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just say him to do exercise ,

He used you, I guess he got what he wanted, Sorry that you had to experience that,

You have to make a decision if you want to divorce him or not, however if you guys haven't performed
as MARRIED COUPLES, then you are in seperation mode which means you do not have to wait for six months or
a year to file for divorce. If he committed adultery then you have biblical grounds for divorce if you are into
the religion, however, if you are not and he has not perform his duties then you need to find out what the
courts in UK say that you must do in order to file, I would file for divorce based on your situation if you are being
truthful because five years is a long time to be MARRIED AND ALONE,

I am for people staying married, but in your case, YOU NEVER GOT TO HAVE A MARRIAGE LIFE. SAD.

Are you are Nigerian but Uk Citizen? Did you date before you got married? What was his stance economically?
Was he in any relationship before you met him and is he in anyone now? How often does he communicate
Your post sounds very serious but i think you need to give us info so that we can advise you accordingly. I don't want to give you a bad advise because this is your first post and it will not be proper to get wrong info here as welcome gift.
So until we get full details of your relationship with your husband , i cannot give a sincere and proper advice.

B

I think there is something a foot. You say you married him in 9ja, why dont you plan a surprise visit to him. In the meantime do not give him any more money. But to me that is not married life.

he is already married in Nigeria.

His wanting to come over now maybe as a result of him breaking up with his wife or things not going to well financially for him and he wants to come over and fish for himself.

i agree

What kind of wedding did you do in Nigeria? Court or traditional

Outstrip:

What kind of wedding did you do in Nigeria? Court or traditional

great question

My deduction is that your husband is already married to someone else hence reason he couldn't come over on spousal visa to satisfy the 26 months residency requirement of LTR, so instead he is rather going down the other route of spending 4 years outside the Country, and with your marriage approaching its 4th year, he has to worm his way back into your life in order to get his stay hence his "i am a changed man speech", after which its the back of his head you would be seeing again. . .




Of course i could be wrong

R

You have been scammed. Simple!. I'm just amazed that it took you 5 years to realize this.

It time to move on . If not he will use you until you have no more self respect and make youfeel worthless. It time that you accept that he will never change. If he did not do it year one he would not do it year seven. Count your loses move forward and make new beginnings. You deserve much better than all this nonsense.

staying is a choice you know,build on it.Sometimes the road to success is always difficult.