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Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by Sissy3(f): 5:35am On Apr 22, 2009 |
*Toyinrayo: this a tough one. here why i think so. lets assume the woman let off all the self blames and finally tells her partner, the man might not be sympathetic towards her (some men are disgusted at the idea of their gf being raped) and she might she lose him which will even add to the guilt. and lets assume again she didn't tell him( due to some personal reasons) and maybe she gave him std or worst, in some pple might consider it betrayal. really confusing, it just seem like the woman have to bear all the things |
Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by Nobody: 5:44am On Apr 22, 2009 |
~Sissy~:If she has any tangible reason not to tell him, then I'd suggest she talk to a close family member. If she can't, she can always anonymously talk to a person on the HOTLINE. But during that process, she should get herself checked for STDs. No matter how one tries to hide it, a psychological disorder (from rape or childhood trauma or etc) will always show up when least expected. He(her husband) will soon find out from the way she reacts to his touch and sexual moves. |
Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by Sissy3(f): 5:53am On Apr 22, 2009 |
*Toyinrayo: yea, you r right. |
Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by Cure: 1:52pm On Apr 22, 2009 |
Train your child in the way of the LORD. |
Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by Cure: 1:54pm On Apr 22, 2009 |
Train your child in the way of the LORD. |
Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by Sissy3(f): 5:49am On Apr 23, 2009 |
Cure: we already know that anything else |
Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by Nobody: 11:00am On Apr 23, 2009 |
my son has a penchant for tearing up books . he takes them from the bookshelf, throws them everywhere, tears some i am beginning to get seriously pissed at this rate, by the time he can read, there won't be any books left
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Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by Hauwa1: 4:02pm On Apr 23, 2009 |
Oyb, is that the pix of somewhere in your house ? a mini library, the shelf is low so why not play i think you should pack up those books. get a box and pack them for now. don't leave books where he can see them (that's what my aunt does). buy hard kids book those ones with hard plastic covers on each page for him. they are hard to tear. |
Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by Nobody: 4:22pm On Apr 23, 2009 |
oyb:rotflmao. . . .I like your son already. Dealing with same problem here. DVDs ni o, papers ni o, anything he can get his hands on, he'll start throwing. I've tried spanking , I've tried pointing to what he did wrong and scowling him, but still won't work What you can do is buy another Shelf that's too tall for him to reach. or lock your library. *Hauwa*:cheiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii, OYB even has a Bible? Wonders |
Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by Hauwa1: 4:44pm On Apr 23, 2009 |
Silk, where is the bible there? that huge 'KING'? oyb better not touch that boy, leave him alone, it is best they explore. pack your books! elsewhere |
Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by Nobody: 4:46pm On Apr 23, 2009 |
*Hauwa*:LOL, that's a bible right? LOL, I think I discovered a new secret: Beating them makes them more rebellious |
Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by Hauwa1: 4:48pm On Apr 23, 2009 |
LOL, Silk hehehe It could be abt Martin Lurther King now |
Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by Cure: 6:35pm On Apr 23, 2009 |
we already know that anything else If youwant to know more, it may need you subscribing for e-book tittled "SMART PARENTIG"(Raising Happy and Responsible Childrenin the 21st Century). |
Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by Nobody: 6:43pm On Apr 23, 2009 |
*Hauwa*:Not likely I say, one of these days, I'll witness Oyb converted to Christianity |
Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by netotse(m): 10:30am On Apr 24, 2009 |
@oyb chei see all the books u have. . .did i remember to tell u u're my new best friend?(i see u got unbanned. . .how wwe go wash am?) @y'all the king is prolly stephen king. . .the horror dude! @toyinrayo see my house, can u see me waving from the window just below the split unit? its the telling them to leave that mommie and daddy have things to do part! as per scowling bit. . .children can tell when u're really vexing(its in the eyes) what u're s'posed to do is be serious not fake! (bush gel!) now on to business thought abt the rape question b4 and i dont know what i'd do o! i jst hope the person means enuff to me for me to put the whole issue behind me(i know it wont be easy)but the key is being willing!
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Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by Sissy3(f): 8:59pm On Apr 24, 2009 |
that house is funny @ oyb try what the ladies here suggested. have a big and taller bookshelf and if possible lock it so he wouldn't be able to scatter it @ Everyone Would you ever send your unruly child to a boot camp? your child misbehaves all the time. no amount your discipline seem to enter him, flogging, spanking, privileges etc are all in vain. everyone complains about him/her (including the teacher). you are tired of dealing with him/her and the only option you see as your only savior is a boot camp, would you do it? yes, why? no why? maybe/not sure why? |
Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by Nobody: 11:39pm On Apr 24, 2009 |
netotse:Lol, you're not serious at all I can see you waving and blowing kisses So plz, stop am But sometimes when I'm scowling, I can't help but to smile/laugh. Kids do the craziest stuff. Well, I don't blame you if you can't deal with the rape issue. Nobody can deal with it. But at the same time, don't leave the person right after the event, but try to comfort her. ~Sissy~:Would I? Yes I would. I wouldn't even hesitate. Loving my child does not mean I have to allow him/her to misbehave and eventually ruin his life. Childhood is where it all begins. If affirmative action is not taken, what's to change them when they grow up? Loving them is discipling them to become the better of tomor. But ofcourse, I'd check up on him in boot camp and make sure he's okay. If positive results begins to show up, then I'd withdraw him from boot camp. Simple! |
Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by Sissy3(f): 11:59pm On Apr 24, 2009 |
kind of scared about those camps |
Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by Nobody: 12:01am On Apr 25, 2009 |
~Sissy~:What scares you? |
Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by Sissy3(f): 1:12am On Apr 25, 2009 |
*Toyinrayo: those military like structures they use there and it is usually a hostile environment. and i feel like it doesn't solve anything especially behavior like problems and they are usually short term(like 30days) so i believe that the short term of it is not long enough to make lasting changes in them. and they do not have long-term follow up nor support that is needed for troubled teens and parents. a teen who is hostile will only learn that that the louder you scream, the more action you will get. i rather try other alternatives |
Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by Hauwa1: 1:19am On Apr 25, 2009 |
Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by Nobody: 1:24am On Apr 25, 2009 |
~Sissy~:Trust me, if you add Nigerian spice with the boot camp, it might work. Ok, so what other alternatives do you have? |
Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by Sissy3(f): 1:38am On Apr 25, 2009 |
I will try the behavior based and family focused counselling this one is more one on one, personal growth is developed which i think is better that the "YES SIR" every time of the boot camps things i like the family-centered programs. boot camps to me is just too aggressive and don't work and if I'm sending my teen there to deal with issues i don't think more aggressiveness is going to help i will only allow them to go to boot camp if only they are entering the military |
Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by Nobody: 1:50am On Apr 25, 2009 |
~Sissy~: Hmmm, good point. Aggression does not solve anything. But a child who continues to misbehave after so many counsellings and talking to nko? Abeg, let him learn the hard life in boot camp and come come back to the luxurious life at home. Let him know the advantages he has. |
Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by Sissy3(f): 2:10am On Apr 25, 2009 |
*Toyinrayo: if after the FCP and he/her doesn't seem to change i will get him/her screened for ADHD so i know where i stand. but no matter what i wouldnt still send them to the boot camp. i don't think that confrontational approach to teen problems is inappropriate. i think that BC fail to model the pro-social behavior and development of empathy that struggling teens really need to learn.i think dont they are effective in getting to the root of the teen's problem and fixing it over a longer period of time. |
Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by Nobody: 2:13am On Apr 25, 2009 |
~Sissy~:ADHD, ah ahn, that's going too far. Teens just want to be rebellious, they want to be adults. . . . I think the teaching and molding should start at a young age so we don't have to witness their rebellions. Would I still send her to boot camp? Yes, better than sending her to Nigeria |
Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by Sissy3(f): 2:25am On Apr 25, 2009 |
maybe if you find a good boarding school in 9ja you will have a change of mind? |
Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by Nobody: 2:25am On Apr 25, 2009 |
~Sissy~:ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh suicide!!! |
Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by Sissy3(f): 2:28am On Apr 25, 2009 |
*Toyinrayo: wetin happen, you dont like the idea why? |
Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by Nobody: 2:29am On Apr 25, 2009 |
~Sissy~:Naija boarding schools? I think not. And I don't think I'd take it with my kid thousands of miles from me Naija boarding school sucks. I've heard stories on NL and from my cousins at home |
Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by Sissy3(f): 2:31am On Apr 25, 2009 |
*Toyinrayo: haba nah . . not all of them the ones i went to were super good, |
Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by Nobody: 2:33am On Apr 25, 2009 |
~Sissy~:How was the one you went to? Sanitary? Food? Bathroom? Education? etc |
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