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Re: . by Stevenbright(m): 8:41pm On Jun 01 |
Lovecode89: You need to cool off a bit. I wanted to say you would have taken a more drastic step like separating for some time earlier than you are considering now but I guess you were doing your best to make things work out. Maybe you should go spend some time with your family, cool off and re-strategize while giving him the needed space to rethink and reorganize his life and finances. 1 Like |
Re: . by Beverlyjean(f): 12:22am On Jun 02 |
Nlanalyst: Do u only hand pick equality when it favours u?? |
Re: . by Beverlyjean(f): 12:26am On Jun 02 |
Magicalsineros: I guess u grew in poverty and u still poor...it shows with ur posts of encouraging cheating ...u are to lazy to even make something off urself apart from opening ur legs. Knowing poor people since birth till now , simply shows u are talking about ur family |
Re: . by Beverlyjean(f): 12:34am On Jun 02 |
Magicalsineros: U are calling someone else bitter. While u are a bitter misandrist |
Re: . by Beverlyjean(f): 12:42am On Jun 02 |
Magicalsineros: So women don't abuse men emotionally...and how did he abuse her emotionally..ndi woke ...I really pity ur future..u will deflearn the hard way... Mark my words ..u have a flawed mentality.... u think like a child with convictions... |
Re: . by Beverlyjean(f): 12:47am On Jun 02 |
Magicalsineros: Was she paralysed when she was pregnant..why dint she also plan to keep funds ...is she a dog or baby that they care for ... or don't u see single women that are preganwith no man taking good care of herself and prepare herself for child birth .. stop encouraging lazy women that only depend on men...women have hands and legs and a brain. 1 Like |
Re: . by Beverlyjean(f): 12:51am On Jun 02 |
Magicalsineros: It's definitely not hurtful to oloshos ...its hurtful to people like me 2 Likes |
Re: . by Beverlyjean(f): 1:00am On Jun 02 |
Lovecode89: If u separate from him and he gets back on his feet... he will neve forgive u... cheating on his own part excessively will enter the frame , he will treat u like trash ... u will know he has money , but u will never smell it cos he will always have it in mind that u gave up on him when he was down ... afterall if u separate from him...wudnt u still be providing for urself and kids ...Will ur financial burden change ?? Don't make a mistake that u will regret all ur life ...this same thing happened to someone I know...the woman regrets it till date... she's in her early 60s now ... something that happened in the 90s .. she took the wrong advice from bad people...today , she's on her own...those bad advisers are still the ones gossiping her |
Re: . by Sapasenator: 1:08am On Jun 02 |
Lovecode89: Ask him no get a job or find a way to divorce is lazy ass. I despise lazy and entitled people more than Ebola Virus. Why the HELL did he marry and even bring a poor child into the world to suffer? 2 Likes |
Re: . by Sapasenator: 1:10am On Jun 02 |
Beverlyjean: People like that never get back ON their feet, success is an attitude and not a destination and like a weighted anchor, the buffoon will drag the wife down. I separate from lazy friends self before they become a burden. 3 Likes |
Re: . by Fiscus105(m): 6:25am On Jun 02 |
Magicalsineros: The way you are doing gragra ehn, I won't surprise either you are a man, attention seeker and if you are a woman, olosho by default. In as much I'm not surporting the so called lazy man,........ jumping from one man to another by wife would only be worsen her situation. Oga, where are the men that ready to be spending money continuously for woman that is not his wife, perhaps you reside in America. Let me tell you fact, her "toto would see sege" on top of kobokobo that men would be offering her. The money that would hardly cover transportation fare, and in which the man would have taken different type of concortion to work hard on her. |
Re: . by Beverlyjean(f): 7:10am On Jun 02 |
Sapasenator: Marriage is holding on for better for worse ... Will she be happy if he separates from her cos she cudnt bare kids ... or does she think the mam is happy not being able to provide ... Marriage should be whatever u see u manage it... its unfortunate that we have allowed the devil to manipulate marriages to the extent that we quickly dump it if we don't get our way ... if he has money and he starts to cheat...she will still come online and cry that he's a bad man and she wants to leave ... if he has money but stops giving her attention and he's hardly around, she will still complain and say she is tired of the Marriage ... most women can't endure Marriage and its terrible for society... but they will expect their husbands to endure their excesses .... some women can't cook and clean , but their husbands still stay regardless ... I hv never heard a man say he's leaving his wife cos she can't cook and clean ... if he comes online to complain, women will attack him and say whether she's his slave ... now , if men used the same logic against women ...they can also defend the man and ask the woman whether the man is her slave , that doesn't she have hands and legs , to work and provide as well ... 1 Like |
Re: . by cococandy(f): 8:19am On Jun 02 |
Pecoleee345:. How will things turn around if he’s not making efforts? This is not the same situation as someone who’s trying but it’s not working out. This is someone who has refused to try. Unless he’s going to defraud someone or miraculously win the lotto, things are not going to turn around for him. I need y’all to be realistic. Real Life is not Nollywood magic 3 Likes |
Re: . by FutureFocus: 8:23am On Jun 02 |
Lovecode89: Sometimes those type of men only wake up from their slumber when they see people around them picking up new skills and the skill paying off, I won’t really blame you for not allowing intimacy because adding more kids without support from hubby can make you see shege pro max , but let him know why as that can make him buckle up, I can imagine how you will have to struggle to survive and carter for the family during pregnancy , post delivery and nursing stage if pregnant without support , I think you can make effort to add a skill that will challenge him not to stay behind , For instance , I have been so slow working on my YouTube channel because much attention is giving to my gadget sales business , and when my partner noticed I was using the limitation in my laptop as excuse, she suggested I use my phone for video editing but I refused , to my amazement she asked me to open a channel for her which I did and she started practicing, editing and posting videos with her phone , This her action has not only challenged me but also motivates me to work harder because her YouTube channel is not doing bad at all for someone who started less than a month ago, has already posted 10 videos with viewers mostly from US . Menh !! We must succeed together , I won’t be left behind , though we sometimes argue like crazy whenever I criticize her content , she gets angry and this has made her improve very fast In fact, she will need to starting paying me for criticizing her videos , I can not just be criticizing and be directing videos content for free , like seriously, do you know how much video director earn ? In a nutshell , challenge him by developing yourself more, by the time he starts seeing himself far behind, no one will tell him to work hard. 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: . by Pecoleee345: 9:01am On Jun 02 |
cococandy:Lol..............have told her she is very free to work away since isnt nollywood. If for 3yrs the man hasn't drop a kobo or contributed anything to the house like she is painting let her divorce. Most women lie alot in this scenario 2 Likes |
Re: . by advanceDNA: 9:15am On Jun 02 |
Beverlyjean: Lol ....hey y'all look at this... This person is trying to make a woman reason logically?? Hahahahaha...this is funny .... |
Re: . by cococandy(f): 9:29am On Jun 02 |
Pecoleee345: That’s your assumption 1 Like |
Re: . by cococandy(f): 9:33am On Jun 02 |
advanceDNA: If you apply a little bit of this logic y’all seem to tout that you have so much, You’ll understand that she will have less responsibility providing for herself and her kids without his help than for him to be a dead log of wood in the house contributing nothing. Probably Eating a lion’s share of the small food she manages to afford, cleaning up after him (because God forbid you tell a jobless man to be useful around the house). Then you’re rubbing it in his face. His presence adds to their utility expenses in more ways than not. If he’s not going to be a useful partner, she’s better off without him. Especially if he’s deliberately not trying. But y’all’s logic is only on paper not in real life where it’s applicable 4 Likes |
Re: . by Pecoleee345: 9:59am On Jun 02 |
cococandy: No is a fact. She can't tell me the man haven't dropped a kobo or contributed to the house in 3yrs. If she said what he is dropping isn't enough and she the one dropping the lion share that fine but saying she the one paying all the bills for 3yrs is a big lie. You women do this alot and is annoying.........she just thrash talk and entirely cancel the man but yiu be surprised to hear is the man paying rent and school fees. 2 Likes |
Re: . by frozen70(f): 12:26pm On Jun 02 |
Lovecode89: I my own opinion, she should see herself as a single mother She should start planning and face that child She should know that the feeding of that child is now her responsibility, including school fees She should start saving incase he can't afford to pay house rent, she can get a room and continue with life incase he starts beating her because very soon he will pour his frustration on her He will be waiting for her to be giving him money, to me that doesn't make sense because am sure she can barely take care of that boy The issue of sex for both of them is already dead because her mind is off that radar and there is nothing that can be done about it unless the man starts taking his responsibility 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: . by Magicalsineros(f): 12:48pm On Jun 02 |
Beverlyjean:I'm not going to exchange words with you. Have a lovely day 1 Like |
Re: . by Lovecode89(f): 1:26pm On Jun 02 |
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Re: . by UjuJoan2: 1:33pm On Jun 02 |
advanceDNA: So you think she’s lying? Well that is a possibility, it don’t think things like that is not possible. Maybe he hated his job and married her because he knew she could support him. |
Re: . by Sapasenator: 1:36pm On Jun 02 |
Lovecode89: I don't see him changing soon and you will have to make an important decision soon. |
Re: . by UjuJoan2: 1:37pm On Jun 02 |
Lovecode89: He doesn’t love because he doesn’t know how to. You can’t give what you don’t have. I have news for you, he will never change, no matter what you do. Even if he makes money by some luck, he will still not provide for you because that is who he is. Any man that will eat food provided by a woman does not love or value her. But it’s not you, it’s him. He is incapable of love! |
Re: . by UjuJoan2: 1:39pm On Jun 02 |
condensedmilk: That’s what you men say to keep a woman in bodnage. This is why women have stayed in dysfunctional marriage and suffer from mental health problems. Imagine leaving upkeep to a woman for years, that is pure torture!!! He who wears the shoe know where ira pinching! 1 Like |
Re: . by UjuJoan2: 1:43pm On Jun 02 |
Pecoleee345: This is what every man claims, but they never say the true story. You men are the ones that make yourselves into Gods just because you provide money. You treat your wives as slaves and act with no accountability. So a woman is trained to accept such behavior from a man as long as he provides for her. And then, God will decide to punish you small by taking away your advantage . . . 🤣 2 Likes |
Re: . by UjuJoan2: 1:50pm On Jun 02 |
Pecoleee345: If you story is true then support your actions. A lot of women marry for money because they think it’s the only way to endure a marriage. When the money is no longer there, they have nothing to console them in the marriage anymore. Personally I don’t mind contributing money for the family upkeep, even upto 50%. I also don’t mind picking up all the bills when the man is down financially. But I will not do it for a man that has treated me badly or held his financial superiority over me like a weapon. Also, I will not do it for a man that doesn’t help with house work because “he provides”. If you think chores are a woman’s responsibility, then you need to pay the bills yourself , because a woman cannot do both! 5 Likes |
Re: . by Pecoleee345: 1:57pm On Jun 02 |
UjuJoan2: You are right............I only provide money and treat my wife like a slave. Infact when I use the rest room I call.her to come clean my ass.....lol. Like I always say ***you women are always the victim** |
Re: . by advanceDNA: 1:58pm On Jun 02 |
UjuJoan2: I really don't care if she lying or saying the truth........Its just weird to me that a man will just resign....(though she has explained why he did so down in the thread) she can either make the best out of the situation because if the tables were to turn, i don't think the husband will refuse to fvck his wife or divorce her because she doesn't have a job.. And if she feels she doesn't want to support him till he can get his game back...she should divorce him.....because it clear she already feels he won't get better....(which can change any day) |
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