The very fact that you and your partner/spouse understand each other perfectly, the idea that it’s just the both of you, without any external [negative] influence… that’s the joy of a relationship.

There is this sweetness to the whole thing when you understand each other so well that you seem to draw the same breath and function with the same brain.
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Comparison will often leave you unhappy, dissatisfied and angry (Bossip)

That’s the peak of a union, the elevated realm of togetherness that every relationship aims at, and it is very achievable.

It is achievable if you do not burst the bubble somewhere along the line by doing something toxic or dangerous to the growth or longevity of the relationship.

One of the terrible things you could do that will hinder you from ever reaching that level is making comparisons.

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Every wise partner recognizes that every relationship is suitable only to the people in it, and no matter how close or similar two relationships might look on the surface, there are many disparities between them.
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That is why you should never engage in constant comparisons of your relationship with another relationships.

Doing that has the potential of ruining everything you have built.

It is indeed [pardon the language] stupid to even look at other relationships and try to pattern yours exactly in that manner.

Truly, there could be admirable things in that other relationship that you’d love to imbibe in yours, and that’s just fine, but actually designing and modelling your love life after Olamide’s or Fadekemi’s relationship will strangle it to a painful death.

It will squeeze and wring every drop of joy you and your partner have built between you, and once the joy leaves, expect the love's demise, too.
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Note that you cannot fully tell what is happening in that other relationship, all you see is what the couple wants you to see. So don’t be fooled, all that glitters is not gold.

Don’t let those social media posts have you feeling that your relationship is inadequate; the couple might go back home to have a nasty fight just immediately after that photoshoot.
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All you will see is the negatives. Just the negatives. (Mademenoire)



Giving room for comparisons will make you forget how good your partner really is, it will often bring you down, you’ll most like hurt your partner by constantly complaining, you will see nothing but the negatives in your relationship, and lastly, it is nothing but a waste of time and energy!

Comparisons have the capacity to frustrate you and make you and your partner unhappy to the point where you will not only consider breaking up, but you will actually do it.

In the second part of this article, each of these points highlighted above will be properly explained, for a better understanding of the harms of comparisons and how to avoid it’s negative effect in your relationship.

What kills relationships is............... love