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Politics / Re: Atiku's Star Witness faults US Court Judgment On Tinubu's Forfeiture Of $460,000 by abudawah(m): 8:33am On Jun 24, 2023
Your head dey there. You just nailed it. Me weyI no be lawyer sell don see say na shadow Dem dey chase .

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Politics / Re: Does Ogun State Have The Worst Roads In The South West? by abudawah(m): 6:41pm On Sep 03, 2021
Not the worst in South West but in Nigeria. Papalanto to Shagamu. Abeokuta to Lagos. Alagbole/Akute axis and many more. Are we cursed?

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Education / Re: Bachel Academy, Lagos Where A1 Can Be Bought by abudawah(m): 12:06pm On Jul 27, 2020
Rgade:
lipsrsealed
So? If not for runs how many of you for pass WAEC undecided
Abegi,runs have been saving lives since buharis first recession.
I remember that time we were all forming bright students, only for me to jam waec maths and begin rethinking the Engineering wey I talk say I wan study.
To God,na runs save us that year.
Even seun cannot swear he didn't do runs.
A solid 100% of Nairalanders who are going to view and comment on this thread did runs.. angry
Please speak for yourself, I have never done 'runs'.

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Islam for Muslims / Re: Ruling On Gathering To Eat, Offer Condolences And Recite Qur’aan Together... by abudawah(m): 10:04am On Nov 29, 2019
My problem with most of you modern "scholars" is that you absolutely depended on Islam Q&A. Opinions expressed on Q&A is mostly based on opinions of Saudi scholars and tactically and gradually they are dragging us to madhhab as most of their fatawa are based on the Hambali madhhab.

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Education / Re: I Made A Third Class Now I Have An Msc About To Apply For My Phd by abudawah(m): 4:03pm On Nov 25, 2019
I also have a question to ask, sorry to take the mic from you, seeing that our concerns are related. Perhaps I should share mine too.

Please someone should help me out if you've got an idea.

I studied Law and after graduation, studied Political science for my Master's degree.

I want to Lecture on Political science in a Nigerian university. What is the possibility based on the courses I studied?

It is better you go and do a two year conversion programme in Pol Sc. as your first Degree matters in academics. I am talking from experience. You may get a job but it will affect your promotions and rise.

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Politics / Re: Lagos-Abeokuta Road: Bad Condition Of Road Worry Motorists [Picture] by abudawah(m): 2:54pm On Oct 06, 2019
]I ply this road almost every week. It is worst than the pix here[/quote]
Far, far worse than this pix is depicting.
Nairaland / General / Re: Cost Of Newspaper Publication For New NGO by abudawah(m): 8:27pm On Aug 15, 2019
I tried Sam yesterday and he delivered today as promised. Indeed there are still honest Nigerians out there.
I just took the risk and he did not disappoint me. I wholeheartedly recommend him to all.
Thanks Sam.

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Education / Re: Finished With A Third Class Degree, Can I Do Masters? by abudawah(m): 11:44am On Mar 16, 2019
]Hi, I finished with a Third Class degree in a Federal university and my question is, can I do masters or other higher qualifications....
Do a pgd. And move on from there. I had a third class but today I have two Masters and presently doing a PhD.

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TV/Movies / Re: How Can One Get An Interview Slot On AIT Or Channels Tv? Response Pls by abudawah(m): 5:39pm On Jan 30, 2019
Try to find out the producer of the programme you want to feature in. Names are usually shown before and after any programme. Contact the producer by physical visit to the station or through his phone or social media contacts.

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Politics / Re: Ogun 2019: APC Picks Salako Oyedele As Deputy Governorship Candidate by abudawah(m): 9:12am On Nov 30, 2018
Ode. All the Governorship candidates in South West are Christians including the just elected Ekiti one where the governor and deputy are Christians. with the exception of Osun tell me any other one in Southwest and yet Muslims are not complaining. The rant of the Christians and their political party CAN is like that of the Igbos always crying marginalization.
Politics / Re: Presidency Denies Nigeria’s Presence At US Jerusalem Embassy Opening by abudawah(m): 6:06am On May 16, 2018
[quote author=ideology post=67596368]Our problem is English.

[color=#990000]The article never said that the listed countries were present but it stated countries that confirmed interest to be present.

And they mean different things

Who cares if Nigeria was present!

Abi na UN buhari de fear or just to show support to his fellow brethren.

The deed has been done, let world war 3 begin

Jesus is still Lord
Your fool ishness knows no boumdary. Does Israel care about Christianity or Jesus.
Romance / Re: My Brother & His Fiancee Are Both AS, Yet He Wants To Go Ahead With The Marriage by abudawah(m): 11:11pm On Apr 24, 2018
DopeAngel:
Serious Advice Needed Pls- How Can I Resolve This Impending Doom In My Family

Please nairalanders i kindly need your advice on this family issue. my elder bro met this girl sometime last two years after having too many disappointments in relationship. he said he wants to finally settle down that he is tired of waiting and disappointments.

Now the serious problem is both of them are genotype AS, but my brother does not care, he still wants to go ahead with the marriage. He is saying he has faith and hope in God that nothing will happen. even my parents are not helping matters, my parents are strong church elders and they are even saying my brother should pray that God can change things.

I am so pained with my parents stand on this issue knowing the severe consequence that follows. i was hoping they would outrightly dissolve the relationship but no they are hoping on God. What pains me the most is that the girl herself is a nurse, she knows better than everybody but yet she is not considering that.

I really pity the both of them. They should just not go ahead. I did same based on faith and regretted my decision. God has given us the knowledge, we don't have to tempt Him. He should be patient God will provide his wife sooner than later.
Right now i hate the girl because she is coming to ruin the life of bro's unborn children
Family / Re: Man Leaks Facebook Chats Of His Wife With Married Man by abudawah(m): 10:50am On Apr 11, 2018
THIS IS EXACTLY HOW ALL NAIJA WOMEN BEHAVES

NONE IS EXCEPTED .
Including your mum?
Family / Re: Man Leaks Facebook Chats Of His Wife With Married Man by abudawah(m): 10:48am On Apr 11, 2018
Where are they? I am looking for one.
Health / Averting Another Olusosun Saga by abudawah(m): 10:29am On Mar 26, 2018
ENVIRONMENTAL POLLUTION IN IDI-ARABA
I wish to bring to the attention of the public and Lagos State government the serious health hazard posed to the residents of Idi-Araba, Mushin, students, workers and patients at Lagos University Teaching Hospital (LUTH)/College of Medicine University of Lagos (CMUL) among other institutions by a large refuse dump on about an acre of land situated in the heart of Idi-Araba on Ewumi/Wonuola Streets behind St. Kizito Catholic Hospital adjacent to the LUTH/CMUL.
The said piece of land is said to belong to the Lagos State Ministry of Justice but it has been turned into a huge refuse dump posing a health risk to the residents and the nearby institutions including the Lagos State Girls Special Correctional Center and the Lagos State Correctional Center for Children where many children and youths are housed.
The dump is huge and taller than a three-storey building and every day it is burnt causing a lot of smoke that choke residents and passers-by alike. One can hardly breathe even in your room as the smoke enters.
I learned that some people are collecting money (=N=1 000) from cart pushers who daily empty their trucks in the place.
Apart from the smoke it has become a fertile breeding ground for rats and mosquitoes leading to constant malaria fever and fear by residents of an outbreak of cholera and Lassa fever if nothing is urgently done to close and remove this site.
One wonders how institutions like LUTH/CMUL, the correctional centers and the catholic hospital can cohabit with such site not minding the health risks it poses.
I am appealing to the concerned government agencies including LASEPA, LAWMA, Ministry of the Environment, Ministry of Health among others to please use your medium to save our soul in Id-Araba, Mushin, Lagos by doing the right to avoid epidemic and a repeat of the Olusosun saga.
Education / Re: Olusosun Dump : Three Pupils Collapse As Smoke Forces Closure Of Schools by abudawah(m): 8:40am On Mar 17, 2018
Another big one is looming in Idi-araba, between Ewumi and Wonuola streets, a densely populated area in Mushin where there is a large dump site sandwiched within residential buildings very close to LUTH. the refeuse is burnt daily causing a lot of hazards.








More details later …


http://punchng.com/breaking-olusosun-dump-three-pupils-collapse-as-smoke-forces-closure-of-schools/


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Educational Services / Re: Phd Thesis Writing, Dissertation Writing Services Nigeria by abudawah(m): 11:22pm On Feb 03, 2018
whats your contact
Islam for Muslims / Re: Quran On Finger Prints by abudawah(m): 11:38am On Nov 10, 2017
May Allah (SWT) reward you abundantly for this post.
Family / Re: I Beat My Wife. What Would You Have Done Differently In My Situation? by abudawah(m): 2:07pm On Oct 24, 2017
You have said it all and I really appreciate you for this. God continue to bless you. Are you a psychiatrist? Thanks once again. God bless you.

when ppl say never hit your wife, they mean never become the aggressor. what is happening to to you is domestic violence and your wife is abusing you emotionally and physically. you need to leave that woman fast. she's poison! don't try to change her, don't blame yourself for anything, just, cut her loose!

EDIT: so I just read the old article you included in the link, i change my mind. with more insight to this:
OP, I dont mean this in an insensitive way, your wife has some deep issues and must have suffered some intense psychological trauma to cause her to feel a lot of bitterness and act out in sadism when angry, the knife, the fork, hitting you with a shoe on your head and not stopping when you didnt even react!! this last one is a huge red light, something is really wrong with your wife, she loves to inflict pain and if her personality is as contrast as u say, that everyone thinks she's this sweet girl, then whatever is wrong with her runs really deep, it's not normal at all to keep hitting a person with a shoe on the head when they're not fighting back, she wants to hurt you, she wants u to feel pain.

I'm honestly convinced your wife has suffered sexual assault at an early age that led to a break in psyche, she's mastered suppressing her feelings, her nice girl act is not an 'act', she's actually that nice. but when she's angry, all the bitterness buried beneath the surface emerges and she finally deals with all the buried emotion in its magnitude, it overwhelms her and she wants to act out to hit something or punch a wall etc. when she's alone and unhappy, even when she lived with her parents, u really dont want to see/imagine what your wife does to and says to herself, this anger she shows you, she's lived with it for a long time, she's been her own victim till now when she made u her victim. there is nothing she has done to you that she hasn't done to herself times hundred.

if you choose to for better for worse it, find a psychiatrist or psychologist and go with your wife for counselling, your wife, with or without you will never change till she finally begins to work on whatever buried bitterness she's had to live with for years. try to get help together as a family or get a divorce if u would rather not go through it. it's really that simple, your wife will live with whatever has happened for the rest of her life but how she manages the accompanying emotions, her anger and abandonment issues can all be taken care of with a good psychologist and emotional support on your part. educate yourself on the topic of sexual assault and learn the necessary sensitivity training and triggers. counselling will teach you all this.

no, i'm not thinking too far, your wife ticks a lot of boxes:
-extra charming cos of distorted/low self image and need to be accepted
-her over-religiousness is for closure that she needs and like u said her prayers are always for her god to attack ppl for her. even her relationship with god isnt healthy, it's a coping mechanism. the idea of a protector that will attack on her behalf.
-she talks from 12am to 4am alone when you're asleep, OP, your wife is full of a lot of buried emotion, she really wants to talk to someone about something.
-despite being a nice girl, before you married her, she had no friends
-she's very quiet, hardly finishes her words (withdrawn personality, mastered suppresion)

you should never have raised your hands to hit this woman, when she froze for 5 minutes, it's not that she was thinking she overstepped her boundaries, she was actually coming back to her senses, when your wife gets angry, she loses her mind and forgets who she's dealing with. even worse when the person who angered her is male, she reacts with more venom cos subconsciously he represents her aggressor and she wants to hurt him to make him feel pain. she probably has conversations with herself and imagines herself confronting her abuser and being able to hurt him back and make him regret his actions and cries alone cos it's only in her imagination that she can deal with him. when a man makes her defensive in her personal space, she attacks. till u actually hit her, u just represented something that she has bad blood with and now you've added yourself to the list of men that have ruined her.
she has stopped hitting u cos she has buried the incident of the slaps too but OP, the same place it's buried is the same place her demons she's battling are buried, she wont touch you but when her bitterness surfaces when she's alone, this time you're one of her enemies. the resentment is growing and when she sees u, she's filled with such bitterness she shoves u. if u do not intend to fix this marriage OP, walk away NOW. a lot of bitterness is brewing in this woman and if you add yourself to the list, we will read about u in the news the day this woman snaps. the same way u never saw her eyes so red the day she yelled, u will never believe she has it in her to go the extent she'll go, your wife will surprise you.

nigeria does not have a good support system for ppl who have had to deal with the trauma of sexual assault, society takes it lightly too but this is 2017, ppl should educate themselves on this, when we read here everyday '6 yr old girl raped in lagos by 43 yr old man', that girl is someone's future wife and she will NOT just be like everybody else, the scars of her trauma will show one way or another and she'll need extra sensitivity cos she's a "special" case. your wife is not a naturally aggressive person, that i can tell u and it's sad that another human being created this monster in her. OP, this is really not your battle, it's not you she wants to fight, you did not give her all the bitterness she's carrying, so let the slaps u gave her be the last, you wife is a very very bitter scorned woman whose hurt has taken years and years to germinate, the person who hurt her isnt dealing with it, u are. if u add to her bitterness and it gets too much, the person who created 99% of this mess will not be the scapegoat, again it will be u. i haven't dealt with sexual assault personally or with a family member but i have met closely with some of the victims and the effects of sexual assault are too underestimated. ppl should be killed for damaging another human like that.

if u do choose to save your marriage:
apologize profusely for hitting her and become super sweet, if u choose to undo this mess, u have to be ready, sensitive, patient, very educated about this issue and strong for the both of u. if u choose to walk this path, u will watch her fall apart and u have to be ready to help her reassemble.
don't let her hit you, hold her hands and keep holding it and talking to her till she calms down. your wife is actually a very sweet person, the person you knew her to be when u married her exists, just buried under layers of bitterness. i dont blame u at all for hitting her, there's nothing illogical in hitting someone who came at u with a knife, i can understand why u snapped but let it be the last time. your wife wants to talk to you, listen to her, she talks when you sleep, when you leave she follows you, it's annoying but it's her subconscious, she really wants to reach out. listen to your wife! make out time and let her rant, she will talk about so many things, no matter how messed up it sounds, keep listening. then talk back about whatever and if she interrupts and tries to talk, let her talk, just listen. u can stop the midnight talks by changing it to day time. stop sleeping in your sitting room, move back to your bed.

when you're ready to make the move, try pulling it out of her, on top of your new sweetness, be extra extra sweet to her for the whole week like her sh!t dont stink, on a friday(so if she spills, you'll both have the weekend to grieve), make sure she's in a nice awww darling mood and when you're holding her, just brush by a conversation u heard at the office that made u really sick "about a dude that assaulted some teenage girl and how mad it makes you that men like that are still walking around breathing and if they ever dared it with someone u care about, u'll deal with them and how no matter what she was wearing or where she was, no one has the right on another person's body without consent and the worst part is there are girls out there who have experienced this and told no one and the animal didnt get caught"
stay on the topic of sexual assault and follow body language, dont change the topic, be gentle, when she cracks, try to get her to talk, say what u have to "she can tell u anything, u wont judge, u love her from here to japan, if it affects her it affects you, u are both one and she can confide in u etc" when she talks, encourage her to keep talking, show that you're listening, console her all you can, cry with her even if u have to force the tears though i doubt you'll have to force them, make her see that whatever sunken place she's in, you've somehow gotten there too but dont cry more than her haba. tell her that both of u will go for counselling together, find a good therapist and go with her till she makes progress to go alone. make sure u find a therapist before u try to get her to talk about this and once she talks, the upcoming monday, begin therapy. and dont expect to work this out in 2 days, give yourself time like 4-6wks to build the emotional environment of trust and zero judgement to be able to access her when the time comes. note: she has to open up to you before you can go for therapy.

-u can expect her to go into depression for a while, she might need anti-depressants, sleeping pills too, she will be dealing with a lot of emotion once she finally lets someone in.
-NEVER EVER make a joke about her incident or say something mean to her about it... NEVER EVER!!! NEVER EVER!!! I MEAN IT OP.
-if u want to divorce her and not work through this, which is honestly the easy way out for you, then pls dont bring up anything i just told u here, dont taunt her over this, dont ask her about abuse or anything, just let the marriage end and pretend u didnt even read this. she will still live with herself so she has it heavy already.

i really do sympathize with you, u have found yourself in a very unfortunate position and no decision u make will be easy. sadly enough, i feel sorry for your wife too, she's really lived her hell and she's putting you through it. both of u dont deserve this. i also applaud you for all the grace you've shown, it's very hard to break the cycle of abuse, abused ppl mostly pass it on to others, maybe not in the form they received it but they leave their mark, so i can imagine how strong a person u were to endure all the emotional & physical abuse. and no, slapping her back was not abuse, u defended yourself full stop! dont feel sorry for yourself, just do what u have to do: stay & do the work to mend this if u can or leave if u cant.
u have to accept that your wife has issues that cause aggression when it flares. in time, u will also notice she's protective of children or animals or things she pictures as defenseless, it'll show in her mothering, not wanting your kid to go out, being too clingy to the child, convinced the big bad world is out to get her child, all that u will both work through in due time. once you can get your wife to show you the dark place she's in, it'll not be her safe place anymore, she can't hide there anymore, whatever comes to surface will be dealt with by both of you and u will finally live with the smiling smiling girl u married. good luck OP[/size][/quote]
Sports / Re: Shehu Abdullahi Wins "Man Of The Match", Collects N1m &10 Bags Of Rice (Photo) by abudawah(m): 10:54pm On Oct 07, 2017
Isokowadoo:
Fraudulent..

Why does Iwobi Score Then Fulani Terrorist Is Given Man OF d Match..

Nonsense

Please always use your no 6
Romance / Re: My Father Said I Would Regret It If I Dare Marry A Christian - Muslim Lady Cries by abudawah(m): 10:43pm On Oct 04, 2017
Heed your father's warning talking from experience.
Jobs/Vacancies / Re: An Expert MECHANIC/AUTO-TECHNICIAN Of American Heavy Duty Trucks NEEDED NOW! by abudawah(m): 6:52am On Oct 02, 2017
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Politics / Re: Presient Buhari Departs London, To Arrive Nigeria Soon by abudawah(m): 5:37pm On Sep 25, 2017
Since he left
Everything has been right
Even ASUU has called of their strike
Its better he stays there
We are ok without him[/quote]

are u in ur r senses
Politics / Re: Ask Abaribe, Others If You Are Looking For Nnamdi Kanu – Garba Shehu by abudawah(m): 9:51pm On Sep 21, 2017
Cyynthia:
If I say that the presidency is filled with maggots, it would look as if that I am hating.
These people are hell bent in ensuring that southern Christians are intimidated/eradicated with their intention of establishing sharing law all over the country.
The attack on Ipob is an attack on Igbos/Christians because, Igbos are 99.9℅ Christians and Ipob is ibo and ibo is Ipob because they ordered Sit at home order and everybody complied.Forget all these pretence as if the attack is targeted on Ipob only.
They are gradually spreading their wings.

Osun state and Kano recently declared public holidays celebrating Islamic whatever whatever in a secular state like Nigeria.
They started with Ipob today, tomorrow is another group
Once they are done with Igbos, Yorubas will be very easy because half of us are Muslims..
Igbos are those checkmating the northern and Islamic dominance in Nigeria because they are all Christians. They know that Ibos are very stubborn that's why they had to start with them, but ibo governors won't read the hand writing on the wall because they are busy struggling to protect their selfish interest(looting). If they succeed in dealing with Ibos, Islamization agenda will become easy to implement but God forbids.

Sharia law is already in 12 states
(Don't forget that Nigeria is a secular state). Look at the second picture I attached below.
Head slammers are free to cry on my mentions as usual.


I av neva cn a d.aft person like this

Crime / Re: Lagos Police Arrests 11 Secondary School Students For Cultism by abudawah(m): 1:54pm On Sep 18, 2017
shaklisco:
I don't think Atunrase is among them,one of the discipline school in Lagos State I can testify to it,I graduated year 2004

Big NO. Atunrase is fully involved at both JSS and SS level
Education / Re: Osun State University Announces 2017/2018 Post-UTME Screening by abudawah(m): 8:01pm On Sep 02, 2017
You are getting JAMB wrong. Each university can fix its cut off mark, 120 is just the benchmark

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