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MarieSucre:
Is just me or does Muhammad Indimi look way older than Zahra Buhari.

She is 22. He would be about 33-35 or more
It's normal for northerners...infact 10-13 years age gap is normal for them. U never Meet 20 years gap

megareal:
She just needs a friend.

And the guy she is marrying is what?

mykel25:
I took my time to read all post to know what ladies often think.... I do this alot buh most time it started out of finding solace.... I ve termed Nigerian girls 'marriable n unmarriable' since I prefer my relationship at this stage to be a serious one.... I decided to start on a friendship zone where all ll be void of pretence.... and in this I ll get to know d unmarriable ones buh will still keep treating u nice because: I use u to comfort myself like m dealing with d real person I wanna marry till I find the betterhalf

Isn't that mean? U wasting her own time n hurting her emotionally just to tell her later u have a girlfriend

Ladies need to define their relationships with guys at any time. Don't assume his over niceness n care is love. U both shld know if it's friendship or dating
Don't let a man use u as option to waste time
N don't sleep with them either to reduce ur emotional trauma
For those type of guys

Lol
Makes sense
Wld try not too
Some guys over do it Dts y
Call u morning Nyt etc
Wana hear ur problem and all
We women are emotional beings
So what do u expect of us at the end

VERDA:


Sis...really trying to understand what you wrote,can't a man just be nice and caring without it leading to a relationship?,when guys take your being nice to them to mean you want them to sleep with you,you complain,now a man is being nice for the sake of it without any ulterior motives and ur still complaining and terming it immaturity....Nawa o,well you made the right decision cutting off ties with him seeing as u were in pain with him but please dont go calling someone immature just cos he is being good to you without wanting anything in return.

TLAX:


Would that be with somwone you have relationship with and consider to be dating or just a friend you are good to.

None... D r d guys Dt simply leav d girl emotionally confused. Cus d girl wld b so certain his overly love is because he loves her unknown to her
He is merely hvn fun... Female fragrance n touch

I have a friend like that then I used to crush on. So nice. We do evrything together,hang out, talk for hours on phone etc...but d guy would never talk anything relationship related. If I don't hear from him for sometime I won't feel ok. My mind would race n all. N I couldn't tell him because I wasn't sure if he is just a friend or not

My only saving grace was he had told me he has never been a relationship but has had friends etc
N he isn't young trust me

And there I was thinking all his care was love
I guess that's just who he was
Was heartbroken
Had to discipline my mind Cus d worst is I couldn't stop talking to him since he was still my friend

So I ask u @poster before me
Y do u do it
R u or some guys of that nature scared of commitment?
Do u want to get all benefits of commitment ( of having a relationship) n yet not have it
I swear until I met that guy I never knew guys like that existed
I was heart broken even got depressed to know someone I loved wasn't in love with me then but was overly caring

Some above said let him know u like him
Immediatly under someone said some men like d chase...leave them to do it

So which is right
Babe just leave ur heart open. Date other guys. Wen u jist tell him u went on dates n all...see his reaction if he isn't jealous u r simply friendzoned

i understand with her it's natural
Once a man begins to call u as a lady
Mayb evry Thursday
Ur brain adjusts to it
Wen it doesn't happen u begin to miss it
That's how some ladies are wired
The get emotionally attached easly

So why would a guy waste so much effort in being nice?

The way we ladies are taught, we are not to tell a guy we like him. Because we feel he may take us for granted later on if he even attempts to date you out of pity....why can't he talk if he truly likes her too
Why show so much care n all and yet u have no plans to have a relationship. Don't men know that women are emotional beings. We fall in love with those who care for us unconditionally??
So if she tells him and he says I only see u as a friend or sister...how should she face the rejection or be free with him again even on the friendship level? She would feel somehow. It's a guy's job to toast

But if it's really taking ur peace away from u @OP tel him o
Better for u to have peace of mind
Better still eject him for sometime from ur life so u can have full control of your heart

I guess some men are confused about what they want. I have a friend like that. Treats you so nice then and all that. I got emotionally entangled too. But yet it seemed he was never attached with all those care. Apparently some men like this exist. I think if u ask him m, he won't b married...I feel it's emotionally confused men. Commitment phobic men who over care for a lady...make her emotionally attached n yet d don't get attached. How does that even work...how are some guys able to do it without being emotionally attached too?
I had to stop talking to him o...it hurt n he asked y. I told him I was getting emotionally entangled with him and don't need that
If he loves u then...he shld pursue...if not...let him be
Now am free and counting my wedding soon

According to her, it's something he just does while he is passing or moving around in the house if she is lying down or something. Her ass is on the big side Sha. So he just taps d left n d right one n is off.more like play or so but he has never approached her sexually in any manner. So she is confused if she should react to it or her father just happens to be playful with no strings attached. She is 20

If a papa hits his daughter ass just jokingly or as play sometimes is it wrong? Or is my friend imagining what isn't actually a problen

DMLords:


I pray for my self that my wife would reason like you.

maybe add a little boob action in there.

as a matter of fact, I am following you to continue getting these wonderful pieces of wisdom you are dropping

Yeye somebody
Lol

Tor wetin u go con do if person marry Dt type Man U just hv to adjust or shut d Bleep up when u see him helping himself. There r homes Dt crash cus d man has a high sexual libido his wife can't satisfy...at least I respect OP's husband he is helping himself instead of using that as excuse for divorce.
And men stop being cows Abeg u wan kill us haba
Fear God please. Our body does not use to do us d way it is always doing u, u need to understand
Wat is you people's problem exactly

Am not denying he has high libido. But if I know my man has it. I must prepare mysef for extra work in my head. Let me ask u is bathing two times a day work anymore for u? No. Because it has become part of me. If giving my husband a BJ or Hand job twice a day wld stop d nonsense he does that I don't like seeing...why not...I wld do it. 20min of 24 hours is too much for 2 sessions sef
So Wats d big deal...wld add it to my routine for d days we don't get to have sex.period. It would be like gaving my bath.That's all am saying

kokosari2:


Sister adviser, thanks for the advice but wait till you are married by then God will give you the power to follow through with your advice.

Marriage comes up soon...counting...ding dung...even when we finally travel and book reading don tire me we go knack as break. Maybe I have a high libido too sorry so am covered in terms of helping him out even if he needs it 5 times a day, But Amen Sha, God would give me the power cus it's hardwork. I accept. But I wana go that extra mile. So I receive strength to make sacrifices to make my man have me when he wants not to Shagg himself like I don't exist. Dts why u shld not over born pikins too

Wait. I don't even get u. Don't you touch your husband's dick and rub it as pre intimacy before making love? So what's the big deal? when u see him do it, be loving, tell him babe i am here and u dint even call me to me help u with that, Haba...and give him a sweet handjob. before u know it has moved into the real humping knacking of sex. No wonder there are so many married men cheating...women be more open or prostitutes who are outside would take care of your man...so u can't give ur man a Mouth Gig?...the bible said his body has become yours and yours his...so anything is accepted ma, even if you want to eat his shit...relax be open..have sex with him on the floor, in the kitchen, make it fun...even if you are fat and ugly and you spontaneous, he won't see that unattractive part, give him a hand job in the car on your way from an occasion one evening...or in the morning when he is going to work give him a Mouth Action...if he has a personal office at work...pay him a visit...lock the door tell him u where finking of him all day at work and need a 5 min quickie.
Be spontaneous
It's a shame Dt u r there n he is masturbating him self...Wat is your use...if his libido is high is one blowwjob per day too much to give the Man U claim to love if that's what makes him happy? Haba. He shldnt evn masturbate at all cus masturbation should be equal to u giving him a hand job.
My question is how do u even have sex with him because if his touching his dick is irritating u, I wonder then if u ever touch it as preintimacy or u suffer d poor guy
Christainity doesn't stop this Abeg all u over religious women
Safe your home please abeg
Be prayertizing what is not a problem. There are better things on God's table like hungry people n people with cancer
Better safe ur home before he starts visiting ashewo. Thank God he never start
Ur spontaneous acts shld b porn enuf Dt he won't evn remember it

ohn1759:
Question For The Ladies, come tell us your Answer.
#palmgossip

Join MMM with just one of ur 50k (spare cash only Biko I can't come and cry for u Incase of incasity) only n turn your money to 65k per month first of all. PM me if interested
Then open a trend for 65k salary

Do men like u really exit?

Gaucho:
Been married for three years after courting for 22 years. We have two lively kids aged 10 and 8, a girl and boy respectively. Love my wife and our kids and ready to lay my life to protect them. Two years ago,she starting cheating with her boss in the office and I have this premonition and confronted her,but her constant denial wasnt going away. Last two months,caught her sexchatting with the same guy on phone and I know they have had sex series of times. She almost packed out but later forgave her,but before that time her mom knows about it and encouraged her because of what she is getting from them. Spiritual attack from left right and centre,but forgave her all the same because I love her and my kids. Not easy but God is God!

All I keep asking is what should d man do in return?
Am not sayin I won't play my part
I just hate it when it's like we are the one to do all the work
Sacrifice our feelings and all
Am a human, I have got emotions too
I feel pain, I feel happiness etc
Speak to a man also to do Wat he is to do
A man cheats n a woman is still to talk to him calmly wen its biting her hard on d inside
But wen his trouser n rod can't stay in one place he can run around with any lady and the would still blame the woman for not remaining with him
I know this is how Africa is
Am not trying to change it
All am saying is that it's not fair
Simple

Must we really marry? Cus am confused is the getting married to be with a man or to emmm bare kids. Why kill yourself if u can't find him. If u can't find him and u think your biological clock is ticking, I suggest u get a sperm donor and orocreate and be happy. Life is too short to be stressed up finding a man n have that worry u please

And he should do what in return
It's always women sacrificing what they want, how the want things to be done to please a man
So unfair
We came out from the same sperm
I have feelings am suppressing too to please him
While he sits as the boss

But you need to know why she lied...ask her and tell her to tell you the truth..maybe you have always told her somewhere along the line that it's a virgin you wana marry, and she liked you so much and was scared to say the truth...because she felt she may loose u. If that's the case, reassure her and tell her she shouldn't have done that because this lies hurts you more. It's her, her personality you love. Not her virginity status

That's why there is something called forgiveness. Be angry with her. Even stop being your normal self with her for sometime. Just to make her know she hurt u. If she values you, she would be truly sorry and you would see it. Then forgive her. Such is life. In marriage she would hurt you more than this sef. Shit happens. And u would have to forgive her. So start learning to be selfless. Marriage is two good for givers living together.

Please I applied to study chemical engineering M.eng (non thesis based) at university of British Columbia Canada and also M.eng (thesis based) at McGill university.
I however forgot to check if thesis supervisors must be gotten fro the university before application as a prerequisite for admission.
It happens that I MUST be able to woo a supervisor in the schools before I can be given admission
I have written proposals to over 10 in both schools to no avail
- I would like to request if anyone can give me contact details of an agency that assist with admission in Canada universities and probably has an affiliation with this school to offer me assistance and safe me from this mess
- I would also like contact details of application agency that can help or has helped u process scholarship for your masters program in Canada.
Thanks so much for your assistance
Please help
- please how lucrative economically n exposed is the Saskatchewan province in Canada as I also plan to consider Saskatchewan university if my other applications fail

It's neccesary

Please I applied to study chemical engineering M.eng (non thesis based) at university of British Columbia Canada and also M.eng (thesis based) at McGill university.
I however forgot to check if thesis supervisors must be gotten fro the university before application as a prerequisite for admission.
It happens that I MUST be able to woo a supervisor in the schools before I can be given admission
I have written proposals to over 10 in both schools to no avail
- I would like to request if anyone can give me contact details of an agency that assist with admission in Canada universities and probably has an affiliation with this school to offer me assistance and safe me from this mess
- I would also like contact details of application agency that can help or has helped u process scholarship for your masters program in Canada.
Thanks so much for your assistance
Please help
- please how lucrative economically n exposed is the Saskatchewan province in Canada as I also plan to consider Saskatchewan university if my other applications fail

I don't think a lady has a right to love. That is what I have noticed in life. No matter how much you like a man if he doesn't like u back you would just keep hurting yourself n ur heartbecause he would feel nothing for u n would treat u anyhow without even knowing he is hurting you.
Even the bible never said wives love your husband ....it's the reverse
So for me, a lady only had a right to love a man who loves her well. A man love for u should be more of not even your marriage would be filled with this trauma u r going through....
Let him be
If he friend zoned you
Brother zone him n father zone him
B like hi brother
Or small daddy Wats up
He wld feel it
N free him
No matter how much I love a guy once am sure he doesn't feel same I dump him. It's not easy but I try...I stay stuff like brother how far...indirectly an speaking to my feelings
If he truly loved u deeply he wld want u
N only u
He won't evn bear to see another guy hv u

Joy1706:

Give me one reason why a wife is owned by the husband. And don't mention bride price cos bride price is an inconsequential sum in most places. And don't say cos the bible said that men are the head. That would be tantamount to saying that buhari owns each and every one of us cos he's the head/president. See how stupid that logic is? So um waiting for one reason

Because she bares his name
Meaning he is her property. Lol

Age 20

the night day we buried my grandmother, after the ceremony was over, i walked up to my dad and asked him " now that we have left grandma there, who would be taking care of her?" Everybody around all bursted out laughing.......a memory i can never forget