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Re: Flogging Toddlers- Is It Really Necessary? by sleek82(m): 10:28pm On Sep 18, 2022 |
flemsy15:what do you base your statistics on to say the whites are better... |
Re: Flogging Toddlers- Is It Really Necessary? by DaddyFreeze2020(m): 10:28pm On Sep 18, 2022 |
Enimin: Are you talking to God who gave that command through Solomon? |
Re: Flogging Toddlers- Is It Really Necessary? by DaddyFreeze2020(m): 10:29pm On Sep 18, 2022 |
Theunbothered: Is your existence a fiction? |
Re: Flogging Toddlers- Is It Really Necessary? by SeriouslySense(m): 10:31pm On Sep 18, 2022 |
it seems so. IyaTola: |
Re: Flogging Toddlers- Is It Really Necessary? by SeriouslySense(m): 10:33pm On Sep 18, 2022 |
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Re: Flogging Toddlers- Is It Really Necessary? by NoToPile: 10:35pm On Sep 18, 2022 |
fxexperts: @ bolded really ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Anyway your opinion on this issue is duly noted. |
Re: Flogging Toddlers- Is It Really Necessary? by SeriouslySense(m): 10:35pm On Sep 18, 2022 |
But do you understand why she does what she does and why she does not understand what you are doing. incogni2o: |
Re: Flogging Toddlers- Is It Really Necessary? by SeriouslySense(m): 10:36pm On Sep 18, 2022 |
Aha, its not only discipline but love also. incogni2o: |
Re: Flogging Toddlers- Is It Really Necessary? by Slurity(m): 10:36pm On Sep 18, 2022 |
Prism:It appears that the side you came from did not know how to push proper home training to the child. I still flog my two years boy today for misbehaving, his sister that is about 5yrs has pass through that level of corrections and don't misbehave like the boy again. That is why Yorubas respect elders than any tribe in the country. |
Re: Flogging Toddlers- Is It Really Necessary? by Benwallt(m): 10:38pm On Sep 18, 2022 |
Prism:Nonsense. |
Re: Flogging Toddlers- Is It Really Necessary? by obinna58(m): 10:38pm On Sep 18, 2022 |
boxer022:Lies |
Re: Flogging Toddlers- Is It Really Necessary? by SeriouslySense(m): 10:39pm On Sep 18, 2022 |
Hmm, a black child will always be a black child, that is an interesting saying, and why is it believed to be true. when i was little child, i remember, i always wanted to touch things, to climb to explore, so i was very curious as a child, and sometimes, it lead me to break stuff, i even copied chemistry stuff and made a little explosion (thank God for his protection). But as a black child i was not drawn to dark things if that is what you mean. Now i get it, a black child is very expressive emotionally and can get out of hand that what it means, destroying items and not understanding the consequences. If that is what you mean i think i agree, even as adults black people tend to be like children, very emotional and cannot control themselves apparently they did not grow out of it. Puberty also, black child wants to copy what he or she sees. But black children also have great potentials, so the discipline should also be focused in helping them realize their gifts and strength. Majesty33: |
Re: Flogging Toddlers- Is It Really Necessary? by Benwallt(m): 10:40pm On Sep 18, 2022 |
mariahAngel:You haven't seen anything. |
Re: Flogging Toddlers- Is It Really Necessary? by ravensckar(m): 10:47pm On Sep 18, 2022 |
mariahAngel:It's obvious you're not of marriageable age talk less of having a child. How does beating a child amount to injustice? Please kindly stick to topics that are befitting of your age grades. ![]() ![]() My daughter was as stubborn as a bull at age 1+. Always breaking things and slamming her head on the wall whenever she's angry (especially if you deny her something she wants). The moment I started using my hanger and tiny rod on her, that spirit of stubbornness and vandalism left her before she clocked 2 years. Now at 5, she has become a well behaved child that other parents want their children to emulate. Who get time for nonsense? 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Flogging Toddlers- Is It Really Necessary? by obinna58(m): 10:49pm On Sep 18, 2022 |
I hated those who flogged me then, i grew up and I realized I didn't hate them enough, well no reason to hate but come on we're all human with just one life to live. Torture is for animals, words are for human. Most of those who flogs are lazy, incompetent, hypocrite, they can never be seen as role model and this frustrate then more to use torture. |
Re: Flogging Toddlers- Is It Really Necessary? by SeriouslySense(m): 10:49pm On Sep 18, 2022 |
Sometimes there is an element of luck. It seems something clicked in your child, and she made the connection ![]() ![]() We should be grateful sometimes, it seems we forget that sometimes things conspire for good. I can remember when i was a child, when my parent corrected me with beatings about food, to eat up, but it did not work, it was a word she said that made me eat more food, and she took her time to gently explain it for me. And i was sick, so it clicked for me in that moment. I think Children are different and they have a mind of their own and their minds work differently, at a complex and fast pace, does not mean beating does not work though. ravensckar: |
Re: Flogging Toddlers- Is It Really Necessary? by being(m): 10:56pm On Sep 18, 2022 |
All these kind of questions sef -- so what is your alternative? Will they die as they are flogged like that? Do u not realise it's better to deal with things earlier than later? U want to instruct a baby, a child? That must be a joke!!! Prism: |
Re: Flogging Toddlers- Is It Really Necessary? by SeriouslySense(m): 11:01pm On Sep 18, 2022 |
there is nothing poor, about asking this question, it is an opportunity to review and understand children more. It can be an irritating discussion, since it seems apparent or obvious what the solution is, but that is human nature to keep asking. I just talk with an adult today and this adult is still coping with family stress and dynamics. some Adults are very good at hiding their family problems. being: |
Re: Flogging Toddlers- Is It Really Necessary? by ravensckar(m): 11:01pm On Sep 18, 2022 |
SeriouslySense:Trust me, it's not luck. It's systematic! I've worked with children for many years to know that they can be mischievous naturally. Since they are protected by that 'cuteness factor' and 'natural innocence' their parents tend to let them have their way until those children become spoilt brat. For me, one of the first vow I made to my God is that I'm never gonna raise a brat as a child. Not in my house! Funny enough, I rarely beat my children unless of course they have crossed the line. On several days, we're always running around and scattering the house together. ![]() ![]() In summary, I do not believe that beating a child counts as maltreatment, it's a form of education (action & consequence). Not beating a child is even the biggest form of disservice to that child because most of us that turned out well today, it was cane that our parents used to put the fear of God in us. And today, we are thanking them for it. ![]() ![]() 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Flogging Toddlers- Is It Really Necessary? by SeriouslySense(m): 11:04pm On Sep 18, 2022 |
haha, i agree with you, they are cunning and very smart, they have a complex mind. Little canning will do some good, with seriousness on the face or stern warning. I agree sha, African child as far as my understanding goes, need sternness for their good. They need to learn decency, respect and boundaries. ![]() ![]() ![]() ravensckar: |
Re: Flogging Toddlers- Is It Really Necessary? by being(m): 11:07pm On Sep 18, 2022 |
Ain't we? We are until u see d larger system has no checks & balances... the west have checks & balances to deal with corruption. U should also note what u deal with just 1 or 2 beatings, u can keep using words for years Theunbothered: |
Re: Flogging Toddlers- Is It Really Necessary? by GboyegaD(m): 11:10pm On Sep 18, 2022 |
Lamasta: Abeg, those wey dem beat like kilode growing up in the name of way s/he should grow no be dem dey do hookup, yahoo etc? |
Re: Flogging Toddlers- Is It Really Necessary? by being(m): 11:12pm On Sep 18, 2022 |
clems88:I think children of nowadays- gen alpha also need prayers apart from the beatings which is v gud too. 2 Likes |
Re: Flogging Toddlers- Is It Really Necessary? by incogni2o: 11:16pm On Sep 18, 2022 |
SeriouslySense: Yes, because she forgets. It's something as simple as greeting her elders when she first thing. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Flogging Toddlers- Is It Really Necessary? by incogni2o: 11:16pm On Sep 18, 2022 |
being: Thats very right Bro. But also wisdom. |
Re: Flogging Toddlers- Is It Really Necessary? by being(m): 11:17pm On Sep 18, 2022 |
[b][/b] Joezik:This is not true and u know it.. the only thing they will remember actually is beating not ur nicely put instruction. |
Re: Flogging Toddlers- Is It Really Necessary? by SeriouslySense(m): 11:19pm On Sep 18, 2022 |
Don't worry keep repeating your correction and also with care, dont show her your frustration or fears, show that you believe she can do it, your fears or frustration may show on your face and it may make her forget by choosing to forget the memory or moment, let her know its important. when she does what is right, let her know that what she did is nice. It may click in her that its pleasant to do that and she may not want to dare you or forget the memory, since she has found out that greeting is pleasant and she has become more confident of herself. Children test their parents, they are trying to gain more control of their environment to meet their need for stimulation or learning or just playful, they will need time to learn at the pace they can assimilate since they are taking a lot of information even the information you do not say to them, they are very observant of their surroundings and will copy what they see and consistent discipline is required in a complimentary environment. incogni2o: 2 Likes |
Re: Flogging Toddlers- Is It Really Necessary? by Proudlyomonna: 11:19pm On Sep 18, 2022 |
mariahAngel: 1)If you are at least up to 27 years old, 2)If you are not from a Classy and Rich background. 3)If you grew up in a Religious and Culturally inclined Home. There is no way you can claim you were not wiped in the ass. Infact I sure se you go don chop cain wella bcus you dey always sound like pikin wey go stubborn,wey go come still like to do nonsense well welll ![]()
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Re: Flogging Toddlers- Is It Really Necessary? by being(m): 11:27pm On Sep 18, 2022 |
IyaTola:I don't know where all these jokes of a research come from! Hw can u tell me toddlers can't connect beating and bad behaviour-- do u hav kids ?nephews, nieces? Mental health?? Who are the most depressed kids in d world- Nigerians or americans.. U must be a troll!! Aggressive? Have u seen dt recent video of d white kid scattering d room? Can u even imagine such in Nigeria? |
Re: Flogging Toddlers- Is It Really Necessary? by MrBrownJay1(m): 11:27pm On Sep 18, 2022 |
Prism: there is a fine line between corporal punishment and abuse, but some toddler do need to be restrained and often punished (however a parent see fit) |
Re: Flogging Toddlers- Is It Really Necessary? by incogni2o: 11:35pm On Sep 18, 2022 |
SeriouslySense: Thanks for this, its so easy to forget what I do before. That feeling of frustration has to be consciously controlled. Appreciate 1 Like 1 Share |
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