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Re: Nigeria: A Nation Of Wife-beaters? by Daresh(f): 10:31am On Jun 17, 2015 |
MarvellousGod: It's much higher than 1 in 3. Growing up I never saw my father hit my mother. In fact he was the perfect gentleman. Now I have learned that it did happen. No one in my family knew I was being abused until it became out of hand. I didn't know my sister was being abused, I didn't know my friends were abused for a while until they quit their marriages. It happens more often than you realize. We need to stand up for each other. We need to teach our sons to treat girls right. We need to teach our daughters that they are smart enough to be whatever they want to be. We need to teach our kids that they are equal. 4 Likes |
Re: Nigeria: A Nation Of Wife-beaters? by Nobody: 10:33am On Jun 17, 2015 |
thorpido: Depth of their hearts! Dude, I can't stop laughing. Men speak from the tips of their tongues I guess. Aren't their studies that try to sell wage-gap existence? I would see proof before I believe this rape story. |
Re: Nigeria: A Nation Of Wife-beaters? by coogar: 10:33am On Jun 17, 2015 |
SAMBARRY: you are a consummate retärd! how did you survive infancy with this level of stupidity? even after digging out an article where someone reiterated my point that victims of marital rape are helpless in nigeria, you are busy quoting section 34 that has no hold on a husband & his wife. 400 years ago, i would have plotted your capture to sell you to slavery. women like you should not be allowed to procreate cos you would soon pollute the society with your gross idiocy. 3 Likes |
Re: Nigeria: A Nation Of Wife-beaters? by eyinjuege: 10:33am On Jun 17, 2015 |
Timbuktou: Don't forget no one has a monopoly on violence. Though few, men are also victims of spousal physical abuse. Do we say because those men were cheats, or verbally abused or disagreed with their wives hence provoking them deserved their heads be broken with a pestle? My stance would still be no. Why should any man or woman always choose the option of violence? It sounds wrong and should be discouraged strongly in my own opinion. 1 Like |
Re: Nigeria: A Nation Of Wife-beaters? by SAMBARRY: 10:35am On Jun 17, 2015 |
Your sense of humour is still dry try again ![]() funlord: 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Nigeria: A Nation Of Wife-beaters? by freecocoa(f): 10:37am On Jun 17, 2015 |
I do know that many men in nigeria beat their wives, with port-harcourt being the headquarters of wife beaters association. It is also common knowledge that, most Nigerian men believe, it's okay to hit her if she's foul mouthed, not taking into consideration what they themselves, say to the women. 4 Likes |
Re: Nigeria: A Nation Of Wife-beaters? by thorpido(m): 10:38am On Jun 17, 2015 |
5minsmadness:You can't really know about these people's sexual life like you think.Do you know that the women themselves are conditioned to accept it?Tell me how many women will tell their friends their husbands wanted to sleep with them and they refused and not be rebuked by the women?It doesn't mean the men have to beat them before sleeping with them,sometimes the woman just has to lie down and open her legs......it's still rape. 2 Likes |
Re: Nigeria: A Nation Of Wife-beaters? by Daresh(f): 10:38am On Jun 17, 2015 |
thorpido: The topic is a question not a statement. Note the difference. |
Re: Nigeria: A Nation Of Wife-beaters? by Nobody: 10:39am On Jun 17, 2015 |
eyinjuege: Violence shouldn't be a weapon, but sadly it is very commonly used. I'm not an advocate for violence in any form, however, I'll take women seriously the day they give verbal violence the same attention they give physical violence. Like I said, unprovoked attacks are extremely rare. I especially like your comment about no monopoly to violence: physical violence for verbal violence; seems fair. After all, all"s fair in love and war. |
Re: Nigeria: A Nation Of Wife-beaters? by coogar: 10:41am On Jun 17, 2015 |
eyinjuege: you cannot assess how a man would react after being provoked. there should be mutual respect between hubby & wife. she should not abuse the hubby verbally & he should not abuse her physically. i remember prescott(britain's deputy prime minister) had an egg thrown at him on the face while he was campaigning. you should see the punch he threw at the egg thrower. ![]() |
Re: Nigeria: A Nation Of Wife-beaters? by thorpido(m): 10:43am On Jun 17, 2015 |
Daresh:The answer is a NO then. 2 Likes |
Re: Nigeria: A Nation Of Wife-beaters? by Nobody: 10:44am On Jun 17, 2015 |
Quick question: how many women, here, would look favourably upon her sister's husband divorcing her for yabbing. As in, she too dey yab me, dat na why I come divorce am. Please answer honestly. 1 Like |
Re: Nigeria: A Nation Of Wife-beaters? by Nobody: 10:46am On Jun 17, 2015 |
coogar: In Nigeria, he'd be dead. The DPM's security detail would first lash his destiny to Jupiter before carrying him to an undisclosed location. You cannot see such foolishness in Nigeria because we all know the consequences of such bravery. Death. |
Re: Nigeria: A Nation Of Wife-beaters? by coogar: 10:46am On Jun 17, 2015 |
Timbuktou: women don't generally believe verbal abuse is hurtful & it doesn't stop there. majority of these fights start with women rendering the first slap or throwing an object at the husband. when the men retaliate with equal force, the woman's face get swollen immediately cos she's more fragile. what does she do next? she would claim she has been physically battered by the hubby. Timbuktou: he wouldn't have gotten so close to a man of such importance. he would be shot on the spot by the trigger-happy security unit that surrounds men of such ilk. the point is - provocation is very dicey. we never know how we would react in the face of provocation. it's easy to sit here and preach righteousness. |
Re: Nigeria: A Nation Of Wife-beaters? by Jayne2014(f): 10:47am On Jun 17, 2015 |
MarvellousGod:Sister don't mind them. Misery loves company. 3 Likes |
Re: Nigeria: A Nation Of Wife-beaters? by Daresh(f): 10:47am On Jun 17, 2015 |
Timbuktou: What the author is saying is that a woman's worth is being defined by her sexiness. Men believe that women are created to please them. It plays on your psyche. A lot of ladies don't believe they are anything without a man. If a woman dresses sexy it's either believed that she is doing so for a man, or for a man's attention not because she wants to. 1 Like |
Re: Nigeria: A Nation Of Wife-beaters? by funlord(m): 10:50am On Jun 17, 2015 |
coogar: ![]() coogar: No Time 4 mongs! 1 Share
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Re: Nigeria: A Nation Of Wife-beaters? by Nobody: 10:50am On Jun 17, 2015 |
coogar: Did you read my comment about my cousin and her husband? I don't know for sure if he stills beats her but I'm sure her sharp mouth has been dulled somewhat. Imagine the fact that she openly and defiantly insulted him in front of his parents o(at the meeting of both families). Her father told her to leave the marriage if she cannot control her mouth, but the guy was fined sha. In his mind, I'm sure he'd be like Go d done catch you today. |
Re: Nigeria: A Nation Of Wife-beaters? by freecocoa(f): 10:53am On Jun 17, 2015 |
Timbuktou:Dude, men rape their wives everyday in this sh1thole of a country, thing is, many of them don't even see it as rape. All the woman hears is how she needs to make sure she's ready whenever her hubby wants it, the elders tell her this, the churches do the same. I have seen a case where the woman left after being forced to have sex, only for the elders to blame her saying, she was pushing her hubby into the arms of other women, stating that being tired, is not an excuse not to open up for her husband. 2 Likes |
Re: Nigeria: A Nation Of Wife-beaters? by coogar: 10:56am On Jun 17, 2015 |
Timbuktou: lemme go & read it.... ![]() freecocoa: that's the point! if they don't see it as räpe, how would they report it or tell anyone? women have been conditioned to please their husbands by any means necessary. not giving him sëx when he wants constitutes insurbodination. |
Re: Nigeria: A Nation Of Wife-beaters? by Nobody: 10:57am On Jun 17, 2015 |
Daresh: The author is spouting tosh. We all live to please the opposite sex in one way or the other. That's the reason for sharp hair cuts, well-tailored suits, getting a clean ride, etc. And in women, lipstick, foundation, etc. The fact of the matter is we all move around our houses naked and fart like we get paid per fart. Nobody wears a suit or gown to the family dining table. We all want to be respected and admired. It is a societal and biological instinct. Ugoji should not twist it to mean sadism. Women who don't like makeup wear it to attract the kind of men that made-up women attract. Men try to show off their achievements to bag Iara Fortes level of chicks. Claiming otherwise is foolishness. Whether some women, or men, have no self-worth is another matter entirely. Ugoji is conflating different concepts, concepts he's in no way qualified to talk about. 4 Likes |
Re: Nigeria: A Nation Of Wife-beaters? by coogar: 10:59am On Jun 17, 2015 |
Timbuktou: i agree with every sentence in that article - it was well written & it captured what is happening to the majority. the major problem is the bride price - if it gets scrapped, women would hold more value and would not be considered properties. |
Re: Nigeria: A Nation Of Wife-beaters? by Nobody: 11:01am On Jun 17, 2015 |
coogar: Exactly. Going near sef na suicide mission. How much more raising a hand, talk less of hurling an object. He'd be dead in seconds, as such you don't witness such indiscretions. The egg-thrower got off lightly IMO. A whole DPM fa, he dey crase? |
Re: Nigeria: A Nation Of Wife-beaters? by coogar: 11:03am On Jun 17, 2015 |
Timbuktou: that's the culture here. ![]() these big men would walk the streets of the areas where they are hated - all in the bid to feel like they have nothing to hide. ed miliband in 2010 walked through a market - and eggs were constantly thrown at him. he was wiping off his suit & smiling. i was like - for real? ![]() |
Re: Nigeria: A Nation Of Wife-beaters? by SAMBARRY: 11:03am On Jun 17, 2015 |
Coogar arguing with you is like pouring water inside basket. You lack wisdom and enlienlightenment if not how can you be vomiting nonsense. Please since when did husband and wife become people above the law. You need wisdom and in all your getting get understanding 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Nigeria: A Nation Of Wife-beaters? by babygirlfl: 11:04am On Jun 17, 2015 |
Daresh: Everything you have said here is the truth. I always laugh when someone tries to say another person is happily married. Only the two people that are married actually know if they are happy or not. Women hardly ever tell anybody that they are are being beaten unless it's now too bad or when they are about to divorce or almost divorced or even divorced. Most parents also don't tell their kids if it happened very early in the marriage and stopped. The incidence of wife beating is actually higher than we think. 4 Likes |
Re: Nigeria: A Nation Of Wife-beaters? by freecocoa(f): 11:04am On Jun 17, 2015 |
coogar:Gross insurbodination for that matter o. You can't even tell anyone your husband raped you, the question will be "how can he rape you when he owns you" |
Re: Nigeria: A Nation Of Wife-beaters? by Nobody: 11:05am On Jun 17, 2015 |
freecocoa: If she has sex because she thinks it's an unshirkable duty, that's not rape. If, however, despite her open show of disinterest, the man has his way that's rape. In the first instance, she didn't show lack of consent. |
Re: Nigeria: A Nation Of Wife-beaters? by coogar: 11:06am On Jun 17, 2015 |
SAMBARRY: the size of your foolishness if measured in wattage would solve all the electricity problems in the developing countries. there's no marital rape in nigeria, stop arguing like a semi-illiterate. ![]() Timbuktou: it could be rape! she cannot say no because she has been told by the church, her parents & the society at large never to say no to her hubby. deep down, she would rather not have sex during that period but can she even bring herself to open her mouth that she doesn't want sëx? |
Re: Nigeria: A Nation Of Wife-beaters? by Nobody: 11:07am On Jun 17, 2015 |
freecocoa: Huh? Freecocoa, where do you live? We don't subscribe to such barbarism where I'm from. Come to Lagos, I'll introduce you to men that don't even talk, not to talk of raising their voices ![]() |
Re: Nigeria: A Nation Of Wife-beaters? by Daresh(f): 11:08am On Jun 17, 2015 |
MarvellousGod: For goodness sake the title of the article is a question not a statement. Plz read and understand before you comment. 3 Likes |
Re: Nigeria: A Nation Of Wife-beaters? by Nobody: 11:10am On Jun 17, 2015 |
coogar: That's an elevated culture, in a sense. Throw eggs at a politician here and thugs would pop out of nowhere to deliver the beating of your life, just to secure a quick buck from the man. At best, in a thug-free area, dem go just use bad eye look you. Cikenan. |
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