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Re: My Fiance Says Am Fat. by yme1(f): 7:00pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
chika98:that is my own opinion honey, i think i am fat in some ways but why dont you just ignore my post dear cause i have all the attention i need so that of NL wont be of anyuse |
Re: My Fiance Says Am Fat. by annawhite(f): 7:03pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
fanta baby, this guy doesn't love you,cos if he truly does he will take you the way you are, relax gal love will find you someday,why act like a desperado ?give yourself sometime, i believe the best is coming |
Re: My Fiance Says Am Fat. by funkybaby(f): 7:03pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
y me: you are a size 4 and you tag yourself 'fat'. WRONG! girlfriend, you are skinny! Except you wear size 18 waist down |
Re: My Fiance Says Am Fat. by chika98: 7:07pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
y me: Kids say the darnest things. Ignored as requested |
Re: My Fiance Says Am Fat. by yme1(f): 7:10pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
^^^thanks Ms. altho that was uncalled for.wondering who is the kid now |
Re: My Fiance Says Am Fat. by A40(m): 7:14pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
fantababy:Dump that your Fiance as fast as you can and i am not even joking!! Most women in your shoes need all the encouragement they can get!! I don't know a single woman struggling with weight that is not self-conscious of her body and for your dude not to realize that it means he just doesn't care! When babies pop out you would most likely gain that weight back and then what?? There are a lotta guys out there that love a thick soul sista better go and find you one |
Re: My Fiance Says Am Fat. by follypimpi(m): 7:16pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
A-40: A-40 baba,twaile,tripple twaile for u. |
Re: My Fiance Says Am Fat. by Nobody: 7:17pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
I used to weigh 80 KG, April this yr, but am currently 78KG. |
Re: My Fiance Says Am Fat. by omonighooa: 7:18pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
hi,please let go of that guy.what will happen when and after u have kids?it s not worth it !d man who wants to marry u shld like u just d way u are.end it now b4 its too late |
Re: My Fiance Says Am Fat. by honeric01(m): 7:20pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
A-40: Late comer, she does not need to do any of what you have just written. |
Re: My Fiance Says Am Fat. by follypimpi(m): 7:34pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
fantababy: Thats not to bad u know. |
Re: My Fiance Says Am Fat. by Nobody: 7:37pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
You always have a way of making urself look st[i]up[/i]id. cut out the garbage. |
Re: My Fiance Says Am Fat. by jaybee3(m): 7:38pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
I like me some meat on d bone I sey ya folly. . . . Goodwill hunting |
Re: My Fiance Says Am Fat. by JUO(m): 7:39pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
i will advise you to continue, a bird in hand worth 20 in the bush |
Re: My Fiance Says Am Fat. by follypimpi(m): 7:44pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
jay bee: Me huntin ke ? Nah inside woods we dey ? |
Re: My Fiance Says Am Fat. by jaybee3(m): 7:49pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
how u dey blad? |
Re: My Fiance Says Am Fat. by A40(m): 7:51pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
follypimpi:Tungba fun are re! Wetin dey pa? Lol i'm just spittin game from the pulpit honeric01:Thank you very much |
Re: My Fiance Says Am Fat. by follypimpi(m): 7:59pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
jay bee: Coolios Boss just on a low low |
Re: My Fiance Says Am Fat. by jaybee3(m): 8:01pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
dats ao we like it bro. keep d flame burning |
Re: My Fiance Says Am Fat. by Eluala(m): 8:04pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
I wish I would have had to tell you to keep working at it. In this case there is nothing to work on. The guy is not confident about how you look and I don't think he is going to change that position. These are signs you should not overlook. Some people erroneously think that when they get married, then they will feel better about their spouse. I have heard people say things like, 'the love will grow after marriage'. Love does not grow. On the contrary this is when the guy should be all over you treating you like a queen. If he is already nagging about your weight, babygirl take it from me, he will only get worse and you'll regret it for your life. So take my advice, cut your losses, severe the relationship and move on. This is such a fundamental matter. It's good to lose weight and be physically fit but you need to decide to do it primarily for yourself and not by compulsion. It is dangerous to get into marriage with poor self esteem like he is already making you have. Don't go there anymore. Meanwhile I have told you what I know from not only beign married myself for 6 years, but also from careful study conducted on behavioural patterns between spouses pre and during marriage. All the best and though this may be painful, God has better plans for you trust me. Shalom. |
Re: My Fiance Says Am Fat. by Moralistli(m): 8:07pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
Here is d man searchin 4 Orobo since Israel left Egypt tellin u 2 rest ur case, No doubt, dis guy in question is indirectly sayin he hasn't met his life partner. Conversely, can't say much now till i hear 4rm u in person. cheers. |
Re: My Fiance Says Am Fat. by funkybaby(f): 8:12pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
fantababy: na wa o. does he know all these? what exactly is he complaining about? is it your tummy, backside or where? what was your response to him when he complained? |
Re: My Fiance Says Am Fat. by yme1(f): 8:14pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
funkybaby:LMAO 18 downwards NOOOOOOO who i wan give? am moderately small just one special place that needs that |
Re: My Fiance Says Am Fat. by jeffman(m): 8:24pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
I really dont see anything wrong in the guy telling her about her weight. the approach might not be ideal but certainly not out of it. For me honesty is most important. However, the guy shuld have defended poster when he was with his friends especially for someone he was about to marry. remember that we all got choices. ladies (including poster) got their choices too so the guy is no loser because he doesnt want a fat girl. the guy only cares abt what people think of him and his wife. that would explain why the weight was no big deal till his friends mentioned it. There are lots of guys who prefer orobo girls. So poster should know that she is hot and very much in the market. i have a friend with a lepa girl and he has also been telling her to add weight and she has tried to no avail. |
Re: My Fiance Says Am Fat. by afrika(f): 8:30pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
Waoooo, This seems to be a very delicate matter. Its a 'come once come all thing' Girl, if na by age, na the thing dey make dey boy dey form not wanting, jus find ur way. secondly, if na friend go decide for the boy wetin e go marry, (then the guy needs to grow up). Thirdly, u need courtship in this marriage thing. u need not rush things. However, the boy fit like u well well, but is highly influenced by friends. so, be weary or be warned or jus play your part well my dear. |
Re: My Fiance Says Am Fat. by Ladyjide(f): 8:47pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
fantababy: Girl you should be commended for your efforts in trying to bring the weight down!! I just hope you are doing it for you and not for him, in the long run you will feel better about yourself and not give a damn what him or anyone else thinks about you!! And you are a size 10 for heavens sake!!!! Not big at all!!! |
Re: My Fiance Says Am Fat. by Nobody: 8:50pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
She is just 5"4. And she must have the fat in the wrong places reason why it's so evident to her bf. She should come down to at least 62kg. |
Re: My Fiance Says Am Fat. by Ibomade1: 8:57pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
@Poster, I would have appreciated it if there was a photo of you in your profile. This is a sensitive issue because there are some guys that are not into big gurls but there is nothing to feel sad over because some people are naturally big. Try and cut down on the carbs if you can and all the best on your forth coming Marriage. You are beautiful no matter what they say, words can't bring you down |
Re: My Fiance Says Am Fat. by funkybaby(f): 8:58pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
michelin89: i agree. considering her height . . . . michelin89: it is not really about her weight in kilogramms but the distribution of body fat which must be proportional to her height, stature/posture. she could be a size 12 and have fat thighs for a guy to tag size 12 as fat, then the fat must be in the wrong place |
Re: My Fiance Says Am Fat. by Exponental(m): 8:59pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
do not call off the relatnship.Consider sendin him a text like this: My love, I always wanted to love a man who will make me happy all the days of my life. I love u for who u are and my happiness is my priority which I see in u. bla bla bla. End with sweet words, and remind him that if his friends forsake him for their families, shouldnt he fall back to the one he loves this message is not meant to ask u to beg him for marriage but to REFRESH his love if there was one at 1st |
Re: My Fiance Says Am Fat. by Nobody: 9:00pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
funkybaby: Exactly my point. I am also 5"4 and have fat thighs. I know wetin I dey talk. A lot of girls weigh less than me and they are just about the same height, yet they have the fat belly syndrome. |
Re: My Fiance Says Am Fat. by eduokoro: 9:06pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
Hi, sweet heart. Thank God for you. I think he cares so much.Sincerely tell ua self the truth, dont be downcast.Marriage is all about trust and openness. give his comments a good shot and leave the rest to God. U are a beautiful woman,take it that he wants u more beautiful. |
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