1. Whether You Really Love Him — Or the Idea of Getting
Married
You don’t want to marry Mr. I-Suppose-He’s-Right just
because you’re caught up in bridal excitement, or because it seems like the logical next step or because everyone you
know is tying the knot. To be sure it’s the guy you want,
and not just the Mrs. title, psychologist Elizabeth Lombardo, PhD, author of A Happy You: Your Ultimate Prescription for Happiness, suggests asking yourself these questions: Can you imagine any other man in your wedding/honeymoon/ married life plans? Would you still want to marry your guy if it was just the two of you at the courthouse? Think carefully about your answers before taking the next step.


2. That You Love Him Just As He Is (Because He’s Not
Going to Change)
What irritates you about your guy now will really grate on
you after you’re married. He’s a total slob? A night owl
when you’re an early bird? Don’t kid yourself into thinking
he’ll change once you’re hitched — that’s a blueprint for
disappointment, says sex therapist Lisa Paz. “Assume that
any negative qualities you’re seeing will remain negative,
and be realistic about what you’re willing to live with,” she
says. So decide what’s a dealbreaker and what’s not
before your boyfriend becomes your husband.


3. What His Financial Situation Is
Beyond what he pulls down in salary, you should know how
much he has in savings, how much debt he’s carrying and
— this is important — how he accrued it. “You don’t want
any surprises after marriage,” says Lisa Decker, founder of
Divorce Money Matters. Ask these questions before you’re
married so you have an understanding of what caused any
problems and how to prevent them from happening again.
Sure, the conversation takes some finesse, but you can
ease into it by discussing your hopes and dreams together,
Decker says. “That opens the door to sharing what your
money history has been.”


4. Whether You Both Want Children
Some couples want six kids — others can’t even imagine
having one. What ultimately matters though, is that you
both know in your gut how you feel about the “having kids”
question. Sit down with your fiancé and have a true heart-
to-heart: Discuss where you see yourself in 5 or 10 years
and if kids are part of that vision. If you’re not on the same
page, one of you will have to compromise in a big way, says
Dr. Paz, which may be very stressful (or even a
dealbreaker).



5. How to Eat at a Restaurant Alone
When your guy’s not around, there’s no need to be stuck at
home with a Lean Cuisine — do something fun by yourself.
“Many people aren’t comfortable doing this because they
imagine others are judging them for being alone,” says
Lombardo. But the reality is, most folks are probably too
wrapped up in their own thoughts to ponder why you’re
solo. So enjoy your meal and your alone time. It sends the
healthy message to your guy that you don’t need him to
entertain you every night. That kind of independence is
sexy!

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