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Cultural Differences Matters A Lot In Marriage? by Beync(f): 11:10pm On Jun 25, 2012 |
Please be honest with your answers, would you quit a lovely relationship due to socio-cultural differences? Will you ignore the differences and go ahead with the marriage believing that the differences will not matter? Note, history has it that two or three persons who went ahead and married from the said place did not fair well, but he is sick in love and wants you to marry him. will you ignore the warnings and follow love? What's you take on this? 2 Likes |
Re: Cultural Differences Matters A Lot In Marriage? by Nobody: 11:32pm On Jun 25, 2012 |
I guess d reason no one has ventured 2 reply dis topic is dat LOVE CONQUERS ALL INCLUDING SOCIO CULTURAL DIFFERENCES,so............ 2 Likes |
Re: Cultural Differences Matters A Lot In Marriage? by tpia5: 11:39pm On Jun 25, 2012 |
do as you like and learn from the experience, i suppose. |
Re: Cultural Differences Matters A Lot In Marriage? by Mynd44: 6:58am On Jun 26, 2012 |
It does not matter at all |
Re: Cultural Differences Matters A Lot In Marriage? by claremont(m): 8:02am On Jun 26, 2012 |
If socio-cultural differences hasn't prevented both parties from being in a relationship, then it shouldn't really be an issue when it comes to marriage. I am yet to see any objective proof that socio-cultural factors negatively impact on marriage between two people from different cultures, I would argue that the reverse may even be the case. |
Re: Cultural Differences Matters A Lot In Marriage? by Nobody: 8:29am On Jun 26, 2012 |
Charity they say begins at home. If 2 people cannot overcome a cultural barrier and start a home based on love, what are we complaining about? And we keep asking what is wrong with Nigeria? It is inconsequential infinitesimal things such as socio cultural differences even in marriage! People from this culture cannot stand the other culture, simply because we speak different language, have different intonations, or eat different food? What then is love? On behalf of the rest of the world, i weep for Nigeria. . . Smh. 4 Likes |
Re: Cultural Differences Matters A Lot In Marriage? by MrsChima(f): 8:42am On Jun 26, 2012 |
Nigeria the beautifulllll.....sweet land of liberrrrrttttY! |
Re: Cultural Differences Matters A Lot In Marriage? by freecocoa(f): 9:40am On Jun 26, 2012 |
If socio-cultural differences is going to be or is a problem for me i wouldn't go into such a relationship in the first place. If i could look past our cultural differences and agree to a relationship,i don't see it being a problem in marriage. Though i know a couple who had no problem with that but their extended families tried their best to make it an issue,at the tail end their love for each other prevailed. 1 Like |
Re: Cultural Differences Matters A Lot In Marriage? by freecocoa(f): 9:46am On Jun 26, 2012 |
jamatracy: Hi! Dear,Lekwe ha ndi yahoo yahoo. Come o,let me ask you sef?who exactly is this post addressed to?the whole of NL? So you want to be a special friend to all Nlanders? You must be madt. C'mon gerrout of here before the angry gods of NL strike you with incurable jedi jedi. Anumanu 4 Likes |
Re: Cultural Differences Matters A Lot In Marriage? by 3rdparty: 9:49am On Jun 26, 2012 |
So long as there's understanding between both parties, cultural differences shouldn't really matter 1 Like |
Re: Cultural Differences Matters A Lot In Marriage? by Fruitful2: 9:50am On Jun 26, 2012 |
We must take into consideration what we actually want In a Marriage and what we are bringing into it..Love and the fear of God is a very strong foundation of any Successful home.But there other aspects of Ones Character,Religion,Culture that develops or kill this love with Time.You must ask yourself an HONEST QUESTION,Can you live with the cultural difference IN THE NEXT 50 YEARS WITH THIS PERSON? 1 Like |
Re: Cultural Differences Matters A Lot In Marriage? by abdulizom(m): 9:58am On Jun 26, 2012 |
Cultural diff. do really affect r\ship in d long run. U can imagine a muslim who in practise own his wife live & dead, will be asked to return d wife's body after death. A culture dat dos not allow female child access to her father properties, whether dead or alive not even a single room. Or one in which during father inlaw burial, u pay certain % of burial ceremony sum or cease to be a inlaw. |
Re: Cultural Differences Matters A Lot In Marriage? by deandavid(m): 10:03am On Jun 26, 2012 |
sexkillz: Charity they say begins at home. If 2 people cannot overcome a cultural barrier and start a home based on love, what are we complaining about?u better dnt weep, cos weeping wont solve anything, we should be moving towards solving our problems,rather than complaining and weeping. To the topic, love is the greatest, love is what any relationship needs, both in marriage and even in this country of ours, d yorubas should learn to love the igbos, igbos forgive the hausa and love them. Thats the only solution. |
Re: Cultural Differences Matters A Lot In Marriage? by spothot: 10:07am On Jun 26, 2012 |
Cultural differences do matter a lot. It's better one marries someone with the same cultural affiliations than otherwise. However, it does not necessarilly mean that those with different cultures can't gel. It's just that the former brings less stress 1 Like |
Re: Cultural Differences Matters A Lot In Marriage? by coolzeal(m): 10:08am On Jun 26, 2012 |
I am marrying for love and not for culture and we can both share and learn each other cultural values and tradition.. 1 Like |
Re: Cultural Differences Matters A Lot In Marriage? by hustla242: 10:40am On Jun 26, 2012 |
Same people that say cultural differences matter in marriages/relationships are also the first to jump into one when a foreign man/woman comes calling. Normal Nigerian inferiority/tribalistic B.S. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Cultural Differences Matters A Lot In Marriage? by Nobody: 10:43am On Jun 26, 2012 |
Doesn't matter. On another note, do you know that just a glass of water can power Lagos for 1 year? https://www.nairaland.com/973294/theres-enough-energy-glass-water 1 Like |
Re: Cultural Differences Matters A Lot In Marriage? by Orikinla(m): 10:53am On Jun 26, 2012 |
Love matters more than cultural differences. |
Re: Cultural Differences Matters A Lot In Marriage? by talkingfingers: 11:06am On Jun 26, 2012 |
I believe culture is made for man, not the other way round. Just as I wouldn't necessarily subject myself to all the provisions of the culture of my kith and kin, so would I take steps to shield my spouse (already or intended) from it whenever the need arises. Culture should guide without necessarily dictating. I guess the main issue is in identifying a person who's strong enough mentally and otherwise to challenge the status quo, not a wuss who'll always succumb to, not just culture now but family, friends and religion. 1 Like |
Re: Cultural Differences Matters A Lot In Marriage? by racas: 11:07am On Jun 26, 2012 |
please dear, follow ur heart. it is a mixed blessing. dem say LOVE CONQUERS ALL. |
Re: Cultural Differences Matters A Lot In Marriage? by talkingfingers: 11:14am On Jun 26, 2012 |
I believe culture is made for man, not the other way round. Just as I wouldn't necessarily subject myself to all the provisions of the culture of my kith and kin, so would I take steps to shield my spouse (already or intended) from it whenever the need arises. Culture should guide without necessarily dictating. I guess the main issue is in identifying a person who's strong enough mentally and otherwise to challenge the status quo, not a conformist who'll always succumb to, not just culture now but family, friends and religion. |
Re: Cultural Differences Matters A Lot In Marriage? by Reference(m): 11:14am On Jun 26, 2012 |
Double edged sword. Resistance can either build or break depending on the severity of the tests or the strength of the characters involved. Generally multicultural relationships that last tend to produce stronger and more liberal characters. |
Re: Cultural Differences Matters A Lot In Marriage? by Naijaklef: 11:22am On Jun 26, 2012 |
Guy! Marrying from another tribe is not a BIG DEAL. Howeva, u must look closely into d family u want to marry from. Wat really matters is the family background of d lady. Don't be fooled. Here are some things u nid to watch out for. (1) who is in control of d home? Is it d father or mother of ur wife to be? if it's mother then be Prepare for d war of "WHO CONTROLS UR HOME" becos ur wife to be, will neva see anything wrong in controlling u. (2) wat is d relationship between dis family and their neighbours? Is it a "NO MIND DEM BAD BELLE PEOPLE" relationship or a "GOD HAS BLESSED ME WIT PEOPLE AROUND ME" relationship? If u go into family dat believes everybody is their enemy, then u will b seen as Another enemy sooner or later..... (3) wat is financial status of dat family? Is it average or below average or above average? D reason for dis is dat If they happen to b below average then they will always see u as a sacrificial lamb. U will have to take up most bills in d name of marriage. Above all, watch out for d family's relationship with other people in d Community.how dey relate wit people around dem will ultimately determines How dey relate wit u later. GOOD LUCK 6 Likes |
Re: Cultural Differences Matters A Lot In Marriage? by pssword: 11:46am On Jun 26, 2012 |
It depends on the individuals involved and the compromises they are prepared to make to make it work. |
Re: Cultural Differences Matters A Lot In Marriage? by kilimanjaro(m): 11:58am On Jun 26, 2012 |
I don't wana know where you come from. So far you are beautiful, virtuous, your contours are in the right places with a moderately penalty shoot-out yansh. I'm done. |
Re: Cultural Differences Matters A Lot In Marriage? by olsmade(m): 12:02pm On Jun 26, 2012 |
@mods, a grammatical error on the front page aint nice @ all. Arrange urself sharply. 1 Like |
Re: Cultural Differences Matters A Lot In Marriage? by Beync(f): 12:07pm On Jun 26, 2012 |
thanks @ all, especially some of you who truly hit the nail. I like the person who said something about what you want, the family background and how they relate with others, also appreciate the one who ask if I could be able to live with these differences say like 50yrs. that's the issue. There are certain things we have power over them, there are things we can change and thing we cannot. Remember there are times when love wil go down but others things will keep it glowing. also in this part of Africa marriage is not just between a man and a woman other things surroundings it. If you love someone but not in acceptance with his people's ways of doing things will u find happiness at the end? 1 Like |
Re: Cultural Differences Matters A Lot In Marriage? by mrperfect(m): 12:19pm On Jun 26, 2012 |
Yes, it matters but both parties could adjust to suit themselves. |
Re: Cultural Differences Matters A Lot In Marriage? by Nobody: 12:25pm On Jun 26, 2012 |
To be cultural differences has nothing to wit love,I wil go on and damn d consequences |
Re: Cultural Differences Matters A Lot In Marriage? by slimming: 12:30pm On Jun 26, 2012 |
Not at all, others will have to accept my decision or go away. 1 Like |
Re: Cultural Differences Matters A Lot In Marriage? by stepo707: 1:20pm On Jun 26, 2012 |
Yea it matters and the couples need to adjust ASAP to each other's culture else there will be problem. |
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