luap:

Now that I am older and remarried.  I am different and learned there is so much more to being happy.  Now I know it really does not matter is she can cook or not.  In fact she can't, and I do not really care.  I just cook myself,  besides I think most of the great chefs are men.

Great thing about cooking yourself, is that you can make things the way you like.  If anyone complains, tell them that it is their problem.  I've told my wife to get lost a few times she complained.  I love being a Man.

This is a great solution if the guy likes to cook. I genuinely hate kitchen. It may work for me if we bring the stove to the sitting room.

Mrs. Siena:

You knew she was a lousy cook before you married her so just bear with her. Its either you teach her or employ someone who can and stop bad mouthing your wife's cooking. I personally dont subscribe to your coming to a public forum to say that she is a lousy cook please stop it. This is your wife we are talking about here. How would you feel if your wife comes online and says my husband is a lousy lover you would start to scream. Get a grip of yourself

I disagree with you. The solution to his problem may yet come from this thread.

Seun:

She is your wife, not a cook.  If you need a cook hire a cook.  Let her do other things.

This is a dangerous advice every newly married woman should disregard

What's the use of a woman that can't cook?

Mobinga:

What's the use of a woman that can't cook?

How stupid, you need to take a pistol,put it in your mouth and pull the trigger,

Women are not tools for cooking,you backward punk

aint u ashamed dat u r putting it 2 our face dat your wife isn,t a good cook.so wat?no one is perfect.your wife could be an excellent in some other stuff.so pls discuss wit her on d best option cos u could employ a cook and save her all dat stress.also,she can be enrolled in a private cooking class if she is interested.OTHERWISE, u should be doing the cooking ok.personally don,t se how dis is a problem.

what if the OP sends his wife to cooking school and she fails- will she be told to resit the class

this might not be a great ideal but it may work.
since she has refuse to learn
stop eating her food
she might be compel to learn inorder to pls u
do handle wit care n caution cos this is a delicate issue

This strategy will work for you very well.

Hold her hands, talk to her softly and plead with all
sincerity making her realise that it is to her benefit
that she upgrades her cooking skill.

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has it ever crossed your mind that she is doing this on purpose so that you will do the cooking yourself or hire housegirl to cook ? i mean seriously who does watery semo with sugar ? look to me like she punking you

I am not sure why she gets offended. Tell her that you are having a hard time eating the food. Haba. Tell her you love her and appreciate her but that you really are just having a hard time eating the damn food. How in the world can someone's cooking get worse over time.

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kabukabu50:

How silly, you need to take a pistol,put it in your mouth and pull the trigger,  
Women are not tools for cooking,you backward punk

Who said women are cooking tools? I simply asked a question!!!

May your wife never cook good food for you, may you cook for yourself from the day of marriage till you retire.

I dont know how some naija guys think sometimes sha, So because she is your wife means she needs to cook for you everytime ba? Nicca this is the 21st century , if she cannot cook then get your behind in the kitchen and cook, And dont give me all that culture shit, When you get hungry well, you either teach her or go do it your self,

i care:

get on your knees and ask God to teach your wife how to cook. could be a spiritual problem.

Jizzy Jay:

option 1, just go 2 d market and get bags of garri,  just no dat all your life u will be drinking garri, one more thing,make sure u make it urself, coz she might want to put maggi in it

snthesis:

what if the OP sends his wife to cooking school and she fails- will she be told to resit the class

what if the OP sends his wife to cooking school and she fails- will she be told to resit the class

yes.

How in the world can someone's cooking get worse over time.

Baba God go bless u for the above. This is exactly the issue on ground here. with time, she should get better and not the opposite. Abegii, talk to her (infact teach her since u can) about it.

Call me whatever u wanna call me but i personally cant stay with any woman that doesnt know how to cook, at least to an extent. Not looking for a champion though. A lady that doesnt know how to cook has no business in marriage in my world jare.

ON A SIDE NOTE. thse of you in america. e be like say republicans done nearly win the whole midterm election sha. capitalism has won over 'humane wealth distribution politics' . the land of the greedy is in full steam again. dey are talking about reversing the health care reform

tpia@:

enroll her in cooking school.

practice positive reinforcement.

even if the cooking is bad, smile and say it's good [which is actually what you did before].

if you can cook, then do it yourself without castigating her.

Enrolling her in a catering school may provoke her o,
this is serious

make do with what she can do , maybe S.EX,. U CANT EAT UR CAKE AND HAVE IT
SORRY OOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

@poster
You are NOT wrong to expect the best from your wife. Just thread softly with her so as not to destroy your marriage.

You must have been told beforehand that there are areas of adjustment in every marriage. This could be one of them. Tolerance, understanding and communication are crucial impetus you need at this time. Since we don't stop learning as long as we are still breathing,why not get somebody to teach her or link her up with the cook at 'your favorite joint'.

Mobinga:

Who said women are cooking tools? I simply asked a question!!!

May your wife never cook good food for you, may you cook for yourself from the day of marriage till you retire.

Mobinga,you are a failure,you knew she couldn't cook WHEN you married her,bushman.Your choice now is to cook for yourself or hire a househelp.
You can't force it on her,you primitive, if she can't she can't.

BTW I cook for myself,I don't need a woman to cook for me.

Mobinga:

Who said women are cooking tools? I simply asked a question!!!

May your wife never cook good food for you, may you cook for yourself from the day of marriage till you retire.

Mobinga,you are a failure,you knew she couldn't cook WHEN you married her,bushman.Your choice now is to cook for yourself or hire a househelp.
You can't force it on her,you primitive, if she can't she can't.

BTW I cook for myself,I don't need a woman to cook for me.

creamyswit ,
shut da hell up.u are acting naughty cos u cant cook urself

Be a man and cook for her, she may want to eat it off of you.

Squirty:

Be a man and cook for her, she may want to eat it off of you.

GBAMMMMM, well said, brah.
The original poster is clueless

So is this poster a perfect husband?

kabukabu50:

Mobinga,you are a failure,you knew she couldn't cook WHEN you married her,bushman.Your choice now is to cook for yourself or hire a househelp.
You can't force it on her,you primitive, if she can't she can't.

BTW I cook for myself,I don't need a woman to cook for me.

by the way instead of just uploading all these pictures you can link them. . . .like this www.nairaland.com/attachments/345326_Applause_gif9d130c37ee9afce01218fbbecefc2578

mystikal:

So is this poster a perfect husband?

A woman that can cook is not a perfect wife, either. The funniest part is that she sees nothing wrong with her cooking. Like "go to hell if you don't likey!"

@Poster,

 You need to be patient with her. I 100% agree with you that it is very important that she knows how to cook to your taste but you need to know how to drive home your point without being scornful.

  The best posts i have seen so far on this topic boils around these steps.

1. Let her realize that there is a problem with love.

2. Let her know that you are ready to be part of the solution.

3. Teach her if you know how to cook.

4. or better still get a caterer to teach her how to cook.

All hypocritical advices like "A Woman is not a cook" is not good for your home. Please run from such. If your wife is not good on bed, nobody will advice you to hire a prostitute and leave her alone.


KEY WORD : DONT AND NEVER BE SCORNFUL IN LETTING HER KNOW THE NEED TO IMPROVE IN HER WAY OF COOKING.

BEST OF LUCK