Good day nairalanders,

I need help, guide and useful concerning this matter.

There a family I am close to. Recently, the father of the house died. Before his death, his wish was to send his son abroad for studies though no step has been taken till passed away.

The wife now wishes to fulfill his wish by sending the boy to the US for tertiary education.

The problem now is that the family has considered me to be the only person they want to discuss the issue with and wants me to help out about the issue, but I am almost a complete novice.

So, i need help on how one can secure admission to study in any of the higher institutions in the US.

Run to Abuja, that work will settle you. But pray to your God for guidance.

My friend almost made a costly mistake...
He was raising a boy less than a year old when the wife took in. He directed the wife to abort the pregnancy but she insisted she was not going to abort it. It took the intervention of a respected elder before the husband left her alone.

When it was time, she delivered triplets, a boy and two girls.

Till date, after eight years, he still shivers whenever he realizes that he would have killed three children at a go.

Me that have never seen my wife in a makeup, yet she is radiantly beautiful

Not your type after 5 years? O boi

U will understand if you needed him till you delivered your baby, but to keep him for 5 years when you know he is not your type is outrageous.

It's not true, PDP is the only deep rooted national party in Nigeria. It has survived worse scenarios.

Better, maybe that will help me scale down my spending on Solitaire and Captain Cook breads.

The boy- child has been neglected for too long. Most of the programs government, civil societies and religious bodies embarked upon in the last ten to twenty years have been to the neglect and sometimes detriment of the boy-child.

If both are not simultaneously trained, one will prey on the other, like we are currently experiencing.

Jayzx:
But science could have find something to end this AS issues start from the costly IvF and other methods

The White will hoard the technology if they have it, and release it to Africa when the method is about to go obsolete. It is a fact.

Know your genotype.
I'm AA with blood group A+

You need to be firm and let him know he must listen and obey you. It's also not a good sign for your child to protest against correction by hanging in a corner. He's simply saying the correction is not taken. Tame him now that you can.

This water no fall at all. The water be like staircase. Bros visit erin-ijesa in Osun state to have a proper view of waterfall.

After all said and done, we will all be gone.

Align yourself with Christ today by inviting Him into your heart, repent of your sins and live by the grace of God.

This is all that counts towards and in eternity.

Iamdbull:
Incase you Wondering why am just getting an haircut this year an haircut or a haircut goes for $20 here. But wetin man go do that's the price to pay for being a starboy.

So how do I look?

Wet the haircut bros, the first or second?

Hello nairalanders,

I am having a serious pain just at the entrance of my anus. It started mildly yesterday but it's preventing me from free flow in the rest room. Please what might be the cause and cure?

Thank you in advance.

There is nothing in what OP posted suggesting the brooms are meant for the APC other than his/her words.

There is more to this. She has not told you her real reason. Press her to come out to you. Those excuses are too flimsy if the guy is actually new to her.

Sincerely, I don't know what to say. You mean your mother-in-law still has so much influence on your marriage as to be the one to either make your wife stay or go for business? You will not have a sympathizer in me.

hotwax:
My lovely girlfriend is a sweet woman who always give me sense of assurance. She is very decent, caring and respectful. She is so firm that it took 4 months before we could talk about romance or trying it out.

She is well known in my family circle. I base in Lagos, she stays with her parents in ibadan, but she usually come around when my family members are having a gathering. She will cook for us, do the chores. Everyone grew found of her. My siblings do even ask of her. “Where is Anu? Take care of the lady ooo”. My mom who hardly get along with our girlfriends always ask about her. All these made me to be sure that’s the woman I was going to marry. After all, my people already knew her and they are getting along well. No complain from any angle

The Problem

Late October 2021, I informed her that I would be attending a ceremony in ibadan where stays. She was exited, she even told me she missed me, the kisses, sxx etc. She can’t wait to see me again. I was excited too.
I texted her the hotel address when I got to Ibadan.

She came, we hug, and she started kissing me, but we later calmed down afterall we are just seeing and we still have the whole night. So no rushing. She told me she saw domino pizza opposite the hotel that she is hungry for it. And this is where the devil came in.
She took some cash and prepared to go and buy the piza. She was walking out towards my hotel room door, so I stood to accompany her to the door, more importantly help her with the door. She opened the door before I got there, but I was behind her. A guy also came out from a room not directly opposite mine, (I actually knew when the guy checked in. He was dragging his trawl on the room walkway, so I guess he was a new guest).

As my babe came out, the guy was coming out of his room giving my babe seductive look. Immediately he saw there was a guy behind her, he quickly looked away. He went out of the hotel via the walkway, my babe also followed him because they were coincidentally going towards the same direction.

Truth be told, I never suspected anything. I was even mocking the guy in my mind, my girlfriend is the last person you want to mess with.
She came back with the pizza, sat on the bed, munch while she was busy pressing her phone. I suspected something must have crop up with the way she was busy chatting on whatsapp. She gave me no attention. So I joined her on the bed. With sad face she asked if I have tissue, I asked what happened, she said her period just came now. I said the bathroom has a tissue paper. She went in spent minutes in the bath, came out of the bath, to pick another pant in her bag. (She came with clothes, because she want to spend few days with me). She went back to the bathroom wash, did some other stuff.

She joined me on the bed, put my hand on her padded private. She used tissue paper as sanitary pad. She said sorry, I Bleep up. I said no she shouldn’t feel sorry. Her menstruation is my joy. Afterall you are not here because of sex. We have a lot to talk about tonite. So relax lets enjoy the night. She then told me she can’t spend the night. She has to go on the same day, before evening. She gave me reason that when her menstrual cramp starts she always boil water and other things. Hotel is not the right place for it. I agreed. 6pm, she packed and started going, I was busy on my laptop fixing my office assignments. I stood to see her off. She insisted that I should continue. No need. But I insisted, as I saw her off to the door, she insisted again, go and do your work na. I will take a bike just at the entrance, I don’t know what happened, I just agreed saw her walk out the walkway, I banged my door and continue my work on the laptop.

Then few seconds later, even if she wanted to get a bike, she will still be waiting outside for one, I remembered that the plate I used for lunch still has some leftover food and if not discarded will constitute foul stench in my room. So I picked up this plate to try and place it outside my door so housekeepers could pick it up.

I opened my room door, bend down to drop the plate at my door foot, I noticed someone standing at the door indirectly opposite mine. The person was knocking gently and calling on mobile too. I guess the person is trying to call the occupant of the room. But he/she was being careful not to knock the door loudly. I always mind my business, I said to myself, why do I care, this is a hotel. So I attempted to close my door. But then, something occurred to me, the person is a female and she wore white shirt, exactly like my babe. Out of curiosity, I looked back what I saw made me sick for days. The memory keep hitting my heart like dagger.

It was my woman, I didn’t know she saw me and became frozen looking at me praying I do not look back. But I looked back and saw her. She was shaking with her mouth widely opened. Then while the looking competition was on, the door opened and the guy opened the door waiting for her to come inside, when she didn’t go inside, the guy must have noticed she is looking at someone on the walkway, the guy also came out to see who she was looking at, he saw me and quickly closed and jammed his door.

Then I jammed my door too. She stood on the walkway for 10minutes. Then she started banging on my door. Calling my line. I didn’t answer. She sent text and also whatsapp.

“Its not what you think. I can explain. Something came up. Please open…I need to discuss something with you. I will not leave if you don’t open”. She did all that for like 20minutes. Then she left. That was the end of our 1+year relationship. She too did not bother to call or text after that day.

The whole thing felt like sharp scorpion sting to me. I never believe what I saw. Anything relationship started irritating me. I don’t think I can go into relationship again. These people are quick to call men dogs, but they are public toilet. I prefer to be dog than be where everyone dump their sper_m.

I believe you should listen to her, it will better inform you decision and choice.

mohims:

Are you indirectly advocating that we should go back to the law of Moses? I will only pay my tithe to the Church when the start supporting old testament laws like an eye for an eye. Because I cannot remember anywhere in the Bible where our Lord Jesus Christ talked about paying tithes to the Church. I cannot be brainwashed by these so called men of God anymore. Until I see a verse where Jesus talked about it in the Bible else I will NEVER make that mistake of paying my tithe to any Church. Whenever someone talks about the an eye for an eye law, these Preacher men will boldly tell you that Jesus Christ came and abolished the laws of Moses. But the one that concerns there pocket was never abolished right? Think Sir, it's very logical to understand who is deceiving who. You don't need rocket science to understand this.

Jesus did not directly talk about tithe but he told those paying it in Matthew to continue without running from other areas of the Christian life.

mohims:

I cannot give my tithe to someone who will be spending it on luxuries when there are some many people in dire need. God will bless more for giving it to the needy than giving it to the pastor who thinks of nothing but how to acquire private jet, the latest cars etc

Don't disobey God because of alleged indiscretion of others. You will deprive yourself of the blessings promised. You are not giving tithe to someone but to God. Anyone misusing the tithe meant for God will account for it before God.

Just pay your tithe and let God take over from there.

mohims:

God bless you for this.

Giving gifts or alms to the needy is good but should not replace or take the place of tithing.

jclassiq:

How many times have you seen that fulfilled in the so called churches who are always harping on tithe issues every day. ? Be honest

They are answerable to God. Just fulfill your obligation to God and leave the rest to God.

jpmoriarti:
Christ was speaking to the Pharisees, who were worshippers of Judaism and followers of the law of Moses.

Question is, are you are Pharisees.? Are you a follower of Judaism?

No where in the bible where Christ or disciple collected tithe or asked Christians to collect tithe.

Tithing is the law. We're no longer under the law of Moses.

Stop taking yourself back to the law because of money.

There are moral laws and ceremonial laws. Ceremonial laws are done away with while moral laws remain in operation.

The law of Moses says thou shall not kill, is it obsolete now? Your answer goes for tithe. Note too that Jesus did not condemn those who pay tithe even though he did not expressly take tithe. This is because he was not the leader in the temple.

mohims:

You get sense die. May God bless you abundantly.

The sense you apply to God's words and commands is what hinders you from simple obedience to His words, because most times, it does not make sense to you.

Be like Peter, he has applied the best techniques at the best time in fishing yet did not get fishes. Jesus told him to cast his net into the sea and said, 'we have toiled in the night which is the best time yet could not get anything, but at your word I will do it and he got more than he needed.

Until we stop applying our little sense to God's word, we would continue to criticise instead of participating for great harvest.

mohims:

Will you keep kwayet?

Your boldness and intimidation will not and cannot change God's expectations from you or any other person.

The easier way is to come into God's will for your life.

jclassiq:

What is the essence of tithe? As in, what is tithe used for? Pls tell me.

Tithe is meant to ensure there is meat in the house of God as stated in Malachi 3:10.

LollySeaSide:

Jesus rebuked the teachers of the law who paid tithes but neglected the really important things - justice and mercy and honesty. Matthew 23:23.
Kindly mention a place in the Bible where Jesus said people should pay tithes for the house of God.
I'll like to know.

I am happy that you know this verse, but you need to read it with understanding.

Jesus said in that passage ' this you ought to have done and not to have left the other undone'.

Jesus did not condemn them for paying tithes but for believing that paying tithes would give them good rating with God irrespective of how they lived their lives.

He challenged them to be upright and still should not stop paying their tithes.

I hope this helps.

Happy Sunday.

The word of God expressly commands that you bring all the tithes into His store house (God's house). You can make extra provision for beggars.

The challenge people have these days is that they want to help God manage the resources He has commanded to be brought to His house simply because they believe the resources are being mismanaged. Yet it does not change God's command.

Yours is to bring the tithe into His store house, the management rests on the leadership of the house and to God they shall give account.

Therefore, take your tithes to God as He has commanded and leave the management to those whose responsibility it is. The question whether they are properly managed or not should be between them and God.

Being left alone works for me.

Kobojunkiee:
You mean rather than opening themselves up to knowledge and hopefully wisdom, they should instead make a prison of their minds by submitting fo ignorance?

The knowledge of the book has grave consequences.

There are millions of books that will give any desired knowledge. It doesn't have to be the seventh book of Moses.

Internet popularity just sent this one to hell.