I created a new ID to avoid mockery. I've been dating a Ghanaian lady here in Australia for the past three years. She's good, loyal, caring, lovely, smart and all that.. She loves me like mad. When we started dating, I made it known to her that I do not love and do not want to because of my past experiences, more so, that I wouldn't commit before I finish my PhD program. She didn't say anything and instead kept coming closer to me.

I' m the only son of my parents and extremely close to them. In fact, since birth, they've always given me everything I asked for.They've repeatedly said marying from my tribe is the only thing they want from me, and the only thing that would make them happy. Some people would be like why don't you talk to your parents? Believe me, I've been doing that since God knows when.

Herein lies the problem, I love this girl, sure! But I wouldnt want to displease my parents. I've finally decided I'm gonna leave her, but how do I do it without hurting her so much. Last sunday, she cooked, cleaned and bought gifts for me, and remember I've already told her to stop all that. I felt terrible as I was eating this food all because I'd be leaving her. I deeply feel for her, of course.. I'm human too!

The question is how do I leave this lady without causing her unnecessary pain? Has anyone been in this awkward situation before?
Your suggestions are really needed!

Why don't you just marry the one you love and who loves you? You've not seen the tribal girl your parents are dreaming of for you have you? Gone are those days man ...follow your dream and not anyone else's. Your parents are not the ones to live your whole live with the girl the dream for you rather its just you and the lady!

On the other hand, be sure the Ghanaian lady is serious and for real (though I know most of them are) so think twice before making your decision and not follow decisions made for you ...its called being your own man and not disobedience!

So you are going to allow some rule your parents made affect who you marry? I wonder if you are the one getting married or your folks.

Well a lot of people attach importance to tribe, race etc when considering a spouse. Do as you wish.

How to leave her? Call her, sit her down and tell her

[size=16pt]OP LEAVE THIS GIRL AND I WILL COME OVER THERE AND STAB YOU[/size]

Stalker INC.

Mynd_44: So you are going to allow some rule your parents made affect who you marry? I wonder if you are the one getting married or your folks.

Well a lot of people attach importance to tribe, race etc when considering a spouse. Do as you wish.

How to leave her? Call her, sit her down and tell her

Word!!!

you might be someone who doesn't like visiting home (ur town or village), so to make sure u do not forget home totally, they wished u marry one of the tribe's ladies .
As human beings we tend to fall in love with people close and around us, so I advice u to come home & spend sometimes, who knows u may find someone u love n is loved by ur parents .
sometimes the wishes of our parents -the caring ones, can not just be waved aside because of love which is NOT THE ONLY REQUIREMENT for marriage.
we need their blessings.
You can't be 100% certain that she'd continue with her present caring n loving attitudes, she might just be desperate to get u hooked n tied down even with pregnancy!

Quote this post: When u marry someone from ur tribe, someone who doesnt truly loves u, but pretends to, then, U ARE FINISHED COMPLETELY.

It's better you marry someone you love and who loves you.

If you just want someone from your tribe,you might end up with a loveless marriage.