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Re: ........ by Nobody: 5:38pm On Feb 24, 2020
I really don't know what & why you need our help for anything.

Did you knack her raw & she didn't get pregnant? lipsrsealed

Ogbeni go ahead & marry her If she is your ideal woman, a lot of people still marry young 25 year olds who nearly burnt down the house with their nasty attitude, so abeg just go ahead. My biggest worry is you don't seem like you are financially stable at the moment, so you sef na one chance you be grin

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Re: ........ by bonnyhope: 5:43pm On Feb 24, 2020
lonikit:

u may have a point but sincerely, i av tested her in so many ways.i think she is my ideal woman. i have peace of mind

to ur 2nd question, i tink many factors could have been the cause. but judging from her last relationship that i witnessed, her humility and submissiveness were taking for foolishness by her ex.
Hmmmmm.......hmmmmm

Okay oo

Be wise ooo

Women can lie o

They are never out of relationship because of their fault....it is always the guy fault

Beware!!!!

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Re: ........ by Vyolet(f): 6:00pm On Feb 24, 2020
I don't understand why stupid boys keep springing up on this section year in, year out.

Someone is talking about his finance and you are condemning his babe saying she is humble because of age, like is someone not suppose to grow sense as they age?

Ok she is humble because she is old, should he dump her for you?

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Re: ........ by olabrinks(f): 6:15pm On Feb 24, 2020
Vyolet:
I don't understand why stupid boys keep springing up on this section year in, year out.

Someone is talking about his finance and you are condemning his babe saying she is humble because of age, like is someone not suppose to grow sense as they age?

Ok she is humble because she is old, should he dump her for you?
men are the cause of their own problems. Can you not see this nairaland sef? Everyday Men writing story books on their miserable marriages/relationships, they always make stupid irrational decisions based on hearsay and generalisation. Then when it’s too late, after investing time and money their eyes will open. Don’t use the sense that God gave to you, nonsense.

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Re: ........ by Liposure: 6:17pm On Feb 24, 2020
olabrinks:
When you said the word aged I was even thinking maybe 40 something. She’s in her early 30s, as long as she has her period every month regularly with no issue, she is very much still able to conceive. Fertility doesn’t really drastically decline until 38 or 39, and she’s still able to have children then. The only time a woman will never be able to conceive is once she reaches menopause. My cousin that got married at 25, is having problems conceiving till now. It’s not always by age, it’s by the reproductive health of the mother and father.
mummy, what causes d decline of fertility in ladies at dose ages 38, 39 u just mention
Re: ........ by Hed0nist: 6:32pm On Feb 24, 2020
olabrinks:
When you said the word aged I was even thinking maybe 40 something. She’s in her early 30s, as long as she has her period every month regularly with no issue, she is very much still able to conceive. Fertility doesn’t really drastically decline until 38 or 39, and she’s still able to have children then. The only time a woman will never be able to conceive is once she reaches menopause. My cousin that got married at 25, is having problems conceiving till now. It’s not always by age, it’s by the reproductive health of the mother and father.

However as women age past 35, there is an increased risk of giving birth to babies with congenital defects like Down's syndrome etc. This also applies to men but to a waaay lesser degree and at a further age

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Re: ........ by Omar09(m): 6:33pm On Feb 24, 2020
lonikit:
i will be very brief with the narrative. i met the girl 2years ago when she was already 31. we started as friends but her character made me to fall in love and also had to leave my former young rude more educated and virgin gf (i love peace of mind).
without missing words, my new gf is the best compared to any other girl i have met. though, she is older than I by 2yrs but that is not my problem.
my problem now is that both of us are not really doing anything serious. she is managing in a private school. i have not gotten any job since i completed my service yr last year hence, managing in a school too.
considering our financial status, we are not ready for marriage now. we are hoping for better jobs.
please, i don't want to loose her and she is now 33. she is considering her chances of giving birth if she marries late like 35yrs bcus a doctor friend told her that women fertility has to do with their age, the older they bcom, the less they are fertile. please advice me on how to convince her. she is so unique.
please help a brother.

A wise man knows the best business to invest in. How can you tell a 33yo lady to wait for you so you can have something doing? It's not fair. You have to let this lady go. In fact you should encourage her to go out there and date other people who are wealthy enough to carter for her. You are not ready. Let her go!

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Re: ........ by olabrinks(f): 6:33pm On Feb 24, 2020
Liposure:
mummy, what causes d decline of fertility in ladies at dose ages 38, 39 u just mention
naturally when a woman ages the number of eggs in her ovaries decreases. Every month she will lose thousands of her eggs. By the time she hits menopause, they’re no more eggs left in her ovaries. There’s no egg for the sperm to fertilise, so the woman will not be able to conceive. Also the older you are the more likely you’re to have reproductive health isssues. But like I said this doesn’t happen until late 30s early 40s as it’s very gradual and it doesn’t happen over night.
Re: ........ by olabrinks(f): 6:35pm On Feb 24, 2020
Hed0nist:


However as women age past 35, there is an increased risk of giving birth to babies with congenital defects like Down's syndrome etc. This also applies to men but to a waaay lesser degree and at a further age
yes but every pregnancy has risks. Ah beg leave that one jare, you men are too overly cautious about the wrong thing.

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Re: ........ by lonikit: 6:35pm On Feb 24, 2020
bonnyhope:

Hmmmmm.......hmmmmm

Okay oo

Be wise ooo

Women can lie o

They are never out of relationship because of their fault....it is always the guy fault

Beware!!!!

thanks,
Re: ........ by lonikit: 6:37pm On Feb 24, 2020
olabrinks:
naturally when a woman ages the number of eggs in her ovaries decreases. Every month she will lose thousands of her eggs. By the time she hits menopause, they’re no more eggs left in her ovaries. There’s no egg for the sperm to fertilise, so the woman will not be able to conceive. Also the older you are the more likely you’re to have reproductive health isssues. But like I said this doesn’t happen until late 30s early 40s as it’s very gradual and it doesn’t happen over night.
thank you for this info
Re: ........ by Hed0nist: 6:48pm On Feb 24, 2020
olabrinks:
yes but every pregnancy has risks. Ah beg leave that one jare, you men are too overly cautious about the wrong thing.

For sure na. Anything can happen. Was just pointing out that age not only affects fertility but it also affects the quality of the product of that fertility.
I get your point but you can't blame anybody for being too cautious after all the news we've been reading and all the drama wey de happen live for street.
Re: ........ by LilMissFavvy(f): 6:51pm On Feb 24, 2020
What do you mean by she is aged? Such a shameful thing to say about a lady of 33-34. I don't know if you are immature or if you do not love your lady enough. All the guys above, writing negative things may be entangled in bitter relationships with younger ladies, they may be people who are so rude that love may never find them. They have never been in love. Listen to them at your own risks.

Registery marriage isn't expensive, so you can pay her bride price, then do Registery marriage. In future you both can do anniversary.

Menopause differs in women, most ladies experience menopause at 45yrs. Poor nutrition/lifestyle can trigger menopause to happen earlier than normal no doubt.

There was a thread in family section where a guy was in love with a 39yrs old lady, he was 5yrs younger. He was mature, unlike you, you sound childish,The guys family said no, the guy stood his ground, the guys mum said she will only agree if the girl gets pregnant, but the guy/girl/brides family said that the girls church do not wed pregnant brides. That guy updated that thread, according to him, she gave birth to twins, she got pregnant shortly after marriage. I am not saying you should continue to waste your gals time, go for Registery marriage.

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Re: ........ by Liposure: 7:05pm On Feb 24, 2020
olabrinks:
naturally when a woman ages the number of eggs in her ovaries decreases. Every month she will lose thousands of her eggs. By the time she hits menopause, they’re no more eggs left in her ovaries. There’s no egg for the sperm to fertilise, so the woman will not be able to conceive. Also the older you are the more likely you’re to have reproductive health isssues. But like I said this doesn’t happen until late 30s early 40s as it’s very gradual and it doesn’t happen over night.
thank u ma 4 dis valuable piece of information
Re: ........ by Nobody: 7:07pm On Feb 24, 2020
olabrinks:
naturally when a woman ages the number of eggs in her ovaries decreases. Every month she will lose thousands of her eggs. By the time she hits menopause, they’re no more eggs left in her ovaries. There’s no egg for the sperm to fertilise, so the woman will not be able to conceive. Also the older you are the more likely you’re to have reproductive health isssues. But like I said this doesn’t happen until late 30s early 40s as it’s very gradual and it doesn’t happen over night.

What if a Woman decides to freeze her eggs & return it back @ 40. Does it mean it will come back to normal.
Re: ........ by Nobody: 7:11pm On Feb 24, 2020
Omar09:

In fact you should encourage her to go out there and date other people who are wealthy enough to carter for her. You are not ready. Let her go!

Let's be realistic, if she had found a Man who is wealthy enough since 25, Shouldn't she be married by now? You women are always funny with your thought process. Reality is, not every Woman will be lucky to marry a Rich man, some will be stuck with Broke men grin

WOMEN! All about wealth wealth wealth.

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Re: ........ by Liposure: 7:11pm On Feb 24, 2020
LilMissFavvy:
What do you mean by she is aged? Such a shameful thing to say about a lady of 33-34. I don't know if you are immature or if you do not love your lady enough. All the guys above, writing negative things may be entangled in bitter relationships with younger ladies, they may be people who are so rude that love may never find them. They have never been in love. Listen to them at your own risks.

Registery marriage isn't expensive, so you can pay her bride price, then do Registery marriage. In future you both can do anniversary.

Menopause differs in women, most ladies experience menopause at 45yrs. Poor nutrition/lifestyle can trigger menopause to happen earlier than normal no doubt.

There was a thread in family section where a guy was in love with a 39yrs old lady, he was 5yrs younger. He was mature, unlike you, you sound childish,The guys family said no, the guy stood his ground, the guys mum said she will only agree if the girl gets pregnant,
God bless u

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Re: ........ by jagaban002(m): 7:15pm On Feb 24, 2020
Please don’t give her belle make money first my brother , don’t rush because u love her because d love will turn to hate when belle set in .

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Re: ........ by Nobody: 7:22pm On Feb 24, 2020
I love mature ladies . Mature ladies are the best .

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Re: ........ by Nobody: 7:24pm On Feb 24, 2020
lonikit:
i will be very brief with the narrative. i met the girl 2years ago when she was already 31. we started as friends but her character made me to fall in love and also had to leave my former young rude more educated and virgin gf (i love peace of mind).
without missing words, my new gf is the best compared to any other girl i have met. though, she is older than I by 2yrs but that is not my problem.
my problem now is that both of us are not really doing anything serious. she is managing in a private school. i have not gotten any job since i completed my service yr last year hence, managing in a school too.
considering our financial status, we are not ready for marriage now. we are hoping for better jobs.
please, i don't want to loose her and she is now 33. she is considering her chances of giving birth if she marries late like 35yrs bcus a doctor friend told her that women fertility has to do with their age, the older they bcom, the less they are fertile. please advice me on how to convince her. she is so unique.
please help a brother.
Some f00ls will spoil your mind about her because of her age. But bro,it is best you make mistake with your own hands than let the archaic opinions of people on a faceless forum destroy your life.
It will be pathetic if the opinions of random strangers you will never meet your entire life spoil your mind on someone you always see.

Is the money you earn and that she earns ample enough to live a moderate life or you are eyeing those living big life? Are you targeting a Bella naija type of posh wedding? How about you do u just dowry payment & traditional rites for now?

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Re: ........ by doggedfighter(f): 7:24pm On Feb 24, 2020
Vyolet:
I don't understand why stupid boys keep springing up on this section year in, year out.

Someone is talking about his finance and you are condemning his babe saying she is humble because of age, like is someone not suppose to grow sense as they age?

Ok she is humble because she is old, should he dump her for you?
Not even one meaningful advice on how to to better his situation and marry his heartthrob. Everything is centered on the girl's age as if the guy doesn't know her age already. He's made his choice already . Bunch of irrational mofos

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Re: ........ by doggedfighter(f): 7:28pm On Feb 24, 2020
LilMissFavvy:
What do you mean by she is aged? Such a shameful thing to say about a lady of 33-34. I don't know if you are immature or if you do not love your lady enough. All the guys above, writing negative things may be entangled in bitter relationships with younger ladies, they may be people who are so rude that love may never find them. They have never been in love. Listen to them at your own risks.

Registery marriage isn't expensive, so you can pay her bride price, then do Registery marriage. In future you both can do anniversary.

Menopause differs in women, most ladies experience menopause at 45yrs. Poor nutrition/lifestyle can trigger menopause to happen earlier than normal no doubt.

There was a thread in family section where a guy was in love with a 39yrs old lady, he was 5yrs younger. He was mature, unlike you, you sound childish,The guys family said no, the guy stood his ground, the guys mum said she will only agree if the girl gets pregnant, but the guy/girl/brides family said that the girls church do not wed pregnant brides. That guy updated that thread, according to him, she gave birth to twins, she got pregnant shortly after marriage. I am not saying you should continue to waste your gals time, go for Registery marriage.
Nice piece full of sense

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Re: ........ by MickzyDonald: 7:42pm On Feb 24, 2020
xcabczyxabczzzz:
Give her belly make wuna start life.
this op don reach here abi undecided
Re: ........ by misreal(m): 7:46pm On Feb 24, 2020
Bros wife her oh.
Nothing like a matures and understanding lady.
Dating a young girl is stressful oh

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Re: ........ by Omar09(m): 7:56pm On Feb 24, 2020
truthsayer009:


Let's be realistic, if she had found a Man who is wealthy enough since 25, Shouldn't she be married by now? You women are always funny with your thought process. Reality is, not every Woman will be lucky to marry a Rich man, some will be stuck with Broke men grin

WOMEN! All about wealth wealth wealth.

It is not my business she couldn't get a husband in her 20s. This guy, shouldn't waste his time too. He can hustle and get married by 35 it's not late. BTW hustle no be only government work. He can do better than that woman he's with rn. He shouldn't settle for less.

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Re: ........ by Nobody: 8:06pm On Feb 24, 2020
lonikit:
i will be very brief with the narrative. i met the girl 2years ago when she was already 31. we started as friends but her character made me to fall in love and also had to leave my former young rude more educated and virgin gf (i love peace of mind).
without missing words, my new gf is the best compared to any other girl i have met. though, she is older than I by 2yrs but that is not my problem.
my problem now is that both of us are not really doing anything serious. she is managing in a private school. i have not gotten any job since i completed my service yr last year hence, managing in a school too.
considering our financial status, we are not ready for marriage now. we are hoping for better jobs.
please, i don't want to loose her and she is now 33. she is considering her chances of giving birth if she marries late like 35yrs bcus a doctor friend told her that women fertility has to do with their age, the older they bcom, the less they are fertile. please advice me on how to convince her. she is so unique.
please help a brother.
She can't be the BEST.
She was just DISPLAYING those LOVELY antiques because AGE wasn't on her side.

The MOMENT she steps into your HOUSE legally, she will start TORMENTING you.
NOWADAYS LADIES don't fail in that regard.

PLEASE, leave her and focus on your career.
Better things LIE ahead.

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Re: ........ by Nobody: 8:10pm On Feb 24, 2020
misreal:
Bros wife her oh.
Nothing like a matures and understanding lady.
Dating a young girl is stressful oh
All are the same.
It's better you get a very younger lady and tame her to the level you want.

At least, you are sure of her fertility chances and whoredom-like chances.
AGED LADIES would have experienced a lot of trauma, procedures, emotional torture, hatred and jealousy, of which if married will predispose you to UNTIMELY DEATH because of Vengeance.

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Re: ........ by Nobody: 8:16pm On Feb 24, 2020
Omar09:


A wise man knows the best business to invest in. How can you tell a 33yo lady to wait for you so you can have something doing? It's not fair. You have to let this lady go. In fact you should encourage her to go out there and date other people who are wealthy enough to carter for her. You are not ready. Let her go!

those wealthy enough to take care of her were there before she went for him.




she can also get a better job to take care of her self

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Re: ........ by oazeez1991(m): 8:16pm On Feb 24, 2020
Hmmmm! different strokes 4 different folks. Evri1 who has contributed previously ol got dia point.

In my own opinion, u already know wat u wanted, ol u want 4rm here is just a push up like a supportin system 2 backup ur stand. 4rm ur post, it is obvious u already plan or wish 2 marry d Lady in question, so it's ur choice. U don't need any1's approval here 2 mk ur decision stand.

If u go by ur own decision even if it's smtin u later regret in d long run which I don't pray u do, at least, d feelings dat u made d decision urself nd not sm1 influencing or forcing u 2, is enough.

My most concern is just d finance nd compatibility aspect. If d both of u cud brainstorm nd map out a plan 2geda nd den work towards it, den fine, but mk sure finance is tkin care of, nd don't 4get, delay also shud not tk long.

I was in similar situation as u, d decision I made myt not be wat u need as we are two different individual. Wat work 4 Mr. A might not work 4 Mr. B nd vise versa.
Re: ........ by FromZeroToHero(m): 8:21pm On Feb 24, 2020
Age is just a number. Marry her if you love her. Don't wait until you have millions before you marry.

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Re: ........ by Nobody: 8:23pm On Feb 24, 2020
The title should be:

"She is the Best because she's Aged, please advise"

Women are always on their best behaviour when they are beyond their prime and desperate to net a provider.

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Re: ........ by Somzee(f): 8:39pm On Feb 24, 2020
Omar09:


It is not my business she couldn't get a husband in her 20s. This guy, shouldn't waste his time too. He can hustle and get married by 35 it's not late. BTW hustle no be only government work. He can do better than that woman he's with rn. He shouldn't settle for less.

grin cheesy So because she's 33 years that means OP is settling for less?
Your reasoning is really laughable. I guess it's the average Nigerian men mentality.

@Op getting married to a younger woman doesn't guarantee happiness, you wear the shoe and knows how it fits. Think through it and know exactly what you want and go for it.

Marriage is like a wrapped gift, only after you've opened up would you know what's in the package, just pray to get married to a good and understanding woman while being a great man.

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