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Mekanus:
Ozumba is a fraudster, Batho was the best Vc in that school. The cleaners were always doing their job then, I guess that must have changed now.

Very true!
Sad enough, we didn't realize it then.. We thought Bartho was a demon... Little wonder it's said that you never know the value of what you have till you lose it.

Mekanus:
Hahahaha this is the shiit I had to endure for 4 years over there. You're even lucky OP that they did some renovation before you got there. BTW, I can see only Eni Njoku and Alvan Hostel, what about Mbanefo, the main shithole?

I tell you!
I'm shocked that these hostels have been left in an extremely terrible state even after Ozurumba promised that the dilapidation in boys' hostel will become history before he would settle in office.

It's a shame!

Bolustical:
Those complaining about the shoe for its simple nature will be the first to to cry foul if he had worn something costly. They'd be the first to check the price out on Alibaba, Amazon, Jumia and other online retail outlets.

I bothered to check the name of who started this shoe rubbish and I wasn't disappointed.

It's the regular haters.

I tell you!

It is this same people who will complain if he wears designer shoes.

SMH for human beans.

MrOjay1:




He is on his way to greatness like Achebe that's why the accident occured.


If he becomes paralysed like Achebe before he died,he'll surely be a notable figure.



Enjoy your wheelchair Mr.Nwelue!

I can't imagine a living being who would wish such for another!

Tufiakwa gi!!!!!! *spits*

Donald3d:
Not again , person come dey fear to marry na , una wey don marry just dey make person fear everyday .Shey I go marry like this sha ,chei
Anyway.....
Situations like this to be honest would be very hard to solve(she is unwilling to do anything about it) , this is why you should always make it clear the things you like and the things you dont like before marrrying your partner .

Your madam was very very very very wrong on all levels ,
1.She is not supposed to go to a single guys room and vice versa
2.She is not supposed to collect anything from him , You should be the one to go to him if your family needs his assistance.
3.The height of it is her inivting him to your house at night to watch match by 10pm !!!!, like what the ....

Now to your own part
-If she has not always being like this, then something is wrong , and its at the foundation
-How often do you and your wife do things together ?, because from the look of things , if you observe critically and psychologically , its not just about collecting things from him , and she also might not be cheating on you, the koko here is SHE ENJOYS HIS COMPANY.Thats why she finds it hard to stop .
-Is your wife your best friend ? , how do you correct her when she is wrong (by shouting or in a loving manner)
-How well do you tell her sweet words and comment on her beauty
-How well do you give her time just to listen to her
-I know its hard creating time for all these with work and everything but you have to try .
-Women love someone who makes them feel safe and alive, someone who listens to their fears and worries and anything they have to say -Be her friend !
-Have a heart to heart talk with her, tell her calmly why what she is doing is wrong .
-Never stop telling her you love her , even when you are angry with her
-Try and get her busy , so she would have less time to even think he exists
-Bring back respect into your home , not just her respecting you , but you also respecting her .She has obviously lost respect for you
-Above all while you take actions talk to God about everything .

Act fast , because that guy na sharp guy, he knows where you are lacking and he is capitalizing on it , thats the advantage side chicks and side guys always have over the main partner "filling the empty spaces"

No matter what you do ,use wisdom and be calm and loving about it
God bless your marriage


MODIFIED : Women please stop assuming your husband would automatically know what you are thinking or feeling , talk to him if you feel he is not doing something right , not all men are mind readers biko, sometimes he honestly has no clue what you need until you open up,same goes for men too

Abeg make una check my signature

Very objective comment! You understand women! We are not as difficult as majority of men assume. Don't I just love you already!

Op your wife may not have started cheating on you, but your immature approach to this may push her to, and trust me, once she tows that way, she may never look back.. It's obvious that she's emotionally attached to him,

She enjoys the guy's company, it is very clear. This should make you think about yourself.

Do you give her room to express herself? Does she feel safe with you?

Do you listen to her? A woman who feels heard can tell you just anything. She'll be very plain. She wouldn't mind opening up on her heart struggles...

Are you domineering?(You sound like one to me)

Do you reassure her?

The truth is, if she continues this way, you will lose your wife. This is where wisdom comes in.

You guys should talk about it like mature people. Tell her exactly how you feel about it. Let her say her mind too. Don't interrupt her, or raise your voice. Do your best not to talk out of anger.

Fire up your communication with her. Ressurect it! She is not just a woman you paid brideprice on to live in your house. She is your partner, your best friend, your confidant etc

I pray you guys overcome this and come out stronger.
Good luck!

❌❌✖️

Story for ghosts..

FTrebirth:


you should have closed your loose legs mouth and ignored my post because i never quoted you in the first place.

if i were you, i'd mind how i jump so i don't land on the wrong dick.

I'm so sorry for you.

Errrrm... Madam poster, this is not a funny situation that you found yourself. It doesn't mean you are bad either. It's a plain sign that you are human.

Please don't toy with your emotions. I doubt you are aware of the complications that arise from this type of relationships.

As hard as it will be, consciously cut the time you spend with him, and like someone said earlier, the kind of things you tell him... Condition him in your heart!

Don't wait until you go deeper with him before you use your brain. At some point, this type of relationship becomes so intense that your sense of rational judgement will be totally lost. But please, don't let it get this bad.

Look into yourself, and follow the voice of reason.

If the guy is really yours, time will tell. Right now, you need to get a hold on your emotions before it is too late.

FTrebirth:
piglet, did i mention your name in that post?

Hey, you don't use words anyhow, especially when you can just shut up and walk away...

If I were you, I'll become desperate for common sense.

FTrebirth:


learn to keep your legs close, loose girl.

And your own tongue is slackened beyond repair.. Nzuzu

FTrebirth:


learn to keep your legs close, loose girl.

And your own tongue is slackened beyond repair..Nzuzu

tracyfemmmm:
men are

Haba!
With this mindset, I bet you, you'll only attract garbage and dustbin men. Whatever that means...

bobkezel:
Before I came back home, I was discouraged by family and friends, no one was in support, but then I made up my mind already and I have a biz in mind. I made sure my visa was valid for at least 2yrs should in case I want to go back. I also made sure I had a standby cash apart from biz cash, so that I will be feeding myself, fueling my car and be solving other little problems from, I never touched my biz cash for complete two years, I was spending from the standby cash.
Op you can borrow a leaf from there, and also don't live in the ghetto part of which city u decide to settle down else u will be seeing only negative side of naija, and don't mingle with broke niggas, mingle with people a lil bit below you, same level and above you.
And cut down costs.
Plus, don't change all ur dollars at once change according to ur needs else u won't find it funny.

Op listen to this guy here!
Your decision to come back to Nigeria should be yours and yours alone.

Yes, Nigeria is not as she should be, she is not as bad as a whole lot of persons paint her.
If you eventually decide to leave, you'll need to plan, to really plan. And you should make a conscious decision to guard yourself from people with grim pictures... negative people...

Meanwhile, don't you have any trusted person back home who will help pave at least a landing path for you and a short term arrangement pending when you get settled?

If you want a paid job, you could start your searches there.. Or if you want to be on your own, make adequate researches on what you want to do...

There should be a bigger picture than just starting off one or two provision stores.. Do you really know the value of Naija money?

Please if you don't have well laid plans and backup plans, save yourself regrets and stay back there!

bobkezel:
Before I came back home, I was discouraged by family and friends, no one was in support, but then I made up my mind already and I have a biz in mind. I made sure my visa was valid for at least 2yrs should in case I want to go back. I also made sure I had a standby cash apart from biz cash, so that I will be feeding myself, fueling my car and be solving other little problems from, I never touched my biz cash for complete two years, I was spending from the standby cash.
Op you can borrow a leaf from there, and also don't live in the ghetto part of which city u decide to settle down else u will be seeing only negative side of naija, and don't mingle with broke niggas, mingle with people a lil bit below you, same level and above you.
And cut down costs.
Plus, don't change all ur dollars at once change according to ur needs else u won't find it funny.

OP listen to this guy here!
Your decision to come back to Nigeria should be yours and yours alone.

Yes, Nigeria is not as she should be, she is not as bad as a whole lot of persons paint her.
If you finally come back here,

Alariiwo:
What else do you expect from a zone that glorifies quick wealth over labour?

Majority of them there are kigpins and crime lords. Beat their kids and get fvcked up.

Anu ofia!

NwaAmaikpe:


Leukaemia no get conscience.
This might be the last time we will see him alive. Farewell Baba.

Bros, your stupidness is legendary!

Bros, you're not alone.

You are special, and a genius. You are unique. Those imaginations you have could be used creatively, you know.

Please disregard any suggestion that you need a girl! You need to accept and love yourself before letting in any girl, otherwise you'll mount her with unnecessary pressures, and make it seem like she is responsible for your happiness.

You see, you could go to as many the therapists as you can, but in the end, you'll realize that the bulk of the solution lies in you.

You'll need to accept yourself. Release yourself to the beauty of living.

Open your heart to people. Yes, i understand that you might have a hard time trusting people, but you'll need to trust to stay healthy.

You could choose to look out for others. Being there for people gives you a sense of fulfilment.
Relating with people gives you room to understand yourself.

Another thing you'll need to understand is the art of self control. Moat of the time, humans have the power to control our feelings, our reactions, and even our thoughts.

Living a happier life would take you through a process. It might not happen suddenly, but you'll be glad you made a choice to live happier.


You deserve happiness!
You are unique!
You are invaluable!
You are courageous!


Besides, I would love to be one of your friends. You don't deserve to go through this alone.

victorazyvictor:

All these only you, you be Satan?

You, you be satan papa... Insensitive animals littered every where!!

It is not provocative at all, since it doesn't change who he is. If it were, He would have fought for himself.

iamJ:
No child, no husband forming accomplished

You seem sick... So children and a husband are your warped definition of being accomplished?? Sorry..