You said "but I can't continue ..."

That is not True. You can if you want.

Men can disdain everything about their wife...beauty, sex, food, just name it BUT THEY CANNOT DISDAIN her prayers because they cannot disdain their maker. Please pray for your husband, pray for his likes, his passion, his conversion etc.

I suppose you are an ordinary wife and that is why your marriage is at this LEVEL. To bring joy back to your home you must be THE EXTRA_ORDINARY WOMAN.

If you don't fight your husband but don't add any value to his life, if you make plastic-apology whenever he corrects you, If you are the mother of his children -Baby Making Machine-, if you don't add to him and you don't take away from him, if you are help-to-eat wife instead of being his helpmate, then you are just an ordinary wife and that might explain why you are at this level in your marriage.

I would like to have a counseling session with you. If you don't mind meet me at RCCG-Josephs Palace, By Apple Junction, Amuwo Odofin GRA. Come on Sunday after church service in your church. You can come around 12noon and ask for Pastor Felix Oni.

Thank you.

Would it affect Lekki-VI-Island?

Sanusi is confused. The worst CBN governor ever.

its true

You are the problem here and not your child bicos you are expecting the wrong thing you would find in the right boy. For instance, kids about his age dont have good table manner and would not sit at the dinning table like an adult. Your child most certain would annoy if you expect the unexpected in him. My advise to you is visit baby center online and register your childs date of birth to get a weekly update of what to expect from him and how to react. cheers.

Kenny Dalglish has confirmed Steven Gerrard is fit for Liverpool's Monday encounter with Tottenham at Anfield. http://soccernet.espn.go.com/news/story/_/id/1017104/steven-gerrard-and-luis-suarez-back-for-liverpool?cc=3888

sheyguy:


Oga beaf, so the soldiers for carry box of chocolate go give the community abi. Next time they shld look b4 leaping, Obj never ordered the killings, it is just that in any proffesion u av some unwritten laws/ code of conduct. U guys av condemned the killing so far but nobody is criticizing the community for their acts.    

GBAM!!!

Spot on!!!

We don't hide criminals we expose them.

If OBJ is found guilty - let him be convicted and jailed but if not let the spirit of the dead hunt those who use their homes as shelter to kill our

soldiers and police men in cold blood

Long Live Nigeria.

God Bless Nigeria.

afam4eva:

This is not about ethnic bigotry. Even if the shoot-at-sight was targeted at his blood relative, he should be brought to book nonetheless. You must be ethnically bigoted yourself to think that this is about tribalism.

Would you initiate the process? also do not forgot to include Abacha (For Killing Ken Sarowiwa etc.), Gowon (For Genocide on Iboland), OBJ (For Genocide on TIV Land), Yar adua-Jonathan (for killing the Kanuris) etc,

Beaf:

I wonder who is worse between alj haram and sheyguy? How can people be so vehemently loud in their unintelligent and immoral arguments?
Damn!

If you add yourself, I think you the worst. Who defines what is an unintelligent and immoral arguments?

thehunted:


u are so right. i have been pointing this out on nl. obj sent the soldiers to kill the citizens of this country and some people are justifying his action. Pathetic!!! some people would support any sh,!t from their kingsmen and would never support good things from other tribes. OBJ must account for the lost lives of those people. jonathan removed subsidy,u guys were calling for him to die,obj killed almost all the male in that community and u guys dont want him to rot in jail. senseless bunch of eediots

You cannot understand it if you don't taste it - Is an old slogan of a beverage advert in year 2000. If there was a genocide, those who experienced it should voice it out and cry for justice then others would support you. You don't expect others to feel what you feel if you dont cry out. All yoruba haters please would sombody also drag the following to ICC?

Major Gen. Aguiyi-Ironsi & His brother Emeka Nzogu for the genocide Against the Hausas in the 1966 coup in the North.

General Yakubu Gowon for genocide Against the Ibos during biafra war

General Sani Abacha for genocide Against the Yorubas

Umaru Musa Yar'Adua & Goodluck Egbere Jonathan for genocide Against the Kanuris in borno (Please see link below as reported by Aljazeera)

http://www.aljazeera.com/news/africa/2010/02/2010298114949112.html

thehunted:


u are so right. i have been pointing this out on nl. obj sent the soldiers to kill the citizens of this country and some people are justifying his action. Pathetic!!! some people would support any sh,!t from their kingsmen and would never support good things from other tribes. OBJ must account for the lost lives of those people. jonathan removed subsidy,u guys were calling for him to die,obj killed almost all the male in that community and u guys dont want him to rot in jail. senseless bunch of eediots

If there was a genocide, those who experienced it should voice it out and cry for justice then others would support you. You don't expect others to feel what you feel if you dont cry out. All yoruba haters please would sombody also drag the following to ICC?

Major Gen. Aguiyi-Ironsi & His brother Emeka Nzogu for the genocide Against the Hausas in the 1966 coup in the North.

General Yakubu Gowon for genocide Against the Ibos during biafra war

General Sani Abacha for genocide Against the Yorubas

Umaru Musa Yar'Adua & Goodluck Egbere Jonathan for genocide Against the Kanuris in borno (Please see link below as reported by Aljazeera)

http://www.aljazeera.com/news/africa/2010/02/2010298114949112.html

nakedall:

and also OBJ should answer for the Ibos he killed during Ojukwu war.  

Was he the president of the nation then?

You cannot understand it if you don't taste it - Is an old slogan of a beverage advert in year 2000. If there was a genocide, those who experienced it should voice it out and cry for justice then others would support you. You don't expect others to feel what you feel if you dont cry out. All yoruba haters please would sombody also drag the following to ICC?

Major Gen. Aguiyi-Ironsi & His brother Emeka Nzogu for the genocide Against the Hausas in the 1966 coup in the North.

General Yakubu  Gowon for genocide Against the Ibos during biafra war

General Sani Abacha for genocide Against the Yorubas

Umaru Musa Yar'Adua & Goodluck Egbere Jonathan for genocide Against the Kanuris in borno (Please see link below as reported by Aljazeera)

http://www.aljazeera.com/news/africa/2010/02/2010298114949112.html

Goddex:

I suggest licences of the following media
organisations be withdrawn for deliberate
misinformation, outright lies and mischief,

1) Sahara Reporters,
2) The Nation Newspaper,
3) TVC, Lagos
4) The Nation Magazine,
5) Radio Continental (Lagos)
6) Daily Trust Newspaper

Plus all others EXCEPT CHANNELS TV

goshen360:

Am compiling a book on tithe and the truth your pastor is not telling you. Tithe in the church today is fraud and it is not a way God blesses people. Pastors have hammered more on that cos it suites them. Jesus rarely talked about money to his disciples. I will upload my comprehensive details after am done with the research. Willful giving is what the new testament church is based on.

we are waiting to see your heresies.

Guitarlife:


 It is quite revealing that prominent posters on  this religious section have chosen to abandon this informative  thread. I have watched helplessly as pastors have misled a lot of people aided by their own laziness. I want to ask all the pastors who collect tithes from their congregation to answer this questions.

1. Did Jesus collect tithe?

2. Did the apostles ever collect tithe? (having it in mind that the only form of giving as exemplified in thenew testament is the act of giving willingly remenber ananaias and saphira gave without being instructed what percentage they were to give. )

3. Do you know that the original tithe was only foodstuff and not money despite the fact that there was a legal tender at that time still money was never tithed it was only food crops because the aim of tithe in the first place was to make sure levite's did not starve(meaning they were expected to be noble and in no way affluent otherwise the tithe of money would have being requested ) .

4. The book of malachi chapter 3 that we always quote stipulates that tithe should be stored in the "store house" not the "synagogue" or "temple". The reason is that tithes are perishable in their forms hence they were stored in the store house.

Why will the Church having all these facts choose to still preach  the  gospel of tithe beats me. It's quite easier to defend polygammy than to defend tithe but because tithe is a monetary issue people have chosen to ignore it. SMH. read my other post on tithe. . . .
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@topic the problem of most christians is laziness they find it difficult to read. Rather they prefer to listen to som one expantiate the word of God to them. Them most important signal that the church was given thata a new christian order has commenced with the death of our lord Jesus christ is the tearing of the veil seprating the holy of holies the implication is that it is wrong for anybody to stand in the Gap for you as a christian. Infact you and your pastor are equally anointed he may appear more annointed due to the fact that he is more knowledgeable of his spiritual rights or he is brainwashing you. So how can a fellow levite like myself constitue himself as a tithe collector. The fact that anybody agrees to collect tithe means that they are nullifying the new order and they must also stop wearing clothes made with polyester and wool too.
 A whole lot of things is wrong with this present church please check this list out and prayerfully meditate on them.

1. bringing the dead into the church during burial ceremony.---The bible affirms that after death the rest is judgement therefore laying a dead man in the middle of a church is just not concievable.

2. Making wedding ceremony in the church compulsory for couples as a condition for the legality of their marriage----was mary and joseph wedded in a church. The marriage Jesus attended in canaan if it was in a synagogue it would have been stated .

3. Establishing of business empire sure makes the kingdom message secondary if not to the founder but to the members who are still nurturing their faith.

The earth is God's and the fullness thereof.

God is the owner of our Time and Resources.

Your Time is your life.

You trade your time for your salary. You are paid your salary for the time you spend at work which is given to you by God.

If your time gives you money when properly used it is right to give back to God what belongs to him - as the owner of that time he to you as life.

You money is not your money because you use God's time allotted to you to make that money.

Back to your questions.

1. Did Jesus collect tithe? The Money in the purse kept by Judas was it from business by the Disciples? Matthew 23:23 , these ought ye to have done, and not to leave the other undone. Jesus her approve both tithing and the act of mercy.

2. Did the apostles ever collect tithe? Paul wrote to the Corinthians "Now concerning the collection for the saints, as I have given order to the churches of Galatia, even so do ye. Upon the first day of the week let every one of you lay by him in store, as God hath prospered him, that there be no gatherings when I come." 1 Cor. 16:1-2

3. Question 3 & 4? Either cash or stuffs, pay your tithe and leave others to pay their tithe. It is commanded.

4. Others: Therefore judge nothing before the time, until the Lord come, who both will bring to light the hidden things of darkness, and will make manifest the counsels of the hearts: and then shall every man have praise of God. 1 Cor 4:5

Thank you and God Bless you

Integrity is defined as "The state of being whole and undivided: "territorial integrity". How many of us can boast of this on NL?

1. Have you ever slept with a lady/man you are not married to?
2. Have you ever cheated in an examination?
3. Have you ever falsify your age or data to get an unmerited advantage?
4. Have you ever make some financial gain against the rule or ethics at work?
5. Have you ever cheated on your wife?
6. Do you behave at home/work or in business the same way you behave in church/mosque?
7. Is God not separated your from Business or work Ethics?
8. Have ever given Bride or take bride from someone?
9. Have you ever lied? Even when it is not necessary?
10. Have you ever participated in any electoral fraud?
11. Have you ever taken what does not belong to you?
12. Did you not cheat to pass you WAEC? JAMB? etc.
13. Have you not  granted unmerited favor to anyone simply because he is from your village at the expense of another man from another village?
14. Tell me you never stole? Fought? Cursed? etc.

The list is endless

When you accuse others you might just be as guilty as them if not more.

room702:

i co-sign this and this is what i've been doing for the longest time

Stop Blowing your trumpet! Let everyone do what they perceived is right. One day we would all die and face our maker in Judgment. Wait until then and stop judging others. It is however commendable that you give to the poor. That is very good. I would advice you to also pay your tithe and offering because God commands it and leave the "people chopping" to their God. God Bless!!!

Nchara:

Only illiterates start a sentence with small letters and no observation of punctuations. Now be gone to a kindergarten class.

Gbam! Tell me u have difficulties understanding simple phrases. brighter grammer would be ok.

Onlytruth:

I personally don't think that [b]ogugua88 [/b]has lived in Nigeria AS AN ADULT.
She sounds so goofy. lol

@topic

I noticed how robust and well fed our folks are in SE.
Nna we no dey carry last any day!  

The killing has to stop in the North though.

Enough is enough.  

It would stop, but the only apparatus of the state that can stop it is already working on it. Or are you saying the process is slow? Then pray!!!

Nchara:

Illiterate cretin. What's it with Gbam allover the damn place, Alj Harem? Is that your new vocabulary? Ewu awusa

Gbam!!! You are obviously behind civilisation. have you heard of cabalocracy? Please come to west for special education so that we can avoid another disaster yet to happen who knows you might become another president of Nigeria tomorrow.

alj harem:

My brother, it is envy which has turned to hate

You see, they ask why alj harem hates them, well this is one of the reason why I do not like them. Why I am always against them on NL.

The arrogance they have is what is killing us as a country.

GBAM!!!

ebosed:

comment on this:

Thank you fellow country-man. They need to come out of the creeks.

Nchara:

Your father should have emptied the s.p.e.r.m that gave birth to you into the stream. He gave birth to a sub human, a chimp.

GBAM! Imagine the level of violence running through your veins. What are you angry at? Please come out from among them, so that you can smell better life and be more civil. This is good for your future.

Nchara:

Alj Harem:

Take your grossly jaundiced and biased point to your father.

GBAM! You see why you need proper education? Why you need to leave the creeks and live among humans?

Nchara:

Obviously you see only with one eye. Was your second eye so blind that you did not see the insults those who protested were raining on those who did not protest?

comment on this:

ebosed:

Fellow Citizens,

Lets neglect comments of our beloved brothers and sisters from the east and south south- Their comments is a type of corruption in itself called nepotism - i.e. giving unmerited favour to your kinsman at ALL COST when he least deserves it. OBJ did not win election even in his ward in south west in 1999 but we delivered the west to Jonathan in 2011. We are civilized people without sentiment. We protested against some people called cabals to make sure Jonathan was confirmed acting president. No sentiment

Where was SS/SE when we protested against the CABALs who failed to make Jonathan the substantive acting president when Yar adua was sick? Did they join in the protest? No. Where were they when we protested against Abacha and IBB? Where were they when we protested against OBJ on fuel subsidy led by Oshiomole? Where were they when we protested against the annulment of June 12 election. Where were they when The Ganis, Kutis, Falanas, alfreds, faseuns, Adesanyas e.tc were laying their lives to make Our President beneficiary of the struggles he knows little about. The history of civil protest in Nigeria has also been without them because they are educationally disadvantage, they cannot protest for or against what they don't even understand.

Jonathan came to Lagos and danced before us like a beggar pleading for our votes, he danced to the same music we played at Gani-Fawehinmi park we trusted him and voted him, even OBJ did not get that kind of support. Now we did the same thing and people who now claim to be his brother are angry, Jona himself is angry. Why are you angry? What kind of people would call a fellow man Monkey? We understand the average psyche of anyone from the east, you got admitted to our universities with 5 ordinary passes because we recognised you are educational disadvantage and we don't expect much sense from you.

If you can relate well with your environment, you would agree that the protest was avoidable, if Our President (Not Ijaw or Ibo President) respect the constitution he swore to uphold. The National Assemble - Who were the representative of the people convened on an usual day -Sunday- and spoke with one voice that he should revert back to 65 Naira. But he declined. When the President violate the principle of democracy and disrespect the peoples reepresentatives he gets what he deserves-Peaceful protest.Respect is reciprocal.

Should a man who lives on the bank of the river wash his hand with spittle? - An Ibo Proverb
Should a man bite the finger that fed him? An Ibo Proverbs
Is it not greed that makes an hunter who killed an elephant to still want to hunt for rats on his way home?

While I agree that it is never right to Kill another man for any reason like the Boko-Haram sect, It is the act of oppression through military force like the ones deployed to forestall peaceful protest in Gani Fawehinmi Park that might have been responsible for the creation of such sect. Your sect in south south (Kidnappers) and SE (otokoto) was the result of similar neglect. Yar-Adua was responsible enough to listen to you, bring you out of the creeks and send you to school so that you behave like responsible people. Because he listened he even appointed - Jonathan as his running mate. Let Our President - Not Ijaw or SS or SE President listen to us and we would have a better Nigeria.

Nchara:

Obviously you see only with one eye. Was your second eye so blind that you did not see the insults those who protested were raining on those who did not protest?

That Exactly is my point, you uncultured manner. GBAM!

nedu210:

@ebosed, i want 2  respond to your comment cos of the way u put it, and i can see dat u ar not like other yoruba dat eat insult as mornin, afternon and night food, although u insulted, but u put your insult in a civilized way.  But u got many things wrong my broda, the igbo hav always been with sw in many thing, but hav the sw been with us as we hav been with then?  NYSC we were with u ppl, in abiola we were with u ppl and so many other 2many to mention. I dont knw about any protest about obj subsidy, GEJ is not an igbo and its not all about an ijaw but all about wat we think is write, ppl said the removal of subsidy is good but the time is bad and dat is true, but wat use is the protest if the removal of subsidy is gud? And why did u tag this non protest se/ss, did u see any protest in benue,kogi,adamawa and jos. Ppl dat dint protest did wat they felt was right its just as simple as dat. @ogugua, it dosent matter were u come frm or wat ppl think about u, l alway tell ppl dat wat matters is wat u think about your self, alway do wat u think is right. Like me i dont care wat ppl think about igbos i only care wat we igbos think about our self.

Good comment. I might not be absolutely right as you sensibly observed. The point I seek to make clear on NL is that it is not about NEPOTISM. As you rightly observe some states did not protest because it is their right not to protest but they did not condemn others who did. All the post I have seen here on NL by people who claim to be from SE/SS shows some unfortunate disadvantage of improper education. I am ashame that people all over the world could be reading this. Those who protest and those who don't have their right to so do. But when some people begin to rain insult on others for protesting we need to enlighten them. I was born in the north schooled in the east and live today in the west. I have always seen every human being the same african or not, and love people including you.

BERNIMOORE:

HELLO THERE, ARE YOU THERE?LAGOS,ITS N65 OR NOTHING,NO NEGOTIATION, THEN I WAS EXPECTING MOTHER OF ALL STRIKES IN LAGOS,AND I DONT  THINK SOLDIERS CAN SUPPRESS THE DETERMINATION BUT ALL OF A SUDDEN,FREEDOM PARK WAS AS SILENT AS A GRAVEYARD TODAY OF ALL DAYS 'MOTHER OF ALL strike  DAY'BECAUSE OF some TINY SOLDIERS CARRYING COMMON IRON, ase ee tie le. NOICEMAKERS. I THINK EVERYONE CAN SEE NOW THAT IF YOU FOLLOW LAGOSIANS OR LISTEN TO THEIR EMPTY THREATS,THEY WILL USE YOU.COWARDS,mother of all strike koo father of all strike nii.they started comparing theirselves to syria egypt and libya where real shooting occur everyday and they are not intimidated but carry-on,TODAY ONLY TEAR GAS AND FEW GUN SHOTS,NA RUN.SOME just participated in morning frog jump,its good for the body,but not under soldier's supervision anyway.

Fellow Citizens,

Lets neglect comments of our beloved brothers and sisters from the east and south south- Their comments is a type of corruption in itself called nepotism - i.e. giving unmerited favour to your kinsman at ALL COST when he least deserves it. OBJ did not win election even in his ward in south west in 1999 but we delivered the west to Jonathan in 2011. We are civilized people without sentiment. We protested against some people called cabals to make sure Jonathan was confirmed acting president. No sentiment

Where was SS/SE when we protested against the CABALs who failed to make Jonathan the substantive acting president when Yar adua was sick? Did they join in the protest? No. Where were they when we protested against Abacha and IBB? Where were they when we protested against OBJ on fuel subsidy led by Oshiomole? Where were they when we protested against the annulment of June 12 election. Where were they when The Ganis, Kutis, Falanas, alfreds, faseuns, Adesanyas e.tc were laying their lives to make Our President beneficiary of the struggles he knows little about. The history of civil protest in Nigeria has also been without them because they are educationally disadvantage, they cannot protest for or against what they don't even understand.

Jonathan came to Lagos and danced before us like a beggar pleading for our votes, he danced to the same music we played at Gani-Fawehinmi park we trusted him and voted him, even OBJ did not get that kind of support. Now we did the same thing and people who now claim to be his brother are angry, Jona himself is angry. Why are you angry? What kind of people would call a fellow man Monkey? We understand the average psyche of anyone from the east, you got admitted to our universities with 5 ordinary passes because we recognised you are educational disadvantage and we don't expect much sense from you.

If you can relate well with your environment, you would agree that the protest was avoidable, if Our President (Not Ijaw or Ibo President) respect the constitution he swore to uphold. The National Assemble - Who were the representative of the people convened on an usual day -Sunday- and spoke with one voice that he should revert back to 65 Naira. But he declined. When the President violate the principle of democracy and disrespect the peoples reepresentatives he gets what he deserves-Peaceful protest.Respect is reciprocal.

Should a man who lives on the bank of the river wash his hand with spittle? - An Ibo Proverb
Should a man bite the finger that fed him? An Ibo Proverbs
Is it not greed that makes an hunter who killed an elephant to still want to hunt for rats on his way home?

While I agree that it is never right to Kill another man for any reason like the Boko-Haram sect, It is the act of oppression through military force like the ones deployed to forestall peaceful protest in Gani Fawehinmi Park that might have been responsible for the creation of such sect. Your sect in south south (Kidnappers) and SE (otokoto) was the result of similar neglect. Yar-Adua was responsible enough to listen to you, bring you out of the creeks and send you to school so that you behave like responsible people. Because he listened he even appointed - Jonathan as his running mate. Let Our President - Not Ijaw or SS or SE President listen to us and we would have a better Nigeria.

Fellow Citizens,

Lets neglect comments of our beloved brothers and sisters from the east and south south- Their comments is a type of corruption in itself called nepotism - i.e. giving unmerited favour to your kinsman at ALL COST when he least deserves it. OBJ did not win election even in his ward in south west in 1999 but we delivered the west to Jonathan in 2011. We are civilized people without sentiment. We protested against some people called cabals to make sure Jonathan was confirmed acting president. No sentiment

Where was SS/SE when we protested against the CABALs who failed to make Jonathan the substantive acting president when Yar adua was sick? Did they join in the protest? No. Where were they when we protested against Abacha and IBB? Where were they when we protested against OBJ on fuel subsidy led by Oshiomole? Where were they when we protested against the annulment of June 12 election. Where were they when The Ganis, Kutis, Falanas, alfreds, faseuns, Adesanyas e.tc were laying their lives to make Our President beneficiary of the struggles he knows little about. The history of civil protest in Nigeria has also been without them because they are educationally disadvantage, they cannot protest for or against what they don't even understand.

Jonathan came to Lagos and danced before us like a beggar pleading for our votes, he danced to the same music we played at Gani-Fawehinmi park we trusted him and voted him, even OBJ did not get that kind of support. Now we did the same thing and people who now claim to be his brother are angry, Jona himself is angry. Why are you angry? What kind of people would call a fellow man Monkey? We understand the average psyche of anyone from the east, you got admitted to our universities with 5 ordinary passes because we recognised you are educational disadvantage and we don't expect much sense from you.

If you can relate well with your environment, you would agree that the protest was avoidable, if Our President (Not Ijaw or Ibo President) respect the constitution he swore to uphold. The National Assemble - Who were the representative of the people convened on an usual day -Sunday- and spoke with one voice that he should revert back to 65 Naira. But he declined. When the President violate the principle of democracy and disrespect the peoples reepresentatives he gets what he deserves-Peaceful protest.Respect is reciprocal.

Should a man who lives on the bank of the river wash his hand with spittle? - An Ibo Proverb
Should a man bite the finger that fed him? An Ibo Proverbs
Is it not greed that makes an hunter who killed an elephant to still want to hunt for rats on his way home?

While I agree that it is never right to Kill another man for any reason like the Boko-Haram sect, It is the act of oppression through military force like the ones deployed to forestall peaceful protest in Gani Fawehinmi Park that might have been responsible for the creation of such sect. Your sect in south south (Kidnappers) and SE (otokoto) was the result of similar neglect. Yar-Adua was responsible enough to listen to you, bring you out of the creeks and send you to school so that you behave like responsible people. Because he listened he even appointed - Jonathan as his running mate. Let Our President - Not Ijaw or SS or SE President listen to us and we would have a better Nigeria.

noiseless:

Have you finished?  I'm sure that you agree that some people where denied education cos awolawo subsidised education for his people only, and he said that coacoa was a cash crop that was found in yorubaland,so only the yorubas can benefit from it,as he believed nigeria was just a geografical expression while other leaders allowed their ressuces to be used to run nigeria.And yet despite all the free education the yorubas enjoyed all you can show for it is fake digrees and this braging of yours that you are educated than everyone and play 419 on them,that is what you know and do best, GET A LIFE PLS.

Please answer my questions below, they are your proverbs.

Should a man who lives on the bank of the river wash his hand with spittle? - An Ibo Proverb
Should a man bite the finger that fed him? An Ibo Proverbs
Is it not greed that makes an hunter who killed an elephant to still want to hunt for rats on his way home? An ijaw proverb