Good evening Nairalanders, I have been thinking of posting this for a while now until now,please I want your dearly advice and view of my present dilemma. I'm sorry for some reasons I wouldn't mention names in my post.(not necessary though)

There is this girl I met about 2014/2015, she used to come to my church to see her grandma. Her mum actually attend the headquarters of our church. Though I have a girlfriend then, but I like her and always stare at her when ever she attend our church. I am a member of the Boy's Brigade, so trying to get her to notice me was easy, though I couldn't still put up the courage to meet her in person, but actually came across her on facebook and we started chatting, we exchange numbers and with time became friends.
She probably know where I am heading to but I made it known I have a girlfriend and she also have a boyfriend then. So we continued as just friends (2014,we were in SS 3, preparing for WAEC). She got admitted into a state polytechnic that same 2014, but I didn't write jamb that year, so I opt for admission 2016 in the same polytechnic, by then she is already a National Diploma holder, through these time our friendship is still intact.

By 2017, am apparently in ND 1 second semester, and my girl friend is already in 200level in a university cause she also got admission a year before me, though in the same city. She(my girlfriend) has started acting strange and giving attitudes, but finally opened up and decided she can't continue with me, as she will soon graduate and her parents will want her to get married on time because she's the only daughter. She's offered a 4yrs course while mine is 5yrs(Engineering), and that was it.
This other girl also broke up with her boyfriend, don't actually know why and when cause she never want to talk about it, our friendship continue to grew and I asked her out. She ask for some time to think it over which I did. Well she finally admit we should continue as friend as she doesn't want to build any relationship, I agreed and months later, I tried again and she keeps repeating the same thing.
I decided to respect her decision and be just friends. By then, we were already known as friends even by her parents and mine(her granny and my mum are in the same band in church) I tell her girls I met and ask out and she also do the same about guys that ask her out...and lot of intimacy chats like that.

....to cut the long story short...

She keep opting for HND admission since 2017, but no luck, she decided to try a federal polytechnic instead, I've also finished ND in 2018 and and by 2019 she got the HND admission and I also did. But in different institution.
Right now, I can see and feel she has falling for me, she's the type that is very soft hearted, her parents already thought we are dating, her senior brothers will even tell it to my face, if she's not at home, her mum sometimes will call me to ask if she's with me. Could remember I attended one of her sisters introduction, and her mum and cousin were gigling and staring at me. I get the message like we are dating but we are still just Friends, her grandma loves to see me around and want me to visit anytime am in town,
She has once said "Esu oni yayin"(the devil will not separate you"
I've spoken to her about these and ask her to explain things at home that we are good just friends. One of her sister has also ask me when we'll decide to make our relationship official and I explained things to her as well.
"the issue is now that, through the times of our friendship, I've lost the feelings for her as a girlfriend or fince and I now respect her, she's no longer sexually attracted to me"

Though we've been in some kind of situations when we kissed, I've visited her in school for some days and she use to visit me too, but it has never gone outrageous other than kissing.
I can boldly see the fellings written all over her face, she's not the type that ask things from guys, unless she just feel like whining you, she helps me out financially even if I don't have to pay her back.
I've tried to speak with her about this, and remind her we aren't into a relationship and that we are still good friends(cause apparently am presently not the very gentle man I used to be after my break up with my girlfriend in 2017)i flirt and she knows, but she's still not bothered,she still likes and care about me.
I'm just scared if I won't hurt her if I decided to go into relationship with her, I don't want to hurt her and even now that parents thought we are dating and I ducked up, what will they think of me.
"i don't know if I should try and give it a chance if the feelings will come back and I will be sexually attracted to her again or just let it go"

Please ignore my typos. Thanks

A man with a dick manhood can't decide on one girl and stay with her? Wat is this world turning to.. father's of our future generations can't make decisions

Have you thought about making money first?all this small children relationship gracing nairaland on daily basis,reason why I hardly accept dm except I know and see who's involved.Dont mind your erection,it just want to lead you astray and loose focus on making money.please stop being a distraction to that lady.

Why girls too dy like bad boys?

HRHQueenPhil:
A man with a dick manhood can't decide on one girl and stay with her? Wat is this world turning to.. father's of our future generations can't make decisions

This one's erection is toying with his head,heart and mind.He does not even know what he wants.

HRHQueenPhil:
A man with a dick manhood can't decide on one girl and stay with her? Wat is this world turning to.. father's of our future generations can't make decisions

an opinion won't be a bad idea. Scold me later

This Romance section has the most drama

The comments from these ladies above sounds so funny, for me I would do the deepest desires of my heart, they always make you feel good even when you fail.
Don't date because people are expecting you to date, if you don't really love her, then back out it's that simple, don't start what you know that won't end well.

ParpahSeventy:
The comments from these ladies above sounds so funny, for me I would do the deepest desires of my heart, they always make you feel good even when you fail.
Don't date because people are expecting you to date, if you don't really love her, then back out it's that simple, don't start what you know that won't end well.

God bless you sir

@supercent02
Cut the playing around and don’t hurt yourselves more if you two want to hold a friendship status. You want to have your cake and eat it. You two are playing games, kissing and flirting. Yet maintaining a friendship status. Extremely ridiculous

This attitude will stop you both from noticing other available people around and having fun with normal people in your life.

If you two feel good about the game, then keep playing it, but if any of you get to the point you die in silence watch another person come in between and either date the girl or a girl take you instead then don’t cry premium tears

Kalatium:
This Romance section has the most drama

will you have seen this as a drama if it was a lady that posted this and ask for opinion.
Stop been Judgemental

Zzor:
This one's erection is toying with his head,heart and mind.He does not even know what he wants.

thanks

supercent02:
will you have seen this as a drama if it was a lady that posted this and ask for opinion.
Stop been Judgemental

I havent even read the thread its kinda long.

if she's actually what u described...give it a shot.

supercent02:
thanks

Don't mind her jor, shouting small boy upandan. If u were a rich young man will she call u small boy gracing nairaland. Back to ur situation, if u cannot love her like she deserves then don't start what u can't finish. U will ruin how her family sees you and u will lose a good friend. Leave her in that friend zone, the same friend zone she built for you. Because if you hurt her u will lose a gf, a friend, someone who could possibly help u or ur child in the future. You never know, God fit do am make she marry one senator or big man and trust me, a woman (could be ur mom, sister, friend, gf, wife) who "genuinely cares" about u will never forget or abandon u in ur time of need like we men do to ourselves. I learnt the hard way believe me. My female friends from way back rode hard with me through tough times. How many 10k, how many 5k 2k, how many different kind of weekend cooking, how many borrow money no pay back . We go sleep naked beside ourself I no even reason am say naked woman dey beside. The men from way back when e sweet nko? All of them maneuver shaparly as everywhere dry. Dem go even dey bill u wey u no get sef to avoid ur own billing. Life

Its better to go your separate ways than live in self denial. Just try and make her understand. She's not helping the situation at all

Zzor:
This one's erection is toying with his head,heart and mind.He does not even know what he wants.

Please can I come on yor head...cheeks . or thigh please?

U neva loved d girl, all u had den was infatuation. Now dat ve really known her inside out ure tired already.Just leave dat poor girl alone, i mean stop calling her or do wat u used to do so she can get d message on time.

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PattyMike:


Don't mind her jor, shouting small boy upandan. If u were a rich young man will she call u small boy gracing nairaland. Back to ur situation, if u cannot love her like she deserves then don't start what u can't finish. U will ruin how her family sees you and u will lose a good friend. Leave her in that friend zone, the same friend zone she built for you. Because if you hurt her u will lose a gf, a friend, someone who could possibly help u or ur child in the future. You never know, God fit do am make she marry one senator or big man and trust me, a woman (could be ur mom, sister, friend, gf, wife) who "genuinely cares" about u will never forget or abandon u in ur time of need like we men do to ourselves. I learnt the hard way believe me. My female friends from way back rode hard with me through tough times. How many 10k, how many 5k 2k, how many different kind of weekend cooking, how many borrow money no pay back . We go sleep naked beside ourself I no even reason am say naked woman dey beside. The men from way back when e sweet nko? All of them maneuver shaparly as everywhere dry. Dem go even dey bill u wey u no get sef to avoid ur own billing. Life

thanks legend

From your story, it seems you feel you are not God enough for the girl.

Talking about low self esteem .

You think because you flirt with other girls, you don't want to hurt a LOYAL girl.

It will shock you to later find out that she flirts even more than you.

Fear Dem girls