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Can I show her this thread?: In Love With A Young Single Mother.. / Can You Marry An Independent, Divorcee/'single mother' Nigerian Woman? / Would You Date/marry A Single Mother/father? (2) (3) (4)
. by dosht(f): 3:20pm On Jun 30, 2014 |
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Re: . by 2goodbobo(m): 3:34pm On Jun 30, 2014 |
It is rather unfortunate that you found yourself in this situation. Dont know what part of the world you are right now but the truth is, here in Nigeria, dating single Mother is seen like more or less a taboo in the sense that, first of all Men are afraid of the extra luggage"child" cos they dont want to raise someone else's child and also family and peer pressure plays a big role.Most parent wont even give you a chance with their son once they know you are a single mother. Having said that, It is not a hopeless situtation for you because their are small parcentage of men who can date and possibly marry you. Dont lose hope. be strong and take care of your baby. look good, dress well and attend social gatherings and maybe the right man will surface. My final advise to you is dont hate your daughter because is not his fault, what if you you died in the process of getting rid of her? God knows why it happen. just accept it and face the situation. i have seen a couple of single moms who men are still chasing and even want to settle down with. 2 Likes |
Re: . by dosht(f): 3:38pm On Jun 30, 2014 |
Drop the idea of a man "fixing" things - find a hobby that you enjoy instead. Men are not worth the bother. My colleague told me this 1 Like |
Re: . by phlemzy: 3:41pm On Jun 30, 2014 |
U shouldn't for any reason start developing a form of hatred for ur child just because of the turn down dat comes ur way from the guys run into or friends not wanting to associate wit u. The very man dat will love u & ur child will eventually come ur way. Invest more of ur time in how you will become independent as to taking care of ur kid so dat the yet to com lover wont see u & ur lovely kid as a burden to him. U really never know what the future's got for you.keep a positive mind! |
Re: . by temhab(f): 3:47pm On Jun 30, 2014 |
Don't be tempted to have your new boyfriend take on any parenting roles until it seems reasonable. What do I mean? For example, it would be weird to have him pick your child up from practice until he's a regular fixture in your life. And don't even think about having him discipline your children. Your kids will resent it and may even end up holding a grudge against him. 1 Like |
Re: . by Nobody: 4:03pm On Jun 30, 2014 |
You should know, this is Africa. Your Single motherly wedlock-ish status scares the shit_ out of men because they think you were once a LovePeddler. which perhaps, you ain't. Just too things, keep the status quote of being responsible and presentable, and in No time, your status would definitely change. Amen. 1 Like |
Re: . by ERCROSS(m): 4:11pm On Jun 30, 2014 |
i'll advice u relocate to where no one knws u ... And if u still v a mum, i'd suggest u take ur baby to ur mum.. my piece of advice.. jst try n relocate, like start a new life.. 2 Likes |
Re: . by dytbabe: 4:29pm On Jun 30, 2014 |
Like the first time I will hear this Single mum are sexy and very independent Check ursef oooo Talkin abt no one wants to mingle with u, no frnds wanna hang out Are u sure u not a bad person? My own thoughts oo Well NL will bring u cool frnds I dey volunteer o, if u need anyone talk to, I am married with a son and still young and very sexy *at least I know that* ![]() ![]() |
Re: . by publicenemy(m): 5:13pm On Jun 30, 2014 |
dosht: I Hate Being a Single Mother |
Re: . by shelter4luving(f): 6:58pm On Jun 30, 2014 |
@op. to me any man who does not want your daughter is not good enough for you. your child should be your number one priority then other guys or men follows. secondly, you need to change your sense of reasoning. stop believing nobody want you. you are a strong woman and any reasonable man would want to marry you. keep working on yourself and dont fail to pray. Its only God that gives any perfect and beautiful gift. Its well with u 2 Likes |
Re: . by succyreal(m): 11:44pm On Jun 30, 2014 |
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Re: . by dosht(f): 10:31am On Jul 01, 2014 |
I appreciate all ur comments. Thank u all |
Re: . by dytbabe: 10:40am On Jul 01, 2014 |
dosht: I appreciate all ur comments. Thank u all Don't call that dude above u ooo Na leech him be ![]() ![]() ![]() Trust me, we know them when we sight one 2 Likes |
Re: . by Nobody: 11:52am On Jul 01, 2014 |
I really wouldn't like to sound harsh or judgmental but c'mon young lady, thinking you probably should have aborted you 'bundle of joy' says a lot about the kind of parent you are at the moment. For starters, you are acting rather selfish because if you believe you are lonely when you have a child, it only suggests that the child is pretty much abandoned. Most parent are most often too busy taken care of their children that they don't even have the time to think about being lonely. I do appreciate the fact that for those of us who look forward to marriage, we some times tend to feel lonely but seeing your child as an obstacle rather than the joy of your life right now is the very height of insensitivity. I am an African and a typical one at that but I have no bias for or against single parents. Heck, I can marry one if I so believe I and the lady are compatible. There are a lot of guys who won't mind getting married to single mums. So young lady, put yourself together and be a good mum to your child. You can't be a good mum if you allow sadness rule you; and please leave your present bf...its obvious that both of you have no future together. 3 Likes |
Re: . by lirusehn(m): 12:03pm On Jul 01, 2014 |
touching. |
Re: . by gsalvatore: 2:30pm On Jul 01, 2014 |
I Have seen Hot single mothers. No offense, How sharp are you? Marrying single mothers or ladies that already had a kid is the new vogue in some places. My cousin made a mistake and got preg during her WAEC period, she gave birth to a girl...after a little family issue with the retard that got her pregnant, she is married now with two kids for the new man. Some men will say...you are tested and trusted. Good number will go for tested and trusted. Stop blaming your kid, if you still sharp/hot after you gave birth to her men will come IMO. 1 Like |
Re: . by austine4real(m): 3:01pm On Jul 01, 2014 |
its ok dear, live goes on, it seems u are sufferin 4rm low self esteem........try make friends wt ppl wt positive minds ssoooorry abot dat ti well 1 Like |
Re: . by preizton(m): 5:11pm On Apr 24, 2015 |
@op. Give me a call 08108788817 let me put smile on ur face. |
Re: . by FLAWLES(f): 5:19pm On Apr 24, 2015 |
Being a single mother s no biggy(your child want a mistake,maybe u er)besides self na em de reign>#BABYMAMA# |
Re: . by davades(m): 10:31am On Jun 02, 2015 |
FLAWLES: You still single? |
Re: . by Kazrem(m): 1:38pm On Jun 08, 2015 |
There is no problem/hindrance in the world buy the one you created by yourself in your own imagination. Being a single mother isn't a problem unless you see it as a problem. There are still many responsible men out there that care less about having a baby and there innumerable men that what they want is a single mother. Make yourself presentable and always say the truth to any wooers. |
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