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do they divorce in nigeria?

Guy be patient. Its not easy for a lady trying to conceive. Communication is key!

What was the situation before marriage?

Saao:
Pls I need an advice on this issue.
We got married 2013, no kid yet despite that, I try to understand but this girl can't let me have peace. Cuz I no, children are gift from God, Him alone can give.
She is so negative, insultive and can quarrel anytime of the day, as it is, nothing like love between me and her again.
I have no peace in the house, going to work sometime as early as possible I will be unhappy.
Assuming if I have parents I don't think she will still be in my house.
She has done so many things that I will be ashamed to tell people and I don't really know how to get her out of my house. Should I move out from the house for her cuz I no I can't survive this. Pls advice me

For u to refer to ur "wife" as a *girl* really shows that something is wrong. First of all,what brought you two together? Love or lust?

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e-Shenanigans

ladyF:
Guy be patient. Its not easy for a lady trying to conceive. Communication is key!

Key ko,padlock ni...omo oni iwa,eni ko lori oko... Person no get gud xter,u talk say she no get husband...
Some ladies do not even possess a quater yard of wife material

Saao:
is not about conception but the xter that if I'm not careful, she will kill before my time

This is somebbody u were in love with o. Its not too late to get back to the good old days. Talk to her about it.

Jst b patient wit her, if u ve another place to chill apart rm that aparment.. jst liv her for sometime.mayb she will change.

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Saao:
that is the point. I think she assume people will not let me to but I can move out from the house for her cuz I'm just tired, to be frank I don't love her anymore

is it a rented apartment? if it is, it makes things easier. just tell her you are fed up. park your stuff and move to another home.

i dont know how easy or hard it is to divorce here.

Femsyn:
What was the situation before marriage?

we were in different town. I was in Abuja and she was in Lagos, she was pretending throughout. I saw the sign a week to the wedding i almost as quit but my eldest bros didn't let me

ladyF:
Guy be patient. Its not easy for a lady trying to conceive. Communication is key!

go and sit down. what is hard in getting pregnant?

krall3:
go and sit down. what is hard in getting pregnant?

Married in 2013 and his wife hasn't gotten preggy, u think its so easy for everyone abi?
No further comments for u sha...

dulux07:
Jst b patient wit her, if u ve another place to chill apart rm that aparment.. jst liv her for sometime.mayb she will change.

thanks a lot, I think that is what I will do, maybe I will rent a miniflat or selfcon somewhere. I'm telling u, she did not show 1 percent of what she is doing now before marriage.

I dnt knw a thing or two abt maRriage buh wisdom they say solve problems.... U need to persevere and tolerate her crap 100percent nw... Dnt even talk bak... Just keep silent..... I believe a time will come wen she will realise she was actn stvpid all the while

krall3:
is it a rented apartment? if it is, it makes things easier. just tell her you are fed up. park your stuff and move to another home.

i dont know how easy or hard it is to divorce here.

rented apartment, I think that is what I'm going to do

ladyF:

Married in 2013 and his wife hasn't gotten preggy, u think its so easy for everyone abi?
No further comments for u sha...

it means there is something wrong with the wife. either physically or spiritually.

less than 2 years ? and you call her this girl? lets start from the begining.
1: did you properly marry her as in did you at least pay bride price to her folks? if so don't you think it's derogatory to call her "this girl"
2: what's the real issue? is it lack of pregnancy? because two years is short to worry about that.have you sought medical help? what was the outcome? is she under any sort of stress even if it's self inflicted? what has she exactly done and what steps have you taken to make things alright?
3: are you telling us you have been good to her yet she keeps making your life miserable?

Saao:
rented apartment, I think that is what I'm going to do

do it fast before you die of depression. you made a mistake from the start.

Saao:
we were in different town. I was in Abuja and she was in Lagos, she was pretending throughout. I saw the sign a week to the wedding i almost as quit but my eldest bros didn't let me

Bro
with your situation currently, it is only God that can give you the fortitude to bear.
left to me,I have always have doubt about long distance relationship as a result of not being able to make appropriate enquiry and observations about the person in question....And this your issue seems to confirm my fear.

Please try to bear it as a result of the assertion of most marriage counselors stating that the first few years (2-5 years) of every marriage is always a trying times.
NB: I am not married but wish to contribute the little I know.


Peace.

Saao:
Pls I need an advice on this issue.
We got married 2013, no kid yet despite that, I try to understand but this girl can't let me have peace. Cuz I no, children are gift from God, Him alone can give.
She is so negative, insultive and can quarrel anytime of the day, as it is, nothing like love between me and her again.
I have no peace in the house, going to work sometime as early as possible I will be unhappy.
Assuming if I have parents I don't think she will still be in my house.
She has done so many things that I will be ashamed to tell people and I don't really know how to get her out of my house. Should I move out from the house for her cuz I no I can't survive this. Pls advice me

Can I have your time off forum?
You need a more matured sensible counsel not rash random advice.... My digit is 07034581213, let's whatsapp

Your situation seems pathetic....something terrible must have happened between you too to the extent of saying you don't love her anymore...

kingreign:


Can I have your time off forum?
You need a more matured sensible counsel not rash random advice.... My digit is 07034581213, let's whatsapp

OK thanks, I will hook up now

Saao:
thanks a lot, I think that is what I will do, maybe I will rent a miniflat or selfcon somewhere. I'm telling u, she did not show 1 percent of what she is doing now before marriage.

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Try it out..der r 2 possible outcome. D 1st she apologizes, begs u to come bck home n promise to change. D 2nd she decides to play along, in which she is mostly likely to cheat, then if she does, u ve a good reason to divorce her.

thats how most ladies behave, when they meet responsible guys or get to a certain age they bcom desperate to settle down, because of this they tend to hide their tru xracter till they get want they want(marriage)

Hmmm...life is so filled with ups and downs. The grass is usually perceived to be greener across the other fence though it might actually be greener in your case. The singles are mostly envious of the married,I probably would look at your wife with some awe were I to see her all dressed with the scars of being married to you or married at all covered. Whew! I suppose u are an angel, right? God's perfection...

Lol, easy to castigate blames. I know well enough! I once was in a relationship that i just could breath in. Try to get a mediator to help you two see what made you agreed as ONE before...good luck.

Saao:
Pls I need an advice on this issue.
We got married 2013, no kid yet despite that, I try to understand but this girl can't let me have peace. Cuz I no, children are gift from God, Him alone can give.
She is so negative, insultive and can quarrel anytime of the day, as it is, nothing like love between me and her again.
I have no peace in the house, going to work sometime as early as possible I will be unhappy.
Assuming if I have parents I don't think she will still be in my house.
She has done so many things that I will be ashamed to tell people and I don't really know how to get her out of my house. Should I move out from the house for her cuz I no I can't survive this. Pls advice me

You're the problem. Not her.

cococandy:
You're the problem. Not her.

how?

Saao:
OK thanks, I will hook up now

Beep me up on whatsapp bro....lets talk

When you learn that securing your happiness is paramount then it wouldn't be difficult for you to know that need to quit this type of relationship.

Chidoks:
less than 2 years ? and you call her this girl? lets start from the begining.
1: did you properly marry her as in did you at least pay bride price to her folks? if so don't you think it's derogatory to call her "this girl"
2: what's the real issue? is it lack of pregnancy? because two years is short to worry about that.have you sought medical help? what was the outcome? is she under any sort of stress even if it's self inflicted? what has she exactly done and what steps have you taken to make things alright?
3: are you telling us you have been good to her yet she keeps making your life miserable?

He has all ryt to refer to his wife any name he chooses exp wen he is not api, y do ladies always try to turn tables always acting d victim??...