freecocoa: Girls abeg y'all should take it easy with Vivi.
If anything we should help her get rid of such mindset not make derogatory comments.
Not cool abeg,

We can keep voicing her opinions from now till Jesus comes, Vivian ain't gonna change her view point.

She has probably grown up to think in such ways. With the behaviourist theory, it's difficult (still possible) to unlearn what someone has taken years to learn.

It's like smoking, it's hard for smokers to give up smoking.

Shollypopz:
I swear, I could care less of she's treated right. In fact I want her to get beating. If I had power, I will beat her myself but I'm sure she'll win the fight if it get's physical. . My main problem is her kids. Is this the mentality she's going to pass on to her female and male children?? Will they be watching dad slap mummy anytime she does something wrong which is almost inevitable??!

70% of men that hit their wives grew up in homes where they watched their father do the same thing to their mums.

And the circle of abuse continues.

I just hope that her future kids don't grow up with her mentality.

Idowuogbo:
*coughs* pls direct me to her quotes dat states "MEN" are always rite. We need proof o!

For one, she deems it okay for a man to lay his hands on her when she's done wrong.

If you need proof, start reading the thread from page 0.

Mtcheew!

vivian chinaza:

Carefreewannabe, why don't you go home, argue with your husband, hit him bellow the belt in the process then come back and tell us how it goes. Then you will make perfect sense.

Btw, carry yourself as a lady and you will be treated like one. Carry urself as a goat and will be handled like one.

Even when a woman hasn't done anything wrong to a man, so men still lay their hands on their woman.

A woman came to a place where I used to volunteer, with bruises all over her body. She explained that every time her husband has a bad day at work, or had an argument with someone close to him, he comes back home and take it out on her.
She only need to ask him how was your day", and he would just start lashing out on her and beating her.

This woman did nothing wrong, but loved the crazy foôl.


Even if a woman does not carry herself like a lady, a man should NOT smack her around.

The body ain't a football you know!

vivian chinaza:

Menh.....lala you are yet to see some women.....sometimes I wonder if they are really women? They are beast in women's clothing!

Most of them come here to type trash and still fall victims...rubbish!

Just because some of us are against your view point don't meant we get beats. A man has never laid his hands on me before. Never.

I've slapped a couple of waste guys for touching what they shouldn't be touching


We're not trash talking. I just hope that you will find a man that will treat you right. When you start justifying cheating and physical aggression, I start to wonder what could have triggered your thought processes with such impact (negatively) that you think a man is always right even when he's wrong.

lalaosky:

abiL, i know your plans...lol...badt gurl...don't come up with another E-fight jor..missed you...oya calm down please

I won't

This a serious issue. Many women have lost their lives and their self-esteems due to men thinking they own their partners and can turn them into punching bags.


Missed you too

Have you finished your exams now?

Crown Prince: ok people, I do not support domestic violent. I will love my wife, adore her, cherish her, protect her, and love her hoping she became an angel, guardian, model, virtuous, and motherly to me not been biitchy, troublesome, nagging, or engage in any anything that will shortened my life span.

If she does the former than the later, we are good. If she encompass the later than the former in her matrimonial itinerary I will definitely show her that I am the President and Commander In Chief of the ARMED FORCES of my home.
Abi no be so?

Show her how? Physically or through verbal retributions?

lalaosky:

hopefully, this thread won't get locked...mehn, everything na fight this days

Na u sabi

I've missed a lot!

Vivian, the same way a woman should watch her mouth, likewise a man should watch his actions so as not to provoke a woman to anger.

Even if a woman is in the wrong, the man should never result to physical aggression.

Leaving marks on her body isn't going to get your point across. It just makes u look like an aśs who should be locked up in jail and get ànally penetrated every time he drops his soap in the shower.

Mynd_44:
You are coming of age.

So cute

Gradually

Mynd_44:
Will that explain why there are two of you?

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Yep! Had to quickly create another username. Needed to voice my opinion.

hornipipe: Lmao abil got banned yay!

Mumu

Shollypopz:

U better say it!

sexkillz banned you?? You're officialy a Nairalnder

Second time that I've been banned now. The twát

Actually fûck it!


Vivian, I've really grown to like you, but I just don't agree with some of your view points. Before I discard someone's point of view, I examine it first.

I've been closely following this thread, but I couldn't comment because of the yeye Sexkillz guy

Anyway, The way we see things as adults is largely due to what we've experienced as a child, and in the past. I don't know how your upbringing is (and I don't want to disrespect you), but I just cannot get my head around why you will deem it acceptable for a man to smack his woman even if he was provoked to that point of aggression.

A man should never ever lay his hand on a woman. Never! Unless he's a coward. There are better ways of telling someone off, by resorting to petty things like better a woman up.

Biologically, the masculine gender is the stronger sex. This will give a man an unfair advantage if he ever decide to beat up a woman.

What will it cost a man to leave his house and get some fresh air when he's getting irate or agitated instead of lashing out on his partner? Nothing.

My dad has never and he will never lay his hands on my mum. Because real men knows how to control their women without physical aggression.

From what I understood from your posts vivian -correct me if I'm wrong- you think it's only acceptable for a man to beat his partner when he's provoked, and we woman should control our voice.. Am I right?
....I completely disagree with you on this. Under no circumstances should a man stoop low by laying hands on his partner.

He can restrain her... Not to the point of imprinting marks on her.

He can shout at her, tell her STFU.

He can give her a taste of her own dish by cursing her. Two can play the game.

He can also walk out of the house and leave her to calm the fûck down.


But what he must never do is lay his hands on her. Because from the moment a man does that, he starts to lose respect as a man.



So what if a woman smacks her man? What should a man do?

In this case, a man is allowed to shake the woman up and let her know that the shït she's trying ain't right.

But some women knows how to fight well well, so if a man is dealing with a woman like that, he needs to get his karate kits out, and karate chop her



On a serious note, even up to the point of provocation, a man shouldn't be physically aggressive to a woman


Oh just remembered that you said a man can beat a woman if she did something wrong. Please define what wrong means in this context.
..if she gets him warm water instead of a cold one even when he has told her several times that he only likes chilled water, should she be slapped. Should the bîtch be slapped?


There are other things that could be done, without a man resorting to physical or emotional abuse.



All the English teachers in the house, pardon any typos, I'm typing on my phone o!

I had to create a new account so that I can comment, since Sexkillz decided to ban me yesterday.

I have a lot to say on this issue, but I've got an early start tomorrow, so I'll leave you lot to get on with it.