Having to marry someone known by your parent (family friends) is one of the excellent practices of old that the so called education has eroded from this generation.

Marrying a complete stranger is risky and bad at the same time, except in few cases and that is by chance.

Have you seen people married to beautiful lady and the best he ever came across but ended with regrets because it happens that some special diseases (e.g. bipolar disorder) got transfer to all his kids and the wife also suffer from such? Go for parent recommendation. they know what we don't know.

My Sincere advise is to take the opportunity your parent is trying to give you. Marrying to a family friend is one of the excellent support a parent can do for their child/daughters. Because they know the history of that family and several information that you don't even know.

Please go for her if you like her physically (if she likes you and you like her).
never reject the proposal just because it came from your parent. Noooo, please accept your mother's suggestion and make her happy and I can assure you you will never regret the decision by the grace of God. The fact that it came from your parent should make you go for it. you may leave to regret the decision if you don't accept your parent suggestion. Marrying totally strangers in the name of love is dangerous., unfortunately the innocent children often leave with the effect of their father's decision to marry a stranger, whose family history were not know. by the time special ailment starts coming it will be too late.

You may private chart me for more family related counselling.

please accept your mother's suggestion and make her happy and I can assure you you will never regret the decision by the grace of God.
cheers...

wishing you all the best.

Dear
Please and please don't try that relocation plan. It is might most likely end up in regret.
Any Country that you can make such savings at your age will surely produce more money and opportunities to grow.

Relocation is for jobless or hopeless people in their current location, so they need to try something different.
But for someone doing something profitable, please relocation is not an option.

I want to ask you a question :
Why do you think Dangote and other richer Nigerian have refused to relocate? That is a deep question for you.

It is only your Country that can give you the fulfillment of life with your money... Once relocated just forget about that honor... people around you in your new location will see you as a slave that has come around to make a living...

Talking from experience please.
You may contact me for personalized advise.

Wishing you all the best.

udoji2021:


I mentioned you on another thread. you can reply me there for my details or should I drop my phone number

Please drop your number for me or email address so that we can connect in shaa Allaah.
Wishing you all the best

udoji2021:


I mentioned you on another thread. you can reply me there for my details or should I drop my phone number

Sorry, I did not see your mention referred to.
Feel free to let me know your phone number n I can call you in shaa Allaah.
Or are you the one from Ekiti?
Thanks

udoji2021:


Thank you so much for this.

I really appreciate.

How can I contact you, I will mention you on another thread cos I don't want to drop my number here .

thanks again

Okay.
I also don't know how to contact you.
May bz the admins can help link us together.
Looking forward.

Dear owner of this topic.
Considering how you met your wife, she looks a very responsible and caring one.
However you have not allowed the way of God to be your guide. You need to get close to God Almighty. Having her sleep in your house the very first day is a sinful habit. I wish you both God's forgiveness.
However as things are the pregnancy could be her main problem causing all the erratic behaviors. You have to be patient with her.
Lastly, you need some financial help to support her and buy her good food since pregnancy sometimes makes women crave for special foods. I zm willing to help you a little on this in shaa Allaah.
Please get accross to me privately or let me know how to contact you. , I have advises for you and your wife plus little financial gift in shaa Allaah.
All the best

Dear
You are exposing yourselves to too much temptation. Why sleeping in the sqme room when you are not legally married? That is not correct.
Look, ladies might take time to develop sexual feelings but when she finally does it is very difficult for her to surpress that urge. Therefore, she is sexually frustrated.

You are not suppose to stay in the same closed place without a third person else satan will tempt you both. And when it comes to satan temptation on sex issue females are easily used.

You guys need to understand the book if God. You should not open the way to temptation. How can you sleep with q lqdy on the sqme bed and you are then saying no sex? Which scripture are you using? Things does not work like that please.

Please try to keep distance till you get married.

Contact me privately for further family related guide.
Wishing you all the best.
A professor and Family advising specialist

If possible, Kindly reply me privately to hopefully provide a more practical solution to your problem.

As you are, you need quick and lasting solution to avoid stories that touch.

If you have an Islamic center near you please try to visit them and let them counsel you. They will provide you with the lush needed trust and support at this critical time if your life.

God loves when any person repents sincerely and He is always ready to forgive. Infact He promised to forgive and also changed the past evil to good deeds for such sincere repentant person.

Please take action as soon as possible.

Wishing you all the best.

Where are we going in this Country?
Things kept going down everyday?

Commissioning just 2 trucks?
This is unfortunate...
So how many local government will this two Tru s service?

When you see complete fire fighting set and office in almost every major street in other climes...

I weep for my Country...

Dear fellow Nairalander,

Although there are currently no scientific proof linking telecoms mask to any diseases but that does not mean it does not exist.

History show that several powerful corporation have often use money to dissuade people from coming out with scientific fact linking their bussiness with danger...

However, from practical experience I have seen a friend that got the entire house of his father dissolate due to the adverse effect of next plot telecoms mask. After the erection of the mask people in the house started feeling somehow, initially complaining of the vibration. Later people started coming down with undiagnose diseases. At that point tenants started moving out, but his father could not. He lost his father last year after persistent similar sickness to those that moved out.

After the death of his father he has to relocate all remaining family members to another rented apartment far away from the mask.

The friend has been trying to get legal support to this issue but no success yet.

For me, I will not support erecting a mask closer to our house no matter the fee. Dangers must surely be in radiation looking at the way radio and tv behaves when you place your phone close by. The fact that WHO did not raise official alert does not rule out possible side effects.

Several things in the past have been allowed to cause lots of havoc before WHO finally issue statements.

Wishing you the best of decisions. But my advise, never allow money influence your decision.

The humming and vibration from the engine is enough a disturbance to you and your neighbors...and your neighbor has a right over you...don't bring disturbance to them because of money...life is more precious than money...


Thank you.

Dear All.
My candid advice is to stick to your two wives. Just to be just among them and treat both fairly.

The idea of having more than one wife is not new. Several Chosen Prophets of God practiced it and they still found the face of God Almighty.
In fact the present doctrine of Christianity where they strongly disallowed polygamy does not have any scriptural basis. Christianity has created lots of confusion for people who might want to worship God sincerely (apology to my fellow Christians, i don't mean to offend anyone). Look at the issue of marriage, some Churches still believe that it is better not to marry. That is why you cannot not become Pope (or even Leaders in some churches like catholics) if you are married. These unauthorized practices has forced several people into secrete fornication or adultery.

There are several reasons why polygamy is the best option if you have the capability. Abraham , the father of faith practiced it and lots of other Prophets. So where did the strange of one wife one husband came from?

Several ladies would have been saved from the trouble of lack of husband if Xtienity allowed this God-approved marriage to more than one wives as He allowed His beloved Prophets to do.

Finally Dear brother, please stick to your wives. Divorcing at this time is not an option for you. You will end up creating more problem for your children. Do you even know which of the Children will be great personality in future and you are thinking of sacrificing such unique child upbringing due to unsupported doctrine of one man -one wife. A doctrine that is not in line with the nature of man and that does not looks practical except for few people.


For more guidance and possible followup do feel free to contact me privately.

Regards,
Professor
Expert in Family Counselling.

Dear questioner.
Please allow the marriage after investigating the guy very well and you find out he is very responsible, God-fearing person and he is from very good home.

If the findings are positive then let the marriage hold as soon as possible. It is not compulsory for a person to be in University before getting a better marriage and living a fulfilled life.

Don't opposed the marriage please if the above findings are positive in results.

Evidences abounds of several advantages of early marriages. In fact scientifically the best age to marry is 18 to 24 years for ladies.

I wish her all the best.
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From experienced married councellor and Professor.

Dear Brother.
I really pity you for what you are passing through. May God guide you to taking the best decision for you in both worlds.
I have so many advises and inquiries to make regarding your marriage but this medium might not be the best mode to do it. If you don't mind you may offer me your email address and i will contact you privately and i am even ready to call you and talk on phone if you provide your contact number.

Meanwhile, summarily i say the following:
1. patience is never too much, and i thank God that He granted you patience during the episode you described.
2. . It is always good for someone to have the narration from the other side before a balanced judgment could be made, but there are few things from your narrations that point to the fact that your marriage was not properly conducted in Godly manner and you most likely married the wrong person. Few of such inductions are as follows:
a. Having premarital relationship is Un-Godly and the often stated reason that it allows both spouses to know themselves better and prevent marital problems does not hold water. This you can see in your case now. Despite the long courtship (since University days) you still ended up with this troubled marriage. But it is not too late. There is still room to repent to God and He is forgiving and merciful to anyone that sincerely repent and amend his or her ways.
b. Another thing is that there should be something you seriously seek after in a girl that made you went back to her after she has tasted another man (in a wrong manner). This is by far the greatest mistake! This is one of the wisdom of the Almighty God in prohibiting premarital sex. Once a woman has tasted the goods in another man she will constantly compare you with such person (psychologically or otherwise). So the question is what exactly made you so desperate to return to her after she has started with another man? Now for the past one year you said the marriage has not been peaceful!
c. Are you both practicing the same profession in Saudi Arabia? Both of you working? What amount of time did you give to her? Knowing that ladies like their man to give them time to chart and relax together. It is also her right that you must provide to her.
d. Coming from job and heading straight to watching TV while your wife is at home is at home is not correct. Why? were you fighting before?
e. Note that marriage should bring piece rather than evil. You need to work out a lasting solution to your marriage as soon as possible. (I am ready to offer advises if you allow on personal level through phone on this). Marriage troubles that are not resolved early do lead to bad consequences like spouses murdering the partner and all sort of other vices (May you never experience such evil). So act fast. Since you have married her you need to make the marriage work. If you are not ready to make it work then better the two of you do the needful separation to avoid greater evils. I know many Christians do frown at separation (divorce) but unfortunately it could be the only solution in some cases that will ensure both parties lives happily after the separation and they could both get married to partner that will be compatible and things will work out. But please note that separation is the last option after all efforts to reconcile and make the marriage works failed (You don't jump out of marriage because you have a problem in your marriage, otherwise you ended up beeing a serial and continuous divorcee (or divorcer-lol) because there are always issues with marriages but they get resolvable). But as a fact, a divorce is far better than a forced marriage where the two parties consistently live as enemy and with resultant consequent of murder or suicide in some cases.
f. If you stay in Saudi Arabia and your marriage is this chaotic then i imagine what you will be facing if you are both in Canada or USA. Perhaps she could have thrown you out of the house through divorce (you know ladies over there have this advantages). Why i say this is that there have been cases of women for example who were very humble and respective to their husband while staying in Saudi Arabia but quick to kick the husband out of the house once opportune to relocate to the West.

Finally, work on your marriage and make it work and if all efforts fails then do the needful.

To the yet to marry, please say "no" to premarital sex or courtship because it is sinful and against God's plan for us to live a happy and happy married life.

I wish you all the best.

Good Morning all.
I like to remind us a basic ethic of life: The children have no right to insult their father or mother no matter the fault of the father or father. Two wrongs cannot be right.

In as much as i pity his frustration, but going out to lambast his Dad is very wrong and uncivilised and above all it is very anti social. A God fearing person and properly raised children don't do that. I hope he repent and reconcile with his Dad ....otherwise it could spell a big curse...

I wish them well.