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Re: Seriously Contemplating A Divorce by Sagamite(m): 7:09pm On Apr 12, 2012 |
Efemena_xy: Why does that sound bitter? Why does it not sound like an eye-opener of what he wants in life? Or is that just another senseless use of words to force him to be a "real man", the type that lives his life to make women happy while he gets little in return? Sounds bitter. Be responsible and marry. Stop being selfish and share your life. All stewpid words to satisfy your female wish. Anuofia! |
Re: Seriously Contemplating A Divorce by lastpage: 7:09pm On Apr 12, 2012 |
At times, l am ... At times, l am ... At times, l am .... At times, l am .... from all the advices here-in! Hmmm....l dey come back later (marriage issues need deeper insight, no rushing!) but meanwhile, @OP, The best is yet to come in your marriage! Dont jump ship!! Lastpage! 1 Like |
Re: Seriously Contemplating A Divorce by coolguy2002: 7:13pm On Apr 12, 2012 |
just seperate |
Re: Seriously Contemplating A Divorce by GIANTSTRIDE(m): 7:13pm On Apr 12, 2012 |
Am nt in ur shoe to knw the pains the marriage has cost u,but divorce should not come to ur frame of mind;DONT give the enemy chance to ruin ur marriage;its a gift that someone somewhere desired to have.The cost of divorce is much more than the gains;considering ur children.There is nothing that is too hard for God;He can fixed it 4u.Kip praying |
Re: Seriously Contemplating A Divorce by Nobody: 7:15pm On Apr 12, 2012 |
Sagamite: I thought i was the only one who held the same opinion. |
Re: Seriously Contemplating A Divorce by Sagamite(m): 7:15pm On Apr 12, 2012 |
jennykadry: Because men's attraction is based on looks. His approach suggest one of 2 things to me: 1) She herself picked an arse to marry. 2) Or she has had a vile attitude to the point he is insensitive to or careless about her emotions. Bawss1: No min jenny. She thinks life is about "real men", that say meaningless, brainwashed things to please women. |
Re: Seriously Contemplating A Divorce by charles316: 7:16pm On Apr 12, 2012 |
michelin89: Your husband sounds like one of those men who like to criticize when what kind of advice is this? u think u are an iron lady? You will realise that you just know how to talk. OP,the truth is that u women dont learn. Like ronke said,he is seeing other women and comparing them with you. he is probably not happy with ur looks. have u gained so much weight? i can bet my life that u have. just look at how our single ladies have grown out of shape not to talk of someone who has had 3 kids. The truth is dat giving birth isnt a reason to be out of shape.Look at yourselve and do something. |
Re: Seriously Contemplating A Divorce by Pa22(m): 7:17pm On Apr 12, 2012 |
Issue is simple enough. Communication is the key. Husband has told you all that is bordering him including improving your sex life which I think is very important! Have you bordered to communicate back? What was your reply to all he said. How much are you guys willing to do to make things work? I think you should talk back only then can a compromise be reached. Good luck dear. |
Re: Seriously Contemplating A Divorce by EfemenaXY: 7:22pm On Apr 12, 2012 |
Sagamite: Was that necessary? No need for the insults. We're all here to share our views and just because your disagree with a person's opinion doesn't give you the right to hurl insults. I don't do e-fights. Grow up. |
Re: Seriously Contemplating A Divorce by Theblessed(f): 7:26pm On Apr 12, 2012 |
[size=16pt][b]Sorry to hear about your heartache but my advice is stay put!! You created a family stay there ok!!! I wonder if you're a Christian but if you're not, I'm sorry if I upset you with my advise on here! You see, divorce is never the solution - yes, it will give you opportunities, tranquility, freedom etc to live your life the way you want, but it would not give you a lasting peace? On the periphery, it looks as though you're having good time and you're happy but the reality is, it doesn't really give you that happiness as you carry your baggage along with you and that can create more havoc than you started with unless, you're disciplined and in control of things in your live. I know of many womem whose lives are messed up after divorce for not taking control of their lives - allowing material things, physicalities and emotional entanglments to creep into your new life plus the baggage from your previous life = CHAOS!! So, control is important here if that's what you want (i.e. selfish thinking)and how about the psychological and emotional needs of your children - they need their father too, remember this! Yes, they do not need a PART-TIME Dad rather, a FULL TIME Dad with whom, you give the children what parents must give to their children - quality lifestyle, quality education, security and stability that produces a CONFIDENT AND SUCESSFUL HUMAN BEING. Without stability in their lives, their education will be messed up - they do not need a secondary Dad, that won't do - because, what's yours, is yours! You see, without being told the full story, we all know where the trouble is coming from - we know na woman dey cause your trouble in this marriage but, I promise you, be calm - no woman would boot you out of your marriage. This is a spiritual battle you have to fight and win - seek the face of God and take your victory in Jesus Name, Amen!! All you need is contact and those who are causing unhappiness and breaking up your marriage, will perish under your feet! Just give me your email add, if I can not help you, I know a man who can - and those trash, meddling in your happiness in this marriage will be history, in Jesus Name, Amen! Don't cry Baby, don't cry - God is on your side and he is a Just and Righteous God! He promised us to "Cast our burden upon the Lord and he will sustain you, he will never let the righteous fall" Psalm Chpt.55 v.22!! Therefore, whether good or bad, storm or calm trust and have Faith in him. Also, be warned, when you're seeking the face of God, you too have to be clean, fair and just - give everything to Jesus Christ by keeping your hands clean and trusting him and him alone because, he is a jealous God! Remember his laws "Thou shall have no other gods before me" Exodus Chpt 20 v. 3. Don't look any other way but on to Jesus. Is upto you now![/b][/size] |
Re: Seriously Contemplating A Divorce by neyostica: 7:27pm On Apr 12, 2012 |
Sagamite: he who have ears, let him hear |
Re: Seriously Contemplating A Divorce by queensmith: 7:34pm On Apr 12, 2012 |
maasoap: This woman has been cooking for him for the part six years, and probably before they married. He just realised now that her food is not spiced enough. Six good years of sex, he just realised that the woman lacks sexual prowess. God bless! |
Re: Seriously Contemplating A Divorce by newcreatio(m): 7:40pm On Apr 12, 2012 |
frankly sis...the fault is both of you. You are both most likely missing the godliness element. Try it. Additionally, you both need not just counselling, but therapy. Lastly, your husband should wake up and stop being such a fool and you too watch your character and improve. Divorce, is the way of fools. IT IS NOT AN OPTION. You took an oath, a covenant, a swear, a promise that it is TILL DEATH. This is what you swore on foolishly years ago. All men are the same. All women are the same. Someday, they each will misbehave and complicate things. What you need, both of you, is the GOD element. Marriage can never be better than the two people in it. Don't add marriage to the list of items at which you failed in life. School you managed to make it through. Don't fail in this one. 3 kids? You have reached a point of no return since the 1st child. A 2nd child sealed it all. 3rd one, we have nothing to discuss. Best thing you can do for yourself right now, is to stop making him the center of your happiness. Turn and face church, make Kingdom expansion your hobby. While you are busy doing it, God will visit him and call him to order. But remember, while doing your kingdom thing in Christ Jesus, let your character and tongue be tamed by the Holy Ghost. You will be happier sooner than you prepared. We (men) are all assholes. |
Re: Seriously Contemplating A Divorce by Chrisbenogor(m): 7:42pm On Apr 12, 2012 |
Sagamite: Sometimes I wonder if this is rocket science to understand. |
Re: Seriously Contemplating A Divorce by otokx(m): 7:43pm On Apr 12, 2012 |
some mothers do have them but lady no be so? |
Re: Seriously Contemplating A Divorce by queensmith: 7:43pm On Apr 12, 2012 |
Sagamite: Aww fagamite, misery loves company i know but i'm afrain i wont be joining you in dying alone. I know no woman can stand you and your self proclaimed intelligence (gimme a break) but that doesn't make us the same. I dont need to write anything you say i'm very aware you are full of shit. You note down today as the day you fully realised you are no psychic. This thread isnt about me but i'm loving the celebrity status regardless. You know you know love me....but i don't do gays! 1 Like |
Re: Seriously Contemplating A Divorce by Chrisbenogor(m): 7:44pm On Apr 12, 2012 |
newcreatio: frankly sis...the fault is both of you. You are both most likely missing the godliness element. Try it.Speak for yourself brother. |
Re: Seriously Contemplating A Divorce by KGNAIRA: 7:44pm On Apr 12, 2012 |
D - I - V - O - R - C - E ? My dear, don't even think about it. Pray to God to intervene. He is the only answer. |
Re: Seriously Contemplating A Divorce by Sagamite(m): 7:46pm On Apr 12, 2012 |
Chrisbenogor: No na, they understand, they just think that "real men" would not be attracted to a woman based on her looks A "real man" should ignore their biological set up and marry a women that has a good personality and can select nice handbags, sunglasses and shoes. |
Re: Seriously Contemplating A Divorce by queensmith: 7:47pm On Apr 12, 2012 |
dasparrow: Marriage is to be enjoyed not endured.......love it! Unfortunately not in nigeria. Marriage is the beggining of hell for most! |
Re: Seriously Contemplating A Divorce by Sagamite(m): 7:48pm On Apr 12, 2012 |
Chrisbenogor: Not only is he describing himself, he is also a cretin for this part: Divorce, is the way of fools. IT IS NOT AN OPTION. You took an oath, a covenant, a swear, a promise that it is TILL DEATH. |
Re: Seriously Contemplating A Divorce by Chrisbenogor(m): 7:51pm On Apr 12, 2012 |
Sagamite: But a "real man" wey nor get pepper "real women" nor go gree marry am abi? |
Re: Seriously Contemplating A Divorce by queensmith: 7:54pm On Apr 12, 2012 |
ayo jango: Divorce is good,its borin seein d same face of someone u hate,samething I went thru wit my wife I did not only stop makin lov to her,I did not let her c my unclothedness.its not by force to live togeda Dear lawd! Lol. |
Re: Seriously Contemplating A Divorce by Sagamite(m): 7:55pm On Apr 12, 2012 |
dasparrow: Like the thousands of divorce women with kids looking for another man willing to commit to them? |
Re: Seriously Contemplating A Divorce by Chrisbenogor(m): 8:01pm On Apr 12, 2012 |
Sagamite:Help me ask am, hey OP there is a single nwa baby here https://www.nairaland.com/912321/im-28-desperate-settle-down looking for a man oh lol the competition is fierce out there. |
Re: Seriously Contemplating A Divorce by luckgames(m): 8:03pm On Apr 12, 2012 |
charles316: |
Re: Seriously Contemplating A Divorce by adyby(m): 8:05pm On Apr 12, 2012 |
queensmith: Lol you ladies are very funny.@queensmith, are you married urself? If ur answer is yes, how old is ur marriage? Are you sure u r not one of those secondary school girls that will come on NL and start posting anything just for the sake of posting? Please let us know these ones first. |
Re: Seriously Contemplating A Divorce by Sagamite(m): 8:06pm On Apr 12, 2012 |
maasoap: This woman has been cooking for him for the part six years, and probably before they married. He just realised now that her food is not spiced enough. Six good years of sex, he just realised that the woman lacks sexual prowess. ronkebp: He is not intelligent enough to ratiocinate that, you had to explain it to him? Na wah! |
Re: Seriously Contemplating A Divorce by SIRNIMS(m): 8:08pm On Apr 12, 2012 |
Go watch blue films and learn how to sock & phuck. That is the only way and how, you can keep ur husband. He is alraedy getting it outside. Dey give the guy very hot sex, give him viagra |
Re: Seriously Contemplating A Divorce by luckgames(m): 8:14pm On Apr 12, 2012 |
ronkebp: I am sorry for your bad mood I hope you can talk to your husband to help you sometime We Nigerian men are terrible with helping with chore Good luck |
Re: Seriously Contemplating A Divorce by iconics: 8:19pm On Apr 12, 2012 |
@OP it takes two to make a marriage work and just one to fustrate it. In your case I think its unfair to think or conclude its your hubby that is fustrating your marriage because what we have here is your take. Firstly, settle that divorce is not an OPTION, secondly stop the blame game and get to the root of issues raised. #wisdom is profitable to direct!!! |
Re: Seriously Contemplating A Divorce by KevinII(m): 8:19pm On Apr 12, 2012 |
queensmith:queensmith when you are forty five wif 3 kids and looking for a man call me i will come and service you for free |
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