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Hello Scented, I didn't read all comments on this issue to know if my thoughts have been expressed, regardless, I'l post what I have to say. First off, its been a while I've commented on here but for you, I have to speak up. From your narration, Daniel told you how he had mapped out his life with a timeline - getting financially capable, getting married in 2 years time, blah, blah, blah. My question to you is - did you tell him your plan(s) as well? Or perhaps, you do not have any other than what Daniel is offering? If this is the case, then I need you to take some time off and ask yourself some serious questions on what you want for yourself - your life and when you have done that, you let Daniel knows what your plans are. Secondly, from your description on Joe, he isn't bad a choice only that you don't have feelings for him, scratch that, let me rephrase, you are not the double-dating-kinda-girl, because what other reason(s) is there for you not to go on a date with him? or could it also be that you might fall for Joe if you did? Answer these questions yourself and be honest about it. Thirdly, feelings for Joe can't grow because you have not even given yourself the time to get to know him maybe because you are all focused on Daniel but I tell you, if you get to be around Joe as often as you have been around Daniel, you'l be amazed at how you feel for Joe. And finally, tell your heart to take it slow, infact, you need some time off from both parties to sort yourself out first, only then will you be able to make rational and unclouded decisions. Good Luck! 1 Like 1 Share |
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So this dumbarse is still on NL and he's still a dumbarse? Interesting, once a dumbarse alyways a dumbarse I guess ![]() ![]() ![]() |
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Good day, This thread is as a result of this comment, francafrank: I want us to interact, * How do these women get to this point in their lives? * What is it about their abusers that makes them wants to go back to them? * And do they exist men who enjoy being abused as well? Please, let's post our comments without insultive words as we all know this is a very sensitive issue, thanks. |
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coogar: Why coogar? How did they get to this point? |
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Icherishu and others, We need live stories like yours to let others know they can break out from their abusers and still be strong to move on, so thanks for sharing. Keep 'em coming guys. francafrank: What exactly is the problem with these women? How did they get to this point that, they ENJOY being abused cos I really can't get this. |
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bjennifer: I want to know, is there anyone who goes through this Menace. You see someone you really like but when he shows interest quickly you pull back and then the one who really doesn't send you is the one you are head over heels for... Hi bjennifer, Am positive most people on here have gone down this road and many still will but what they often fail to realise is, they are also part of the cycle,"head over heels for him but he's head over heels for another unpredictable being" and round and round the chase goes leaving hearts broken. Oh no, am not saying the chase and being unpredictable ain't cool - on the contrary, me likey ![]() That's right bjennifer, being in a relationship isn't all about the chase, it transcends way beyond that. So the real question here is, what is IT you want doll? A relationship or a fling? 2 Likes |
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Chidonsky: @carmelion...d bolded abt man is an expression dat shld b re-address there shld b no room 4 sentimental justification...I personal dnt encourage ladies 2 leap wit a lazy bottom bt if a man suddenly crash as a result of certain circumstances beyond human handle do u term such man unproductive and ambitionless...Is hard time dat ladies shld kill dat egocentric mentality of monetary love and generalisation...in 21century women nw see's men wit atm endowement as d men wit only marital prospective...it wn't b wrong if i say women are obiageli(meaning women come chop)are u all encouraging over dependent and laziness 2 d women folks...if a woman can't sacrifice little 2 make relationship or marriage work i wonder if love do exist...love shld nt b 1 sided because of d advocacy for gender liberty and equality...wit love u can brush up someone 2 bcom successful nt every failure 2day is failure by birth dey wer either into 1 venture or d other bt mayb somtin happened along d line u never can tell ur caring,advice,love may jst b wat he need 2 spark up again wit success....nt waiting 4 already made man 2 envelope wit even dos made men were 1nce failures in thier life endeavour b4 dey got it right or became who dey are 2day either by hardwork,luck,connection or favour...I once read d story of Tunde Obe a celebrity who had noting wen his girlfriend who later became his wife...he had noting d women gave up everytin 2 support him he later became a star nw dat same man is a millionaire 2day tnk God his wife stood by him in tin and thorns..gues wat..2day he respect d woman alot and esteem her as part of his success story...''life is a random walk "2day is bad does nt mean dat 2moro is nt bright....i tink love is better defined by hw much u can impact in someone's life nt hw much u can take 4rm him or her...let encourage love nt perversiveness, inequality and selfishness.tnx Hey, I think you misunderstood her. And to your comment, I believe a true relationship involves; * both hands working on it * sacrifices and compromises by both parties * finance, love and encouragement "wit love u can brush up someone 2 bcom successful And if anyone is planning to do the above, he or she should do so with an open mind devoid of expectations... 1 Like |
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carmelion: Good morning dolllllls Damn ![]() ![]() This is some funny facts but lots of truths in it, team jump & pass, lol. Hey Carmie. |
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coogar: Really? She likes the gifts and petting that comes after being battered? Does that sound sane to you coogar? Or wait a minute, are you trying to tell us it's okay for a woman to be battered so long as there are "gifts and petting to indulge her with" afterwards? |
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damiso: Well said! Guys, this is not the time to rain insults on her even though she deserves loads of it. I had the urge to also do same when I first read her story but held back cos I got strucked with what the aim of this thread is. I believe this thread was created to HELP those in abusive relationship regardless of their mistakes, so please let's stick to that. And even if her story were supposedly made up, you never know how much help we are given to someone out there who truly is going through this same shyte but scared of opening up? No info on here is a waste, this is WWW. 3 Likes |
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theLORDreigns: Well done but I don't get, have you called the Zanzibar's contact and same thing was said? |
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kenyattamoore: This won't be so easy to overcome kenyattamoore, but I need you to fight this with all you got. True you made a grave mistake being in this relationship and all, do not give up on winning this, it's a worst thought than death. 1 Like |
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coogar: Same way I think it's about affordability coogar, we never know. True, the idea of a gift coming from a loved one is appetising, but it isn't anymore if you are the one asking for the gift to be given with such cray actions. 1 Like |
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kenyattamoore: I am in a abusive relationship ,this for those who are saying what they will or not do if they find themselves in this situation .the last time he beats was yesterday .as I am writting now ,I have a bloody eye and wounds everywhere ...he squeezed my throat so hard until I stopped breathing ,kicked me in the head repeatdly and also kicked me in my lower abdomen,am still bleeding right now and I am very scared Your situation is a sad one but your giving up and not fighting this is saddest. If you can pour your hearts here to us, why can't you confide in someone whereever you are? Or is it your secret wish to die by his hands? |
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francafrank: This is sickening! If she could afford hollandis and every other gifts she so desire, will she be having such insane thoughts that could lead to her untimely death? My goodness, of what use is a dead corpse to hollandis or a bruised eye to one? Her mentality is simply flawed, geez! |
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IvyBlue: Cowgirl you are a good person ,God bless you!! Aww dear, am honoured - thank you and AMEN! |
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It's NOT a wrong thing to fall in love, it's just sad that falling in love with the WRONG person makes it so. @Op,I can see that you are an intelligent dude so I want you to bounce back and focus on your studies, it's all you should be bothered about right now. And for the money given out? Forget it man, it's gone, she ain't gonna pay you a dime back. 1 Like |
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Bwahahahahahahahahah ![]() ![]() And why are y'all crying on their behalf, isn't it obvious they don't need it? ![]() |
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Ewwwwww! This woman is helpfully- demonic and should be treated as such! |
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Hello everyone.. This topic got me interested cos am frightened by the number of teens attempting and committing suicides. Can't say about now but earlier this year, there were several stories of such on the front page, I always read them teary-eyed. Lemme share this, Presently, I have this teen (a girl of 20) who confided in me of her suicidal intentions, this was as a result of my closeness with her + I also observed that whenever she's with me, her mind travels - this got me even more interested and then, gradually and gently I probed and there! I got to know her mum was late, and her step mum (who is still yet to conceive) maltreats her and her brother every second she's home and their good-for-nothing-promiscuous pig of a dad? Dude does absolutely nothing to protect them, he'l rather whip them leaving both scarred. Each time I see or remember those scars on her body, I cringed and cuss both parents to their deaths. There is nothing she does that pleases both parents, they are always finding one fault or the other to get mad @ her and hit her, no praise whatsoever is given her even when she comes out top in her class, irony! I mean this girl is damn brilliant (God bless her soul). To cut the story short, I find time to always go visit her whenever I have my free-time, take a walk with her so I can uplift her spirit and also be her confidant and friend, kinda hectic as both parents won't let her use a mobile device. pointers I feel should help suicidal victims (esp teens)is our telling or lying to them we've had similar suicidal thoughts in the past, trust me, it does help - cos people feel comfortable and then open up knowing someone has gone through the same ordeal as they. Secondly, one has to be very observant (with our teens) as we can quickly tell when something is wrong in/with them. 2 Likes |
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C'mon Coogar, that was really uncalled for. |
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Cool thread Tgirl ![]() |
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jakeng: Hello all, Nah, didn't see anything wrong with what she did Mr. She's was just being blunt to you about what she wants, which to me is cool. "She's Desperate" LoL.. Nah, I don't think so - that's so 2000 and late if you ask me. Currently, women are shying away from getting married than rushing into one. 1 Like |
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Sad indeed,SMH! |
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"He was sleeping with me six times in a day. I kept complaining to him that I could not stand his intimate urge but he refused to listen to my plea; no family member was ready to help me, so I did what I did." This is sickening, especially the part where she complained and NO FAMILY MEMBER was there to help. Guess he never saw this coming huh, good riddance! |
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