inkdbetty:
I'm trying to see the sense in all of this but its so hard.

Kids shouldn't grow up in DayCareA society where people don't raise their own children is bound to fail. What is more important at the end of the day: your promotion and "independence", or the impact you had on your children and huband's lives. Men have never worked because it's fun or fulfilling. These seem to be the reasons for women. Men have done it because it'stheir duty to their family. It is a woman's duty to take care of the house and children. Traditional marriages last longer, with fewer fights and much less stress.

kids now take the behavior and character of house maids rather than parents

1.A girl doesn't expect her partner in marriage to be 'not manly',for example one who can't shoulder the responsibilities ofa man like bringing in income,being lazy,crying or showing stupid sentimentality at the slightest of issues.A man who performs his manly duties is considered to be caring to his wife.Similarly a woman who stays at home looks after the food,children and management of the house's internal affairs is considered to be caring for her husband.

2.A woman who works in corporate houses may have to spend nights out of home when the husband may need her.The husband may be worried about her intentions.He would feel she doesn't care about him.She isn't fulfilling her primary role as wife to her husband.A man who has to spend time outside cannot be brought under the same argument as men NEED to be EMPLOYED,he cant remain in society UNEMPLOYED whereas women CAN.(At least in my Indian society).

3.If a man brings in good income what need does the woman have to earn?If a woman thinks she has to prove her worth by competing with her husband isn't that hostility towards her husband?What is the use of marriage or coming together if it brings in hostility?

4.A woman may very well fall into the temptation of doing things against marriage at the request of her male bosses to get promotions at workplace. You may ask me can a man not fall into such temptation?The answer is NO because by my logic women must not be present at workplaces so no female bosses. Why not all female and no male workplace?The answer to that is the rhetorical question 'Would you marry an unemployed man? 'Men HAVE to work that's it, women may not.

5. I think woman should not work outside the home because she have already a job. It is motherhood. How can she organize her her time between working outside the house and motherhood?

6.My concluding point..If men must work women should have a different role to complement each other.This would create DEPENDENCIES on each other leading to lasting relationships.Without dependencies,independent men and women have great chance of falling out in marriage.

lastly There is not one woman in history of this earth who became rich or famous because of her work, they all just gave their body for sex. Only bitches win in buisness.

fourth to comment

TTC

STC

ftc

when it comes to girls it's much better to honestly say what you think rather than play games and give out mix signals. Lying develop mistrust and drama and usually ends badly.

Once there's mistrust girls are always to figure out whether you are lying to them. It's normal for them to ask you where you've been and constantly check for proof. Like a police detective, her mind will work and investigate all possible scenarios. she will ask why you stayed long at the office, why you called your female colleague, why you look tired They analyze your answers, search your pockets and read your text messages when you're not​ around. It is difficult to hide anything from them. So you can go one of both ways; Scramble to come up with explanation every time or just be honest.

Both ways work - but Lying only works till you get caught, unless you are a lucky guy, the honest way is easier and is not likely to hurt anyone. When you are promising monogamy but not practicing it, things get really difficult once you are caught with another woman. It won't go away without big drama and usually will end the relationship. if you promise she's your only one but begin to act suspicious, she will look for proof of your disloyalty. making your life hell. and when she get it you're in trouble.

just be honest. Do not make her believe she, the only one if she's not. Tell her you are seeing other women if she asks. you will be surprised how she reacts, if she loves being with you and you haven't led her to believe different, she will rarely cut off the relationship because her logical brain can't find a reason to leave you or make too much drama because she still wants to spend time with you and you haven't done anything deceitful. You are simply a man who enjoys the company of women and she is o e of them in her own special way. she will respect you for this. And you will feel better for not living a dishonest life.

And women keep saying that men lie a lot

pro2010:


I miss your point, what are you saying please?

the ladies go to specific places where there are rich people.
they follow the money.
and they also get rich and travel the world because they offer nothing else than what's between their legs.

luminouz:
This life nawa o...me never even talk face to face with ashi before o!!!

Everyone is an ashi.

pro2010:


You are so on point(100%) with the everything sex, except anal till you offer more $$! I swear if i share the screen shot of like 5 different conversations I had with different Niger Tinder girls, you will see the conformity. And do they really stay on the Island? cause e be like their anthem.

it's possible to become rich by association by following these ladies footsteps and break into the super rich, just with their Puzzy.
just follow the money.

sorry had to post it twice

https://www.nairaland.com/4042287/death-prostitution

everybody it's right here, I wrote it in this topic.

https://www.nairaland.com/4042287/death-prostitution

JaffyJoe:
You are right. Getting laid for little or no amount is now a piece of cake with the advent of all these link 'n' link apps. Why go for Ekaitte in one slum brothel when you can brink big boorie Natasha to you for a couple of thousands.

Runs girls hurt these local slut's hustle no be small.

the apps are going to make this brothel to up their game...
maybe provide some coffee while we wait.

or some kind of money back guarantee if the process wasn't satisfactory

Your typical runs girl in Lagos has an iPhone 6, bouncy Peruvian hair, moves around in an Uber
and lives in Lekki with four or five of her runs girls friends. The runs girl is at the top of sex business in Lagos. She doesn't stand on the roadside or shake her ass on a stage. She is a professional sex worker that makes house calls.
You can find these high priced runs girls in nightclubs or events and parties, where the rich and famous go to. They look like video vixens with exquisite bosoms and perfectly shaped bosoms. Their lips are glittering and moist. And their eyes are always in search for the next human ATM machine.

Back in the day, most runs girls lived on the campuses of Nigerian universities. At night time, all sorts of cars from the Japanese twins ( Honda and Toyota) to the flashy German boys ( BMW and
Mercedes Benz) would converge at the female hostels.

In the 90s and 00s, campus prostitution was such a thriving business that pimps had photo albums of chicks that men could pick from. As Internet penetration became higher in Nigeria, the sex hustle became digital.

First, it was 2go and Badoo, but when Tinder came to town, you could now get sex with just a swipe. Tinder is meant to be a dating app but it is now a flesh parlour where you can pay for the services of a runs girl. It is more than likely that 3 or 4 out of 10 women you meet on Tinder are selling sex.

Sex with these Tinder babes goes for nothing less than N20,000. And the babes are willing to do everything except anal sex, well that's until you offer them money too good to refuse. To assist the Tinder hustle, these runs advertise their goods on Instagram and Snapchat also.

Ever wondered how an unemployed babe can go to Dubai for weeks? This is where Instagram and Snapchat comes in. Rich Dubai men have been known to fly our runs girls to their city for bizarre sexual acts after seeing their sexy photos on these apps.

Just like football players, some runs girls are foreign based who get flown out frequently and others play the local scene.

Hotels and especially guest houses are springing up at a fast rate in Lagos mainly because married men want to have sex. You can't bring a runs girl to your house so you take her to a guest house. As with most things in Lagos, the rates of rooms in guest houses on the mainland are cheaper than that on the Island. Have sex according to your pocket.
Sex On Demand
Sex is booming on the streets, in strip clubs, night clubs, on campuses and on APPS. Millions of Naira change hands each day from the people who want this sweet commodity to the people who provide it.
Sex has helped the hospitality and private taxi businesses flourish, proving it is a strong player in this city's economy. It was recently said that the most popular Uber route is from UNILAG to Lekki. The University of Lagos is notorious for runs girls. Landlords too benefit from the demand as thousands of Lekki runs girls have to hustle to pay rent.
In this city you can get sex by hitting up a local brothel or tapping an app on your phone. However you want it, you can get it as long as your price is right. As the popular saying goes " money for hand, back for ground. " Prostitution is not a crime in Lagos. The only crime in Lagos is if you do not have money.

but of recent
Dating apps like Tinder and badoo are killing brothels because it's easy to get free sex.

‘Badoo app has at least doubled my business,’ Sarah, who had a job in a strip bar before becoming a prostitute four years ago, explains to me. ‘In the last week alone, I’ve seen 12 clients all from Tinder and have earned over #1,000. I got the idea from a friend of mine who’s also on the game. I think she actually joined badoo to find a boyfriend or whatever, but was sent dozens of messages from guys asking for no-strings sex, threesomes or naked pictures – there was basically no romance there at all. She just thought to herself “I’m not getting anywhere using Badoo app to find a guye, why don’t I just use it to boost business?” It made so much sense – where else do you basically have a database of all the down to Bleep men in your area? – and she found it so easy I thought I might as well give it a go. I just made a profile, wrote caption that made it kind of obvious what I do for a living, matched everyone who I was OK sleeping with and then waited for matches to get in contact with me. I know more and more prostitutes are cottoning on as well – it’s made my job insanely easy.’

The response to that is that you shouldn’t have sex with women who are “dark” regardless. If she's a problematic person (crazy, a drug addict, evil, mental problems, etc), then simply the act of having sex with him or her constitutes some kind of aura or energy transference from her to you. You will then be “infected” with her darker, more negative energy. Sex is such an intimate act, these people warn, that even if it’s completely meaningless, you don’t really like her at all, and you use a condom, the nature of the act itself somehow draws her dark energy into you, which is bad.

I believe some people possess a form of negativity, you can meet someone and before they even speak and you can feel that negativity even if they were very attractive.

I don’t think the act of sex has anything to do with it. I think it has more to do with time you spend with that person.

I’ve shook hands with perhaps thousands of people over my working lifetime, and 99% of those didn’t mean anything other than politeness demanded by Society. However, once I met a very old and dear friend for the first time in many years. When we shook hands, we clasped each other’s hands,both hands, gripped them tightly, had huge smiles on our faces, and held strong, powerful eye contact. It felt really good to see my friend again, and he felt the same. In that case, the handshake meant something. But that doesn’t mean all handshakes are like that. Very few are.

Sex works the same way. If you have a one night stand with a woman you know you’ll never see again, that’s just a physical act. If you have sex with your long-term girlfriend, it probably has great emotional, and perhaps even spiritual meaning for the both of you. But that doesn’t mean sex has great emotional / spiritual meaning every time you have sex with every woman you have sex with.

If you’re more of a normal person, perhaps this might be an issue, but then your job is to either not spend time with these women or keep them at the phuck buddy level and that’s it. Never let any woman with a darkness around her become anything more than a phuck buddy. Even making this person a low-end Middle long term Relationship is a big mistake. you could loose your job, your finances, friends or at the end loose your life.

I frankly think that every man reading these words should work on having a strong, positive aura, but this is done by increasing your long-term consistent happiness.

iamJ:
till another time

when

guys guys I put too much effort in writing this sheet and you guys decided to use it to throw shades...

it's not fair maaaan.

how about focusing on the topic.

you understand, cool

increasing your age in social media can give you that edge to get that bang ( insert one false statistics here).

I believe most girls and women date up, e.g
a woman would be searching for someone older than her who can take care of her

and if you increase it then she's more likely to come across you while she's searching for a man to date on social media, since it's not easy to find one then you'll be the hot cake that ladies search for.

men date down.
it's rare to see a man date up because men are less likely to date someone older than them, so a man will prefer a younger girl than an older lady and a woman will prefer an older man than a younger man.

so there you have it go ahead and put 35-40 on your age and see those young chicks flocking in like doves. there's this believe that old guys are caring.

No disrespect but it's what I've noticed and I'm ding great, secondly I am young so when they come to my house they get confused, but my confidence also makes them extra confused too.

don't forget to no matter what happens, don't back out of the sheet tests just maintain your frame and it's all good

truth be told

(CBS)Some women fake orgasms - this we know. But did you also know that 80 percent are moaning and groaningnot onlywhen they are absolutely not climaxing or coming anywhere near it, but when they are fervently wishing for the whole thing to be over?

At least that's what a team of British researchers found when they studied 71 heterosexual women between the ages of 18 and 48.

They found a whopping 80 percent faked orgasms during vaginal intercourse at least half of the time. Asmaller group was even more prolific with their oohs and aahs. The study found 25 percent of the women fakedit 90 percent of the time, according to MSNBC.

The participants in the study, led by Dr. Gayle Brewer of the University of Central Lancashire and Dr. Colin A. Hendrie of the University of Leeds, answered probing questions about"vocalization" during sex, specific times during the sex act they make noise, what kinds of noises or words they make, and their reasons for doing so.

Researchers found that women are often quietest when they are actually receiving pleasure, like during oral sexor pre-intimacy. They make the most erotic noises when sex starts feeling uncomfortable or when they get bored.

They also get noisy when they sense their partner is ready to climax - to boost their partner's self esteem, many reported.The study's authors say woman use vocalizations to "manipulate male behavior to their advantage," but since, as an MSNBC columnistpointed out, some well-meaning men are so fixated on making his partner climax that he won't stop until he thinks she has.Most women, the researchers said, were just faking it to be nice. Unless of course they were faking that too to researchers.

but the truth is men are not the Superman they think they are.

https://www.cbsnews.com/news/ouch-80-percent-of-women-faking-orgasms-says-study/?_e_pi_=7%2CPAGE_ID10%2C9554344576

Kobicove:
Who cooked up this categorization?

I believe they call him black dragon

The Beta Male

The first type, the most common type by far, is the beta male. About 70% of men in the modern era are betas. Betas are typical “nice guys”. They’re hardworking, submissive, needy, fearful, and play it safe. The spend their lives being controlled by girlfriends, wives, families, bosses, cultural conditioning, and other external factors. “Beta male” is an issue of degree. Betas can go from completely hopeless guys to decently cool guys but who still have lots of regular drama and unfulfilled dreams.
The operating goal of the beta male is to not risk.
• I can’t do that, my wife won’t let me.•
I can’t do that, my girlfriend said she’d break up with me.
• I can’t start my own business, I might not be able to pay my bills.
• I can’t vote for that guy, I hate him.
• I can’t do that. My family won’t approve.
• I can’t do that. Only selfish people do that. You get the idea.

The Alpha Male 1.0

The next type of man is the Alpha Male 1.0. This is the “classic” Alpha Male, and what most people think of when they hear the term. I have also called these men “Needy Alphas”. They make up about 25% of the modern male population.

Alpha 1.0s are tough, masculine, confident, dominant, capable, successful men. They take charge and get things done. Unlike betas, Alpha 1.0s rule others rather than being ruled themselves. Alpha 1.0s are great guys.

The problem with Alpha 1.0s is they are highly sensitive to what others in their lives do or say. If an Alpha 1.0’s girlfriend or wife doesn’t play ball, he loses it. He starts yelling, screaming,commanding, and setting rules. The same goes for his family members, friends, children, and co-workers. When everyone does exactly what they’re told, Alpha 1.0sare great men who live great lives.

When anyone doesn’t act in accordance with their specific parameters (which, of course, is all the time) they’re angry, and feel threatened and disrespected. They often live lives of 60%-70% happiness, 30%-40% anger and negative stress.

The operating goal of the Alpha 1.0 is to control and tobe heard.They love to boss other people around and to issue long lectures about proper behavior. They often get pissed off and love to “set people straight”. Having other people listen to them and acknowledge them is of extreme importance to these strong men.

The Alpha Male 2.0

That leaves us with the final type of man, the Alpha Male 2.0, which comprises the remaining 5% of men. The Alpha 2.0 is exactly the same as the Alpha 1.0 with two significant differences.

The operating goal of the Alpha 2.0 isfreedomandlong term, consistent happiness.

He has structured his life so that every morning he wakes up and can do whatever the hell he wants, the way he wants, any time he wants, without having to check in with anyone. He is free from the agenda of a girlfriend, wife, boss, or society.

That doesn’t mean he doesn’t have a special woman in his life. He certainly can. It means he can do whatever he likes without having to get permission from her, or anyone else.

Very unlike the Alpha 1.0, the Alpha 2.0 doesn’t care what other people in his life think or do. He has structured his life so as to maintain a high level of happiness and well-being nomatter what else happens with anyone in his life.

If the woman in his life throws drama at him, he shrugs and has sex with someone else. He doesn’t argue or lecture; that would damage his happiness. He never needs to worry about a boss, because he doesn’t have one. He’s outcome independent. He doesn’t care what others do…he’s on a Mission.

Because everyone in his life knows he does this, people quickly learn to not give him all the drama, anger, rules, and problems betas and Alpha 1.0s regularly have to wrestle with.

The five traits of the Alpha Male 2.0 are:

•He is consistently happy.Not happy sometimes and upset others, but consistently happy.
•He is confident. He strides boldly through life.
•He is masculine. Every culture has a different definition of masculinity, but regardless he is a bastion of constancy, rationality, strength, courage, and other positive masculine traits.
•He is free. He is not chained down by the rules normally governing relationships, marriages, jobs, businesses, cultures, or politics.
•He lives an abundant life.He does not lack sex, money, fulfillment, love, excitement, or freedom.

The Alpha Male 2.0 is truly free.

not necessarily this category but search yourself you could fall into these category or must have met someone in this category.



this story was written by BD in another blog.

Nesso:
Nice write up op

thanks man.

MyNewJackeT:
OP is this not bias, what about women who are hunting for a good man too.

when it comes to sex and relationships, women have a massive power advantage more than men, it's a woman who decides to enter into a relationship if she wants, women literally are approached by men so many times, it's their fault if they can't find a good man in the sea of men approaching them everyday on social media and in real life.

WORDWORLD:
@ cooldrinks. Customary traditions before this so call modern times acknowledged the settings by nature as to the time a lady is ripe for marriage which is her crossing into puberty. There is a Jewish tradition called BATMITZVAH, a religious ceremony held when a Jewish girl reaches the age of 13 and considered an adult actually preparing her for marriage. Traditional Africa is so as well. Well my point is. Things are so different in this modern times so different in the worst of ways. But then, if men really want virgins morally upright. Men gat to learn to keep their prick facing down always and inside their pants and not pointing forward like pocohantas' short gun which she just bought recently for blasting balls. So guys be careful ladies have got a superwoman in a corner who is so good with the trigger in defending her fellow women. Keep your pricks in your pants until marriage if you really value a morally upright virgin to marry. After all it takes two to tangle. But then bro your write up applies to so many other things. There are those who you feel are honest will not steal but then its because they have not being tested with real sold cash. Its really all about being able to say NO to what ever is wrong and without compromise. That is what makes a firm mind. ALOT OF PEOPLE WILL THROW AWAY THAT "I WILL REMAIN A VIRGIN BEFORE I MARRY" IF PRESENTED WITH SAY A MILLION DOLLARS TO BE DISVIRGINED BEFORE MARRIAGE. We mostly dont do things because it is the right thing to do. And as well so many guys will allow to be poked in their ass if the see cool hot Benjamins that makes their soul shiver. BOTTOM LINE..................PEOPLE ARE CORRUPT BECAUSE OF MONEY!!! Except a few will say No. Thats just the truth.

www.nairaland.com/4003118/only-thing-nigerian-girls-good#59700348

they haven't really been tempted with that opportunity yet. that's the truth, the point is that no one is righteous in situations like that.

A lot of men I talk to think the best way to find a good girl is to visit a small town or village. The girls will be more pristine, they figure, and they’re generally right about that, but there’s just one big problem: those girls have not been tempted enough for us to know what their true character is.

There are two kinds of “good” in a girl. The first is situational, where she appears good only because the devil has yet to tempt her. The second is tested, where he made his offering but she resisted. When a man identifies a girl who has upstanding character or morals, what he actually found is a girl who has yet to be tossed into a world of sex, drugs, money, or attention (fame). Once that temptation occurs, or she is removed from a bubble that has kept her good, it’s nearly certain that she will dive head-first into the ocean of human depravity.

I noticed that a girl is most kind and sweet in the six-month period starting with her freshman college year after moving from the village to the city. She’s also the easiest to get into bed. Her sexuality and raging hormones have been bottled up in the village, watched carefully by her family, but now that she’s in the city, she can finally do what she wanted to do all along. It wasn’t that she was a good girl in her village, but that she lacked the opportunity. As much as I would like to think I’m a casanova for sleeping with such a girl, the reality is that I was her gateway into a promiscuous lifestyle, soon to be forgotten after her 20th or so sexual encounter.

If I go to a village today, and meet a 22-year-old girl who didn’t have the chance to attend University and who has a sex partner count of less than five, is that confirmation of her goodness? It’s not, because she has yet to be put in a sinful environment. I think we already know what she would do if she had the opportunity to move to a cosmopolitan city like Port Harcourt, Abuja, or Lagos.

The saying “all women are like that” implies that if you tempt a woman with a city lifestyle where she can have anonymous casual sex with men who turn her on,she will do it. Some may just experiment, a notch here or there, but a girl won’t say no unless she happens to be part of a tight-knit community that constantly watches her. The number of women who are capable of resisting are in fact so few that they are statistically insignificant. We should therefore assume that no woman can pass the test of temptation, and perhaps [b]no man as well[\b]. Every single female you meet has succumbed or will succumb to temptation, and it may be unfair to expect anything otherwise.

This is why, as women have degraded sharply in the past century, the only way to keep men interested in marriage is through sustained cultural programming that makes them accept obesity (as beauty),vulgarity (as strength), promiscuity (as experience), bisexuality (as sexy), and equality (as just). Constant offerings of temptation are causing female value to plummet to such an extent that men have to be literally brainwashed to believe that women are still beautiful princesses who must be cherished and beholden to.

The challenge for men wanting to create a family is therefore not trying to find a good girl who can resist temptation but one who, through good parenting or sheer luck, has not yet been excessively tempted, and keep her there by building a "firewall" which prevents the devil from knocking on her door when you momentarily step away. The only way I can see this reasonably happening today is to find a girl who has economically poor parents that are religious and where she eagerly accepted their religious teachings. You will maintain her faith and give her a slightly upgraded standard of living that is valuable to her and her parents but not so valuable that you tempt her with status and riches. Go to the village to find the good girl, but you’ll have to keep her there, or you’ll find out for sure that she has no innate goodness like you may have thought.

Instead of asking women to possess moral strength that they simply don’t have, we should simply identify women who haven’t yet been tempted or who have made tiny mistakes when tempted strongly. If a woman moved to a big city, refrained from drinking, and maintained a religious social circle, it may be prudent to accept her if she made one or two mistakes.There aren’t many girls out there like that, but if you find and marry her, do your part in helping create a home, a neighborhood, a society where temptation is moved to the background of life like it was in the past, instead of being thrown directly in our faces like it is today.