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, . by cuterichbigdick(m): 12:36pm On Nov 09, 2018 |
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Re: , . by Nobody: 1:01pm On Nov 09, 2018 |
Forget it...Think about it dis way- what if u dont av a rich father? what if he dies n he doesnt will any of his properties to u? wot if he has even died yrs ago wen he had notin n u guys were small?...Consider all des n continue d hustle, av it in mind dat if he cud made it, u can equally make it without his hlp...Alot of youth u see suffering ar also dealing wit issues like dis- rich or average father dat can at least establish dem, but d fathers wudnt just do it, dont b suprised if i tell u we even av few mothers like dat (tho few). Continue hustling n bliv in God. Dis country is just wack, if not, no one sud stil b dependin on parent or expectin money from parent after graduating.May God hlp us all. Forget it n dont b offended wit him...Remember, its his property n his money, n he has d ryt 2 use it how he likes 12 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: , . by cuterichbigdick(m): 2:28pm On Nov 09, 2018 |
Thank you so much,i have already decided to look past the issue but it is painful...I will never treat my children like that,i will support them with everything i have until they have become successful CUZ i know that way they will continue to pray that i live long but when you don't make your children successful they will pray he dies early so they can inherit properties. sherylbakky: 1 Like |
Re: , . by eyinjuege: 2:59pm On Nov 09, 2018 |
There's really nothing you can do. The property is his, and I'm sure he also didn't inherit it from his own parents Go and work hard for your own breakthrough sir. Leave your dad to do as he wants with his property. Perhaps, that's his own retirement plan. 4 Likes |
Re: , . by cuterichbigdick(m): 3:07pm On Nov 09, 2018 |
BUT seriously,he is in his 60s and retired,he has more than he needs till he dies so why is it so difficult for him to help his struggling children.He knows we are not lazy children and do not bother him for help but when you sell a property that should have been ours,its only unfair that he didn't give us our share.If all parents are like him the crime rate of this country would be very high. eyinjuege: 1 Like |
Re: , . by appsdope(m): 3:11pm On Nov 09, 2018 |
Oga go and work. He doesn't owe u a dime. He sent u to school and he tried. Biko u people should free him.. Just get ur own money. He already laid a good foundation for u guys by educating u. At 30 plus you're still looking for entitlement.. This is shameful. I've seen guys and babes from wealthy homes who made it without their parents. He might be keeping it for u guys but if you keep pestering him, he won't give it to u. 11 Likes |
Re: , . by cuterichbigdick(m): 3:20pm On Nov 09, 2018 |
We all have work,in fact i'm very comfortable and i would say he didn't contribute a dime to my success and not even my school certificate brought me fortune.I have my own house,i'm married with kids,i and my wife use good cars but my point is that i seem to be the only successful one cuz i never relied on my parents and school certificate but my other siblings are still struggling with their peanut salary.My two elder brothers are still unmarried because they are not financially okay. appsdope: |
Re: , . by eyinjuege: 4:00pm On Nov 09, 2018 |
cuterichbigdick: The property shouldn't have been yours. It's his property. Not everyone is fortunate enough to be left an inheritance. If you are, good for you. If you're not left any, life goes on. It's very easy for millions to be run through quickly, especially in Nigeria. Your dad is getting older, and will be having more health issues he has to face squarely. He is also not a very old man either, and could easily live 15 to 20 more years. How will he manage to sustain himself till then? He has tried by sending you to higher institution. He even sent some of you to private schools. Be grateful for even that. Many young men are sponsoring themselves through school. Not everyone will turn to crime. We have children of poor men who will never consider crime, so why should you consider it as a child of a relatively comfortable man, who is also a graduate. There's no excuse for crime please, and definitely not because your dad didn't leave you an inheritance 11 Likes |
Re: , . by Nobody: 4:53pm On Nov 09, 2018 |
cuterichbigdick:U ar wlc dear |
Re: , . by cuterichbigdick(m): 4:55pm On Nov 09, 2018 |
In Nigeria of today everyone knows that university certificate is not enough to make one successful.there are millions of graduates out there without jobs or underemployed.imagine a graduate of Covenant university working a 55,000 naira a month job and my father is cool with it.please tell me when such a person will save enough money for marriage and raise a family.Even the Yoruba says Ti a koba ri eni feyinti bi ole lanri eyinjuege: |
Re: , . by Laird(m): 5:15pm On Nov 09, 2018 |
Op having experienced something similar, It's horrific, The richest men in the world from Jeff Bezos, Bill Gates and Warren Buffet to Facebook Ceo Mark Zuckerberg all had family that supported them.with Connections, money...yes money and networks that enabled them focus, amplify and multiply their Talent and Business . Some guys we looked down in school academically are presently in a better financial state now because their parents sent them abroad where there are lot of opportunities both for intelligent and not so intelligent people unlike Naija where even professional are looking for jobs or are Gross fully underpaid. Even Dangote, Adenuga, Otedola , Davido Dimeji Bankole all had Family financial and Connection support. Plum jobs in Naija are first gotten through Family and personal Connections and not through first selecting the best and brightest. Even the most popular not richest Saudi Investor Prince Alwaleed Bin Tall Al Saud who has shares in Twitter, Apple, CitiBank and Snapchat had family financial support Keep hustling and doing your thing and ignore the Man though tell him say Him no try. Keep hustling. That's what I am doing 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: , . by OgogoroFreak(m): 5:30pm On Nov 09, 2018 |
cuterichbigdick:YOU SHOULD BE ASHAMED OF YOURSELF! Your father did nothing wrong except for paying tithe out of the money. You are no longer a kid plus you are a graduate for crying out loud. Why not think of how to secure a better job? Take professional courses to update your CV, keep applying for JOBS, don't settle for less. YOU MUST BE INDEPENDENT AT THIS STAGE OF YOUR LIFE! else, the image below is how you would look in your father's eyes.. 3 Likes 1 Share
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Re: , . by OgogoroFreak(m): 5:43pm On Nov 09, 2018 |
cuterichbigdick:Why can't you help your siblings since you are very comfortable? At least, your dad gave his brother 2million Naira from the money. I'm really ashamed of your way of reasoning. You are a graduate means you have been trained on how to think and make it in life. It's not about the paper certificate. 2 Likes |
Re: , . by cuterichbigdick(m): 5:58pm On Nov 09, 2018 |
We are independent and doesn’t rely on him for anything for several years but it is only normal that you will expect some help from a father that sold a property for several millions.The worse part of it is that when people see us they would believe we are rich because our father sold a hotel and must have settled us OgogoroFreak: |
Re: , . by Nobody: 6:03pm On Nov 09, 2018 |
Well the interesting thing for me here is that he paid 5.5Million naira to a church as tithe but did not give his children a dime. mmmnmnnnnmmm okay. 2 Likes |
Re: , . by cuterichbigdick(m): 6:03pm On Nov 09, 2018 |
Of course I do help my younger brothers in fact two of them live with me even though they are working. I decided to accommodate them so that they can save money and not worry about renting an apartment and also help them in other possible ways OgogoroFreak: |
Re: , . by cuterichbigdick(m): 6:05pm On Nov 09, 2018 |
Seriously it baffles me a lot and I’m beginning to think it may be spiritual or he’s just being purely heartless Guitarlife: |
Re: , . by Acidosis(m): 6:08pm On Nov 09, 2018 |
@OP, you're right to expect your father to assist the same children he brought to this world. Some fathers buy gifts for their children, including the married ones among them. In fact, many responsible and wealthy parents take it as a responsibility to sponsor their children's wedding (that's the norm for many rich and middle class parent). Having said that, you do not have the right to argue or contest with your dad the manner at which he spends his money. Millions of dollars won't change his mentality, he probably struggled to get to where he's today, and not you or your siblings can change that mentality. It is too late, and the least you guys could do is take him for what he has become. 3 Likes |
Re: , . by cuterichbigdick(m): 6:08pm On Nov 09, 2018 |
And the annoying thing is when people see us nice up or drive good cars they just assume that our father is behind our success Laird: 1 Like |
Re: , . by generationz(f): 6:37pm On Nov 09, 2018 |
op just take it that you don't have a dad around again your father giving you guys money is a priviledge not a right. Your right is quality education (according to UNICEF) which he has given you. I want you people to start thinking 'what if I don't have a rich dad what would be my next line of action' Put yourself in the shoes of thousands of kids in Africa who had dead beat fathers and are still surviving you said you did well without his help why don't you show your brothers the way. show them how you made it so they can make it too. Do this , instead of joining hands to fight the man for his property. Its all about mindset If you all have set your minds that without that money you can't make , opportunities won't come in. Even when they come in you won't notice it because your mind is focused on the wrong things. However, if you make up your minds that you can make it without your old man , you will Stop comparing yourselves to your friends. Everyone's destiny is different. Stop being bitter against your father. Unforgivness can impede your blessings complaining can impede your blessings. Can your brothers begin to save no matter how meagre? can they look into multiple sources of income while working at their jobs? they can start drop shipping men's wears to their colleagues. You people see a father who hasn't helped you. I see a father with wealth of knowledge in business who can mentor guys to an extent. You people see a father who hasn't helped you. I see a father who through his years in business has amassed connections which if you guys use well can sell your ideas / products to and get more connections. You people see friends/ agemate who will laugh about your present predicament . i see friends who can help market your businesses by word of mouth or resharing on their WhatsApp. Its all about perspective. 2 Likes |
Re: , . by cuterichbigdick(m): 6:56pm On Nov 09, 2018 |
Yes we try as much as possible to forget about the issue but seriously it gives us sleepless nights cuz this our father used to tell his friends that he cherished his children so much but it’s all lies. generationz: |
Re: , . by generationz(f): 6:59pm On Nov 09, 2018 |
cuterichbigdick: well such is life. You must forgive forgiving helps in forgetting use those sleepless nights to do midnight prayers and studying to get better. When you guys make it he will still return to receive the glory from people will you say because of that you won't make it? |
Re: , . by Nobody: 6:59pm On Nov 09, 2018 |
@laird...U seems 2 also understand, if u ar not wearing d same shoes, u wudnt knw wher it pains...D hustle is real...It is well |
Re: , . by Heph001(f): 7:42pm On Nov 09, 2018 |
Maybe you should take you mind off it..and become responsible for your own well-being..to become responsible for your life and outcome of your life. . Sit and think. YOU CAN DO WITHOUT depending on the family wealth. Stretch. Pray to God for directions and creative ideas and take steps towards becoming independent. It's well. 2 Likes |
Re: , . by CharlesJok3r: 9:01pm On Nov 09, 2018 |
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Re: , . by cuterichbigdick(m): 9:45pm On Nov 09, 2018 |
What's that? CharlesJok3r: |
Re: , . by Laird(m): 10:32pm On Nov 09, 2018 |
cuterichbigdick: A lot of people don't know that clothes and cars are liabilities that depreciate and take money from ones pocket and clothes and cars cannot be used to measure or guage if someone is wealthy. 16 year olds in USa on college/University school fees loans drive cars on hire purchase..installmental car loans...it does not mean they are wealthy In school I knew a guy who never drove a personal car in campus but was wealthier and had assets that bring money than a lot of other students who drove cars. He even gave a car out to a cab man to make returns but never drove a car in school Wealth is measured by things and assets that bring in income and money and appreciate in value like Money profit generating businesses, property, land, ownership shares in companies, artworks, Rare antique car collections, rare antiques, gold, creating, providing services and goods that people pay for Cars and clothes are Liabilities that remove money from the pocket by needing money to buy, maintain and depreciate over time (except Expensive Antique cars abroad) Some people driving Corollas have more wealth than some other people driving Range Rover Sport and G wagon Benz Jeeps 2 Likes |
Re: , . by cuterichbigdick(m): 10:42pm On Nov 09, 2018 |
that is the irony of life. Laird: 1 Like |
Re: , . by sisisioge: 11:03pm On Nov 09, 2018 |
He truly doesn't owe you guys anything outside the physiological needs and education he provided for you before you became adults. Face front, double your hustle and hope for the best. It is well. 1 Like |
Re: , . by Laird(m): 11:40pm On Nov 09, 2018 |
sherylbakky: Thanks, a country where even professionals are looking for " grossly underpaid" jobs. Where because of doctors looking for jobs, job slots for a federal Level 1 Medical doctor job is sold on the black market for 1 million naira..It is well |
Re: , . by Nobody: 12:04am On Nov 10, 2018 |
sisisioge:sisioge, longest time where have u been? Miss u. |
Re: , . by edoman2016: 5:08am On Nov 10, 2018 |
@OP, your dad is a stingy man and doesn't care about the future of his children. In this modern world, parents training their children to university is not enough for them to be successful and independent. There are many jobless graduates with good results living from hands to mouth because they had no parents to support them financially to establish a business or connection to get a good job. It's your father's responsibility to settle you guys with some money out of the hotel sale so that you guys can have capital to start businesses and be financially independent. Even Donald Trump is what he is today because of his inheritance. @OP, there is nothing wrong in expecting inheritance from one's parents. It's a biblical right and don't allow your dad to deny you. 3 Likes |
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