Ofemmanu1:
Is the lady an Igbo?

Justbehave:
Go learn how to fabricate stories.

purplecoco:
Can’t she go back to her people? Since the dusty man left

Stargurl20:

Pls, ignore if u have nothing sensible to comment. - my posts are meant for sane people.
Yet, I know if it was woman who did this to man, you wouldn't have commented this, whether fabricated or not.

Pavore9:
First and foremost, the man has never been her husband so stop addressing him as "her husband" because there was no marriage as you stated the bride price is yet to be paid....so what is she doing in his house?

She should accord herself some respect and go back to the east.

Stargurl20:

Exactly the same question I asked her yesterday o... But she said she's ashamed, and it's more like a disgrace to her.

izzou:
You see those men category of evening newspapers?
Those ones that uphold their culture and tradition 100%?
Those ones that are very traditional?

Fear those men oh . They can date a lady for 8 years and pay the dowry of another one in just 8 hours.

Dem no dey marry for love oh.
If she can cook, fck, obey him totally, give birth to children (males are compulsory), had a submissive personality, and is presentable,they go marry you now now.

That said, any woman that gives birth to a man before he wifes her is stupid. She does not have sense.
I expect a single mother to know this, but I'm surprised she still repeated a past mistake

My advice?
She should just go back to where she came from. No need crying over spilt milk, take more of the one wey the glass cup don scatter

Let her move on. And let her learn to use her sense before her heart in her next relationship

Oluromantic:
Of course there's something you can do to help her. Just be there for her. Remind her of her child who is a bright future. There are lots of well aged ladies who don't even have a bf talkless of a child. She shd thank God that she lost d baby. If she had d baby, she would have been left a single mother of two from 2 different men who are not willing to take responsibility. Some women have gone thru harder situations so let her liven up. But try to do something very important for her... Go to the man's village with her and confirm first that the story is true before conclusion.

Guess the family of the man changed his mind. But what he did wrong was not telling her on time the change in plans and making peace with her.

Stargurl20:
Sorry members, this will be little lenghty.
An older lady who's more like friend to me, narratted what her husband to be did to her yesterday.
Her would be husband who's far older, I guess. Went to where she stays at Aba or so... With her families, to seek her hands in marriage. This man hasn't paid her price yet... But requested her to come know where he stays in Lagos around February this year. Note: this lady has a female child of ten - year - old..., Which the would be husband isn't oblivious of.
She came to Lagos, and despite all the promises this man made to get her a job as soon as she gets to Lagos, he failed his promises and didn't allow her work, giving flimsy excuses that he doesn't want men to snatch her from him.
Recently, this man travelled to his hometown under the pretext of going to complete his house at his village. But, he actually went there to marry another wife even when he hasn't paid the would be wife he deceived to Lagos price. The lady has been receiving several calls from people that the husband is getting married to another lady but she trusted the man blindly, until one of the man's intimate friends opened up to her that he couldn't keep this from her because despite how his friend sings praises of this lady on her culinary skills and how she keeps his house clean and take care of him, he still went ahead.
This lady has no one in lagos. - no families or friends except this cruel man.
Plus, she got pregnant before the man went, but had miscarriage and has informed the man.
All these things makes me keep wondering if there are really good men left on this planet - earth.
This lady is really nice and well behaved that my mom's spirit works with here and she likes her.
She seats at my mom's shop and we chit chat with my mom's apprentice. Now she's changed to a drunk. I've tried convincing her that drinking isn't the solution, but she's just not convinced. I wish there's something I can do to help her

Coder2Client:
You sound more like a single girl who still enjoy her celibacy. To refute your claims, there are many good men and women out there. One bad apple spoils the bunch.


The lady has problem, why would she be living with a guy in Lagos when he has not done the needful?

The shortsightedness of your friend led her into the dilemma which made you to generalize that men are bad.

Kollyman:


Go and find out the complete story and come back to update us.

Stargurl20:

Yes.

Stargurl20:

I reprimanded her within me for trusting a man to such extent. But about good men left on Earth people keeps claiming a the time baffles me. I have heard worst stories. The irony is; it happens with good women...

Coder2Client:
stop hearing those stories and face you. If you keep listening to those disheartening stories, you won't add any meaningful things to yourself. Your friend made a horrible mistake that cost her so much. So, what you need to do is, learn from her mistakes and others and move on, not to be resentful.

Pavore9:
First and foremost, the man has never been her husband and shouldn't be addressed as "her husband" because there was no marriage as you stated the bride price is yet to be paid....so what is she doing in his house?

She should accord herself some respect and go back to the east.

Stargurl20:
Sorry members, this will be little lenghty.
An older lady who's more like friend to me, narratted what her husband to be did to her yesterday.
Her would be husband who's far older, I guess. Went to where she stays at Aba or so... With her families, to seek her hands in marriage. This man hasn't paid her price yet... But requested her to come know where he stays in Lagos around February this year. Note: this lady has a female child of ten - year - old..., Which the would be husband isn't oblivious of.
She came to Lagos, and despite all the promises this man made to get her a job as soon as she gets to Lagos, he failed his promises and didn't allow her work, giving flimsy excuses that he doesn't want men to snatch her from him.
Recently, this man travelled to his hometown under the pretext of going to complete his house at his village. But, he actually went there to marry another wife even when he hasn't paid the would be wife he deceived to Lagos price. The lady has been receiving several calls from people that the husband is getting married to another lady but she trusted the man blindly, until one of the man's intimate friends opened up to her that he couldn't keep this from her because despite how his friend sings praises of this lady on her culinary skills and how she keeps his house clean and take care of him, he still went ahead.
This lady has no one in lagos. - no families or friends except this cruel man.
Plus, she got pregnant before the man went, but had miscarriage and has informed the man.
All these things makes me keep wondering if there are really good men left on this planet - earth.
This lady is really nice and well behaved that my mom's spirit works with here and she likes her.
She seats at my mom's shop and we chit chat with my mom's apprentice. Now she's changed to a drunk. I've tried convincing her that drinking isn't the solution, but she's just not convinced. I wish there's something I can do to help her

izzou:
You see those men category of evening newspapers?
Those ones that uphold their culture and tradition 100%?
Those ones that are very traditional?

Fear those men oh . They can date a lady for 8 years and pay the dowry of another one in just 8 hours.

Dem no dey marry for love oh.
If she can cook, fck, obey him totally, give birth to children (males are compulsory), have a submissive personality, and is presentable,they go marry you now now.

That said, any woman that gives birth to a man before he wifes her is stupid. She does not have sense.
I expect a single mother to know this, but I'm surprised she still repeated a past mistake

My advice?
She should just go back to where she came from. No need crying over spilt milk, talk more of the one wey the glass cup don scatter

Let her move on. And let her learn to use her sense before her heart in her next relationship

Bluehill1051:
So na bride price dey determine husband and wife.
Ur head is 98% ogogoro

Pavore9:


No, na 'i like you, come and live with me" dey determine husband and wife.

Heiterkeit:


This type of comment is not made to offer real solution but to appear good before my fellow women. I do not give respect to men who take pleasure in painting their fellow men bad just to appear good, same as women who do so.

OP

Maybe, the man made a last minute discovery about something bad about the woman that made him acted the way he did. Marriage is a life journey, so anyone going into it has to be careful.