Hi nairalander's ..
Let's do this..
Pls comment the music/song that explains ur current situation in life,be it breakup,emotions etc...Just share with us...
For me "minefields" by john legend perfectly describes my situation!!

Pls moderators do justice to this ,let's have fun

Daronyk:
You need to really define what hurts and makes you emotional

Then put strong boundaries on what people can do to you and how far they can go

Trying to stop being with emotions is like killing yourself.. that anger, disappointment etc u feel are still emotions

Just work on yourself and people will respect you and won't dare take you for granted

Thanks ma'am ..hopefully I'll do that

Starz825:
Self love is your solution...
You need to love your self and learn how to stay on your lane

When you continue to attach your self to people they will take you for granted... meaning they will see it to be your weakness and pull you down...

Guy man up...
Love your self more.
Be yourself
Stay on your own lane
Mind your business
Be logical rather than emotional

Your topic for the post should be
*How do I stop being a simp*

You need to talk to your self...be hard...I'm not saying be bad ..be hard in thinking ....it's different..

I used to be like you... growing up...

Thanks bro! The thing really worry me

blinking001:
Take the redpill

Give me

Offpoint1:
Leave emotional for the white folks, it's Unfrica.

Na watin I deh reason to do

bottlewater1:


By the way which emotion is the most active

Anger or which one?

Pity,love,attachment to people, etc

bigcee:

I see . It's like you expect too much from people and you tend to emotionally attach yourself to them. So when them F***k, you become disappointed. You might also be suffering from low self esteem. Learn to take care of yourself, love yourself and respect yourself.

Maybe

AcademicWriter:
Oh brother!! courtesy a alot!! You take me chance

I no understand oh

Youngpo413:
not good.

My mental health

weblord1900:
Bigman101, man up you're a big man

Bigman na human na

I heard that in any relationship or friendship ,one person go love pass the other...am that person who love the most..eg I meet someone today be it male,female,etc ,I'll take the person like say na family member already and that's emotional, but all of a sudden them go do me something and I'll be like "what" (this person go fit do me this?)
So I am tired,like literally tired..I no wan care ,love,pity anymore!! For the sake of my mental health ..I need advise abeggg

Kingpin1000:


Bro Just remain who you are, it's greener this side.
You just need to modify your attitude, just try not to expect anything in return when you do good to people. If the Jews can release Barnabas instead of Jesus, then it tells you a lot about human thinking.
God made you that way, if you change you will hurt so many innocent people.

My greatest prayer is when I decide to marry, I should not marry a woman that will use me to correct her past mistakes from men.

Oh brother!! Thanks a lot!! You give me hope

bigcee:
Oga, you can never stop being emotional but you can learn how to control your emotions. It's just you, bro.

I want to be less emotional ( no pity,no love,just hatred)

bottlewater1:
Being emotional is not a bad thing at all, it is some what known as one of the best characters of sanguine. You can't stop it because of its advantages will keep drawing you back into it but you can control it as you can use its energy for achieving great things

That's why I need help and am very sure after this ,I'll be a different person

DAVIDMOE:
You want to stop being emotional while someone like me is looking for a way to start having emotions. Irony of life...

Pls let's trade our emotions
But on a serious note how do u do it?

Kobojunkie:
Stop expecting something in return for the kindness you show others, and you will see that it is not so bad to be a human being- humans have emotions as default setting for good reason..

Not that I do expect something... This is it ,I like being loyal and it hurt when those people u take as either friends or family don't take u same way..thats my problem.. I really don't know he to be hard emotionally

Nairalander's I really need suggestion

I really want to be a person without emotions anymore..reasons beings that people keep hurting me coz of me being emotional soft..its either they take my kindness for granted or they betray me..it make think his can I get a very hard mind in people? At least that will help me and I wouldn't be hurt by people's actions towards me.....

I heard that in any relationship or friendship ,one person go love pass the other...am that person who love the most..eg I meet someone today be it male,female,etc ,I'll take the person like say na family member already and that's emotional, but all of a sudden them go do me something and I'll be like "what" (this person go fit do me this?)
So I am tired,like literally tired..I no wan care,love,pity anymore!! For the sake of my mental health ..I need advise abeggg

Pls moderator's help push this topic to front page..

prowriterss:
He should try waking up early and learn...... at least the pressure to sleep would be gone

Maybe this will help

Sheriman:
Does your friend like solving or tackling problems? Because that is what coding is. You have to be serious about it and dedicate much time to reading and practicing practicing and practicing writing hundreds lines of codes on your PC before you can know and fully understand how the basics language framework and become good at it.
Writing codes is something you have to fall in love with no matter how you encounter difficulty on your journey. It is a long life learning sojourn even if you're very good at it. You keep learning new framework, tools and new technology.
Did you know Google has introduce Open GL, Machine Learning and Artificial intelligence to enhance the development of Android Application? These are another new tools and framework. The introduction of these new technologies will help developers to develop new greater Android Applications with advance functionalities that will solve human related problem in this kind of technological age we are living.
So my friend I really understand that you're new to sitting for hours and writing codes on your PC please!! don't be a lazy developer cos you will not achieve anything if you're lazy. Programmers are problems solvers so you have to subjected yourself to challenge which will make you to learn more.
I code for 12 hours a day.
I'm an Android developer though still learning the basics and synthex of the language. I want to fully understand everything about all the basics. Am not in rush to go to Android Studio for now. Am currently using Intellij Idea to practice. I love to write in Kotlin because you don't have to write bunch of lines of codes before giving you what you want unlike in Java where you need to writes 50 lines of codes of the same thing. It is a language that makes developers more happier.
My friend if you really want to become good at anything you just have to sit up and buckle up your bet.
Happy coding!!

You too much bro

Capslock01:


Print this and give it to your friend. Lol.


"It's not how less he sleeps but what he does when he's awake"


That consistent 1 to 3 hours is enough to get him on track!

Even the 1 to 3 hours he can't stay and that's the problem

professorval1:
Does your friend feel good/excited about coding?

Probably not; and that is why he gets bored and falls asleep.

Energy drinks don’t work like that; if you take one and lie on a bed and close your eyes, you’ll most probably fall alseep.

Have him try different approaches, like learning during the day, or standing at night etc

He goes to work during the day

Pls a friend need suggestions from you all ( wonderful people)
i think this is the right place to bring this up..

I have a close friend and He wants to start learning web design and programming, but the problem is this.. How to stay motivated and also how to stay awake at nights in order to learn..(pls note he wants to learn through YouTube' videos and ebooks on programming).. this my friend says that at times when he start (11pm) b4 you know it he is sleeping ,waking up by 4 or 5 am...Despite taking energy drinks like ( fearless or predator) he will still sleep... this got him frustrated and I can't advise him. so I said to him that I'll bring it up here, coz definitely there will a solution here!!!

Pls moderators help push this to front page for wider views and response
mukina2

flokii:
It's coffee that will make him stay awake not energy drinks and I won't advise him to do snuffs so it won't affect his mental health.

If he comes in by 6pm, let him rest from 7 - 10pm and wake up to study till 3 - 4am. He can sleep from 3 - 6am before heading off to work.
It's the way you train your system, someone like me can stay awake if I want to, but not all the time cos scientifically, our body needs 7 - 8 hrs sleep everyday to function properly.

Thanks for this

Olunmercy56:


He should try during the day

He returns from work by 6pm

chatinent:
I don commot my hand for anything staying awake more than 11pm. I did it for three months and nearly broke down.

He could learn it in the day.

He do work in the day,returns home by 6pm
But how did u do it that 3 months? Was it caffeine?

Olunmercy56:

Do you have suggestion?

Pls a friend need suggestions from you all ( wonderful people)

I have a close friend and He wants to start learning web design and programming, but the problem is this.. How to stay motivated and also how to stay awake at nights in order to learn..(pls note he wants to learn through YouTube' videos and ebooks on programming).. this my friend says that at times when he start (11pm) b4 you know it he is sleeping ,waking up by 4 or 5 am...Despite taking energy drinks like ( fearless or predator) he will still sleep... this got him frustrated and I can't advise him. so I said to him that I'll bring it up here, coz definitely there will a solution here!!!

Pls moderators help push this to front page for wider views and response

thebosstrevor1:
I wish a girl can die for me like this

It is my fantasy

I swear !

Abeg who knows the title of this Nigeria song? " Give me one minute, don't be in a hurry"..I don google still no result!

I want to say thank you for all the comments, critics... I've decided to delete the woman number from my phone so as not to even chat or call her ...But the woman is question na young lady oo

Issues2:
Please run for your dear life

I'll do so

Connected1:
You associate with the wrong people mostly.
Now that you found someone caring and good you don't want to let her go.
I advise you change your specs in a woman and you will see so many women like her or even better.
Please leave another man's wife alone. That woman you are obsessed with has her own flaws too and sometimes you can't tolerate them.

Abeg leave another man wife oh.

Well said.thanks