Martins4christ:

Ok, After Breaking Up With My Ex Who Happened To Graduate D Year I Got Into The University, I Discovered That I Am Pregnant For Him, I Told Him About It, Initially, He Sent Some Money,telling Me To Get Rid Of It, But I Was Too Scard To Abort, Nd Decided To Keep It. But When I Told My Parent And My Mum Called Him,he Denied Being Responsible For It.
Right Now Am Fast Approaching My Due Date, My Dad Has Refused To Get Involved, I Have Tried Reaching Him To No Avail, I Dnt Know His Parents Or Their Address, Please I Need Advise On What To Do, Am 21, Stil In School And I Dont Have Any Work, Or Any Financial Assistance. I Dnt Want To Drop Out, My Cgpa Is 4.5 (first Class)

Martins4christ:

Ok, After Breaking Up With My Ex Who Happened To Graduate D Year I Got Into The University, I Discovered That I Am Pregnant For Him, I Told Him About It, Initially, He Sent Some Money,telling Me To Get Rid Of It, But I Was Too Scard To Abort, Nd Decided To Keep It. But When I Told My Parent And My Mum Called Him,he Denied Being Responsible For It.
Right Now Am Fast Approaching My Due Date, My Dad Has Refused To Get Involved, I Have Tried Reaching Him To No Avail, I Dnt Know His Parents Or Their Address, Please I Need Advise On What To Do, Am 21, Stil In School And I Dont Have Any Work, Or Any Financial Assistance. I Dnt Want To Drop Out, My Cgpa Is 4.5 (first Class)

Oyindidi:


Martins, how come you're pregnant? I doubt your story

Martins4christ:
Am A Female. Martins Is My Surname

Oyindidi:
Someone that is really pregnant and won't type that rubbish above.

Martins4christ:
I Knw I Deserve Mean Comments. You Cant Insult Me As Much As I Av Insulted Myself.
I Have Been Tru A Lot Already, What I Nid Now Is Am Advice On How To Come Out Of This Mess. I Really Dont Want This One Fall To Ruin Me. I Have Learnt To Get Out Of Depression, Guilt And Self Pity. Its The Practical And Reasonable Step To Follow That I Need Help With, Please

Oyindidi:
why write like this? Capital in between sentence

Martins4christ:

After Breaking Up With My Ex Who Happened To Graduate D Year I Got Into The University, I Discovered That I Am Pregnant For Him, I Told Him About It, Initially, He Sent Some Money, telling Me To Get Rid Of It, But I Was Too Scared To Abort Nd Decided To Keep It. But When I Told My Parent And My Mum Called Him,he Denied Being Responsible For It.
Right Now Am Fast Approaching My Due Date, My Dad Has Refused To Get Involved, I Have Tried Reaching Him To No Avail, I Dnt Know His Parents Or Their Address, Please I Need Advise On What To Do, Am 21, Stil In School And I Dont Have Any Work, Or Any Financial Assistance. I Dnt Want To Drop Out, My Cgpa Is 4.5 (first Class)

Martins4christ:

Ok, After Breaking Up With My Ex Who Happened To Graduate D Year I Got Into The University, I Discovered That I Am Pregnant For Him, I Told Him About It, Initially, He Sent Some Money,telling Me To Get Rid Of It, But I Was Too Scard To Abort, Nd Decided To Keep It. But When I Told My Parent And My Mum Called Him,he Denied Being Responsible For It.
Right Now Am Fast Approaching My Due Date, My Dad Has Refused To Get Involved, I Have Tried Reaching Him To No Avail, I Dnt Know His Parents Or Their Address, Please I Need Advise On What To Do, Am 21, Stil In School And I Dont Have Any Work, Or Any Financial Assistance. I Dnt Want To Drop Out, My Cgpa Is 4.5 (first Class)

Oyindidi:
why write like this? Capital in between sentence

Martins4christ:

Ok, After Breaking Up With My Ex Who Happened To Graduate D Year I Got Into The University, I Discovered That I Am Pregnant For Him, I Told Him About It, Initially, He Sent Some Money,telling Me To Get Rid Of It, But I Was Too Scard To Abort, Nd Decided To Keep It. But When I Told My Parent And My Mum Called Him,he Denied Being Responsible For It.
Right Now Am Fast Approaching My Due Date, My Dad Has Refused To Get Involved, I Have Tried Reaching Him To No Avail, I Dnt Know His Parents Or Their Address, Please I Need Advise On What To Do, Am 21, Stil In School And I Dont Have Any Work, Or Any Financial Assistance. I Dnt Want To Drop Out, My Cgpa Is 4.5 (first Class)

mercytripletz:
Seriously, you people are not helping her. She wants advice, not insults. She is down already and might have probably got insults from home too.
Sis, Nairalanders will add to your pain, only one out of 10000 will give u a good advice without adding insults

I don't even know what to say.

selflessmaya:


i'm really really sorry about your predicament. i think deep down, you know no one here can really help u but u just wanna reach out. i cant really help u now since u are almost full term. if u had come here earlier like in your first trimester, since u dont want the pregnancy and only kept it out of fear, i would have advised you to get an abortion & me and many open minded, non-judgemental ppl here could have even tried to help u get one, it's not the horror thing ppl watch in movies where hangers are used and instruments are slid into the vag, that was medieval times, a simple pill, just one pill, that a gynecologist or midwife or top pharmacists have access to, could have ended this nightmare early, plus there are many ppl here in diaspora living in countries where abortions are legal who could have tried to get you this pill and fedex it or something... there really isnt much you can do now. pls dont do anything rash, u could really hurt yourself, just take it in your stride and move on, hopefully, you'll be just fine, will it be easy? no. but pls be brave. i'm really sorry this happened to u, i can only imagine how it feels to be in your shoes. pls take heart.

your parents are absolutely mean for letting you go through this alone, absolutely mean i tell u, even if they didnt want the pregnancy, why not shout at you if they must, express their disappointment, then, help you get a safe abortion or help u keep it if that's the general consensus. you made this decision alone at a point when you should have reached out and now you're really at a point of no return. pls call your mom and try talking to her, see if she can keep the baby for u till you're done with school and have a job, i wont suggest adoption to you, nigeria is a very risky country and no one knows what'll become of the child if it gets into wrong hands. if your mom wont agree, reach out to a sister or family relative who could help u talk to them. u really should have come here early, this story makes me so fu<king sad.

as for the guy, i am pro-choice (i believe a woman gets to decide to keep a pregnancy or not).. i believe in equal rights, this guy did not want a kid and he did his part to wash his hands off it, i think if a woman does not want a pregnancy but the man wants it, she should not keep the pregnancy, it's her body and her choice but i also think that if a man does not want a pregnancy and a woman chooses to keep it, she has accepted sole responsibility for it, it's only fair. do i think he should have done more for u like help u with connections to actually get it done? yes. but he didnt and i also understand the fears of going through this alone in a country where girls in your shoes dont have a lot of choice but you should have done your absolute best to ask around for 2nd opinions. i dont know why u didnt make moves or ask here earlier. no one should be forced to keep a pregnancy or punished for having sex, ignore all the mean ppl here and in real life, their taunts dont add or take from u.

dont be too hard on yourself, pls dont hurt this child when it's born or vent frustrations at it, just accept it and love it with all your heart, as much as i support abortion, i only do so in the very early stages when the embryo is pretty much sub-human, in the 3rd trimester, it's already a baby and once it's born, it's legit there, get in touch with your ex when it's born and make sure he knows the baby's here, send him pics and all, dont have any high hopes of his help and pls dont marry him just cos of the kid if he does get in touch. i rarely use this consolation cos it's pretentious but there are ppl better than u who will give anything to be in your shoes, there's a girl somewhere pregnant with AIDS too. pls count your losses and bear it and toughen up. call your mom and re-establish communication, if she wont help, try to see if u can find someone who can help get u a job and u can transfer to part-time studying, STAY IN SCHOOL!! pls take very good care of yourself, at first it'll be hard but this is not the end of the world. you'll move on.

Martins4christ:

Thanks For The Advice. You Dont Know How Much It Means To Me, Am Trying To Be Very Strong. Everything Would Be Fine, I Dont Know How. But I Knw It Wil Be. Once Again, Thanks

blackie01:
Hmmmmm! Nairalandes and their holier than though atitude. @ op I don't know it all, but I think you will get the advice you seek ons quora.
It's way matured and accommodating than nairaland.
The mistake has been made, thank Godness you choose to keep it. That child will wipe your tears much later in life. You can still reach out to your dad, but stick close to mummy. You will need her assistance a lot especially during exams, she might have to come stay with you.
Focus on your studies cos the beautiful baby is enough distraction, though a good one.
Pay less attention to friends except those close ones that are ready to help.
I don't know you financial state or if you school in the same town as your parents. But what I am 100% sure is the fact that you and the baby will pull through this and you will still make good grades on school.
Should the embrassment of having a child outside wedlock become too much, get a ring and wear it . At least you are married to your baby and studies.
Still descreetly try to reach out to him and aplogise for bring your parents to him. Perhaps he chickened out due to fear and what yours parents and his might do. I have been in his shoes before. But that does not mean he loves you less or wouldn't want to be part of the child's life. Send him pictures or tag him to the pics on his Facebook page but don't make comments that might anger him.
He will come around soon seeing what he has made with you. Perhaps it was just a one time thing and he was your first. Shit happens and when they do, we dust our ass and move on.

Don't organise sympathy party for your self oooo. You will get food to eat and your baby won't starve be sure of that.
In as much as you have made up your mind to survive and continue school, just continue .
By the way what level of study and what discipline are you. Pm details , I might have materials to help and also see how we can help.
Humanity should be our first religion and nothing more.

eyinjuege:
You cant eat your cake and have it..

You don't want to drop out, yet you're pregnant.

Well, your mum can help you raise the baby while you face your studies. You've just made them grandparents earlier than expected.
Meanwhile, go to your boyfriend's department and try and find out what you can about him.
I'm sure there'll be an address in his department for him.
Universities have everyone's address
Goodluck

Martins4christ:
Would Be In 400 Level By Next Semester, Law

Oyindidi:
How old is your pregnancy? I'm kinda confused.

You met your bf in year 1 and he was in his finals. You got pregnant and he gave you money for abortion. You are now in 400 level.