In a recent interview on the Menisms Podcast, Nigerian rapper Falz shared a surprising revelation about his love life. The talented artist revealed that he has never professed love to anyone before, nor has he been in a relationship where such expressions of love were made.

Falz explained that he has never reached the point in a relationship where he feels the need to express his love in the classical sense. "I have never said ‘I love you’ to anybody. I have never been in love or gotten to that level of emotional commitment before," he said. "And they have not said it to me either. You know, there’s a level in a relationship where it’s like, ‘Oh, I love you, baby, I love you too.’ I’ve never gotten there."

The rapper also emphasized the importance of being upfront about his feelings and commitment from the start. "I’ve just not made the commitment. I have always been upfront about my feelings, disposition, and commitment early on, so we are usually on the same page," he said. "That way, nobody is going to run off on their own tangent because we know what’s going on."

MrBrownJay1:
what a sad statement...

brain54:

But if dug deeper it MIGHT also be a deeper case of insecurities!

muyico:
don jazzy younger brother! smell like gay!

DaddyCoool:
Sad statement my ass, insecurity my foot. This is a MAN. Our great forefathers didn't go about saying "I love you". Besides, most, if not all, romantic "I love you" are either false or based on some figment of imagination in the sayers head, that is not the person they're saying it to!

MrBrownJay1:


your great grandfather didnt use the internet nor had cellphones as well, should you now say that someone who has never been on the internet nor has a mobile phone(in this day and age) is a great person?

again, Falz is in mid 30s... if you havent loved anyone in your life by your mid 30s then you are a very sad person...

DaddyCoool:


They didn't use internet or cell phones because they didn't have them. Nothing prevented from saying anything they chose to say - they had mouths. But they were not comfortable with being phoney.
He didn't say he'd never loved anyone, he's just smart enough to see through romantic love, to know that it is a fallacy!

brain54:

How do you know there never said it...?

Were you born in that generation?

There are different ways of expressing love. There are also different ways of showing commitment.

If you read the comments of falz you will see the problem is commitment.

I don't know what you are rambling about.

The guy is simply or scared of commitment which MIGHT have an underlying significance.

At his age if he hasn't had a committed relationship then... I don't know!

DaddyCoool:


You are definitely the one rambling - you're all over the place.
I know they didn't say it because it is not part of our culture - it is whites that go about saying I love you, then you hear they shot the person!
And what are you rambling about commitment. Must you say I love you to be in a committed relationship?? My parents never say I love you but they love each other and are in a very committed relationship!

DaddyCoool:
They didn't use internet or cell phones because they didn't have them. Nothing prevented from saying anything they chose to say - they had mouths. But they were not comfortable with being phoney.

He didn't say he'd never loved anyone, he's just smart enough to see through romantic love, to know that it is a fallacy!

MrBrownJay1:


exactly.... same as it was not customary to say i love you back then to a woman. hell, some African men cant even say it today, even if their life depended on it. are you now claiming that a man in love is phoney and/or a man saying he is in love with a woman is phoney?!



again, he said the following:
- "I have never said ‘I love you’ to anybody. I have never been in love or gotten to that level of emotional commitment before,"

pretty straight forward dont you think (or do you still doubt that he has never loved anyone)?

brain54:


I am all over the place...

How? Explain in details. "I know they didn't say it because it's not part of our culture" is a ridiculous statement to make. If you weren't part of that generation.

Like I said you weren't part of that generation. They had a different way of expressing love. Or showing commitment. Your parents may not say it to your face. But they say it in their own way...which they understand.

This is a different generation. Stop using another generation or civilization as yardstick to justify your thoughts.

If you think your parents aren't saying I love you in their own way then you must be a fool.

If you read falz comment carefully you would realize he admitted being uncommitted to a relationship. But you would rather attack me instead and not read.

Were your parents uncommitted too? As you never heard them say I love you to each other!

MrBrownJay1:


exactly.... same as it was not customary to say i love you back then to a woman. hell, some African men cant even say it today, even if their life depended on it. are you now claiming that a man in love is phoney and/or a man saying he is in love with a woman is phoney?!



again, he said the following:
- "I have never said ‘I love you’ to anybody. I have never been in love or gotten to that level of emotional commitment before,"

pretty straight forward dont you think (or do you still doubt that he has never loved anyone)?

DaddyCoool:


Like I said rambling...
Why not ask me how I know the men didn't kneel down to propose marriage - after all I was not part of that generation!
My commentary was on you quickly labeling him "insecure" and the other guy labeling him "sad".
When it can actually be a mark of being clear-eyed and strong. The saying "love is blind" didn't arise for no reason

DaddyCoool:


Much of the obligated "I love you"'s are phoney, hence you next hear they shot the person.
As for a man being in love, it is not me saying it, there are lots if sayings that a man in love is a fool.

Falz obviously loves his mum, dad etc. What he meant was "in love" with some girl because he convinced himself in his head that she had all sorts of unbelievable wonderful attributes.

DaddyCoool:
Much of the obligated "I love you"'s are phoney, hence you next hear they shot the person.
As for a man being in love, it is not me saying it, there are lots if sayings that a man in love is a fool.

Falz obviously loves his mum, dad etc. What he meant was "in love" with some girl because he convinced himself in his head that she had all sorts of unbelievable wonderful attributes.

brain54:


Who is talking about any one kneeling down to propose...?

I did not quickly label him as insecure. That's why I used might in caps. So idiots like you can see. But you will never understand.

How do you know they didn’t do dumb stuff in their time.

Do you know how many wars were fought in their history because of women?

Nonsense cap!

MrBrownJay1:


if you are in love then there is nothing "obligated" here. thats your emotion and no man/woman should be afraid to tell someone they love how they feel. whats the big deal here?



- are you now saying that NO woman on earth has "unbelievable wonderful attributes"?
- are you now claiming that anyone who is in love is fake or delusional?
- i mean, if you can love your parents/siblings etc, why do you think it would be so difficult to love someone that is only romantically related to you?

DaddyCoool:


My friend stop rambling nonsense. Our forefathers didn't go about saying I love you. Period! How do we know? Because it'd have come down to us, not wait for it to be imported.

As for "might", then when I said it could also be a mark of being clear-eyed and strong, you should have simply agreed and buzzed off!

brain54:

If you agreed with my might...

You would have buzzed off. And we would not be having this conversation. Would we?

DaddyCoool:
No one said there is something wrong with saying I love you. Just don't label someone who doesn't say it "sad"

MrBrownJay1:
again, Falz is in mid 30s... if you havent loved anyone in your life by your mid 30s then you are a very sad person...

ROMANTIC love is a fallacy (albeit a delicious one - we all want to be in romantic love) because it is always based on exaggeration of the other person's positive attributes while being blind to their negatives

MrBrownJay1:


pls do not misunderstand me nor claim what i didnt say... here below is again what i stated:



aka its one thing to not say it to anyone but its a totally different ballgame f you have never loved anyone at mid 30s.



but ROMANTIC LOVE has absolutely nothing to do with someone being perfect, its just an emotion like any other. your parents aint perfect but you still love them, isnt it? your child aint perfect but you would still love him/her, right? why do you think it should be any different with romantic love? some people out there are etc and there are people who still love them regardless. thinking that because someone has negative traits they cant be love, shows us all you dont understand what love is.

DaddyCoool:
Don't lie. Below is your very first statement which was what I reacted to!

You keep saying he never loved anyone. He loves his family! He just has been clear-eyed and strong willed enough to not suddenly "fall in love" with some "wonderful" girl!

You love your family because they are YOUR family. Romantic love is not a random emotion. Ask people who became celebrities or rich how many girls suddenly fall in love with them - they who couldn't get a date while unknown or poor.

Same way lots of men will fall in love with a girl who artificially becomes beautiful than when she was ugly. They willfully become blind to their negatives because they want to close to some positive they possess.

Do you think Sampson would have still loved Delilah if he opened his eyes and saw her for what she really was? He wanted to be close to that beauty and he let that override everything else

MrBrownJay1:


bro, YES ITS A SAD STATEMENT FOR A +30YR OLD MAN TO SAY THAT HE HAS NEVER LOVED ANYONE IN HIS WHOLE LIFE... which is exactly what was stated as what Falz said in the OP's post!



we are talking romantic love here, right? you guys make very little sense, so whats so bad about falling in love with a wonderful woman? is it the end of the world? blasphemy? whats wrong with loving a woman that you may end up spending the rest of your life with (and possibly have a family with)?!



stop bringing irrelevant issues about goldigging useless greedy women who will say they love someone just because he has money. are you now claiming that EVERY SINGLE CELEBRITY ON EARTH IARE MARRIED TO GOLDIGGING GREEDY USELESS MONEY HUNGRY WOMEN?



majority of men and women get attracted/interested in someone from their look (1st and foremost) and thats what will make such person decide to approach somebody and want to get to know them better. when was the ast time you heard someone say:" oh look at this fugly person, let me approach and get to know them because they might have great character"... NEVER!!! it doesnt work like that. your physical outlook is what INITIALLY attracts someone towards you, and then as you get closer to such person , you get to know him/her deeper and may or not fall in love with them. some do, other dont. the catch is to always open yur mind rather than being narrow/closed minded, as you are.



lets stick to FACTS rather than yeye useless fables in the sky... shall we? whats next, quote Harry Potter and Spiderman?!