From a friend to Nairalanders.
Hello everyone,

My story is a very long one but please take your time and digest to help me and my siblings handle this situation.

I am not the kind of person that do share my issues with people, I rather find a solution to heal the situation than allowing people's opinion that would be decisive at times and can also get you more confused to decide my next in action.

My Dad's attitude has totally changed towards his children and this is exactly what's about to tear us his children apart from him.

I don't even know where to start from.

Before I start, I want to let you know that my Dad is a good and a God fearing man even up till this moment but we his children don't really understand what's going on in our family again.

My Dad lost his wife about 12years ago and till date we have been living happily after we lost our dear mum to breast cancer.

Then, being the first son amongst my Dad's 7 children ,I was in Jss3 and about writing my Junior waec when my mum gave up the ghost.

Since I lost my mum, Dad has been taking a very good care of us to the extent of making sure he cater for our spiritual through prayers, seeing i and my elder sister through university although we also contributed enormously to our educational project and thank God today we are graduates waiting to be mobilized for Nysc.

I and my sister (graduate also) are currently working as we wait for Nysc mobilization and make sure we don't bother our Dad financially.
Still, we make sure our family don't lack little things we can afford.

Another Sunday came, one of these girls announced to one of my sisters of her decision to attend a handcraft training institute close to my house and a bit close theirs.

This my sister jokingly asked her where she would be staying for the one year training (abi she would be staying in the school hostel) my sister was shocked when one of the girls told her she will be staying with us.

Beware, this my sister is not in any way in support of my Dad's sudden attitudinal changes that have made him channel all his attention to these girls and their household.

My Dad never told us all these, even to to consult us his children, but we heard it from one of the girls.

In our two room apartment(face me I face you house).

My elder sister had to calm everyone of us down in order confront my Dad.

We are about saying our prayer and interrupted by asking him if what one of the girls said is true.

My Dad became angry, yelling and telling us that no one has the right to question his decision and it final.

And no one would stop him.

Please help us.

I don't know what to do about this situation as I have younger ones my Dad should focus on than giving all your attention to these girls and family of a mother and a father still young and alive with 11 children.

Mennnnnnnn, op, Like seriously I'm sorry about your mum

Make your popsman no go start race wey he no go fit run finish

Well,this thing never reach wetin suppose cause wrestlemania match for una family.......As the eldest child of your family, your popsman suppose give you listening ears and see reasons with you why you believed things shouldn't be done the way he's doing them.....

Secondly,make your papa think about am very well....A man's major obligation should be on how to better the lives of his family first before considering any other one..... Because if him own children fail to succeed today,e go clear for him eyes for future.

It’s like you skipped a section.

After you described what life is like without your mum, you said a girl was coming to live with the family for studies.

Who is the girl and what exactly is the issue

Your explanation is not concise enough... You didn't give us a detailed information of " these girls" in the passage.

Maybe your dad needs a companion... Tell us more about the girl.

chukwuma0000:
From a friend to Nairalanders.
Hello everyone,

My story is a very long one but please take your time and digest to help me and my siblings handle this situation.

I am not the kind of person that do share my issues with people, I rather find a solution to heal the situation than allowing people's opinion that would be decisive at times and can also get you more confused to decide my next in action.

My Dad's attitude has totally changed towards his children and this is exactly what's about to tear us his children apart from him.

I don't even know where to start from.

Before I start, I want to let you know that my Dad is a good and a God fearing man even up till this moment but we his children don't really understand what's going on in our family again.

My Dad lost his wife about 12years ago and till date we have been living happily after we lost our dear mum to breast cancer.

Then, being the first son amongst my Dad's 7 children ,I was in Jss3 and about writing my Junior waec when my mum gave up the ghost.

Since I lost my mum, Dad has been taking a very good care of us to the extent of making sure he cater for our spiritual through prayers, seeing i and my elder sister through university although we also contributed enormously to our educational project and thank God today we are graduates waiting to be mobilized for Nysc.

I and my sister (graduate also) are currently working as we wait for Nysc mobilization and make sure we don't bother our Dad financially.
Still, we make sure our family don't lack little things we can afford.

Another Sunday came, one of these girls announced to one of my sisters of her decision to attend a handcraft training institute close to my house and a bit close theirs.

This my sister jokingly asked her where she would be staying for the one year training (abi she would be staying in the school hostel) my sister was shocked when one of the girls told her she will be staying with us.

Beware, this my sister is not in any way in support of my Dad's sudden attitudinal changes that have made him channel all his attention to these girls and their household.

My Dad never told us all these, even to to consult us his children, but we heard it from one of the girls.

In our two room apartment(face me I face you house).

My elder sister had to calm everyone of us down in order confront my Dad.

We are about saying our prayer and interrupted by asking him if what one of the girls said is true.

My Dad became angry, yelling and telling us that no one has the right to question his decision and it final.

And no one would stop him.

Please help us.

I don't know what to do about this situation as I have younger ones my Dad should focus on than giving all your attention to these girls and family of a mother and a father still young and alive with 11 children.

You need to give a background of who you're referring to as "the girls" so that we can understand your story and know how to advise you!