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Re: I Am Scared To Ask Him When He Wants To Get Married. Help!!! by Danjikanbauchi: 2:34pm On Dec 07, 2021 |
The handwriting on the wall is very clear but you decided to lie to yourself. Tomorrow you will cry he dump you, Hotel ! Believe me you are dating yourself, and he has calculated you enough to know that you want marriage and he don't want to marry you. 13 Likes
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Re: I Am Scared To Ask Him When He Wants To Get Married. Help!!! by ngoziwrites(f): 2:36pm On Dec 07, 2021 |
Nat404: I just want to know what he has in mind. I stated it in my post that a year is fine. Even two years, if needs be. But I only prefer within a year... So does he even have it in mind yet. |
Re: I Am Scared To Ask Him When He Wants To Get Married. Help!!! by Kuriosmynd: 2:38pm On Dec 07, 2021 |
ngoziwrites:Yes...you don't cos that's how he want it...and u are playing to his script. We guyman can be with a woman for months catching fun and talking pretty rubbish gisting and laughing from morning till night and u won't get bored, and same time u won't know much abt us....Smart guys do this alot to confuse women 19 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Am Scared To Ask Him When He Wants To Get Married. Help!!! by larryking540: 2:57pm On Dec 07, 2021 |
ngoziwrites:okay ,aside the financial stuff u listed ,but truth be told sweet follow actions than words , people suggesting you ask me ,I wouldn't suggest such , because he will definitely tell u want you want to hear ,he aren't ready ,how old is he? 4 Likes |
Re: I Am Scared To Ask Him When He Wants To Get Married. Help!!! by TheWolfen(m): 3:08pm On Dec 07, 2021 |
No need to rush into marriage. Dude is taking his time I think you should do same too as to know him more better. . . 6 months is just 6months and not 6 years okay, so relax. It is okay to ask questions but don't rush him else he might pull away. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Scared To Ask Him When He Wants To Get Married. Help!!! by Sydney43(f): 3:18pm On Dec 07, 2021 |
My dear you are on the right track. It’s good for a relationship to be defined so as to know what you guys are really doing and also to make sure you ain’t wasting your time. So I’d advice you sit and discuss with him to avoid wasting your time and energy. Communication is key. Go for it girl 6 Likes |
Re: I Am Scared To Ask Him When He Wants To Get Married. Help!!! by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 3:24pm On Dec 07, 2021 |
ngoziwrites: How can you be dating someone you cannot talk to? You can be subtle about it give him time,but as someone mentioned there are red flags already and you are overlooking it I don't think your priorities align at all . He is 31 and okay if he wanted marriage he would have gotten it long ago or better still made that intention known to you from the get go. Don't get pregnant for him or slow yourself down since you are ready and your priorities are well thought out you can get married if you want,this one isn't ready don't waste time ask him now you should both discuss openly on your expectations of it doesn't align let him go and see if someone who is willing to take that step comes along 2 Likes |
Re: I Am Scared To Ask Him When He Wants To Get Married. Help!!! by Kuriosmynd: 3:27pm On Dec 07, 2021 |
A guy will always want you to know his house as early as possible when he's very much into you. . He will want people to see you, and to know you are the main deal. If getting to know his house is getting complicated with excuses..lol....Better give ursef brain......... . . 20 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: I Am Scared To Ask Him When He Wants To Get Married. Help!!! by Double0h7(f): 3:33pm On Dec 07, 2021 |
ngoziwrites: I think you're rushing the process. You don't want to be with a guy who will tell you what you want to hear so slow down a little bit. Things will come to light and you don't need him to say he is ready for marriage but instead you want him to show you. Have fun and take an interest in him as a person. You said you pretend you don't hear the things he says when you're not comfortable with his responses and that is unhealthy because you are avoiding opportunities to get to know him and understand him. If you want to settle down then there's nothing wrong with that so don't let anyone shame you. We live in a crazy world where men can say they want to hang your leg from the ceiling and nobody shames them but if a woman says she wants a commitment then she is desperate and she gets shamed. Don't let these end times people confuse you. Know what you want and seek it out unapologetically. Give this guy 6 months undivided attention and if he doesn't look like he is ready for commitment then move on. I would say chat to more than one guy and get to know a number of guys so you don't waste your time with the wrong guy but keep it discreet and close your legs while you're at it. 15 Likes |
Re: I Am Scared To Ask Him When He Wants To Get Married. Help!!! by nairaman66(m): 3:34pm On Dec 07, 2021 |
Unless I am wrong, you seem to be desperate for marriage because the guy ticks all the boxes of whom you’d like to settle down with especially because he is financially capable. Marriages goes more than financial capacity. Is he someone who is mentally stable? Manners? Decorum? It is obvious this guy is less interested in marriage and considering he is financially buoyant, imagine the number of ladies that throw themselves at him on a daily. From my perspective, you seem to be ill informed about his basic communication/interaction manners. So far, I would like you to remain less expectant of his marriage proposal and take it each day as it comes. For me, men are generally less interested in ladies that bugs them day and night especially when it comes to marriage. When you have the chance to meet him again, remove sex off the table and see his reaction. If it is positive, then you can find a time to share your opinion about where you want the relationship to head. If negative, as I think it would be, just cut the relationship off! All that glitters is gold! Cheers and good luck 9 Likes |
Re: I Am Scared To Ask Him When He Wants To Get Married. Help!!! by Figger(m): 3:36pm On Dec 07, 2021 |
Nat404:unfortunately some ladies don't know this. Number one red flag, careful before u end up getting scammed. Local yahoo is real, make this guy no use packaging collect better money from u oh. 13 Likes |
Re: I Am Scared To Ask Him When He Wants To Get Married. Help!!! by Nat404: 3:51pm On Dec 07, 2021 |
ngoziwrites:The truth of the matter is he is not ready yet for you. A man who is ready will discuss his plans with the lady that he is in love with. You need a side guy. Get yourself one in case of necessity. Are you a cool chick? Who knows, maybe I can introduce you to my friend. He's a very nice guy, handsome and from well-to-do family. 5 Likes |
Re: I Am Scared To Ask Him When He Wants To Get Married. Help!!! by Osas187: 4:06pm On Dec 07, 2021 |
Go and read ubunja misseducation "IF THE MILK IS FREE" 7 Likes |
Re: I Am Scared To Ask Him When He Wants To Get Married. Help!!! by bigpicture001: 4:27pm On Dec 07, 2021 |
ngoziwrites: Na so una dey talk... U want to say u haven't met a struggling guy with sense that truely loves u..? Na so una go dey pursue money up and down 14 Likes |
Re: I Am Scared To Ask Him When He Wants To Get Married. Help!!! by efewizey(m): 4:47pm On Dec 07, 2021 |
E they do me to locate you beat.... He lodged in an hotel of 25k made me mad... Na just the money they attract you mafo. |
Re: I Am Scared To Ask Him When He Wants To Get Married. Help!!! by divalishis: 4:52pm On Dec 07, 2021 |
This man is fvccing up your mind! He is neither hot, nor cold. If you don't have similar dreams, I think you should let him go. 8 Likes |
Re: I Am Scared To Ask Him When He Wants To Get Married. Help!!! by Evercurious(f): 6:17pm On Dec 07, 2021 |
ngoziwrites: You re just confused and desperate. Pls go take a break ,relax and enjoy yourself alone, value yourself before venturing into what you re doing now.. |
Re: I Am Scared To Ask Him When He Wants To Get Married. Help!!! by Nobody: 7:15pm On Dec 07, 2021 |
Babe red light dey, dey shine brightly but love don cover your eyes and u know dey see am... That guy is playing with you and he is in a serious relationship or married, be wise and pay attention... Infact leave that guy as fast as possible, I hate such rubbish. At this age don't rush into relationship, devil will be busy bringing useless men into your life because she sees you are ready to marry, know dey love anyhow, know dey open leg like that.. get down on your knees and ask God to filter the men that approach you then bring the right person your way, when the right person is coming be asking God for signs that shows he is the right person... You are just at a critical age of your life, if you make mistake now, u know fit reverse am againoo. 19 Likes |
Re: I Am Scared To Ask Him When He Wants To Get Married. Help!!! by MallamChukwudi: 7:22pm On Dec 07, 2021 |
@ngoziwrites, you're not desperate, it only seems like you're asking in the wrong place. If he is ready for marriage, within six months to a year, he will. Also, a sure way to avoid pain and disappointment is to be honest with yourself, regardless of the outcome. According to you, he has hinted that marriage is not for him, and doesn't seems like he wants it anytime soon. Why refuse reality? Disregarding these obvious signs are self-deceit, and you only postponed it's bites. Ask him, "what is the future of the relationship"?, and if he gives obscure answer, then ask directly, when he plans to get married. Waiting unnecessarily is wrong. You're not desperate to want marriage, but if you're with someone that doesn't wants it, it would seem as such. Also, I refuse to believe that he doesn't know your desire, I swear, he knows. Which makes me wonder, if he loves you as you believed, then why don't he define the relationship or just let you go? 9 Likes |
Re: I Am Scared To Ask Him When He Wants To Get Married. Help!!! by SarutobiEky(m): 7:27pm On Dec 07, 2021 |
ngoziwrites:you dey wyn yourself OP. you only want someone with sense yet you're with a nigga with lots to call inheritance. Is he the only nigga in your life? You're getting attention from? Lol 2 Likes |
Re: I Am Scared To Ask Him When He Wants To Get Married. Help!!! by dontrulee: 7:39pm On Dec 07, 2021 |
Trap! Trap! Abort 2 Likes |
Re: I Am Scared To Ask Him When He Wants To Get Married. Help!!! by SarutobiEky(m): 7:42pm On Dec 07, 2021 |
bigpicture001:na mumu dey worry Op. Make she dey deceive herself dey go |
Re: I Am Scared To Ask Him When He Wants To Get Married. Help!!! by juniorstar(m): 7:43pm On Dec 07, 2021 |
ngoziwrites:Looks like a player if you know u know lol. 3 Likes |
Re: I Am Scared To Ask Him When He Wants To Get Married. Help!!! by Nobody: 7:44pm On Dec 07, 2021 |
ngoziwrites:From ur story he's not into u aka ur dating urself but u just don't know it yet even though it's crystal clear. He doesn't want to bond with u that's how u know easily. But u think it's cool... Premium tears awaiteth thee 3 Likes |
Re: I Am Scared To Ask Him When He Wants To Get Married. Help!!! by Awkabigboy: 8:03pm On Dec 07, 2021 |
ngoziwrites:You're having sex with him so why pay for the cow when u already have the milk |
Re: I Am Scared To Ask Him When He Wants To Get Married. Help!!! by ngoziwrites(f): 8:45pm On Dec 07, 2021 |
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Re: I Am Scared To Ask Him When He Wants To Get Married. Help!!! by ngoziwrites(f): 8:48pm On Dec 07, 2021 |
MallamChukwudi: Thank you. Trust me. He isn't even going to see me as desperate. I haven't asked him any sensitive question at all. I am just writing my fears and thoughts here. I even wrote that if he says he wants marriage in a year, that's perfect. Even 2 years, it's fine I wrote all that. Unfortunately, they chose not to see that. 6 Likes |
Re: I Am Scared To Ask Him When He Wants To Get Married. Help!!! by ngoziwrites(f): 8:56pm On Dec 07, 2021 |
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Re: I Am Scared To Ask Him When He Wants To Get Married. Help!!! by Chikels: 8:59pm On Dec 07, 2021 |
I am ready if you think he is not ready I know i might not have all the things he have but i believe what matters is the love and affection |
Re: I Am Scared To Ask Him When He Wants To Get Married. Help!!! by toujurs: 9:00pm On Dec 07, 2021 |
stacyadams:i swear, most ladies. Don't have value, she saw the guy was doing very well with two cars, and a building as home, she sharperly opened her legs, she says she loves him because he is financially buoyant to handle a family. |
Re: I Am Scared To Ask Him When He Wants To Get Married. Help!!! by ngoziwrites(f): 9:01pm On Dec 07, 2021 |
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Re: I Am Scared To Ask Him When He Wants To Get Married. Help!!! by ngoziwrites(f): 9:05pm On Dec 07, 2021 |
TheWolfen: I wonder what u guys are reading though. Where and how did I say I am rushing him to get married? I only said I want to know if he is considering it. I would love to be with someone who is considering it. Then it can happen within a year of even two. That's fine. But it's a totally different thing if he isn't considering marriage soon. 2 Likes |
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