AsomArchitectNG:
Is ur family selling their daughter or giving her out for marriage..

I really don't understand the concept of some family that sees marriage as a way of extorting their in-laws to be

Samantha124:
They are not selling anyone... The bride price will be used to plan for the wedding.

AsomArchitectNG:


Bride price is different from the money that's meant to be used for a wedding...

jackmrandy:
Things like these are what discourage men from getting married. And not just does it discourage men, it makes some to go into illegal act just to get that money. More so, if this man finally pay and do the party your family wants, don't be surprise after the marriage, he might not even reason the in-laws again. Like make anything sup, he nor go show body. This must be in the East. Those people sell their daughters out. E nor get waitin you wan tell me. Anywayz I am not married. Let me allow those who are married to share their views

Samantha124:
In my tribe, the bride price is the money used to plan for the wedding.

ojun50:
Did your family give him the bride price list?

Yr family don’t look serious at all, how can dey put introductions time at 8:00am

Tell the young man to look for another family to marry into

Samantha124:
I'm South African...😂😂😂

jackmrandy:


Okkk. So it happpens there too?

Samantha124:
In my tribe, the bride price is the money used to plan for the wedding.

Persephone1:
If this is the case, then the groom should add to the money. Does he want guests to be sharing a piece of meat?

But your family members aren't diplomatic with the situation, why embarrass the guy and his family?

Puss360:
Well... They say, where your madness stop is the beginning of someone else madness ...
I am here thinking Nigerian bride price tradition is weird, not knowing somewhere else, the bride price tradition is weirder ...
Here in some cases they so manage what the guy has . But there they will dictate if it's too small....
Here parent rush the guy and the girl to quickly get married, but there the guy should hustle more and come back when he is financially buoyant ...
It's obvious parents over there aren't really concerned about grandkids... The well being of their children are their priority...
Here, both parents of the guy Nd girl will ring bell for grandkids that's why they manage anything the guy brings to the table...

Puss360:
Well... They say, where your madness stop is the beginning of someone else madness ...
I am here thinking Nigerian bride price tradition is weird, not knowing somewhere else, the bride price tradition is weirder ...
Here in some cases they so manage what the guy has . But there they will dictate if it's too small....
Here parent rush the guy and the girl to quickly get married, but there the guy should hustle more and come back when he is financially buoyant ...
It's obvious parents over there aren't really concerned about grandkids... The well being of their children are their priority...
Here, both parents of the guy Nd girl will ring bell for grandkids that's why they manage anything the guy brings to the table...

bukatyne:


As in eh!

I read the OP, was like what's this?

Then read the follow-up posts and wondered what the heck was going on.

@OP:

Your sister's boyfriend should look for more money to marry her or a girl whose family is within his budget abi?

Samantha124:
That's his decision to make... [/b]

AsomArchitectNG:


You should have stated it...

Anyways, i see nothing really wrong with ur family disposition on the subject matter. It's expected that as a man, you have to be prepared all round before the set date for the payment of bride price/wedding provided the list given is not too exorbitant

jackmrandy:


Okkk. So it happpens there too?

mariahAngel:




All of a sudden, you've both lost your voices, eekwa?
You no longer have much problem with or see anything wrong with it? Shior! 😪

bukatyne:


Toor!

What you call Bride Price sounds like 'Reception Planning' in Nigeria.

For us, BP is more of symbolic so it's a small stipulated amount in addition to the marriage list.

Samantha124:
Has your wife's family ever turned down your bride price and said that it was small? Did you go back to save more money or you had to borrow it from family members?

Reason I'm asking this is because my sister's boyfriend finally decided to do an introduction yesterday... He and his family had already set a date to come and pay for the bride price, which is next month... But my family turned him down and said the dowry was too small... They even fined him and his family for being late because they were supposed to show up at 8am, but they came at 11am.

My family went to the extent of telling him to stop rushing into marriage if he's too broke, that he should go back and save some more because the amount he wants to pay can't help plan for a wedding.

I kinda felt bad for the guy... If I was him, not only was I going to feel emasculated, I'd be very embarrassed.

So, nairaland men, have you guys experienced the same thing and is it common in Nigeria for a bride price to be turned down?

Felimax:
Who goes into marriage without preparing for the unexpected?

jackmrandy:
Things like these are what discourage men from getting married. And not just does it discourage men, it makes some to go into illegal act just to get that money. More so, if this man finally pay and do the party your family wants, don't be surprise after the marriage, he might not even reason the in-laws again. Like make anything sup, he nor go show body. This must be in the East. Those people sell their daughters out. E nor get waitin you wan tell me. Anywayz I am not married. Let me allow those who are married to share their views

Free2Fly:


Foolish tribalist and Igbophobic cockroach.

She's from SA, not East where your father's useless umbilical cord was buried.

Free2Fly:


Some of you just rush to type nonsense in order to be the 'first to comment'

So, where you come from, families charge heavy bride price so they can use it to prepare for wedding??

Kobicove:
Why would your family set 8am as the time for the ceremony, is it a job interview?