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Re: . by Richy4(m): 9:02am On Sep 30, 2020 |
Only heart to heart discussion will solve this You said that he is intelligent, hardworking, therefore it is time to awake that fighting spirit in him.... He is demoralized/ frustrated at the moment therefore talk to him in the middle of the night... ask for a way forward.. Stroke his ego.. let him know that u guys can do it again... That's what a good wife will do... Leaving him now will be really bad... any ear that hears it will jump into conclusion that because the going was not good and you decide to run.. when u were drinking pepper soup, eating isi ewu, you did not remember to go.... (Just kidding on the peppersoup part) Please talk to him. not in anger but with love and respect.. I believe you guys will rise again... Good luck 2 Likes |
Re: . by ikennamadu1(m): 9:16am On Sep 30, 2020 |
Madibah: wetin him talk dey bad... why are you creating problem out of nothing ... them suppose use you exchange ewa agoyin 2 Likes |
Re: . by Oizee(f): 9:18am On Sep 30, 2020 |
Op abeg be patient with him, he even tried to follow u to your aunt's place and start living there with you guys, I can assure you that it's not easy for him at all. My dear sis, if every lady should come out and narrate what is presently happening in their home, u will thank your Lord for urs. When I got married, d first Two yrs of d marriage was really a tough one with a kid and I almost called it quit, I experienced almost d same issue with urs, only that we were still staying in our home. Den I felt he didn't appreciate all my efforts and dats y I said what kind of human being is dis one? But I thank my Lord I didn't make a mistake of leaving. He's going through a lot right now, just dat u don't know, my hubby is d type that becomes unnecessary aggressive when he's bothered about something, and I will be calm no matter what he do or say, bcuz when all it's over he always acknowledge and apologize for every thing. How are you so sure he isn't bothered about getting something doing? Tell him u are becoming uncomfortable anymore in ur aunt place and c his response. And as for biz failure, it's not his fault or family, it can still fail with ur advice too. If u are committed to the marriage, I can assure you that no matter what happens, u guys wl pull through. D only thing I pray not to c in my home is domestic violence, I won't even contemplate at all, I go just liv 6 Likes |
Re: . by NeoWanZaeed(m): 9:25am On Sep 30, 2020 |
Chinnybaby190: I stopped reading when you said he makes no effort to get job.. I read further.. feeling no remorse and shame..Oluwa o.. leave him.. he's so confident that you would sure cater for him. probably the nonsense his parents put in his head.. leave the idiot..if what you said is true. what kind of shameless man depends on his wife to the extent of data and recharge card? what kind of man can't plan his life with his family (wife) but his mother father and siblings.. my advice.. leave and take along your kid.. 2 Likes |
Re: . by Oizee(f): 9:31am On Sep 30, 2020 |
Chinnybaby190:ah ah, nawa for u, motherhood comes with sacrifice. Please accept dis trying time. I understood correctly now, gaskia every day is no Christmas, abeg support d poor man cuz I'm sure things will surely change for good. Kai e no good make man no get money o. 1 Like |
Re: . by Oizee(f): 9:35am On Sep 30, 2020 |
NeoWanZaeed:see how u are talking, I pray you won't be in her husband shoes one day. he was doing good before and dat was part of the reason she married him, but life is full of uncertainties. She should leave with d kid, will u marry her? 5 Likes |
Re: . by flyingpig: 9:43am On Sep 30, 2020 |
Chinnybaby190:WOMEN!! Spits. You lot easily open your mouth to say yes I do to a wedding ring and also enjoy the caressing that the breeze of marriage bring but you never take a minute apart to imagine how best you could handle the rough winds of life when eventually they come. You think nobody in life faces challenges ![]() Left for me many people should stop getting married cause marriage is "I scratch your back and you scratch mine". Not necessarily looking for the nearest divorce papers to sign once rough winds of storm gather. Please divorce him. Like you said, he is a smart man. One day he will come around and will be glad you left him for good and he will get a better wife. 7 Likes |
Re: . by Madibah(m): 9:43am On Sep 30, 2020 |
ikennamadu1: And then go use you exchange tuwo 1 Like |
Re: . by Nobody: 9:45am On Sep 30, 2020 |
Chinnybaby190:You are doing great really, he needs all the encouragement. Its not easy but do not give up. Btw theres nothing wrong in owning a bet shop or barbing salon or any other meaningful vocation at that, hope he doesnt gamble? He seems to be a huge risk taker |
Re: . by Ishilove: 9:50am On Sep 30, 2020 |
4lorunsho:Do you have sense at all? 1 Like |
Re: . by Nobody: 9:56am On Sep 30, 2020 |
Chinnybaby190:........a MAN will marry a JOBLESS LADY yet you won't see such on SOCIAL MEDIA. The man won't complain. The same MAN will accommodate his wife's siblings. Most times these siblings liquidate the man. But the Moment the MAN becomes JOBLESS and his wife becomes the one providing, the entire household is set ablaze.The entire SOCIAL MEDIA becomes ignited with hatred. IF I have my way, I will render MARRIAGE useless. MEN should opt 4 BABY MAMA affair, 4 it's far better. .... a MAN will save for 5years just to get married to someone that will still nag him to his early grave. What else do you need in these Ladies if not kids...? Most do not proffer cerebral touch to pressing issue. 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: . by PeacenLove2: 9:59am On Sep 30, 2020 |
You want to leave your husband and kid behind? Ehen? This says everything about you, a woman planning to abandon a child, even with a jobless father. "Eyin daju, ma." No comment. Poor kid, poor husband. 4 Likes |
Re: . by NeoWanZaeed(m): 10:36am On Sep 30, 2020 |
Oizee: you have forgotten the fact that he he said the guy is not willing to do anything again 2 Likes |
Re: . by 9jamustchange: 10:55am On Sep 30, 2020 |
Chinnybaby190: Be a friend in need! |
Re: . by meobizy(f): 10:59am On Sep 30, 2020 |
OP, I support you. You have multiple choices from my point of view: 1. Abandon him and leave the child. Never come back and start a new life with a new man. Fight all desires to reunite with him no matter how his fortune changes. 2. Take the child and abandon him. Do not come back. No matter how his fortune changes never look back. 3. Stick with him and endure. If situations change, good. If they don’t, good. There are many more problems to marriages. So far it is not infidelity then you two can join hands to make things work. Sometimes in life we need to abandon the burden which ties us down. Maybe the problem isn’t him but you. You’ll never know if you don’t take the needed risk. 4 Likes |
Re: . by Nobody: 11:00am On Sep 30, 2020 |
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Re: . by Nobody: 11:02am On Sep 30, 2020 |
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Re: . by flyingpig: 11:06am On Sep 30, 2020 |
Chinnybaby190:Have you tried to lift his spirit up? That man there is broken, depressed and despirited. Have you read about depression and what it takes to lift such person out? Oya jump out of the marriage na. You think you yourself won't meet adversaries in life as much as you avoid them? Nobody prays for what comes their way. 5 Likes |
Re: . by Openbusiness: 11:07am On Sep 30, 2020 |
Chinnybaby190:Most of you women are the same, you're only there for the benefits, only there when the going is good, but if the man gets broke temporarily and can't provide, you turn against him and show your true colors of wickedness. How many years was his footing all the bills, and providing your needs and giving you benefits and enjoyment? But suddenly because he has a bit of misfortune and can't provide within a few weeks and is down, you bring his matter to a public space so they can further help you ridicule him. Abeg abeg abeg, leave quickly, sharp sharp, leave the man and his child, abandon the marriage and find another husband. No problem. He is better off alone than having a betrayer as a wife. He will survive, he will recover and he will prosper again, no condition is permanent. 9 Likes |
Re: . by mrblessed(m): 11:09am On Sep 30, 2020 |
Chinnybaby190:If your husband has no fault, why are you threatening to leave him and your children now he is down? It might sound proper to some people that you dislike suffering and couldnt go through this rough patch with your husband, but the though of leaving your children behind resupposes/depicts your willing to seek a life of zero struggle/challenge. It might interest you to know that the grass is not always greener on the other side. "Look before you leap" is an English adage. 2 Likes |
Re: . by Nobody: 11:17am On Sep 30, 2020 |
Na WA |
Re: . by Openbusiness: 11:28am On Sep 30, 2020 |
Men really need to wake up, husbands especially. As you are sacrificing your all, crossing the oceans, giving your best years and best strength just to make your wife and family live the best life, remember to take care of yourself and put plenty money away. You can buy recharge cards for your wife for 5 years and nobody will know, but the moment she buys you recharge card for 2 weeks, she will publicize your matter on CNN. You can be providing for all her needs and the families needs for 15 years but the moment you can't and she has to help out for 2 months, she will disgrace you in the community, as if you were never a provider, as if you never foot the bill all those years that she was enjoying your money. Most of them are like this. Only few women understand loyalty, and only few women understand and will abide by the marriage oath of for better or worse that they took. Most of them are only interested in the for better, what they can take from you, the benefits they can reap, but God forbid let the tables turn, and for worse happens, most of them will be quick to demonize their husbands and subject him to public ridicule and shame. So husbands have to learn how to have contingency plans for themselves in case of the hard times, because this life is unpredictable with good and bad, ups and downs. We can only try our best and hope for the best. 13 Likes 1 Share |
Re: . by TimeTraveler369: 11:28am On Sep 30, 2020 |
I do not read poor people's sorrows. When you become successful, write it and I will read. In fact when you were enjoying, why didnt you write it here? 2 Likes |
Re: . by thunderfirebubu: 11:44am On Sep 30, 2020 |
Women Sha. When the chips are down you understand them truly. May God never let us have anything to do with such women. 3 Likes |
Re: . by realestate99: 11:49am On Sep 30, 2020 |
Chinnybaby190:This post of yours is a great disservice to the marriage institution. |
Re: . by Nobody: 12:07pm On Sep 30, 2020 |
4lorunsho:They are having money issues and this is all you could bring, sometimes these guys that post ads could be heartless. |
Re: . by Nobody: 12:11pm On Sep 30, 2020 |
NeoWanZaeed:What sort of stupid advice is this? Do you know the effects of divorce on children, have you heard of Kurt Cobain? His parents divorce affected him till he grew up, even fame and money could not cure it. Please op think about your child, the man may have given up because he is just tired, but hold him by the hand and lead him, you are companions not master and slave, when one is found wanting lead the person for your own sake please. If you can't do it for him do it for the poor child. 2 Likes |
Re: . by ceeceeuwa: 12:11pm On Sep 30, 2020 |
Chinnybaby190:I understand your point. But body cream should be the least of your worries now. We mothers are wired to make sacrifices for our family members. Don't worry, all will be well. You will surely smile again! Your husband needs you more now... he is only putting up an unconcerned show now in order not to appear depressed. Your leaving him might drive him to the extreme!. Don't let your child lose both mother and father please!!! |
Re: . by NeoWanZaeed(m): 12:15pm On Sep 30, 2020 |
SegFault: you are the stupid one here.. advise your sister to stay in a marriage where the husband is not ready to do anything concerning his responsibilities.. foolish boi 3 Likes |
Re: . by Nobody: 12:15pm On Sep 30, 2020 |
Openbusiness:Abeg keep quiet, when most Nigerian men claim head of the house what do you expect, is it not your stupid Bible that relegated the head of the house to the man, why are you now ranting. Mtchhheeew. 2 Likes |
Re: . by Nobody: 12:17pm On Sep 30, 2020 |
Openbusiness:Why Generalizing? Besides, the @op have tried. How many women will take all those things she's going through. To the extent of taking your husband to live in your auntie's house? This is nija. You people should fear God small abeg 4 Likes |
Re: . by Nobody: 12:18pm On Sep 30, 2020 |
NeoWanZaeed:I am not saying that she must stay, I'm just begging her to think about the child and to try to raise the man now, at least if by the ending of this year nothing happens she should bite the stone and leave. |
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