Thanks francistony.

Thanks ishilove for doing the needful.

KanwuliaJara:



See JOLOSI O?
You CHAUVNISTIC, SCROTUMLESS BUZZZZZARDS on this NL ehn? Una nor dey taya?


If na to gang up like ABIA rapistssss to cheer brainless COWS OF DESPERADO CUCK-SUCKERS ati MENTALLY-SODOMIZED FEMALES who never knew their SPERM-DONORS tear each other apart from thread to thread. . . Una go sabi ke!


. . . Like your fathers watched their indentured concubines of HOUESMAIDS, only given out in marriage to increase the portion of food in the house. . . Just for your sociopathetic amusement. You are NEVER at peace unless there is poohsie-poo all over your nostrils.

News for you?

Only women raised like your mothers and sisters, in THE MOST BASAL conditions of poverty and squalor would degenerate to such primordial conditions of human evolution.

We nor dey "UNA" league!

KanwuliaJara:



See JOLOSI O?
You CHAUVNISTIC, SCROTUMLESS BUZZZZZARDS on this NL ehn? Una nor dey taya?


If na to gang up like ABIA rapistssss to cheer brainless COWS OF DESPERADO CUCK-SUCKERS ati MENTALLY-SODOMIZED FEMALES who never knew their SPERM-DONORS tear each other apart from thread to thread. . . Una go sabi ke!


. . . Like your fathers watched their indentured concubines of HOUESMAIDS, only given out in marriage to increase the portion of food in the house. . . Just for your sociopathetic amusement. You are NEVER at peace unless there is poohsie-poo all over your nostrils.

News for you?

Only women raised like your mothers and sisters, in THE MOST BASAL conditions of poverty and squalor would degenerate to such primordial conditions of human evolution.

We nor dey "UNA" league!

What is this BABOON saying after 24 hours? Na league of psychopaths? Olodo!

babygirlfl:
Thanks francistony.

Thanks ishilove for doing the needful.

He/She posted at 11:27pm.

I'm suspecting that moniker is owned by either of a two familylander; a male or female.
The male logged out 11:13pm.
The female logged out 11:21pm.

The way he/she was on babyosisi's thread and was digging about her past, i'm suspecting the moniker belongs to the female.

crackhaus:
What a fvcked up thread...

As in

coogar:


thank you!
i was just checking if we are on the same page.

See the article you posted of ya people on the issue of marital rape in Nigeria.
They need to add this question of marital ra.pe to the questions they ask Nigerians at the US or UK embassy, loll
How can I reach Harriet Harman? I think she would do justice to this problem.

Narrating how her husband daily violates her, Ayofemi told the customary court at Alakuko, Lagos, that, “he doesn’t care if I am on or not, tired or not feeling fine. All he wants, is to have his way whenever he feels like it. I am tired and want a divorce” showing the tell tale signs of wounds and scars she received from her struggles with her husband in his attempts to have sex with her against her will.

Although the marriage was dissolved but members of the jury didn’t hide their unease with the word, violate, Ayofemi used in describing lovemaking between her and the husband. According to members of the jury, “a married woman has no right to deny her husband sex, at least not often to make the man get violent. It is painful that many young women are getting this thing called civilization all wrong.”

Though members of the public present in the court room laughed over the matter, with each person’s expression betraying his or her position on this sensitive subject, but the fundamental questions are, can a man rape his wife? At what point can a woman accuse her husband of raping her? What does our law and religious books say about sex in a marriage?

Going by the common definition of rape, which is forcefully having carnal knowledge of a woman by a man, can a man’s quest to have sex with his wife against her will, mean rape?

There is no doubting the fact that this topic will elicit mixed reactions both from men and women.

This is what our Senior Reporter, Anthonia Soyingbe went to town to find out.

It is a definite yes, according to Amaka Okorafor, whose marriage is just seven months old. I don’t care what anybody says, “my husband daily rapes me because each time he comes to me, irrespective of my willingness, he destroys my self esteem. He desires love making in very different ways from what I have been used to. He takes joy in rough handling me. He likes to bang my head against the bed, bite me and generally wants me to suffer physical injuries all the time,” she states.

She is not alone. Gloria Glory endured marital rape for 15 years. Sharing her experiences, she says, “It took me years, to get past it to the point I could forgive. I did forgive years after the divorce. I think it was only then, I truly got past the triggers, flashbacks and dreams where I would wake up crying. It is rape if you don’t consent to it and marriage has nothing to do with it. I am talking about becoming emotionally violent when he didn’t get his way. I am talking about refusing to speak to me for days until he got his way. I am talking about being extremely mean to the kids until he got his way. Men learn quickly that women will do almost anything to protect their children, even sacrifice themselves. I am talking about withholding money until he got his way. I am talking about punishing me or the kids in any way he could until he got his way. I am talking about making me feel worthless for not meeting his wants. I am talking about expecting that it was my job to be the commercial sex worker in the pornographic movies whenever and in whatever way he wanted it. It took me so many years to understand what was wrong. I violated many of my principles for him, because he demanded it. And then I feel so guilty about it being my fault. Looking back, most times, I feel so worthless for the things I let him do to me. It’s horrible to feel more like a prostitute than a wife”

Sexual abuse in marriage is a tough thing to judge and most men who offered to speak with Daily Independent say that there is nothing like marital rape.

Idowu Sogelola, an engineer and managing director of Rock Associates, insists that marital rape doesn’t exist. “When does sex in marriage become rape? The Bible states that a woman doesn’t own her body and vice versa. Sex in marriage becomes rape when couples don’t have any relationship and when there are elements of violence. Spousal rape is Western culture and has no scriptural backing. Sex is an extension of love in marriage and one of the cores of marriage is conjugal love. If there is no sex in marriage; that means the essence of marriage is broken down. When we are talking about some issues, we should look at it from the cultural and scriptural angles,” he states.

Andrew Ogene, not real name, is an auditor in a Lagos-based private firm. When this reporter asked his opinion on sexual violence in marriage, annoyed at the question, he insists, “there is nothing called marital rape. How do you explain that? That is just not possible! The day she refuses my advances is the day I throw her out of my house. Is she crazy? There are so many women out there who can satisfy my sexual urge. If she refuses, I won’t only throw her out, I will go and to bring another woman into my home. This is Nigeria and not America. Let us put all forms of sentiments aside; why did I marry her in the first place? If she can’t satisfy my sexual urges anytime I need her, then let her return to her father’s house or go to a convent because I am not a celibate. ”

Rape, according to Kayode Salako of Change Agent of Nigeria Network, is forcefully having canal knowledge of a woman without her consent. “Going by this definition, a man who uses force to have sex with his wife has raped her, since it is an act of sleeping with her against her consent. In some of our cultures, it is regarded as the man’s right to have sex with his wife anytime and anyhow irrespective of how the wife feels. But in the Western world, such an act would be termed, rape. Men who force their wives to bed in the Western culture and under our constitution, are raping them.” According to Salako, the issue is not generating so much attention because many women don’t come out to report their husbands to avoid public condemnation.

“It is a pity that we adopt everything Western, including their laws but, shy away from the challenges that go with such laws. Most men maltreat their wives in all ways but, because the society frowns at divorce and separation, the women keep enduring the situation until they either get killed or can’t take it anymore. There is no other name for marital rape, than violence. What do you call it when a woman starts crying and cursing her husband after sex? Often times, this is as a result of marital rape. You rape a woman when you have carnal knowledge of her without her consent and that is violence against her right to say no to sex when she doesn’t want it.”

Kennie Okeowo, like Ogene is of the opinion that spousal rape only exists in the Western world as he argues that a husband can’t rape his wife. ” I don’t believe a man can rape his wife in this part of the world, such ridiculous ideas are for the Western world. The man or the woman can’t claim rape since the two have become one. African men don’t rape their wives,” he adds.

Janet Emirien, a marriage counselor describes as being unfortunate, some of the things men demand of their wives all in the name of sex. “Most men strip their wives of all the values of their womanhood simply because they want to have sex. It is unfortunate what some men make their wives do,” she adds.

Speaking further, she states that most women are unaware of rights even in their marriages. It takes two willing minds to get the best results from sex whether in or outside marriage. It is simply about consent from both parties. It is conjugal affection and both of them must show affection towards it.”

Just like domestic violence against women as well as other forms of violence, researches show that women hardly report cases of marital rape.

http://dailyindependentnig.com/2013/04/can-a-man-rape-his-wife/

Daresh:


For goodness sake the title of the article is a question not a statement. Plz read and understand before you comment.

I understood it so well before I made my comment. . The title is a rhetorical question, so don't talk to me about understanding. ..

As usual a well prepared meal for the females folks.....

Wife beaters....I wonder why nobody is talking about what usually leads to the battering...which in most cases is as the results of verbal abuse from the females folks...ooo I forgot,that their only mechanism of defence.......

Instead of me to beat my wife,I would rather ask her to leave my house or I leave her house for her,same thing applies to the females folks too...stop using the excuse of I still love him or it because of my child.....

freecocoa:
My sister you are right to an extent, I know so because I take my own feminism beyond the internet and the response to it is very discouraging, most women can't be bothered and the ones that even give listening ears believe they can do nothing about the situation of things.

This was the response of a young mature and classy lady.
***************************
edwife still be like





Off to the Gym!Say no to HBP

an organized attack because of an innocent comment? This is another version of psycological abuse but a pity who speaks up for us poor men? Has there ever been a topic on psycological, emotional, verbal abuse men encounter daily both at home and without? I doubt.when often we know that these physical abuses on women are often reprisals of verbal abuse.for every one physical abuse on a woman, there are ten verbal, psycological and emotionally abused men who gulp in the pain as it weighs down on our poor hearts cause thats what we are supposd to do as men right?just as someone had mentiond earlier about a woman saying if a man cant take her abuse then he is not a man right?not justifyng any but do you know how equally damaging verbal,psycological abuse can be? there is no worse feeling i swear.you hit the bottle to recover a little.you walk with your tails tucked inbetween your legs, you walk face-down with the re-occourring thought, maybe she's right, maybe she's not maybe she's right maybe she's not...it is impairing.and you wonder why wives outlive their husbands by over 30years.well there you have it.i think we have been through many topics like this.@edwife if the tetesteron fueld aggression is not suggestive of the existence of true active feminists who have announced their presence to you then maybe you need to redefine your meaning of feminism.i suggest you lean more to the sentiments of their opinion if you want to keep your feisty friends.

thetruthnl:
Francisca always meddling in women affairs oh I forgot she is among.
Coogar has dealt enough with you,I don't have anymore thing to add.

Royalroy the poster above me

as in.....??
i have never met any male so pathetic. i bet he knows the monthly cycle of all the ladies here with the way he tags on their underskirts.

i also bet this is how the hermaph behaves in the real world.....

Stillfire:

See the article you posted of ya people on the issue of marital rape in Nigeria.
They need to add this question of marital ra.pe to the questions they ask Nigerians at the US or UK embassy, loll
How can I reach Harriet Harman? I think she would do justice to this problem.
http://dailyindependentnig.com/2013/04/can-a-man-rape-his-wife/

be patient!
marital rape only became a law in the west in 1991. so before then, no such law existed in the west too. in due time, we would fall in line in africa. we are about 100 years behind the western countries - the changes would come, eh?

no vex......

Buhahahahaha! It takes an hermaph to know how hermaphs behave.

Who's deceiving who? Some hidden secrets are opening one by one.

FrancisTony:
Buhahahahaha! It takes an hermaph to know how hermaphs behave.

Who's deceiving who? Some hidden secrets are opening one by one.

francis tony is a woman.why you guys breaking your heads over her sex.as for you francesca why dont you put down the masks and maybe even the "equality for women" placards and bare those curves for once.i know beyonce does.i just cant imagine a true feminist hiding behind a mask.its a shame really.maybe edwife was right.

bukatyne:

And women are more guilty of this in marriage?

Yes, I believe this to be true.

Ewuro4:


As in

It's not a small sointin

Family section threads always end awry.
Residents of angry men always find time to insult the innocent dude. Must he be filled with biles like the rest of you?.

#Don't_quote_me

troy20:

francis tony is a woman.why you guys breaking your heads over her sex.as for you francesca why dont you put down the masks and maybe even the "equality for women" placards and bare those curves for once.i know beyonce does.i just cant imagine a true feminist hiding behind a mask.its a shame really.maybe edwife was right.

Can't you post without mentioning me? If you have a prove that i'm a female, bring it out and stop your conspiracy theory.

RoyalRoy, warn these dudes - they can be bitter for least I care.

coogar:


as in.....??
i have never met any male so pathetic. i bet he knows the monthly cycle of all the ladies here with the way he tags on their underskirts.

i also bet this is how the hermaph behaves in the real world.....







be patient!
marital rape only became a law in the west in 1991. so before then, no such law existed in the west too. in due time, we would fall in line in africa. we are about 100 years behind the western countries - the changes would come, eh?

no vex......

So because FrancisTony doesn't take your side, he's pathetic?
The women that don't take women's side nko? Are they pathetic too? Or the rule doesn't apply?
Only FrancisTony and you guys are already shaking in your pants, what if I unleash all my male feminists friends on this site that one na cardiac arrest for una...

Francis my MAN, ride on!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm solidly behind you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Anybody that doesn't like your posts, in the words of Oba Akiolu should go and drown in the lagos lagoon!!!!!!

Anyway which due time? With the kind of angst you NL guys show here, I'm sure marital rape would only be illegal in the next 1000 years. You know the black man is almost like a millennium behind from the rest of the world. Teheheheeeeeeeee

Stillfire:


So because FT doesn't take your side, he's pathetic?
The women that don't take women's side nko? Are they pathetic too? Or the rule doesn't apply?
Only FT and you guys are already shaking in your pants, what if I unleash all my male feminists friends on this site that one na cardiac arrest for una...

Francis my MAN, ride on!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm solidly behind you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Anybody that doesn't like your posts, in the words of Oba Akiolu should go and drown in the lagos lagoon!!!!!!

Anyway which due time? With the kind of angst you NL guys show here, I'm sure marital rape would only be illegal in the next 1000 years. You know the black man is almost like a millennium behind from the rest of the world. Teheheheeeeeeeee

The women who do not take women's sides are 'wife' materials

bukatyne:


The women who do not take women's sides are 'wife' materials

Buhahahaha!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
NL men won't kill me abeg.

Timbuktou:


Yes, I believe this to be true.

I doubt it.

I would agree women would be prone to exaggerate issues or tell their friends.

But to initiate verbal abuse, no

Stillfire:


Buhahahaha!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
NL men won't kill me abeg.

LOL!

bukatyne:


I doubt it.

I would agree women would be prone to exaggerate issues or tell their friends.

But to initiate verbal abuse, no

Don't mind these hypocrites.
Nigerian men are more foul-mouthed than women even here on Nairaland and real-world isn't an exempt.
There was a day, I was strolling and I saw a Keke Mar'wa driver(man) and a woman throwing vitrioks.
The crux of the matter was because she wasn't looking while crossing.
Keke mar'wa man was abusing the woman;
-See as you be! You can't bath well! You can't even dress well! Your cloth is dirty! etc
The woman couldn't reply but I felt that she almost cried.
Trash! Even those agbero, conductors are damn good at abusing verbally.
We get abused when we reject proposals from guys.

Daresh:


At least they know its a problem and report cases. Here its the norm and is swept under the rug. Women dont matter here.

false dat case are been reported hasnt stop d problem even chris brown don get restraining order 4rm karrec. im new g.f..patapata im go later say he get bipolar disorder d one xcuse those 9ja men dat beat their wife havent use yet.. 9ja wey every thing hard lyk diamond.. Naim woman wey suppose understand how tinz dhey go dhey vex short circuit temper husband..dhey lock im cloth shout ontop im head..nah 2 chris brown d said woman in question.. And pls no culture i bliv most xpecially d yoruba's supports wife beating and such family were look with disdain in years back and i dont think any right minded man is proud of beating his wife or wants 2 b call a wife beater..

sooooo this is the hangout zone babygirlfl, i dey come...make i start the story from the beginning

VictoriaBee:

Make una free edwife.
I wish it was Ewuro. I think she's the one operating that alternate moniker..

I actually enjoy reading posts from both monikers. I needed to address that issue with edwife; I need to make her realize that her post was offensive and it was doing more damage than good. #No beef here

LOL, you are looking for Ewuro's trouble, she finna cuss you out in Yoruba.
I wouldn't make that post to Ewuro because she has never claimed to believe in feminism or women empowerment. So, putting down something she does not believe in shouldn't come as a shock to anyone.