladies that will find traditional men ok with them are illiterates,semi illiterates,sales girls,house girls,janitors and messengers because they know next to nothing and they believe whatever their husby says is final.fortunatly for me,i am blessed my parents are still alive and together,my dad is an example.he is a partner to my mom and not a domineering man.he is my model for having a man.such a liberal man

Witty07:
Little did u knw that a man won't be domineering if the wife accepts that she has to be submisive and live a virtuous life with her husband even while working on herself

slimyem: Are you saying my husband isn't supposed to be my mate?
He isn't also supposed to be my friend and companion?
What's he supposed to be then?
My god?
Of course i can do all of that but what stops him from running his own bath while i do the cooking?
What are his hands for?
Flipping channels on tv while i slave round the house for him after having an equally stressfull day trying to support the family?

You can't have it all man.
You want an 100 percent traditional woman,go to your village!
You want a middle point,make compromises and adjust!
Simple!

kulyie: There's something my mom told me and i wont forget it.she said you are too educated,exposed and beautiful to marry a traditional man.they wont bring out the best in you,they will make you subservient to them,they will reduce you to properties of their own and you wont have a life of your own.you will only live and aspire for them.marry a friend,a companion and confidant not a ruler,a domineering man oregocentric man which is associated with traditional men.many of them even have violent tendencies and will have their way through violence.mind you my mom is married and not just married,she has been happily married some thirty something years back.anyway what is good for a might be repulsive to b,as for me o,i cant marry a traditional man.even the educated ones are not different from the way mechanics,tailors,drivers and gateman will think.their school of thought judging from what i've studied about them,a mans problem is his wifes problem too,a wife's problem is her own problem and buisness.she doesnt have an opinion a voice and a say.she is suseptible to violence and threat at any time.some ladies may like traditional men o,thats their cup of tea,but for me o and people around me i know of,they cant marry traditional men.i remember mumsi also saying the ladies that will find traditional men ok with them are illiterates,semi illiterates,sales girls,house girls,janitors and messengers because they know next to nothing and they believe whatever their husby says is final.fortunatly for me,i am blessed my parents are still alive and together,my dad is an example.he is a partner to my mom and not a domineering man.he is my model for having a man.such a liberal man

slimyem: Are you saying my husband isn't supposed to be my mate?
He isn't also supposed to be my friend and companion?
What's he supposed to be then?
My god?

slimyem: Of course i can do all of that but what stops him from running his own bath while i do the cooking?
What are his hands for?
Flipping channels on tv while i slave round the house for him after having an equally stressfull day trying to support the family?

slimyem: You can't have it all man.
You want an 100 percent traditional woman,go to your village!
You want a middle point,make compromises and adjust!
Simple!

afam4eva:
But you see, our mothers and grandmother never complained about doing these things. Girls of nowadays are just lazy.

Odunnu:
Any man who wears traditional cloths