Callosobruchus:
Kai!When will some men discover when a woman doesn't have an iota of feeling for them no matter how glaring it is?This dude is either one of those small boys who want to get married inorder for them to give the society an impression of them being a full grown man or just an outright simp.

it is not about love.love alone doesn't sustain a marriage.if at your adult life you don't know this,I am sure you're still one of the people believing Lai Mohamed

Anyway the guy is simply not ready.its not a question of him being a simp.hes not ready to be married financially and mentally, period! It's just like a girl saying she's ready to get married but she's not ready to have sex because I don't understand how a man will claim to be a man and still want to be living under the shadows of his parents aka parents house.make he kuku dey collect monthly allowance aka pocket money from his wife's father then as he no get sense

1Sharon:


What home? The home of her husband's parents?

And the man that wants to marry into his parents home is not rubbish? You lot have truly lost it

no be small lost o

Like he go dey bring out preek when him know say him papa and mama dey house say he wan fvck him wife


Tufiaaa

emmeyen:


Ndi "if you love me, you will accept me the way I am". "I just need someone that will understand me". "Nobody is perfect". Make everybody just rest. Understanding fiancee say she no do again

lol understanding wife don enter one chance

blueAgent:


Story.

They would read and obtain all the degrees with little to show or impact.

abegii stop bringing down nigerians.na leadership failure we get, Nigeria is blessed with human resources.you to UK and other hospitals abroad,Nigerian medical doctors are rated the best and most sought after

emmeyen:




See just leave those people condemning the girl. Who no go, no know. She must have even agreed to stay there and after observing the family, the girl changed her mind. Some inlaws can be so entitled and demanding which will take a toll on their marriage. No power to write epistles abeb. All I see is a lot of men who are really not grown up and think being a man is all about having a male sex organ. The way I hate hearing a man talk about "my father's house". Who no get papa house? It's the mentality that makes them kill their siblings because of family inheritance.... Let the guy just leave first and see life outside. Haba. That guy will not move out of that house after the wedding, he will give another excuse. The girl has watched the guy and knows his mentality and reasoning and she decided to just stand her ground.
This country is too hard to add family baggage to it. Make everybody rest abeg.

exactly.

Even the epistle wey I write sef na because I get time.too many baby men in adult male body.from their utterances you go know them.no wonder na women dey quick age for African marriage.na the wife go dey resemble the husband elder sister because as inlaws dey carry their own garbage put for the woman head,the man too dey carry him own put for the woman head.tufuaaakwa.narcisstic men go make you die 10 times before you actually die


Tuehhh

Nigerians dey read abeg.given the right socio-economic environment,Nigerians will excel in whatever industry.infact they will produce multi billion naira conglomerates competing with Sony, Phillips, coca-cola and other billion dollar industry

Teymanhenry:


Most bachelors come prepared to marry the ladies they want. Na economic situation de cost the problems plus the wives extended family changing marriage lists and rights. I am a victim to this she's and my wedding is in two weeks time. Just this Monday I got a fresh list of items from my inlaws. I was surprised, that's after I have done traditional marriage few months ago oo

you better stand your ground and let them know that you have done everything you should do before them open office for your head.let them know that you no too hold make them no dey think you're otedola.because if you don't create firm boundaries now,after wedding they'll be coming to beg for one thing or the other and if you no gree they'll be using your wife to manipulate you and if she didn't succeed,she will start harassing you with nagging.

Some bride's families sef are not wise.they don't even know the more you frustrate the Man with billing,the more the husband takes out his anger on the wife.the way he's treated will determine how he will treat his wife

Meanwhile as for you please let them know that you can't do more than what you have done and if they insist,tell them to hold their daughter you will go to and look for another babe elsewhere.

There's a Yoruba proverb that says no matter how good mannered or beautiful a daughter is, her father cannot marry her.he has to give her out to a decent, reasonable and eligible groom

Egalitarian1:
She is not his.

They kept cancelling the introduction and he went ahead to think of marriage?
Hmmmm! What a SIMPle man he is.

He should go look for his own wife and let the community honeypot be, she will still regret it all when she will look for husband but none to show

some of you just type without thinking.is it about just getting married or staying married? All of you are just concerned about wedding not life after wedding which is more important.

After wedding, everyone will go back to their house and face their lives while she's stuck with a baby adult (a man that is not ready to grow up or be a man)

How can a grown man of marriageable age be shamelessly staying with his family.what kind of nonsense is that.e no make sense and if he knows he cannot afford to rent a house then he clearly is not ready to marry because let's even assume the bride agreed to stay in the family house,there are still other bills

Feeding expenses for mother and child, diapers,children's school fees, clothes, home necessities for cleaning,gotv etc.so if you know that you can't afford to keep up with the bills then be single.anybody point gun to your head that you must be married?

Abi when him and the wife dey do adult activities for night,shey make the parents, family members and everybody living in the house know say husband dey off the wife pants? Marriage requires some level of privacy abeg abi he go like am if them turn the wife to family house help and he can't even complain because it's family house. You people should be using your senses.the world doesn't revolve around your ego

As for the girl she too no try.there are some things that should be concluded way before introduction not to talk about wedding.all this indecisiveness doesn't make you look like you know what you're doing and it's giving immaturity vibes.if you see baby man that is not ready to be a man, leave him with his mummy before them pour load wet no be your own for your head to carry.you never even get belle or born them don dey tell you make you go live with your inlaws.you go see shege banza.as person wey old pass you, person wey no even be your last born mate go dey talk to you anyhow and you won't be able to do shii about it because you're in their family house.yes is good as you respected yourself by making a decision that will have turned you to a nonentity but it came too late


Go and ask women who stayed in their husbands family house before they eventually moved to their own house that the husband rented.tufiaaaakwa.every problem in that house will be put on you,if God wan punish you make you go have one saucy sister in-law wey the husband don frustrate or wey never see man marry,na you go suffer for it.you go dey chop insults everyday for everything you know and don't know, every mistake you made will be magnified,you go look yourself for mirror dey ask yourself whether you're the same person.

Aside that everyone go dey monitor your belle.if you no quick get belle,lol.your guess is as good as mine.every family member go call you barren.they will mock you either in secret or to your face.the shades and body language you go dey collect.lol.

I don't even want to go further but it's a very nasty experience for a lot of women I have seen but in all Sha both the husband and the wife are immature.even if the wedding went on na immaturity and inlaw intrusion for don Break that marriage

However like other people have said, the bride's family should return everything that the groom has spent on the wedding.it doesn't make sense that you don't want the man and be holding on to his gifts

onatisi:

He was a very young guy and it seems there was a minor disagreement between auxiliary boys and some traders selling phones at Iwo road . But as the argument raged on auxiliary was called and immediately he got there ,he just shot the guy , it was a very sad story. Attached is the story .

https://punchng.com/murder-so-cruel-how-popular-ibadan-thug-auxiliarys-gang-killed-36-year-old-father-of-newborn-twins/

auxiliary is a common street criminal that should be disposed off immediately.he has too much blood in his hands

matify83:
It was a fun filled childhood with you ovularia, ramota, jegede sokoya and of course natty and zebby. Not forgetting clarus and his co-worker gringory

You made us happy back then as we looked forward to every episode of the popular sitcom on NTA.

RIP Ovularia peterside

very true.it was a generation when women respected themselves and you rarely see nudity anywhere but now,it seems a lot of new generation women have lost their minds.no self respect,no dignity,no decorum,no decency.everything must revolve around sex for them

debanj326:
Auxillary was a big stain to Seyi Makinde's Image.

honestly and if seyi doesn't get rid of this nuisance ASAP,he will sabotage every of seyis good efforts in Oyo state.the audacity of auxiliary is quite irritating.daring and confrontating a governor of a state openly? That's extreme and the most annoying part is that auxiliary knows how to play the victim card.after misbehaving and they catch Him,he will now be claiming seyi is ungrateful, after all he has done for him.unfortunately seyi empowered him too much.infact auxiliarys case is like the proverbial favorite servant of a king who the king feeds the most and now the servant has gotten so overweight that he has forgotten he's a servant and wants to have his own kingdom right in the king's palace.

Even when tinubu was a governor,mc (even though I have my reservations with that One too) dares not do all the things auxiliary is doing to seyi.je can't try it with tinubu.he for don become a yesterday person in the the twinkling of an eye.tinubu nice o but he no get joy.

bobbiiee:
Largely so. Most people dont understand limit. Proximity to power does not mean one should not use sense and behave where necessary.

thank you.God bless you.i think it's illiteracy and overconfidence on juju made auxiliary to be misbehaving and I really like the way seyi dey put hand for their eyes

seunjungle1:
Tokyo should have long ago kill this nuisance.
Those illiterates shouting about the arrest of the guy don't know what use to play out in Ibadan....this is how we eliminate them one after the other...check history.

all of them are nuisance both Tokyo, auxiliary etc and it's politicians that caused the menace of these riffraffs.it was politicians that started involving touts into politics and the moment they got infused into politics,they started seeing themselves as inevitable especially during elections when politicians hire them.

I'm still waiting for the day we can do politics without thuggery in Nigeria

lagosrd:


You're wrong. He gave him another life line after the re election but the guy guffed. He said he can't harmonized the state transport unions with himself to the hearing of the governor. And he is touring himself as a party man that can scare anyone. Politics is not like that. What if his principal deflects to APC tomorrow morning, how will he feel and see himself ?

that auxiliary guy too do.aseju epo.seyi was really patient with him and gave him a long rope.he kept overlooking his excesses and disregard that it started irritating me myself but from my observation about seyi,he seems like a phlegmatic temperament aka patient wolf.they Will make sure they keep quiet and behave like weaklings so that you will underestimate them and then they'll see how far you can go before they pounce on you.seyi makinde Is someone that I like his leadership style a lot and I see choleric energy in him too in the sense that when he wants to do something and his mind is made up,he will do it and there's no going back.he has a good heart too

Racoon:
MC Oluomo the Lagos garrison thugs and tout commander is still roaming free.

Him time go soon come.just chill

Jakumo:


Cheap hobby-grade drones can patrol and film in 4K resolution remote areas where kidnappers can hide their victims yet are inaccessible to road vehicles. The Nigerian police could work so much more effectively if they were issued readily available Chinese-made DJI Mavic 2 Pro quadcopter drones that can cover over 13 miles round trip of pre-programmed surveillance flying and filming on a single battery charge when fitted with extra capacity batteries.

I wish things were as straightforward as the way you typed it in nigeria.i remember during the Jonathan administration, Jonathan did something like this unfortunately there were saboteurs and insiders giving out information to these criminals and oyinbos had to leave.forget matter.many Nigerians don't mind destroying lives as long as they make money

Jakumo:


These are some educative observations contrasting crime patterns in outlying rural areas with the situation prevalent within city limits. As an avid reader of Nairaland's crime section, I note that this is the SECOND occurrence of mass kidnapping that resulted in fatalities along a highway within a 5-mile radius circle to be recorded during the past month ending May 7th, 2024.

Just over a week ago in the same general vicinity as this latest kidnapping by highway blockade, a university lecturer was gunned down in the process of trying to escape being kidnapped along with others riding in the same car who were abducted at gunpoint and have not been seen since.

the Ogun state government is already in the matter

Hmnnnn these monsters don carry themselves go Ogun state.anyway I can count about 10 babalawo aka vodoo priests whose speciality is running criminals mad.the last time some young boys went to go and Rob a bank and destroyed their ATM machines,they were not in good health to enjoy the proceed of their loot because some of the indigenes took it upon themselves to report to babalawo who then did somethings that made them run mad.one of them can walk from iperu to shagam barefooted.

It's only in Lagos they can do shii like that and get away with it because of the population explosion in Lagos but you see those rural or slightly developed areas in shagamt and it's environs, they're still very much traditional in their lifestyle and ways of handling criminals.abybidy from shagam,iperu,ikenne etc knows what I'm talking about and can bear me witness.burst me if I'm wrong

codwyha:
It is illegal to deport Nigerians from anywhere within Nigeria. God punish Lagos state government

God punish your brain

EreluRoz:
Polygamous house, see as he build am. Yeye

God knows I can't live with another woman in same building in the name of co-wife, one person is surely going to pack and run away and it's definitely not me. . Anyways women in polygamy una try ooo kos I can't imagine you'll know he's having sex with the other woman today and tomorrow he comes to you with that same dick to have sex. Definitely not me.

and the children sef will be aware when their dad is taking turns to Bleep their mother and step mom


The kain abnormalities that goes on in polygamous homes is better left imagined

Imagine your children growing up watching their moms and step moms fight because of preek/ sex Everytime

Bimpe29:
That was heartless and barbaric. He was well served.

he was not well served.the deportation was not enough.they were supposed to throw him in the jail where rapists and murderers are before deporting him

wetrlr:
But he's her husband?

so that's a justification for domestic violence? If you're a brute why you no go marry donkey or goat,you marry person pikin dey begin suffer am

Birds of a feather

immortalcrown:
I keep saying that an average Nigerian is evil and stupid.

He was probably depending on her for survival. Yet he was toxic. Even the woman's condition didn't soften his heart.

So, violence against one's spouse is not a problem?

both the aggressor and the person typing are both psychopaths

You sure say one Yoruba preek no dey log into broda nnamdis wife cookies while broda nnamdi is in prison?

See topic of discussion for Monday afternoon on nairaland.smh

PerfectStranger:
Most elderly men think they're always right every time.
They always want to win every time using their age to emotionally gas light the young ones.

Sallah slap

true.i get that but that's not a justification to raise your hands on an elderly man.thats a bit too much

One nuisance gone.more like his group to go

fyzaila:


Who is too bitter if i may ask? Because i am a woman and can stand such lack of empathy.

haaa so you're a woman.that even makes you a danger to your daughters and toxic to your daughter inlaws if not you will show small empathy

Anashe:


I've had oby/gyn patients (pregnant women) with complete hair loss, loss of dentition, temporary blindness, paralysis, partial stroke, postpartum psychosis, etc. I think they need to start raising the awareness in Nigeria because of the things I'm reading here from supposedly educated people. Plus women need to start knowing the potential risks involved before having kids with nonentities. Dear God! I don't have the strength for Nairaland.

I think there are too many maniacs here on nairaland.i thought it's lack of education but many are demented and irritatingly ignorant.before wedding I think a lot of men need to be schooled by what child birth entails and the fact that every woman has their own peculiar experience unique to them.while some have it easy and straightforward some others come with complications.however if you see man wey dey sociopathic before wedding e no dey hard to know, just know say that one Na sorry excuse of a man.carry your shoe and japa

fyzaila:


You're right, feeling ontop nothing

go and heal you are too bitter.no be woman be Naija problem

When you are on the streets of nigeria,I don't care the state or city,you must understand that there are a lot of demented maniacs and violent people who are just waiting for a trigger to unleash their rage and violence so I cannot stress it enough to MIND YOUR BUISNESS AND FOCUS ON WHEREVER IT IS YOU ARE GOING.only a handful of people are sane,face your own issues before then carry wetin no consain you put for your head.avoid Street and roadside people that includes beggars many of them are psychopaths,poverty has made them schizophrenic.they feel no remorse for being wicked and unreasonable