Cute Messege

If you were allowed not to see what you look like for a year and not taking a shower for a whole year, which would you prefer.

You are allowed to choose one..

CC: Sissie

The husband is obliged to spend on his wife’s maintenance, on a reasonable basis, because Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means”

[an-Nisa’ 4:34]

“Let the rich man spend according to his means, and the man whose resources are restricted, let him spend according to what Allah has given him. Allah puts no burden on any person beyond what He has given him”

[at-Talaaq 65:7]. 

It was narrated that Mu‘aawiyah al-Qushayri (may Allah be pleased with him) said: I said: O Messenger of Allah, what are the rights of the wife of one of us over him? He said: “That you feed her as you feed yourself, clothe her as you clothe yourself, do not strike the face, do not disgrace her and if you want to shun her (by way of disciplining her) do not leave home.” 

If the husband fails to spend on his wife’s maintenance, then she has the choice of leaving him or putting up with him. 

If she chooses to put up with him, in the hope that he will change, if he is withholding her maintenance out of miserliness and stinginess, or until his financial situation improves, if he is not well off, then she is not obliged to allow him to be intimate with her. 

Ash-Shiraazi ash-Shaafa‘i said in al-Muhadhdhab fi Fiqh al-Imam ash-Shaafa‘i (3/155):

If she chooses to stay after he becomes unable to spend on her, she is not obliged to allow him to be intimate with her, and she may leave his house, because allowing intimacy is in return for maintenance, so it is not obligatory when there is no maintenance. End quote.

Muhammad Najeeb al-Mutee‘i said in his Sharh (20/169): 

If it is proven that the husband is no longer able to spend on her, she has the choice of three options: she may annul the marriage; she may stay with him and allow him to be intimate with her, and it is her right that she should spend on her whatever he is able to spend; or she may remain married to him, without having to allow him to be intimate with her – rather she may leave his house, because allowing intimacy is only obligatory upon her when he spends on her maintenance, but he is not doing so in this case, but she is not entitled to maintenance when she is keeping herself away from him, because maintenance is only enjoined in return for allowing intimacy, but in this case she is not allowing him to be intimate with her. End quote. 

Al-Bahooti (may Allah have mercy on him) said in Kashshaaf al-Qinaa‘ (5/477): 

She has the right to remain in the marriage and not allow him to be intimate with her, so she does not have to allow intimacy or reside in his house, and he must not detain her; rather he should let her earn money, even if she is well off, because he has not given her anything in return for intimacy with her. End quote. 

However we should draw the wife’s attention to the fact that refusing intimacy with the aim of making him mend his ways, correcting his behaviour and the like is a means of amending and correcting someone’s behaviour in which attention should be paid to the husband’s condition and character, and the negative outcomes that may result from that, as well as the hoped-for benefits. It may make some husbands escalate the quarrel and become stubborn and get angry with his wife if she does such a thing, and he would forget his own shortcomings and the wife’s aim of reforming him, to the point that he ends up destroying the marriage. 

So be very careful, lest you make matters worse between yourself and your husband when you are trying to put things right. Look carefully at your husband’s situation and what you think will have a positive impact on him; if you have a right over him, be wise and prudent in exercising your rights.

CC: Sissie

Praise be to Allah

The Messenger (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) enjoined the killing of snakes, and this is general in meaning and applies to all kinds of snakes, in any place. But if the snake is inside the house, it should not be killed until it has been warned three times; that is because of the possibility that it may be a jinn. Then if it appears after that, it may be killed.

It was narrated from Ibn ‘Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) that he heard the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) address the people from the minbar, saying: “Kill snakes.”

‘Abdullah ibn ‘Umar said: After that, I would not leave any snake that I saw but I would kill it.

Narrated by al-Bukhaari (3299) and Muslim (3233)

Abu Dawood (5249) narrated that Ibn Mas‘ood said: The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Kill all the snakes, and whoever fears their revenge does not belong to me.”

Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Abi Dawood

Muslim (2233) narrated that Naafi‘ said: One day ‘Abdullah ibn ‘Umar was was at a ruin of his, when he saw the flash of a small snake. He said: Find this snake and kill it. Abu Lubaabah al-Ansaari said: I heard the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) forbid killing the small snakes that live in houses, except the short-tailed snake and the one with two stripes, for they are the ones that cause blindness and miscarriages.

And Muslim (2236) narrated that Abu’s-Saa’ib said: We entered upon Abu Sa‘eed al-Khudri, and whilst we were sitting there, we heard a movement beneath the bed. We looked and saw a snake… and he quoted the hadith, in which it says: The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “These houses have inhabitants. If you see any of them, ask them to leave for three days. If it goes (all well and good), otherwise kill it, for it is a kaafir.”

Ibn ‘Abd al-Barr (may Allah have mercy on him) said:

Some scholars said: It is not essential for snakes to be warned or urged or asked to leave except in Madinah only. Others said that Madinah and other places are the same in that regard, because some snakes are jinn and may be found in Madinah and elsewhere, and whoever among them Allah wills may be Muslim. Maalik said: What I prefer is that the snakes that are found in houses, in Madinah and elsewhere, should be warned for three days, but snakes should not be warned if they are found in the desert.

Ibn ‘Abd al-Barr said:

It is preferable that all snakes that are found in houses should be warned, as Maalik said. What is meant by warning is that the person who sees a snake in his house should say: I urge you, O snake, not to appear before us or harm us. End quote.

At-Tamheed (16/263)

Ibn ‘Abd al-Barr (may Allah have mercy on him) said:

The scholars are unanimously agreed that it is permissible to kill desert snakes, whether they are small or large, no matter what type they are. End quote.

At-Tamheed (16/28)

So there is nothing wrong with you killing snakes that are outside the house. As for those that are found inside the house, they should not be killed until they have been warned for three days.

With regard to the view that killing the jinn that appear in the form of snakes brings bad luck, this is a false view for which there is no basis.

CC: Sissie

Zina encompasses all the characteristics of evil: lack of religious commitment, loss of piety, loss of chivalry, lack of protective jealousy (gheerah). You will not find any adulterer who is pious, or keeps his promises, or speaks truthfully, or is a good friend, or has complete protective jealousy towards his family. Treachery, lying, betrayal, lack of modesty, lack of awareness that Allaah is always watching, lack of chivalry, loss of protective jealousy from the heart – these are the effects and implications of zina. 

One of the effects of zina is that it earns the wrath of Allaah because His sacred limits are transgressed. If a man were to do such a thing to any king, he would meet the direst consequences. Another effect of zina is the darkening of the face, and the grimness and misert of face that are apparent to other people. Another effect of zina is darkness of the heart and the extinguishing of its light, which is what causes the extinguishing of light in the face and the darkening thereof. Another effect of zina is the poverty that it leads to. Another effect of zina is the loss of respect towards the one who does it, and the lowering of his status in the eyes of his Lord and in the eyes of His slaves. Another effect of zina is that is causes him to lose the best of attributes, namely chastity, goodness and righteousness, and it earns him their opposites, namely immorality, evildoing, adultery and betrayal. Another effect of zina is that it causes him to lose the title of believer, as it was narrated in al-Saheehayn that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “No adulterer is a believer at the moment when he is committing adultery.” Another of the effects of zina is that it exposes one to the possibility of being one of the inhabitants of the oven (tannoor) in which the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) saw the adulterers and adulteresses. Another of the effects of zina is that it takes away the goodness which Allaah described as the attribute of those who are chaste, and replaces it with the evil which Allaah described as the attribute of the adulterers, as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“Bad statements are for bad people (or bad women for bad men) and bad people for bad statements (or bad men for bad women). Good statements are for good people (or good women for good men) and good people for good statements (or good men for good women)”

[al-Noor 24:26] 

Allaah has forbidden Paradise to every evil person, and He has made Paradise the abode of the good, and no one will enter it but those who are good. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“Those whose lives the angels take while they are in a pious state (i.e. pure from all evil, and worshipping none but Allaah Alone) saying (to them): Salaamun ‘Alaykum (peace be on you) enter you Paradise, because of that (the good) which you used to do (in the world)”

[al-Nahl 16:32] 

“and its keepers will say: Salaamun ‘Alaykum (peace be upon you)! You have done well, so enter here to abide therein”

[al-Zumar 39:73] 

So they will deserve the greeting of the angels and admission to Paradise because of their goodness. But the adulterers are among the most evil of creation, and Allaah has made Hell the abode of evil and its people. When the Day of Resurrection comes, the evil will be distinct from the good, and the evil will be piled up together, then it and its people will be thrown into Hell. No one who is good will enter Hell and no one who is evil will enter Paradise. Another of the effects of zina is the sense of alienation which Allaah instills in the heart of the adulterer, and this is like the alienation that shows on his face. For the one who is chaste has sweetness in his face and contentment in his heart, and whoever sits with him feels at ease with him. But the adulterer has signs of alienation in his face and whoever sits with him will feel uneasy. Another of the effects of zina is lack of respect, as his family, friends and others lose respect for him, and he becomes the most despicable thing in their sight; this is in contrast to the chaste person, who is blessed with dignity and sweetness. Another of the effects of zina is that people will regard him as a traitor and no one will trust him with regard to his wife or child. Another of the effects of zina is the foul odour that will emanate from him and be detected by everyone who has a sound heart; it will emanate from his mouth and body, and were it not for the fact that there are all the people have a similar odour, that smell would spread far and wide. 

Another of the effects of zina is that he will feel uneasy and distressed, for adulterers are doing the opposite of what they are seeking. Whoever seeks the enjoyment and good things of life by means of that which Allaah has forbidden, Allaah will punish him by letting him get the opposite of that which he is trying to achieve. For that which is with Allaah can only be attained by obeying Him, and Allaah never makes disobedience towards Him the means of attaining anything good. If the immoral person only knew what delight, happiness, ease and good living there is in chastity, he would realize that the delights that he has missed out on are many times greater than those which he may have enjoyed, let alone the consequences in the Hereafter, when the chaste person will attain the reward of Allaah and will be honoured by Him. Another of the effects of zina is that he has exposed himself to missing out on the delights of al-hoor al-‘iyn in the beautiful abodes of the Garden of Eden (Jannaat ‘Adan). We have stated above that Allaah will punish those who wear silk in this world by depriving them of it on the Day of Resurrection, and He will punish those who drink wine in this world by depriving them of it on the Day of Resurrection. Similarly, those who enjoy forbidden images in this world will also be deprived of such in the Hereafter. Indeed, everything that a person gets in this world, if he indulges in it by permissible means, his share of it on the Day of Resurrection will be reduced to the extent that he indulged in it. And if he got it from haraam sources, he will lose out on it altogether on the Day of Resurrection. Another of the effects of zina is that zina leads to cutting the ties of kinship, disobedience towards parents, haraam earnings, mistreating others, neglect of one's wife and children, and it may even lead a person to shed blood unlawfully. He may seek help to commit zina by means of sihr (witchcraft) and shirk, and he may or not know that this sin inevitably includes other sins committed beforehand or alongside it, and that it leads to other kinds of sins that come after it. It is surrounded by a host of other sins that come before and after. It is the thing that is most likely to bring about evil in this world and the Hereafter, and the most likely to prevent good in this world and in the Hereafter. If a person falls into its traps and snares, it will be hard for sincere people to save him and for doctors to treat him; its prisoner cannot easily be ransomed, and its victim cannot be rescued. It also leads to the loss of blessings. If a person falls into this trap, let him bid farewell to the blessings of Allaah, for blessings may easily depart from a person and vanish. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“That is so because Allaah will never change a grace which He has bestowed on a people until they change what is in their ownselves. And verily, Allaah is All-Hearer, All‑Knower”

[al-Anfaal 8:53]

 “But when Allaah wills a people’s punishment, there can be no turning back of it, and they will find besides Him no protector”

[al-Ra’d 13:10]

 These are some of the harmful effects of this action.

 Rawdat al-Muhibbeen, p. 360-363

 We advise you to read a book by Ibn al-Qayyim which is very useful with regard to this topic. It is al-Jawaab al-Kaafi li man sa’ala ‘ala al-Dawaa’ al-Shaafi.

 Finally, we ask Allaah to keep you safe and sound with regard to your religious commitment and your worldly affairs, and to help you put your affairs in order before you meet your Lord. And Allaah is the Guide to the Straight Path.

Brb

CC: Sissie

Praise be to Allaah.  
The Council of Senior Scholars issued the following statement: 

1 – It is not permissible to abort a pregnancy at any stage unless there is a legitimate reason, and within very precise limits.  

2 – If the pregnancy is in the first stage, which is a period of forty days, and aborting it serves a legitimate purpose or will ward off harm, then it is permissible to abort it. But aborting it at this stage for fear of the difficulty of raising children or of being unable to bear the costs of maintaining and educating them, or for fear for their future or because the couple feel that they have enough children – this is not permissible. 

3 – It is not permissible to abort a pregnancy when it is an ‘alaqah (clot) or mudghah (chewed lump of flesh) (which are the second and third periods of forty days each) until a trustworthy medical committee has decided that continuing the pregnancy poses a threat to the mother’s wellbeing, in that there is the fear that she will die if the pregnancy continues. It is permissible to abort it once all means of warding off that danger have been exhausted. 

4 – After the third stage, and after four months have passed, it is not permissible to abort the pregnancy unless a group of trustworthy medical specialists decide that keeping the foetus in his mother’s womb will cause her death, and that should only be done after all means of keeping the foetus alive have been exhausted. A concession is made allowing abortion in this case so as to ward off the greater of two evils and to serve the greater of two interests.

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Everybody wants a flat stomach, but even people who have flat abs have some fat in their belly. A flat stomach is very hard to achieve let alone a completely fat-less belly. Sometimes this fat cannot be taken care of with exercising. Fat can be very harmful to your health at times if it grows deep underneath your skin, close to your heart, lungs, liver and other organs. This fat is called visceral fat and it can be very harmful even for thin people.  Let’s see how we can achieve the pear-shaped body easily by following a few simple lifestyle changes.

7. Stress

Stress is one of the main reasons behind belly fat. Handling stress properly and relaxing your body is really important if you want to get rid of belly fat. Practice relaxation techniques like deep breathing, yoga, or meditation to lose excess fat and try spending stress-free quality time with friends and family. Also, you can blow off some steam by exercising and getting some counseling can be a great idea as well. It will help prevent any more fat from building up in your body.

6. Sleep

There is nothing more helpful than a sound sleep when it comes to losing belly fat. Six to eight hours of sound sleep every day and truly work miracles in achieving a flat stomach. Lack of sleep makes you crave sugar and it builds up more fat. Moreover, it has been scientifically proven that people who get sound sleep every day gained less visceral fat over 5 years than those who did not get enough sleep.


5. Sugar

Avoiding sugar or artificially sweetened beverages is a must as they have harmful effect of your metabolic system. You have to develop a healthy eating habit with lots of fruits, proteins, vegetables and whole grains. You can start eating sweet snacks to cover the sugar cravings of your body. Cinnamon is a very good choice for balancing your sugar level. Cut back on liquid sugar as our brain registers liquid sugar as solid calories and it all stores in our body as belly fat.



4. Exercise

Interval training is a great way to lose belly fat. You can try doing short bursts of intensive exercise instead of spending a long time doing the same exercise. Intensive exercise may include squats, crunches, lunges, running, etc. Aerobics is another great exercise for burning belly fat. It is also very effective when you have lost the belly fat and now trying to maintain the fat to a minimum level. It helps you from regaining abdominal fat after weight loss. Exercise will also help to reduce inflammation, blood sugar levels and other metabolic characteristics that lead to belly fat.

3. Water

Drinking plenty of water can work miracles when it comes to losing belly fat. Also, if you maintain certain lifestyle routine it can become more effective. Your aim would be to drink about 8 ounces of water each day. It will help your body to burn the fat more efficiently and you can see the changes in no time.  Additionally, try sipping a cup of hot water about 10 minutes before and after every meal to burn belly fat easily.  Drinking ginger water also helps remove harmful toxins from the body and reduce belly fat.



2. Citrus Fruits

Vitamin C helps balance cortisol in your body that generates the belly fat when you are under stress. Include more citric fruits in your diet to control the fat level in your stomach. Vitamin C is also important for making carnitine in your body which helps burn excess fat. Try eating the fruit straight instead of making juice. You can try drinking lemon mint water every day to slim down your belly fat.


1. Diet

A healthy diet is the most important of all when it comes to burning and controlling belly fat. Stop skipping meals and eat every few hours. Make sure your diet is rich in proteins, whole grains, fibers but make sure to keep them low on sugar and carbs. Skipping meals will only add to your cravings and make you eat more. Intake of more viscous fiber will help prevent build up of fat in your body.

Cc! Sissie

Praise be to Allah

My dear Muslim brother, your efforts to call people to Allah and explain the reality of Allah’s existence make us very happy. Finding out about Allah is in tune with the sound fitrah (natural inclinations of man) and with sound reasoning. How many there are who, once the truth becomes clear to them, they hasten to submit to Allah (enter Islam). If each one of us was to do his duty towards his religion, a great deal of good would be achieved. So we congratulate you, our brother, for undertaking the mission of the Prophets and Messengers, and we give you glad tidings of the great reward which you are promised, as your Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “If Allah were to guide one man at your hands, that would be better for you than red camels.” (al-Bukhaari,Muslim). “Red camels” are the best kind of camels. 

Secondly: 

With regard to proof of the existence of Allah, it is obvious to anyone who ponders the matter, and there is no need for a lengthy discussion. When we ponder the matter, we find that it is divided into three categories: instinctive evidence, tangible evidence and shar’i (revelatory) evidence. We will explain this to you further, insha Allah. 

1 – Instinctive evidence: 

Al-Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen said: 

The instinctive evidence that God exists is the strongest of all evidence for those who are not led astray by the devils. Hence Allah says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“So set you (O Muhammad) your face towards the religion (of pure Islamic Monotheism) Haneef (worship none but Allah Alone). Allah’s Fitrah (i.e. Allah’s Islamic Monotheism) with which He has created mankind.” [30:30] 

Man’s sound nature (fitrah) testifies to the existence of God and man cannot turn away from this unless the devils mislead him; whoever is misled by the devils may not recognize this evidence.” (From Sharh al-Safareeniyyah) 

Every person feels inside himself that he has a Lord and Creator, and he feels that he is in need of Him; if some major calamity befalls him he turns his hands, eyes and heart towards the heavens, seeking help from his Lord. 

2 – Tangible evidence: 

This refers to the things that exist in this universe; we see around us things that exist, such as trees, rocks, mankind, the earth, the heavens, seas, rivers… 

If it is asked: these things are so many – who created them and is taking care of them? 

The answer is that if these things came into being by accident, spontaneously and with no cause, then there is no one who knows how they were created, and that is one possibility. But there is another possibility, which is that these things created themselves and are taking care of themselves. And there is a third possibility, which is that there is Someone Who created them. When we look at these three possibilities, we find that the first and the second are impossible. If we reject the first and the second, then the third must be the one which is correct, which is that these things have a Creator Who created them, and that Creator is Allah. This is what is stated in the Quran, where Allah says (what means): 

“Were they created by nothing? Or were they themselves the creators?

Or did they create the heavens and the earth? Nay, but they have no firm Belief.” [52:35] 

Moreover, when were these mighty things created? For all these years, who is it that has decreed that they should remain in this world and has granted them the means of abiding? 

The answer is it is Allah who has given to each thing that which is suited to it and will guarantee its survival. Do you not see the beautiful green plants; when Allah cuts off their water supply, can they live? No, rather they become dry stalks. If you ponder all things you will find that they are dependent upon Allah. Were it not for Allah, nothing would remain. 

And Allah has created everything to do that for which it is suited. So camels, for example, are for riding. Allah says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“Do they not see that We have created for them of what Our Hands have created, the cattle, so that they are their owners.

And We have subdued them unto them so that some of them they have for riding and some they eat.” [36:71-72]

Look at the camel and how Allah has created it strong, with a strong back, so that it can be used for riding and it is able to endure harsh conditions which other animals cannot bear.

If you look at other creatures you will find that they are suited to the purposes for which they were created. Glory be to Allah.

Other examples of tangible evidence include the following:

When calamities befall people this points to the existence of the Creator, for example, when they call upon Allah and Allah responds to their prayer; this points to the existence of Allah. Al-Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen said: “When the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) prayed for rain, he said, ‘Allahumma aghithna, Allahumma aghithna (O Allah, send us rain, O Allah, send us rain).’ Then a cloud came and it started to rain before he had even come down from the minbar (pulpit). This points to the existence of the Creator.” (Sharh al-Safareeniyyah).

 3 – Shar’i evidence:

 All divinely-revealed laws point to the existence of Allah. Al-Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen said:

“All the divinely-revealed laws point to the existence of the Creator and to the perfect nature of His knowledge, wisdom and mercy, because these laws must have been prescribed by someone, and that Lawgiver is Allah.” (From Sharh al-Safareeniyyah).

With regard to your question: Why did Allah create us?

The answer is: so that we would worship Him, thank Him and remember Him, and do that which He has commanded us. You know that among mankind there are disbelievers and there are Muslims. This is because Allah wants to test His slaves as to whether they will worship Him or worship others. That is after Allah has showed the way to everyone. Allah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“Who has created death and life that He may test you which of you is best in deed.” [67:2]

“And I (Allah) created not the jinn and mankind except that they should worship Me (Alone).” [51:56]

We ask Allah to enable us and you to do that which He loves and is pleased with, and to do more da’wah (propagation) and work for the sake of His religion.

May Allah send blessings and peace upon our Prophet Muhammad.

And Allah knows best.

Oscarjax:
Was reading this while playing *Chris Brown- I need a boo.






Just experienced this shot couple of months back and it just brought tears to ma eyes.

Awww my Brother!

Lalasticlala

Lol

The most difficult time to be in a relationship as a guy is in your early twenties.

The period when you are stuck in a limbo, trying to figure out yourself and who you want to be.
At this age, you find it a herculean task asking money from your parents, considering your dad will always remind you of how he was self sufficient at your age.
So you are always left with "Nkechiyere" anyone that comes from them willingly.

To compound your "woes". You have a girlfriend whom you love so muchh, you are 24 and she is 23.
And guys being wired to want to take control, you are frustrated at your inability to take care of her like you want to.
I mean where is the money??
You are still jobless, still hustling, still finding your feet.
Still putting hands intomany things hoping oluwa smiles on you.

All of a sudden, she starts acting out and showing attitude.
You call, and she takes forever to pick or return your calls.
When she finally does pick, the call is like an interview session with those annoying and frustrating one word replies.
Yes, no, fine, okay, nothing.

Then finally she ends the call with a flimsy excuse like " wait let me close the fridge", i will call you back. And the call never comes back.

Then one day she calls you and askes you "where is this relationship heading to?.
You dont even know where your own life is heading to, not to talk of a relationship.

Then she drops the bombshell. Tells you that she met a guy who wants to marry her.
And how age isnt on her side, and you are almost compelled to scream "But you are just 23". Can't you wait 3 more years let me make it.

You just hold yourself and play the good guy
You ask her if she loves him, she dodges the question and replies you with " He treats me well".

Well since she wasn't informing you to take permission, she was simply telling you.
You have to be the cool guy and wish her well.
One week later, she gives you the traditional wedding card. And then you do the math yourself.
She was talking to the guy a long time before now.

Then you realise that for every "K" you got on WhatsApp, the guy was getting a long epistle.
You have been played.

Worse is you cant even blame her, you are just a prospect who no one knows what will become of your life in 4years time.
Would you have made it or not?
She has gone for the real deal, someone who has already made it.
In footballing terms, you are a "Anthony Martial" ( prospect) while the guy is a Messi ( has made it already).
I mean you were sending her cards of N200, and the guy was telling her to manage 10k for the weekend.
No comparison there.

And then you go through that silent heartbreak guys go through, the ones they don't talk about.
And unceremoniously you get inducted into the special hall of fame where members are young guys whose childhood loves and friends or girlfriends they thought they would end up with left them to marry someone else.
Your heart is broken into smithereens.

In this hall of fame, you are all victims. Victims of not having found your path in your early twenties.

At the wedding, no sight is more heartbreaking than seeing "the love of your life" say "I do" to this guy she just met 6 months ago.
To make matters worse, you get an alert from Diamond bank telling you how N13 have been deducted for bank charges. You are mad.
Your N4000, is down to N3987 rendering that N1k useless, you can only withdraw N3k now.
And that's your home and abroad.

Can life be more unfair at this moment?

To make matters worse, she tells you that she wants you to be the god-father to her first son.
You are livid, the plan you both made was to be the father, god wasn't there. Why are you involving god now.
god-father huh.. is that a sort of compensation package?

You chin it up, suck it, move on and double your hustle.

6 years later. You are 30 now. Congratulations, you finally made it. You are as rich as you hoped you will become.
You are one of the happening guys in town.
You go to a wedding. With your friends, the men on suit. Those guys that just intimidate everyone in the hall.
You are seated scouting the hall, and the bridal train passes by.

Ofcourse, bridal train and ashoebi ladies always show themselves. That's part of the job description. Sampling.
And you spot one, she is beautiful, elegant and tall.
You walk up to her, chat her up. Exchange numbers and you leave.

She is 24, ripe for marriage.
Three months later, you are sounding marriage to her ears. She loves how it sounds.
You are on chat with her always.

And somewhere else, a 25year old boy still finding his way is wondering why the girlfriend is becoming distant these days.
Why is he getting those one worded replies which is unlike her.
Why do there chats seem more like interview.

And fast fast, you have proposed and simultaneously she is asking the 25year old boy that question of
"Where is this relationship going to".

And then you marry her, and somewhere a boy gets heart broken.

You see we are always going to do this. In fact, it is a vicious circle.

Lovely!!

Gewezzy1:
she's an upcoming actress, she would never shout anything, she needs him also to boost her career, she's a young girl, she would rather suffer in silence and deceive pple with Instagram pictures than talk. Till then o

My sister it's obvious that dude is too good to be true for getting married 3 times! He is surely something.. she would cry for help soon

A mentally handicapped man and woman have been seen displaying affection for each other in the streets of Lagos while on-looker watched in amazement. The woman is seen with pregnancy alleged to be the work of her mad lover.

Read more at: http://www.vanguardngr.com/2016/10/photos-mad-man-falls-love-mad-woman/

There's a something we will know Later, Thank God na celeb u marry now, if u fuckup with this one again she go shout for the whole world

Happy New Year My Sister

As part of efforts to resist plans by the Federal Government to sell some of the nation’s critical assets to bail out the economy from the current recession, the Nigeria Labour Congress (NLC) has disclosed that 20 lawyers have expressed willingness to defend the interest of the Nigerian masses in court.
NLC President, Comrade Ayuba Wabba, who disclosed this in Abuja, yesterday while inaugurating a 10-man Think Tank to develop a position paper on the economic recession, lamented that all national assets were under threat, saying there was the need to protect them.
Wabba said that the lawyers had told the Congress that there was a legal angle to the proposed sale of the national assets which they were willing to take up against the Federal Government.
He said the Congress would use a three- prong approach to address the planned sale of assets by the Federal Government, noting that the position paper to be developed by the Think Tank would be used as a basis for engaging government on the matter.
The three-prong approach, he said, would include engaging the government, mobilising Nigerians to the street and also exploring legal option if the first two approaches failed.
According to him, the Think Tank would look at the social and economic issues facing the country with the view to coming up with an alternative policy, noting that what the country was passing through was what brought about Structural Adjustment Programme (SAP) in 1984.


He said “We have been turning round the same issues, SAP, Vision 2020. They are all the same neo-liberal policies of government. Regimes change but our problems remain the same. Today, our country is sold and another sale is being proposed. We will try and address these issues. NLC is on the side of Nigerian people and Nigerians should support the NLC.
“The Congress has issued a statement about our take on the matter and some of our affiliates and progressives have also moved against it. While it is important to bail out the country from the recession, sale of assets is not the best move. Nigerians must move against it.
“This is no doubt a capitalist Neo-liberal idea. It is another version of SAP. The notion that government has no business doing business has been proved wrong. Ethiopia is a good example with their airline, railway and even power that they already planning to be exporting”.
The NLC President, who noted that the problem with the country was manmade, advised the Federal Government to explore what he called tax justice where the high and mighty who had been evading taxes and those getting tax waiver were made to pay taxes.
“Tax is one area that government should look into . We are still canvassing that issues raised in the Panama Leak should be investigated. Government should also take stock of all enterprises that have been privatized.
“We are opposed to the sale of our assets in whatever guise. The consequences will be more grievous if we don’t protect our assets. It will serve no good if those assets are sold. This is our position.”


https://www.today.ng/news/nigeria/188371/nlc-assembles-20-lawyers-battle-proposed-sale-national-assets

gbens2000:
u just shot the op

I forgot ni Mr man, Shey I claimed I was the one it happened to ni lol

VikingsOO7:
Op just did a copy and paste with no sauce source.

http://www.lailasblog.com/2016/09/lailas-blog-reader-just-found-out-his.html?m=1

Thanks jare, I actually got mine on twitter though and I thought I added

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