Family / Re: How To Cope When Your Spouse Doesn't Listen: Seeking Advice by Adoyi87(m): 4:09pm On Jul 09, 2023 |
naice: I find myself facing a difficult situation in my marriage and would greatly appreciate your insights and advice. The issue at hand revolves around my wife's unwillingness to listen to me. I'm at a loss as to why she behaves this way, and it's starting to take a toll on our relationship.
To provide some context, my wife has a strong-headed personality, which often leads to conflicts between us. No matter how gently I communicate my concerns or requests, she seems to disregard them and even does the opposite. This behavior frustrates me and leaves me questioning our compatibility.
One possible explanation I've considered is her background as an orphan. She lost her parents at a young age and had to take on the responsibility of caring for herself and her siblings. While I understand the challenges she faced, it seems like her self-reliance has translated into a resistance to accepting input or guidance from others, including me.
At this point, I have contemplated divorce, but there's a significant factor holding me back: our children. I love them deeply and cannot bear the thought of being separated from them. As much as her strong-headedness affects me, I firmly believe that domestic violence is never an option.
I'm reaching out to this community for reasonable opinions and advice on how to navigate this situation. Have any of you experienced a similar dynamic in your relationships? How did you cope with a spouse who doesn't listen? Are there effective strategies to foster better communication and understanding in such circumstances?
Thank you in advance for your support and guidance. Your insights will be invaluable in helping me make an informed decision about the future of my marriage." Ask her to like and follow Jane Chuckwu on FB, then thank me later. |
Crime / Re: Pregnant Woman Crushes Husband’s Testicles Over Infidelity by Adoyi87(m): 5:58pm On Nov 28, 2021 |
Kilotat: He can still get an erection but can never father a child ever again. He is very Lucky she didnt temper with his penis at all, that man should leave his wife and carry his child along ASAP.... Check My Signature Lol, erection in grave you mean? 1 Like |
Nairaland / General / Assassination by Adoyi87(m): 11:49am On Jul 07, 2021 |
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Politics / Re: Attack On Ortom: Three Suspects Arrested by Adoyi87(m): 1:40pm On Mar 23, 2021 |
Just imagine useless criminals in police uniform, while a certain group were claiming responsibility of the attack, police are there arresting Jukun fishermen because they were found close to the scene of event. |
Politics / Re: Bandits Kidnap Pupils And Teachers In Kaduna Primary School by Adoyi87(m): 6:24pm On Mar 15, 2021 |
So a day can't go bye without bandits kidnappings? Come to think of it, why are they so call bandits instead of terrorist? |
Politics / Re: General Ibrahim Attahiru: Boko Haram Attacks Will End Soon by Adoyi87(m): 5:52am On Mar 15, 2021 |
And bandits too please ������ |
Politics / Re: Miyetti Allah: Herdsmen Carrying Guns On Social Media Are Photoshopped by Adoyi87(m): 4:46pm On Feb 28, 2021 |
How about the ones we saw physical? Are they Photoshop too? Govt should legalize gun please. |
Politics / Re: Don’t Carry AK-47 - Bala Mohammed Begs Herdsmen by Adoyi87(m): 9:31pm On Feb 24, 2021 |
He should apologize to Ortom and to Nigerians at large. Foolish man. |
Family / Re: Is It Compulsory For The Man To Pay The Bills??? by Adoyi87(m): 11:04am On Jan 28, 2021 |
Marry a feminist for your rest of mind� |
Politics / Re: Professor Jerry Agada Is Dead by Adoyi87(m): 2:07pm On Dec 22, 2020 |
Sad incidence, RIP prof. |
Politics / Re: Cotonou Residents Celebrate The Re-Opening Of Nigeria's Border by Adoyi87(m): 8:31am On Dec 18, 2020 |
No country can progress having a neighboring country like Benin 1 Like |
Celebrities / Re: Oge Obidiebube Who Called Out Kiki Mordi Talks About Commiting Suicide by Adoyi87(m): 4:23pm On Dec 13, 2020 |
Report had it that 2 hospital rejecting her and she is foaming, at this point only God can save her life. |
Politics / Re: Nigeria May Shut Down Internet As #EndSARS Protests Continue - The Guardian by Adoyi87(m): 9:11pm On Oct 14, 2020 |
Worst mistake if they try such sh*t. I'm at home because I can tweet, if not all of us will be in the street. 3 Likes |
Celebrities / Re: Don Jazzy, Teni Become Glo Ambassador (Photos) by Adoyi87(m): 8:18pm On Oct 06, 2020 |
Glo should focus on providing quality service instead of the 10s of celebrities ambassadors. 1 Like |
Politics / Re: Mai Mala Buni: Boko Haram Will Soon Be History by Adoyi87(m): 8:20am On Sep 30, 2020 |
That is your cup of coffee. |
Jobs/Vacancies / Re: Advice For Job Seekers Based On Experience by Adoyi87(m): 6:00pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
The attitude of those scammers spoilt many things, you don't truely know the next. Though we need to be very careful, at least the candidate should have wait for the conversation to continue. You shouldn't labelled every unknown number as a potential scammers. |
Career / Re: A Police Officer Wants To Quit Over Poor Pay by Adoyi87(m): 11:53am On Jul 14, 2020 |
Don't quit too soon, it can be frustrating when you see your junior becoming your boss while you are better qualified.
You stand a better chance than any other graduate, because you are experienced. Many institutions now have security and strategic studies as a course, in respective of your educational background, you got a security experience. Leverage on it.
Work up to any multinational organization, with your security background, you will gain attention faster. That is, if you still want to do salary job.
Better still seek way to expand your hustle. At the long run, it will pay better. Please don't quit yet. |
Crime / Re: PSC Dismisses 10 Policemen, Demotes Eight For Misconduct by Adoyi87(m): 7:39am On Jul 07, 2020 |
[quote author=sayhi2bammy post=91461211]There are a lot of Police officers that need to be demoted or sacked in Osogbo, Osun state. Once a young guy buys a car in osogbo now, you cant drive freely again. Hardly would you not see a police that would pull you over in a day (mind you not at check points)...and before you say Jack, they are inside your car and they are taking you to their station. You might end up not paying a dime o, but they will waste your day there once they know you are not guilty and not ready to sort them. That shit happened to me twice last week and again yesterday. I dont know how NPF can be this frustrating ![angry](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/angry.png) Next time, get the name/s of those police officers, their station. If you can, have some records, tweet at them, they will caution such officer immediately. |
Crime / Re: PSC Dismisses 10 Policemen, Demotes Eight For Misconduct by Adoyi87(m): 7:34am On Jul 07, 2020 |
Nigeria police is the worst police in the world. Its shameful. |
Politics / Re: 2023: Na’abba, Agbakoba, Utomi, Ezekwesili, Float New Political Movement by Adoyi87(m): 10:41am On Jul 02, 2020 |
We should stop complaining and do something... The ppl that comprise this group is one of the best brain this country has at moment.. I urge the like of Kingsley Moghalu, Sowore, Tope Fasua and co. to come to the table. We can't continue this way in this country. They have my support. |
Family / Re: Should I Divorce My Wife? by Adoyi87(m): 11:20pm On Jun 29, 2020 |
Nothing frustrate a married man who is faithful to his wife like denying him of sex.
Please marriage is not for better for worse, if she is disrespectful and you have tried all the possible best to no avail, kindly don't use force.
If she refuse to be deliver, bro you can deliver yourself from such bondage. Have a proper plans for your children. Call a family meeting and say your mind.
Don't end up as a wife killer. Don't die of depression. Walk away. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: My Girlfriend & I Ended Our Relationship Because Of Reno Omokri's Tweets, Advice by Adoyi87(m): 3:14pm On Jun 17, 2020 |
DigitB: So Reno just fuelled your stupidity and you boastfully posted your rubbish story here.
Women are meant to be cherished, loved, taken good care of. As a man you should learn how to manage her mood swings properly.
You can take good care of your woman without weighing yourself down financially.
Even the richest woman will always demand from her man. Men's money dey sweet, says one of my female friends.
Modified:
For all you giving me negative mentions, go and make money.
You want to keep fvckiñg ur woman without doing anything for her? Una dey craze.
Idiots looking for free pvßy.
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When some people's bad acts is brought to light, the go berserk...
I don't reply mentions, so stop it already.
Some people don't like this piece of land I bought here early enough ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) You are a simp |
Politics / Re: Ogun, Adamawa, Oyo, Lagos Top List Of Presidential Aides by Adoyi87(m): 2:32pm On May 30, 2020 |
Benue don't have single person there� |
Health / Re: Monkeys Snatch Coronavirus Blood Samples Of Patients In India by Adoyi87(m): 6:36pm On May 29, 2020 |
At this point, good bye to Corona virus ��� 1 Like |
Health / Re: 276 New COVID-19 Cases, 74 Discharged And 16 Deaths On May 26 - (1741 Tested) by Adoyi87(m): 12:28am On May 27, 2020 |
Very soon covid-19 cases will overwhelmed our health sector if people continue disregarding social distancing rules. 3 Likes |
Health / Re: COVID-19: WHO Says Madagascar's Herbal Tonic Not A Cure by Adoyi87(m): 1:59pm On May 06, 2020 |
What do we expect? Provided that it's coming from Africa, it's not going to be acceptable to them. Anyway Madagascar should continue producing it to help African brothers. |
Politics / Re: People That Will Feel The Additional 14 Days Lockdown By The President by Adoyi87(m): 10:35pm On Apr 13, 2020 |
Hotel Computer village guys Alaba boys Oloshos Day care business 3 Likes |
Romance / Re: I Am In Love With My Employee by Adoyi87(m): 10:56am On Apr 09, 2020 |
xendra: dont date her, that's only when it ends in tears; you have all it takes to monitor her, seeing how she already works with you, she's close. know all you need to know about her and if you still like her; only ask to marry her, then do it as soon as she accepts. otherwise tongues will wag till doubts sets in and she gives up
just gave my advice from experience. that's exactly what happened where my friend worked. I'm going with this advice |
Health / Re: Coronavirus: No Face Mask, No Movement In Cross River State by Adoyi87(m): 7:25am On Apr 02, 2020 |
Oh well nice move by the govt, hope the govt stock pile it in every street to be picked free of charge by the Cross riverians? |
Health / Re: Coronavirus: We Are Suspending Services – Sex Workers by Adoyi87(m): 8:47am On Apr 01, 2020 |
Blessed are those who have girlfriend in the same street in Lagos, for they shall not experience the effect of the total lock down. |
Religion / Re: Coronavirus: List Of Items Donated By Oyedepo Of Winners Chapel To Ogun & Lagos by Adoyi87(m): 9:08pm On Mar 31, 2020 |
Thank you winners, together we will defeat covid-19. Help the health workers by staying at home. |
Politics / Re: Nigeria Projected Among Top 20 Economies In The World By 2050 - BBC by Adoyi87(m): 6:21pm On Mar 31, 2020 |
Vision 2050 |