ttmacoy:
OK kool, that would save a lot of money in applying every 2.5 years and just give peace of mind.

I know tradition and parents and all that but if I was in your shoes I would have done a registry wedding to avoid all this and sort out the traditional wedding later.

Good luck

@ ttmacoy
For someone to get married in uk, won't they be required to have legal status in uk? As my partner overstayed, will he be allowed to do registry wedding in UK?

ttmacoy:
Since you are British and have a kid together, why not just marry him (if really in a serious relationship)? That way he only needs 3 years to ILR and if he was previously on work permit that would count towards the 3 years.

You don't need to do a big fancy wedding foe now, go to the council and register your marriage with 1 or 2 witnesses and get it out of the way instead of extending every 2.5 years for 10 years. Unless i am missing something.

@ ttmacoy

That's our plan towards end of the year. We are planning to go back home to Nigeria to do our wedding coz his parents are based in Nigeria. After that, the plan will be to change his visa then.

Our plan has always been to get married in Nigeria so his parents can be there but seeing that he overstayed before, there is no way he can go back home hence the reason why we followed the DLR route for now.

justwise:


Any link that will divert traffic from nairaland will be remove especially link from private or commercial sites.

The link I gave you there is from government immigration website.

Whatever! Goodnight

bebe2:


Congrats sis. It's very possible. I know lots pple on it. It's 3yrs, then 3yrs, then ILR

Thanks so much bebe2. My Partner's own is 2.5years. He will have to keep renewing evry 2.5years then after 10years he can apply for ILR.

Hope people in the same problem can see this and have abit of hope instead of some people giving misleading information

justwise:


Nothing like maybe, I edited her post to remove those link as you can see up there, she keep re-editing it and pasting the links again...which was why I hid the post.

I haven't insulted her or anybody here and I will not take one from her.

I was not arguing with her. I said I can't say whether she is lying or not and that I don't know her friend or the case.

Do you start insulting people because they don't believe you even if you are telling the truth?

@ Justwise, tell me what was wrong with the link she posted? Just like the way you posted your link exactly the same way she posted hers.

So what gives you the right to decide which post to hide and permit on the forum?

justwise:


You want to see the abusive post?

If you have proof, maybe coz you provoked her by remiving her posts.

justwise:


There is nothing like abusing power here, you can put your point across without abusing people just because they disagreed with you. That was what she did.

Others made their points here without been abusive

All i know is she is not abusive towards you. On this matter , the fact that she is right doesnt mean you shiuld keep deleting her posts. That's wrong on all levels.

justwise:


I just explained that to you here

Judging from some of her post, i dont see how she became abusive towards you.

justwise:


Ok.

I wasn't arguing with Emmachick.

She was busy pasting external links relating to immigration lawyers and when I moved it she becomes abusive

@ Justwise mayb she was pasting the links to back up her point which to me personally is nothing wrong.

On nairaland people should be able to express how and what they feel and people shouldn't abuse the power just because you have the power to ban people or move posts.

Thanks

justwise:


Ok.

It seems you have blocked or banned Emma @ Justwise coz i cant seem to find her post. I received alert thta Emma has replied but i cant find it whenever i come on nairaland.

Can you stop banning her post coz i dnt seen anything she has done wrong.

Thanks

justwise:


For the sake of clarification...did you apply for Discretionary leave to remain?

Yes @ Justwise. We applied for Discretionary Leave to Remain. That's what our lawyer put on the application form

emmachick:
Justwise u r wrong tho. Discretionary Leave is not only for Assylum Seekers as u claim.

Discretionary Leave can be given provided the applicant has strong ties in the UK. The application will be reviewed under Humanitarian Right and with the help of a very competent lawyer.

A friend of mine went through same ordeal. Her boyfriend overstayed. But what strenthened their case was that they have both been living together under the same roof with proofs of cohabitation. Also my friend is british and the baby she has for the boyfriend is british too.

They applied for Discretionary Leave to Remain in February through a very good lawyer. The Lawyer's fee was £2400 inclusive of Home Office fee. A letter from the Home Office asking for the boyfriend's biometric was received in March. In April the boyfriend received his Biometric Card and he was given 2.5yrs discretionary leave to remain which he wil be renewing evry 2.5yrs for 10years.

So with the help of good and competent lawyer, the case is winable

You are right @ Emma. we went through same process except the fee was bit higher than the one your friend paid. Guess it all depend on the Immigration lawyers.

The attached pictures are the proofs of the response we had from Homr Office. Sorry guys i had to hide my partner's name and address.

The first picture was the response we got from the Home Office.

The second picture was a letter asking him to do his biometric

And he third picture was a letter confirming his biometric card details but i have left out his biometric number.

So Justwise, there is no need to keep arguing with Emma. We all learn new thing everyday. Ciao

Hi all,

I've been receiving alert in my mail box since morning about this thread. Just to clarify sone things.

Mybpartner was given his BRP (biometri residence permit) this month.

It still seems like a dream as i am so happy.

What justwise said about my partner not having chance is not entirely through.

Infact didn't take the immigration to decide his case.

Thank God I and my Partner followed our hearts and went ahead to make the application. All i can say is people should not judt give inaccurate information.

Thanks

justwise:


It will be difficult for him to apply for any visa to remain in the UK because you are not married, he overstayed his visa and he has appealed and lost the case.

You need to get married but that means leaving the UK and to apply for spouse visa you need to be working and earning £18600 a year.

Were you working before you gave birth or were you relying on his income for the family?

I was working. I've been told he can apply for discretionary leave to remain as he has family life in the UK which is the baby since the baby is british.

My reason for coming here is to find out what are his chances of him winning the case.

justwise:


His boss messed the whole thing up for him, jobs supposed to pass 'market test' and if there is no British or EU citizen capable to do the job then a non-EU citizen can be given the job.

Did he come to the UK with work visa or student visa then converted to work permit?

Yes the boss really messed everything up for him. He came to the UK with the work visa.

justwise:
1.Are you married to him?

2. Did his company refused to extend his work visa?

DLR is only issued to failed asylum seekers under an exceptional circumstances

I am not married to him. His company tried to renew his work visa but during the process, the UK border told the boss to put the job advert online as they believe there are better people that are not foreigners that can do the job.

But coz his boss really like his work, he didnt want to lose him so the boss lied to the home office that he put the job advert online. The home office found the boss out that he lied to them and because of that, my partner was refused his work visa.

The home office took the boss to court and they found him guilty and they banned the boss for 2 years so he is not allowed to invite foreigners in on work permit.

He appealed but the appeal was also rejected based on the reason that his boss doesn't have power to give out work permit until the 2 years ban is over.

Good morning all,

Please I need your advice.

I recently gave birth to a baby boy but few months ago my partner's work permit ran out. Since then he has been in UK without valid papers.

We phoned immigration lawyers and we were advised the only solution out of this mess is if he applies for DLR (discretionary leave to remain) on our baby as I don't work for now.

They told us he will be refused based on him overstaying in the country but he will have chance of appeal. That he can appeal based on humanitarian right (our baby).

I am british abd our baby is also british.

Please nairalanders, what are his chances of being granted the said visa during appeal process and roughly how much is the application process?

Thanks

jidegirl12:

You're welcome, it's gonna be alright .....

if you know what I went through with my kids ..... Anybody will understand my overprotectiveness ....

It is well. Peace and enjoy your last Xmas with your hubby alone cos next one will be with that munchkin

May Almighty God protect them for you

I will surely do that.

davidylan:

if you're 26 then why are you worried about a downs syndrome baby?

@ Davidylan

I don’t even know myself.

I was basically reacting to what the midwife told me that’s why even though it baffles me also at my age

[quote author=jidegirl12][/quote]

Thanks so much Jidegirl. Really appreciate.

steph7: I'll say you should have the test, 1% is really small and you won't fall in that 1% . Just do the test and get it over with.

Thanks Steph7, I don't think I will do the test.

Reason being that, yesterday I spoke to my mom and she started saying all these midwives are just lookign for what is not there.

She said in Nigeria, do people have the opportunity to do the screening we all do in UK? Of course No, and we don’t have history of such so why should I now worry. She said I should have faith and believe in God and most importantly none of my family and extended family has this syndrome so I shouldn’t panic.

The one that actually got me scared was when she told me a story about her work mate at work coz my mom is a dialysis nurse (she used to be midwife in Nigeria before we relocated to the UK). This her work colleague in UK was 5 months pregnant before but didn’t come to work for like 2 weeks, and just last week, she came back to work and to my mom’s surprise this lady has lost so much weight. My mom then asked her what happened, she then explained to my mom that she did some tests and the midwife said she needs to go through amniocentesis, she consented and they went ahead with the procedure. Few days later she lost the pregnancy .

That got me scared, even though they said this test carries 1% risk of losing the baby, I know that’s very small, I wouldn’t risk my pregnancy. Hence the reason why I won’t go for the test. I believe and have faith in God.

ileobatojo: Are you in Nigeria or outside? I would quickly seek a second opinion. I see no reason why they could not do a triple or quad screen at 15 weeks when it can be done even beyond that up to 20 weeks I believe. The neck ultrasound and higher level ultrasound can also be done after 15 weeks. So if your midwife only did one of the blood tests instead of the 3 or 4 she should have done, She's putting you in a state of panic based on very little information. There could still be options before the stage of amniocentesis. Quickly find a reliable OB, not a midwife and discuss your next steps. If you are in Nigeria though, good luck finding people who know what they are doing that you can get a quick appointment with.

It may still eventually come down to a decision to do the amniocentesis or not but at least other easier tests would have been done which may have ruled out the need for an amnio.

I live in the UK Ileobatojo. I don't even want to go for any further test again. I will just go through with my pregnancy..

jidegirl12: Well biola.... I've always done the one you're scared of tho, cos I always had high risk pregnancies, they stick the needle in my tummy and take amniotic fluid with some tissues and ran the tests....

I'm not telling you to go ahead cos all medical history are different , I just wish you best of luck in this journey,

Well ( all lets be real here), as a psychiatric nurse, raising a child with mental / intellectual disability involves a big decision and planning, many of these kids end up in institutions raised by other people cause they are not very easy to care for at home, they don't give room to care for other kids, they require a lot of focus and attention esp when they are young and many more factors I can state till tomorrow,

but they are humans too and need to be loved and cared for in their own home that's why a parent has to be ready.

Please think about it.

Thanks Jidegirl,

You said you've always had high risk pregnancies and you always do the test. Could you please tell me the outcome of the test even though you are always high risk?

candy: How old are you? One factor known to affect the probability of having a baby with Down syndrome is maternal age. That is, less than one in 1,000 pregnancies for mothers less than 30 years of age results in a baby with Down syndrome but for mothers who are older...some say 35- 44 years of age, about 1 in 35 pregnancies results in a baby with Down syndrome. Personally, I think you might just be stressing yourself unnecessarily...believe me, most people in naija don't do the test, pregnancy is carried with faith in God. Believe in God my sister, you will have a healthy baby. However, now that you've started the process and they confirmed your baby stand a chance of DS, talk to your husband, especially since there is a big risk of you losing the baby after the test. It is well.

Thanks Candy,

I am 26years....I have discussed it with my partner and he said courageously that the baby is and will be fine....he is against the test saying he doesn't support me going through the test.

..........