ladyF:
Some of the greatest inventors were from Physics backgrounds. That would definitely be the best for a Physics graduate. Invention/Innovation is the surest way out.

Guess who is here again

Is that ladyfaith?

jamex93:
Lolx

Oya jamex93 include your gender next to your username

I want to make a suggestion that all nairalanders should please include their sex/gender next to their username. Let us know if you are a male or female. The reason being that sometimes when someone posts something like seeking for advice or something, it is best appreciated when we see the different views of the respondents based on their gender.

Can we all comply with this? Thanks

zheroes:
you are very much on point bro but I want to add a word or two.

OP has a valid point too. I got married at 38. I understand the feeling. But I blame myself. The problem most of us have is we sometimes miss the right person at the right age. No particular person is a destined right person. The moment you see certain qualities that make that individual right. But we always feel we can get someone better in the end though we may actually settle for less( regarding marrying a Very gorgeous and beautiful lady for guys and a wealthy and handsome guy for ladies).
Money and beauty isn't a guarantee for peace of mind. I can say my wife may not be as pretty as the ladies I dated but she remains my best because am with the best team mate and partner, someone that has my back, ready to build with me.
If you find a good person in time marry early, it has more benefits.

Some ladies were actually their own curse!! Knowing a lady is bound by time and yet they become extremely selective and lacking manners at the same time. In the end though everyone will carry his load. We have all wasted opportunities some may never be made up for. So be wise.

You seem to understand very well what I'm passing through. I've missed out on some ladies in the past all in the hope that I might get someone better. Now I sometimes regret it. Thanks for your comment . From OP

jamela:
I understand what the op is going through. A sage once said, the older you get the less friends you have around you. You now have more of accomplices. Now for the OP, the lonliness you feel is as a result of many things. 1. You're losing your youthful good looks, figure, hair, and most young ladies you meet treat you like you some dirty old sugar daddy, thereby narrowing the chances of ever finding true love each passing year. 2. All your mates would rather spend time with their families and attend their family/children's occasions than spend time hanging out with you. 3. Everyday people, office gate security, neighbours, cleaners or even road side policemen show more respect in their behaviour and greetings to those married people you are even much older than cos they see the others looking more responsible when they turn up with family. 4. You worry about how long you have left to live and if you would ever live long enough to see your grandchild. 5. It suddenly looks like you have been asleep chasing money or whatever else kept you unaware for so long and now you start to think what about all your female friends on your contacts, but as soon as you scan through you realise they are all married so you have to start afresh in chasing ladies and your pick up skills may have worn out. 6. You consider the fact that if you are meeting a new lady for the first time, you are probably gonna need some time to really know her before you commit to marriage and this time could all be wasted if she turns out to be wrong and you have to start afresh with another.

The solution to all these is go down on your knees and pray. Ask God to take control of your life and your situation. Many are married and wish they weren't. Marriage is not the end but the beginning of a lifelong journey. All these fears you have are human but trust me they are not as bad as the fears of those living wit a human terror for a spouse. If it's God's will that you will marry trust in His time.

You are the only one that has made the most reasonable comment so far that's why I'm quoting u. Thanks for your comments. from OP

I am a 37 year old bachelor and I must confess that never in my wildest dreams did I ever imagine that someday I would be desperate to get married. When I was in my twenties, I used to hear of desperation amongst ladies to get married but I never clearly understood the feeling. I felt it was a "lady thing" until I got to the age of 34yrs. One day I was in my bedroom suddenly I felt the rush of emotions come upon me so strongly that all of a sudden started making me feel desperate for marriage. By the following year the desperate feeling became like torture and the loneliness was so depressing. I could no longer stand it when I attended weddings to see other young couples getting married. I could no longer stand it when I hear people discussing marriage around me.

I became like an object of fun in the office when they would call me "the oldest bachelor". I'm telling you, the feeling is not funny at all. Even when people innocently ask "Hey, why are you not yet married?" or "what are u waiting for?" It's a question that I just can't take emotionally. Though I'm doing my best to tie the knot soon but I must confess that it is a feeling that I don't even wish my enemies to have.

If me as a guy could be feeling like this, I can just imagine what single ladies of marriageable age are passing through emotionally.
For those of you reading my post, it is my prayer that you all get married at the right time and age so that you don't have to pass through the same emotional trauma of loneliness and desperation to get married.