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If the reason u want to leave ur parent is far greater than their adamancy, u wouldn't be here seeking for any advice.

Focused doing what? You have not said what you were doing in Ibadan. Are you a tourist?

regardless of whether they give you their blessing or not, if you have something VALID to do in Ibadan then tell them exactly what it is and go... you are more a burden to them anyway.
BTW no sane parents will stop their child from going to further his/her life in another city (unless you are doing something fishy there)

jmoore:
Focused doing what? You have not said what you were doing in Ibadan. Are you a tourist?

I have registered for a six month class on ui/ux design which will be starting next month there reason for not letting me leave is that they don't know who I am staying with in ibadan.

And they have a point! Let them know who you intend staying with. Provide their contact information and any other thing that could keep your parents' minds at rest.

I don't know why most (African) parents like to hold on tight to their children, even after they've grown up, and are through with school.
I mean, what are they holding them back for and why?

Most parents would hate to admit it, but they're their own children's hindrance in life, and they end up delaying their children in destiny with their "overprotection".

See op, as a matter of urgency, you need to make your parents understand that you're grown up, and it is time for you to find your own path in life.

jmoore:

Focused doing what? You have not said what you were doing in Ibadan. Are you a tourist?

Finding his path in life.

The mistake you made was packing all your valuables when you were going. You could have just carry a school bag with two wears and tell them you just come around to say hi.

Now, you have to be sober with a little touch of strong head to leave that house. Parents are always overprotective most times.

Mariangeles:
I don't know why most (African) parents like to hold on tight to their children, even after they've grown up, and are through with school.
I mean, what are they holding them back for and why?

Most parents would hate to admit it, but they're their own children's hindrance in life, and they end up delaying their children in destiny with their "overprotection".

See op, as a matter of urgency, you need to make your parents understand that you're grown up, and it is time for you to find your own path in life.



Finding his path in life.

You're so right!

Better stay with ur parent and love them and do whatever they tell u

Tolezy001:
Good day everyone, I am a 24 year old guy who just finished NYSC in ibadan and I decided to stay back in ibadan but my parents coerced
me to come back home and now they don't want want me to leave anymore.
My dad is retired and my mum is a civil servant. The family of 4 survives on her income. I have tried to all my possible best to reason with them but they are so adamant about not wanting me to go back to ibadan. I don't want to leave home without there blessing and I also don't want to stay back home because I feel I am more focused when I was not at home.

I really need your advice guys 🙏🙏

Go home every weekend or thrice in a month.

Explain to your parents to give you time to complete your IT training.

Make sure you give details of whom you're staying with.

Simple as ABC.

where you staying with them while schooling ? you parent might think you are not mature or don't trust you enough to be allow you. You might need to explain more in details to them, where will you stay ? with who? who is he? what does he do? you can even invite them to come with you to meet the person. How will you feed yourself? since there is no more allawee, Apart from learning UX/UI (why UI/Ux why not proper coding?)what are your plans? tell them you thought process.

If they still continue to deny you permission without a valid reason, consider just leaving. They'll come around. Some of us moved out as teenagers, and for me, it was one of the best decisions I've ever made.

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Tolezy001:
Good day everyone, I am a 24 year old guy who just finished NYSC in ibadan and I decided to stay back in ibadan but my parents coerced me to come back home and now they don't want want me to leave anymore.
My dad is retired and my mum is a civil servant. The family of 4 survives on her income. I have tried to all my possible best to reason with them but they are so adamant about not wanting me to go back to ibadan. I don't want to leave home without there blessing and I also don't want to stay back home because I feel I am more focused when I was not at home.

I really need your advice guys 🙏🙏

Are you living in a rented apartment? Are you presently working?

Regarding this issue, I recently received a mail to come and write the aptitude test for the first bank graduate trainee program in the Ibadan location, I told my dad and he said I shouldn't go. I am really fed up at this point I don't know what to do.

Tolezy001:
Regarding this issue, I recently received a mail to come and write the aptitude test for the first bank graduate trainee program in the Ibadan location, I told my dad and he said I shouldn't go. I am really fed up at this point I don't know what to do.

Did you ask him why?

To what point does he intend to keep feeding you, just to keep you around?
He seems to be the very strict kind.

Most parents desire to have one of their children around them in old age which may not be realistic most times.

In your own case there is nothing serious you are doing in Ibadan to warrant leaving and Ibadan is not really such a place to secure employment easily.

Why not strategies better and plan to leave when you secure employment at any location while doing the i/t training around your parents location.

Doretlvargas:
Better stay with ur parent and love them and do whatever they tell u

Hope you are in your parents house too?

Parents want the best for you but at the same time if they are not in support of your dreams or ambition, it will limit you or even make you unfulfilled because you have your ambition and at the same time you have to be respectful.

Like he said he was invited for a Job but his Dad refused. He is no longer a child. Opportunities will pass him by. This is one of the point I was trying to buttress above.

I remember watching layefa a youtuber who is a successful make up artist. Just like you she wanted to move to Lagos another city, but her parents were against it. Their perception was you want to go there and spoil. She had to take her stand one day and told them respectfully that she has to leave. Now she is a very successful make up artist.

Op my advice is respectfully stand your ground if you are convinced about your move. Not everyone will be in support of your ambition, even your parents.

ogawisdom:
Most parents desire to have one of their children around them in old age which may not be realistic most times.

In your own case there is nothing serious you are doing in Ibadan to warrant leaving and Ibadan is not really such a place to secure employment easily.

Why not strategies better and plan to leave when you secure employment at any location while doing the i/t training around your parents location.

You don't know Nigerian parents. Even if he secures a job they might not let him go for it. Plus most Job interview might be the following day, after an invite has been sent the previous day. If he stays far how will he meet up. How will he have the drive to hustle when he also has to contend with the fact that his parents might not approve his hustle under their roof.

I would suggest you get a job or start up a business before deciding to move out. Moving out and depending on handouts from them for survival isn't the best.

GboyegaD:
I would suggest you get a job or start up a business before deciding to move out. Moving out and depending on handouts from them for survival isn't the best.

He just commented that he got an invite for a job interview but his parents refused for him to go.

Another angle, starting up a business is also a good idea.

chieni:

He just commented that he got an invite for a job interview but his parents refused for him to go.

Another angle, starting up a business is also a good idea.

Thanks, I just scrolled up to read this.

Tolezy001:
Regarding this issue, I recently received a mail to come and write the aptitude test for the first bank graduate trainee program in the Ibadan location, I told my dad and he said I shouldn't go. I am really fed up at this point I don't know what to do.

You should be able to make some certain decisions at your age. If you think the job is something that interest you, let your parents know that you will be going for the interview. Make them realize you appreciate their care and how well they have raised you however, you also need to make some certain decisions as it affects your life. You don't need to plead, just be assertive in your statement regarding your going for the interview.

Best of luck.

I dey dis world alone I nor get parents!

chieni:

Hope you are in your parents house too?

Parents want the best for you but at the same time if they are not in support of your dreams or ambition, it will limit you or even make you unfulfilled because you have your ambition and at the same time you have to be respectful.

Like he said he was invited for a Job but his Dad refused. He is no longer a child. Opportunities will pass him by. This is one of the point I was trying to buttress above.

I remember watching layefa a youtuber who is a successful make up artist. Just like you she wanted to move to Lagos another city, but her parents were against it. Their perception was you want to go there and spoil. She had to take her stand one day and told them respectfully that she has to leave. Now she is a very successful make up artist.

Op my advice is respectfully stand your ground if you are convinced about your move. Not everyone will be in support of your ambition, even your parents.

Tolezy001:
Regarding this issue, I recently received a mail to come and write the aptitude test for the first bank graduate trainee program in the Ibadan location, I told my dad and he said I shouldn't go. I am really fed up at this point I don't know what to do.

you never serious sha