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Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by Folzye(m): 9:41am On Jul 14, 2016 |
My friend, try and playback moments you have had with this girl... Though she has already shown she is insensitive to see her father like dat and be okay with it dat alone will cause u lot of pain if you offend her but let us assume you will never offend her.. .. She must have shown you her inability to be thoughtful and patient, submission self she would have been pretending... Try and take a deep dive in thinking about things she has done that you are afraid of, if it outweighs the good traits... STEP 1: I will say remove your sandals first... Next try and have an investigative conversation with her pretending you just want to know more about her mother make her feel so relaxed talking about her, if she feels so attached to her to the extent she wants to replicate her, my friend STEP 2: RUN!!! .. don't eat anything from her or the mother o...be warned |
Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by 5minsmadness: 9:43am On Jul 14, 2016 |
iwadobo: Cc histemple You people are just laying the grounds for that man's murder. As soon as they find out he was the stumbling block and the reason she lost her man, he's a goner. 5 Likes |
Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by Ochyglowsglows(f): 9:46am On Jul 14, 2016 |
I really don't think the man deserves whatever treatment his family is meting out to him. If they couldn't bear what he did to them in the past, they shud av just left him. Ur fiancée's mother could have left the marriage. It's better to say my parents are separated, than to stay with him and punish him. I don't like it when humans play God. Sammily, that lady's mum is very diabolical, marry her at ur own risk. |
Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by 5minsmadness: 9:54am On Jul 14, 2016 |
Lightening:My point exactly. Op should just quietly vanish. Sooner or later when other men run like that she'll figure things out by herself. But wait o. If the poor man dies and she gets another suitor, that one won't get the chance this Op got to see what they r really like. He will now marry her and think he has a helpmate... Choi 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by akreest(m): 10:01am On Jul 14, 2016 |
baby124: You speak with so much bitterness in your heart. Could it be...................? 7 Likes |
Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by fuke(m): 10:05am On Jul 14, 2016 |
When you want to marry a woman, know her mother. |
Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by akreest(m): 10:08am On Jul 14, 2016 |
smileysmiley: Quite touching!!! Hug your Mum for me when next you meet her. She deserves to be respected 3 Likes |
Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by uwagimboo: 10:13am On Jul 14, 2016 |
@sammily.. Bro, I will be doing you bad if I ask you to still consider that family.. This was what my Boss personal guard failed to check before marrying his wife, the mother in law nd his wife ve done everything to relegate him to a house boy as they did to father in-law. Since 1998, they wedded, they ve not both stayed in a room for a month, the wife prefers living with the mum in their family house, this was a game plan so that this friend of mine will move into the family house too. Each time he visit, his supposedly wife cooks, dishes her food nd goes into her mother's room to eat leaving him out. My brother, better run while it's early.. 5 Likes |
Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by Luckymay(f): 10:16am On Jul 14, 2016 |
baby124:You said it already "no right thinking man with honor will come back to the place he desecrated" so if the man actually did what the daughter accused him of, then he wouldn't have returned to his wife and be subjected to a mere houseboy. He would rather go farm in the village. So it's not about one sided story. The girl and her mum are the monsters here. 3 Likes |
Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by ameh99: 10:17am On Jul 14, 2016 |
Seriuosly .... You still need advice....run and keep running and if need be fly if you can, habah.. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by Abeos(m): 10:30am On Jul 14, 2016 |
What I will say is simply Oga run!!!! 1 Like |
Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by mrdino(m): 10:32am On Jul 14, 2016 |
I just learnt a big lesson from this story, one should be bold a enough to meet the family of whoever he/she is dating/courting, that way he/she gets to know a lot about the person he/she intends to marry. 4 Likes |
Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by jeje123(m): 10:37am On Jul 14, 2016 |
ChappyChase:Thank God he even knows now reverse might have be the case. |
Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by CCC2(m): 10:44am On Jul 14, 2016 |
Young man run as fast as ur legs could carry u. It takes alot to relegate a man. Its either the mum is strong or diabolic. Never u honour the second invitation. It hurts to quite a relationship after much scarifies but its hell to live with pain u saw the signs but ignored. Discuss this with ur dad or mum b4 further steps. |
Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by lurdkriss: 10:47am On Jul 14, 2016 |
Truth is,when. U get. Married,her mumwill be her personal adviser,judging from wat is happening in her family now u can tell what it would be like when u get married to her cus tomorrow E FIT BE U OOO... My advice: RUN!!! 3 Likes |
Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by MissIndependent(f): 10:52am On Jul 14, 2016 |
mrdino:Exactly o it is very important to know the kind of Family one is getting into before marriage.... YOUR FIANCEE AND HER MUM IS A WITCH NO FATHER DESERVES SUCH TREATMENT!!! 1 Like |
Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by Graccccccccy(f): 10:53am On Jul 14, 2016 |
Flee!!! |
Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by mfm04622: 11:02am On Jul 14, 2016 |
jesussaves22: What else need to be investigated? Run! |
Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by teejay06: 11:16am On Jul 14, 2016 |
o boy ruuuuuuuuun as long ur leg can take u. abeg |
Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by dilini(m): 11:21am On Jul 14, 2016 |
general111: So na which him go come use nao? Ben Johnson style?.. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by dilini(m): 11:22am On Jul 14, 2016 |
general111: So na which style him go come use now? Ben Johnson style?.. |
Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by femmy2010(m): 11:22am On Jul 14, 2016 |
Godmother:I won't investigate anything. This is one of those very few occasions one need to take an hasty decision. Delay in his decision making dangerous. No one deserve to be treated this way 1 Like |
Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by obiak4(m): 11:23am On Jul 14, 2016 |
AuroraB:Sorry spanbot |
Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by 0kp0nku: 11:38am On Jul 14, 2016 |
5minsmadness:God bless you for this observation. The woman must have tried to kill the man but didn't succeed, that might be why they turned him into a slowpoke instead. And if you look closely, you will realize that the woman is probably responsible for her husband's financial predicament and present state. I have seen a particular case where a woman secretly bought a parcel of land while her husband was struggling to roof a house he was building for his family. The man felt betrayed when he found out later and in anger, decided to openly keep a side chick as a revenge. Unfortunately, that was his greatest undoing as he was poisoned by his wife. It became an open secret that the woman killed her husband. Years later, suitors came calling for her daughters and the woman presented the appearance of a meek widow. But after marriage, she starting controlling her children's marriages including those of her sons. So far, out of 5 marriages of her children, 4 have crashed while the 5th is being seriously threatened due to undue interferences and subtle controlling by the woman. Op, God has been so kind to you. If you don't make the right conclusions from that man's situation, you will have yourself to blame in the future. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by Nobody: 11:49am On Jul 14, 2016 |
If you no longer believe in your fiancée you can leave her. There is no point judging she and her mom as terrible people yet trying to marry them it makes no sense as long as you have concluded in your heart that they are monsters then you have no business being there I only hope you tell her what caused your turn around. From the way you described the man's action it seems to me that he relegated himself to the houseboy position why is he falling on the ground and thanking you for money? is the daughter to be responsible for raising her Dad to be a well behaved Father or the other way round. If he has lost all sense of manliness and dignity should the daughter turn herself to a healer or therapist to save him from himself?. I hope you learnt from what you saw because the lessons go two ways while she and her mom should have had the sense of decency to treat the man ok since they accepted him back men should also learn to be good husbands and Fathers so they don't end up as houseboys in their old age when strength is gone may be this is the reason you ever met her to learn this lesson and share the story with the rest of the world so thank you for sharing. |
Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by baby124: 12:00pm On Jul 14, 2016 |
andromida:Lol. Gbam. From this thread I see a lot of men are deluded about what they are and what they think they should be able to get away with. I guess they expect the mother to give her money to the father. Besides who is supposed to buy fuel for the house He is reading meaning into everything. Or is it because the mother did not give the money to the man in the background Lol. Some people are crazy sha, you want to treat people terribly and demand that they treat you well because you are a spe*rm pourer. Where will that happen in this universe. There was a story that a close friend told me about her family. That when the mother was having the 3 of them, she was not working. The father will bring all manner of girlfriends home, have sex with them in the parents bedroom and have her mother serve them food. He will beat the mother if she refuses. The mother now is a top staff somewhere while the father lost that job and he has been struggling to survive. All the girlfriends have dust their slippers and run. All this happened in her presence as she was the eldest. That girl is very messed up till today. Now if her father that messed them up comes back, imagine what they will do to the foolish man. |
Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by Michelle55: 12:13pm On Jul 14, 2016 |
hmmm... this is a serious case though. no man deserves such treatment no matter his offence, afterall my dad didn't train me in school it was mom who bore d burden alone but dats not enough reason to be mean to my father. infact we all shud adore our fathers cos there are some peeps without fathers today but they still survived nd relay their songs of victories. @op if u ain't comfortable with d way ur supposed FIL is bn treated, just tell your fiancee in clear terms that you can't go on with her stating your reasons and fears because first impression matters alot nd she has failed in that aspect with the way she treated her own father in your presence. a mother and a daughter who could be soo mean to treat d man of the house like trash is capable of murder. thread cautiously and do what is right, just remember that it could be you in that man's position tomorrow 2 Likes |
Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by Gbemmy135(f): 12:16pm On Jul 14, 2016 |
Kgdavid: Its not story, this things happens often to some families that lack the fear of God. I know like two families that does this in my area. So its not African Magic or story, i always believe its a movie until i witness it myself. I went to visit my friend in their house and in my presence she sent a man to go and get me some drinks for me, when the man left i asked who he was and i was surprised when she said her Dad. I couldn't take the drink because i don't want any curse on my head. The second family, one of their daughter want to get married so i went to the house to get aso-ebi very early in the morning. So i sat down to check the clothes, in my presence the mother shouted at their father and said in yoruba haven't you gone to grind the beans i want to use for moi-moi, the man panic and started running to grind the beans. I couldn't believe my eyes. Its not always natural, some women uses some spiritual forces to do this and Almighty God will make their sons suffer this too in the hand of a strange woman. You will surely reap what you sow. 4 Likes |
Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by ebubeEnyioha(m): 12:27pm On Jul 14, 2016 |
8months and u av nt cared discuss family... BECAREFUL! |
Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by QueenofAfrica: 12:30pm On Jul 14, 2016 |
Honestly.....this is a clear case of juju at work. The man needs serious prayers from a fire brand pastor. my dearest friend ......please run for your dear life.... no let sand sand enter your eye oooo! our people say that whatever cane was used for the first wife (in this case husband) will be kept for the second. Moreover, your wife to be is not a born again, so be prepared to be in bondage just like her father because her mother will definitely make sure you are kept in check just like her hubby turned houseboy..... to be fore warned is to be fore armed |
Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by Nobody: 12:31pm On Jul 14, 2016 |
baby124: You know its very easy to judge and criticize people when you've not had their experiences. How else is the girl to turn out except as she is since its her parents she was learning from a runaway/broken down Daddy and a mom who was just trying to put one foot in front of the other during her formative years. If he can't he should free her. |
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