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HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! By Maryam Habu Shinga by Abbeyunique2(m): 9:52am On Apr 02, 2016 |
HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!
This may not be the best time for me to write on
this because of misinterpretations, but I can no
longer resist the push. "Husband Scarcity" has
become one of the challenges faced by many
young girls today. If you go to prayer houses,
majority of the intentions are prayer for a life
partner. And this calls for concern. Casting our
minds back to the time of our mothers and
grandmothers, was there really much of a
"Husband Scarcity" problem? Or, maybe there
were more men than women then, or there was
an adequate corresponding numbers of both
genders. I don't think so. Maybe then, the
women had values and were prepared to build a
home and not park into a built home. Then, once
a young man comes of age and can at least feed
himself and his wife, he goes out in search of a
wife and the woman really appreciates him and
helps him to build a future. What am I really
trying to say? We created what we now see as
"Husband Scarcity" for ourselves. Today, the
reverse is the case. Ask an average girl to define
her dream husband; you get things like "he has
to be tall, handsome, fair, and rich, own a house
at least, and be presentable" and then she adds
"God fearing" in order not to sound so worldly.
Then, check the number of girls around you and
the number of men that meet that standard, and
you will see the problem. You hear girls say, "I
cannot suffer in my father's house and then go
and start suffering with a man." What a
wonderful dream! What if from the beginning, you
have everything you want and there is no
suffering, and later in the marriage, the table
turns around, then comes suffering? Will you run
away? No one prays for suffering, but it is good
to start small and end big, than start big and end
small. The problem is that the description
majority of girls give of their ideal man is
virtually the same. When 50 girls want the same
kind of man and the man that fits what they
want is just 1 man, and the man can only pick
one. Then, what becomes of 49 others? They
simply start lamenting of "Husband Scarcity".
Another irony of our time is that it is hard, due to
the face of our economy to find a man who is of
marriage age who possesses all those things
these ladies want, legally (except those involved
in Internet fraud); even the number of those in
Internet fraud is not enough to match all those
searching for already made husbands. If you look
around, majority of the ladies of substance, of
good value and virtue, who are ready to build a
home with a man who has prospects, are
married and not complaining of husband
scarcity. The easiest way to find a husband now,
is to change your view of who a husband is. A
husband is that man God made and then saw
that it may be hard for him to really actualize his
purpose for making him, without a help mate and
then made the woman and gave to him, and he
felt complete and fulfilled MARRIAGE IS NOT A
POVERTY ALLEVIATION PROGRAM. It is a
mission of building the family of God here on
earth. For those who see marriage as a way out
of poverty, it is a way into bondage. Women are
HOME BUILDERS, not HOME WARMERS... DON'T
CONFUSE A MAN'S PATH WITH HIS DESTINY.
Where he is today, may only be a route to where
God has destined him to be tomorrow. Another
truth is that YOU MAY BE THE ONLY FAST
MEANS TO THAT HIS DESTINATION. Join in
alleviating "husband scarcity". PICK UP THE
RIGHT VALUES. I am not saying that you should
pick anyone that comes your way and talks of
marriage, not all men are husband materials.
What I am saying is that you should stop setting
your standard on material acquisitions or
physical appearances. Look beyond the physical.
WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO HE IS, IS NOT WHAT
HE OWNS OR HOW HE LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE
IS MADE UP OF. And that which he is made of
is, most times, not seen with the physical eyes,
only its effects can be seen. Marriage is a
permanent thing. Whatever is seen is temporal
and that which is not seen is permanent. |
Re: HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! By Maryam Habu Shinga by Richiy(f): 9:56am On Apr 02, 2016 |
When they have been brainwashed by "perfect" pre wedding pictures and "perfect" wedding ceremonies. Then they'd want to have it too. They forget that: 1) People are not the same 2) Things might not be what it seems to appear 3) Wedding is a fraud, it's the marriage that matters 1 Like |
Re: HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! By Maryam Habu Shinga by xreal: 10:00am On Apr 02, 2016 |
Richiy: good points for ladies to note. |
Re: HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! By Maryam Habu Shinga by Abbeyunique2(m): 10:02am On Apr 02, 2016 |
Richiy:they don't understand that. Hollywood and telemundo scenes Don scatter dem brain |
Re: HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! By Maryam Habu Shinga by ednut1(m): 10:09am On Apr 02, 2016 |
unrealistic expectations. later they will see d wedding pics of men they turned down for being broke, timid, jobless, short and all manner of silly excuses on facebook nd instagram nd wail. iranu. |
Re: HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! By Maryam Habu Shinga by Richiy(f): 10:10am On Apr 02, 2016 |
Abbeyunique2: It is the new social conditioning 1 Like |
Re: HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! By Maryam Habu Shinga by Richiy(f): 10:11am On Apr 02, 2016 |
xreal: Gee thanks |
Re: HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! By Maryam Habu Shinga by Nobody: 10:13am On Apr 02, 2016 |
looool every time I read somethin' titled "husband scarcity " I laugh.. .....it's a funny announcement. |
Re: HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! By Maryam Habu Shinga by Abbeyunique2(m): 10:13am On Apr 02, 2016 |
ednut1:God bless you |
Re: HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! By Maryam Habu Shinga by Nobody: 10:23am On Apr 02, 2016 |
I met a Nairalander who normally claims..... "Badass" @ Shiloh!! The Baby was seriously praying for husband!! You wouldn't wana know her Monkier... |
Re: HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! By Maryam Habu Shinga by Agrico1: 10:23am On Apr 02, 2016 |
''husband scarcity indeed''. ''how about scarcity of wife material''. |
Re: HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! By Maryam Habu Shinga by alterswerve(m): 10:29am On Apr 02, 2016 |
Richiy: If that's you on your profile pic, next time, when taking a pic, don't bend your legs like that. And change it before people start checking it out |
Re: HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! By Maryam Habu Shinga by labienyce(m): 6:07pm On Jul 31, 2016 |
See correct front page material , where are the mods? Abi is snake more important? Lalasticlala please do the needful |
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