For doing it in the first place, "you are a mumu ma"

Climatology100:

Hmmm, thanks bro for your input.
My service year was the defining year in my life, I have spent majority of my life with people I know so I need a change in environment as I was pleased to be posted to core northern state far from home.
I only wrote down the date we had sex not just for that day but for every sex we had, protected or not so it's not a planned stuff.
I messed up, I really do but I'm alive and capable to take care of the girl so it hurt me everytime I reason that someone else is taking care of her.

So which do you prefer, to speak out now and ruin her new marriage and her life too, or to stay calm and urge her to do the right thing?
See the best thing is to meet up with her one on one and thoroughly discuss it, if she refused to meet up, threaten to leak or speak out, then believe me she will meet up, when she does, be calm, do not do the talking, let her do, only tell her you know the baby is yours and you deserve to know what her next step is. If its good enough, then play along, if it isn't, bro get your child back with full force, but do it wisely, so it doesn't ruin her life, as this is 50-50% chance of her life being ruined or not.

If she is wise enough, she would have explained to her new husband before the marriage

Climatology100:

Bleeped up? Please make me understand as this issue is really affecting me.

1. You got her pregnant and ignored her which later ended up in a miscarriage. I think God was trying to get to her and give her second chance.

2. You got her pregnant again and she asked you if you are ready for marriage but you said "you will get back to her"

3. You lost contact with her, like why will you write down the date you had sex with a girl, when you are not up to something?

You f*cked up! For how long will she wait for you? Even if you are not ready for marriage yet, why have sex un-protective? Let's agree its a mistake, but why didn't you give her hope? Instead you told her "you will get back to her" and then you lost contact, I ask you for how long?
She found happiness and moved on, and now you are ready for the marriage and baby, isn't it?

Oga you have caused enough damage, let the girl be. She will do the right thing required, when the time comes, and this is only if she is sensible enough too.

Don't ruin the baby's life, Don't ruin your Ex life, Don't ruin the early marriage.

Because when you ruin all, you will never be there for them, you will always ignore them like you have always done. Just let them be! Do not cause more damage.

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