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Autos / Re: How Innoson Military Trucks Are Manufactured (Photos, Video) by Futurejoy(f): 1:37pm On Aug 09, 2020
BotherMleeper:


That's your comeback?

You're so lame, you dumb fukk.

Albinos are humans too, and i question your indignation if you find it ok to denigrate albinos.

I guess you must be dark black and ugly if my skin is what you find fit to abuse.

Or perhaps you're jealous.

Btw what the fukk were you doing looking at my pic? Hope you didn't screenshot it straight to your fantasy file, cos I'm way outta your class, bimbo.
Lol....I really don’t have problems with Albinos, they are God’s special creation hence they don’t need to be stressed. i looked at your pics to see if stupidity reflects on your face, you irk of low self esteem that is why you can’t even show off your bleached face .I can’t continue bantering words with you, if you can’t understand what I said about Albinos then it’s obvious you can’t comprehend English!
Autos / Re: How Innoson Military Trucks Are Manufactured (Photos, Video) by Futurejoy(f): 1:32pm On Aug 09, 2020
jeff1607:



using one's complexion to attack someone when you know you got your own issues, imagine if he did the same to you how would you feel? have empathy for Christ's sake
Lol....
Politics / Re: Obasanjo: Kashamu Avoided Justice, Couldn’t Escape Death by Futurejoy(f): 2:50am On Aug 09, 2020
iwaeda:

https://www.channelstv.com/2020/08/08/kashamu-avoided-justice-couldnt-escape-death-obasanjo/amp/
Imagine , a drug trafficker as a politician. What kind of country is Nigeria!?? We need to appease the spirits of those women and twins that used to be killed in the past, I guess one of them caused Nigeria. Nigerian economy started taking a u-turn after an era that coincides with the period where the killings of twins stopped ,please do the math.
Education / Re: Surviving Nigeria As A Graduate Today By Deji Yesufu by Futurejoy(f): 2:41am On Aug 09, 2020
VBCampaign:
Surviving Nigeria as a Graduate Today

By: Deji Yesufu

Kunle Ojeleye told the story of how he left the shores of Nigeria as a young graduate back in 1989. He had sought the help of a number of people; people he felt would ordinarily help him. These people were friends to his parent but he was horribly disappointed. None of them came to his rescue. He eventually took the offer an uncle was providing him to leave the shores of Nigeria. Ojeleye’s story, which he relayed on his timeline on Facebook, is similar to what most Nigerian graduates experience from the mid-1980s, when Nigeria began to experience a downturn in her economic situation, to this moment.

When I left school in 2003 and had completed my NYSC, I spoke with one of my father’s friends on the matter of getting a job. He said: “Jobs are scarce in Nigeria… but if you will be patient, it will come. These things take time. The only thing is that no one knows how long…” I learnt of one man who graduated from the University of Ibadan and until his death, sometime in his early 50s, he was never gainfully employed. Those are the kinds of stories we hear about graduates and job hunt in Nigeria. In this article, I want to suggest a few ways Nigerian graduates can survive the harsh economic reality all around us today in this country.

The first admonition I want to give is that young Nigerians should have, develop and increase in their sense of responsibility – generally. A retired civil servant, who lives close to my house and sells provision, asked me to help his son get a job where I work. The first thing I asked him was this: “Baba, your son is looking for job but I have never seen him in this provision store selling for you.” If I had opportunity to recommend that boy for a job, I would not because he has clearly failed in my observation of him.

Our young people need to realize that the work that anyone will pay for must be a job that will add value to a system. Gone are the days in this country when free money roamed the streets of Lagos. Today, if you will earn a Naira, not steal, you would have to work for it. And since there are no jobs, the people who will earn these monies are people who have enough sense of responsibility to recognize needs in people’s lives and offer themselves to fill that need. But they must also realize that people grow in their sense of responsibility. A child that does not know how to offer a hand of help to his or her parent, under whose roof he lives, is not likely to know what to do when he or she is in the outside world.

The first thing our young people must do is to quit social media, abandon the television and develop an attitude for work that is etched in a sense of responsibility. Today, first class or second class upper will not save anyone from unemployment. It is what you can do that will give you a job and you will not be able to do anything except you have built a work ethic etched in a thorough sense of responsibility.

The second thing that our young graduates must realize is that they are almost too late to the Nigerian labor market if the first time they ever worked was when they left the university. This is what happened to some of us and we paid dearly for it. I have promised myself that it will not happen to my children. I look back now and wonder what I did with those few months between primary and secondary school; what did I do with my long vacations in secondary school; what did I do with the almost 18 months strike between 1994/1995 in the university. I remember what I did with the latter of these situations: I learnt how to play chess and spent long hours playing the game. A game that add nothing to me today except recreation.

There is no reason why children, leaving primary school, and with a few months on their hands before proceeding to secondary school, cannot use such a period to learn a trade, or skill, or follow Daddy or Mummy to the office and learn the work of a personal assistant. The long vacations during secondary school can be used to learn some skill. The mechanic, Tunde Onokanya, here in Ibadan, offers to train secondary school children in auto-mechanic during their long vacations. I am thankful to my Dad who took my brothers and I to learn typing sometimes after my secondary school. All my essays today come from that skill. Our young people do not have to spend all their time with season movies or on the phone; those things are sure ways to poverty.

They must begin to work with their hands the moment they are out of primary school and are old enough to do some responsibilities. All of these things will key into a curriculum vitae and make them stand out from others in the future. Some others may never even write a CV because in the process of working, they would have discovered their niche and must have begun to produce something for the community they live in that will earn them a lot of money such that they might have even begun to make money long before they leave the university. Again, if the first time you are working is when you left the campus, you are already too late to the Nigerian labor market. Others would have gained a head-start that could take you years to catch up on.

Third: VOLUNTEER! I cannot say this enough and thus the reason why I must bold it at this point. Our young people must learn to volunteer; they must learn to work for free and while doing this, opportunities for jobs will open up to them. A heart for volunteer jobs exhumes from a mind that has a sense of responsibility. A lot of people are too suspicious of others and they think that everybody is out to use them. The truth of the matter is that in the early days of our work life, we would be used.

In fact I think the way the world works is that you do most of the hard labor of life in your younger days and earn little; and then you do less work in your older days and earn more. If a person despises work and does not have a sense of responsibility, that shows forth in volunteer jobs, that person will suffer for it in his older days – when he would need to work more and earn money to cater for the large responsibilities that adult life shores up.

Most things about this life are anchored on volunteering. Most of those who are earning big on a certain job today, first of all volunteered their time and effort to do those things for free once. Also, our parents must encourage our young people to volunteer themselves for work. During my National Youth Service Corp (NYSC) in Yola, Adamawa State, I worked briefly for the Deeper Life Headquarters Church in that town. Then I moved on to work for a construction company, while at the same time I lived in the Deeper Life Church apartment given to me.

The State Overseer, Pastor James Akpofure, and the person who was my first boss, has a son who had learnt computer hardware repairs as of the time he was just in his early secondary school. His father told him that he could repair people’s computers for them but he forbade him from collecting money for those services. The time will come for him to collect money but for not now, he was to volunteer his skills.

Everything that I am today came about by volunteering to serve other people. I remember working for a Church and publishing their quarterly magazine. I suffered doing that job; I could write a book about my experience there. It was a thankless work and I was often criticized for it. But I left that church with a reward; a reward that no man could give but only God. Even the whole blogging thing that I do today is volunteering to give people information – free of charge – and not getting anything in return. Most times what I get are insults; but we press on, knowing that one’s reward remains ahead. So, young man and woman, volunteer to work. Don’t complain. Just work and trust God for his own time to pay back.

Lastly, on this note of volunteering: I would implore parents to support their young people as they volunteer. Volunteering to work may not earn them a living wage but it would give the young person a lot of experience that could prove rewarding for another job. Parents would have to do what parents do while your child or ward does the volunteer work: you would have to support them and hopefully you would not have to do that for too long before they get a proper job.

Fourth: While waiting for that dream job, you could spend your time doing what you love doing. Now, loving to eat or watch TV or talk or keeping a girlfriend is not the kind of thing I have in mind here. There are hundreds of things people love doing that can prove rewarding in the days to come. I used to love writing and when there was no Facebook, I would write into notebooks and just store them away. What you love doing may be cooking or singing or writing or driving or helping others. God created every human being with something they can do and do without stress.

You must discover yours and learn to do that thing and do it well. It is something you will ordinarily do without pay; so hone that skill and someday it may become the means with which you can earn some extra cash for yourself. Again, this is premised on a sound sense of responsibility. With time you can take what you love doing very well, hone it into a workable skill and use it to produce something that people are ready to pay a lot of money for. Thus, I enjoin our young graduates to have useful hobbies and look out for making them into something that can bring money their way.

Fifth: I want to implore our young people to learn to do the right thing, always. This might sound moralistic in a way but the truth of the matter is that our worlds is not so depraved that people cannot recognize good and reward it. At each junction life, we would be tempted to cut corners and follow a short cut; our young people must desist from engaging in such acts. I finished with NYSC when I was 26. My name still appeared in the NYSC call-up system twice every year until I was 30. Throughout this period I had no job but I chose not to go for another NYSC because it was not the right thing to do. There are hundreds of other examples.

Somebody told me that his company received 6 Sure-P enrolments from the Federal Government recently. All of them called in and said they do not wish to work for him and are ready to part with ten thousand naira each, every month, if he would accept them and just sign their documents and pretend to government that they are working on his company. My friend wondered at the kind of youths our country was producing.

One would think that the rising religious fervor in our universities should instill some fear of God in our young people but this is not the case. Recently, I shared a two-apartment building with a young man for three years and I just wondered at how his mind worked. He did not work but was living in a three bedroom house. After a while, he could not pay for basic amenities like power. He was eventually evicted. One could never tell what he was doing to survive. Some people alleged it was yahoo-yahoo but since I never saw him in the act, I could not say so for sure. The earth is based on some laws and I think that those laws are premised on what we do in life. If we do good, we will reap good; if we do evil, we will reap that equally. Our young people should commit to doing what is right, no matter what and trust God for rewards.

As you do this, it is not wrong to apply to companies for jobs. You can also seek the favor of family members and friends. You should do everything and anything your friends and colleagues are doing, within the law, to get a job. But I am positive that the job that would come to you and be yours without your having to know anyone, or beg anyone for it, are the ones that come as a result of practicing and perfecting the five aforementioned qualities in this essay. I believe there are many other such qualities. While you endeavor to work and live responsibly, those qualities will come forth and you should increase more and more in them. It is possible that one can so develop oneself in these qualities that you end up not working for anybody at all and you would be earning good money at the same time.

One last thing: having done all and even as you do these things, our young people must learn to wait for their own rewards. They must eschew greed and the temptation for quick riches. While you volunteer, you must be patient for the job to come. While you serve a master, you must be content with a little pay. You should wait, wait and wait. Let me chip in a little religious admonition here: the Bible talks about God being the Father of all creation and as parents provide for their children, God provides for all his creation. There is a provision for every man. You would however come into it as you endeavor to do the right things. These will lead ultimately to your own good in life; such good that will bring fulfilment, joy and peace. There is no short cut to success; but there is a sure way to it. I believe this is the way Providence apportions good to all creation. And this is the way I believe that young graduates in Nigeria can survive the harsh economic climate that Nigeria has found itself in.

Source: https://textandpublishing.com/surviving-nigeria-as-a-graduate-today/
I would really appreciate this piece if it was said in year 2000 but in 2020 The Nigerian educational system needs reformation and re-evaluation, change of curriculum is very necessary cos we are still in Stone Age educationally. Youths should be trained in schools in such a way that their minds should be conditioned for being job creators, entrepreneurs and innovators.
I totally agree on the character type, we definitely need it but coming online after you ran to a foreign country to tell Nigerian youths to behave nicely so that they can get a job and be paid peanuts that can barely cater for ones need in today’s Nigerian is something I don’t buy.
Dear Nigerian youths, please work hard and work smart, make financial decisions that at least 2 generations in your linage to come will enjoy and bless your soul. If you must get a job, ensure you give yourself timing at it, save up money and invest in your life dream business and nurture it to success. Nigerian government have enslaved the average Nigerian students with the job search mentality. Please rid yourself of this and you will be glad you did. If Dangote , Tony Elumelu etc can build from the scratch to become employers of labor, then we all can. Peace

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Politics / Re: Update On Ibom International Worship Centre.... Photos by Futurejoy(f): 2:07am On Aug 09, 2020
IspitonCowards:
Ákwà ibom and uyo in particular is a sleepy, non-inspiring area devoid of any form of opportunity for a young person, I served there so I know, the SE is Dubai for Ákwà ibom indigenes, even my Village has a sizable number of them, I used to wonder why someone will leave his so-called oil state and come and reside in a village in the SE, then I got to Ákwà ibom and understood cry....poverty and lack is heavy on Ákwà ibom, roads are almost empty except for bikes.......I participated in an immunization campaign and had to go into villages, chai!!......I realized my village in Anambra was like London with its new duplexes, I kept wondering why an oil producing state ended up so deprived, the people are largely laid back and lazy, the women highly promiscuous in nature, they just breed and breed churning out kids that will end up being sold off in many cases cry.....Please in your next world be from Ákwà ibom, after suffering is a virtue for some people

The last time i asked , where in Akwa ibom did you serve cos the last time I checked there is no bike in Uyo Municipal. Stop sounding stupid, i can’t live in Anambra for anything dirty environment, stinking gutter all around the place that is always flooded during rainfall, Jobless youths that take stealing as a daily job or duplicating people sweat and flooding the damn market with fake of everything. A typical Igbo business man is an illiterate, with a big building on a street that is flooded, very stingy enough to care about his well being but will buy a Jeep to cross through the flood into his house rather than making gutters or flooring the road.
I can’t even talk of the poor hygiene,if you see a fine house in the east there is a 70% chance that the hygiene is questionable inside. Igbo men are dogs, I served in Imo state and you need to see married men chasing after young ladies, some even lie about their marital status. I hear Igbo people are industrious....industrious with fake product is no industry!
Stop embarrassing your pathetic tribe, an Igbo man can never be a Nigerian president again till infinity. The University of Nigeria that is there is something I don’t want to start talking about so as not to discourage your children from going there. Even madmen will shiver at the dirt in that shithole!
Most importantly, a typical Igbo girl is a slut. Go to brothels and you will hear them calling Akwa ibom names to their client and they speak Igbo fluently. I worked at Reach FM and the other Bar business owned by Rochas’ daughter used to be flooded with Imsu and Futo girls chasing after their fathers age mate, I got to know it’s a poverty alleviation scheme.....Lmao
. Baba go and sleep, I don’t want you to go to church in the morning and start asking why you are Igbo cos even in your mind, you are truly not proud to be one.

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Autos / Re: How Innoson Military Trucks Are Manufactured (Photos, Video) by Futurejoy(f): 1:31am On Aug 09, 2020
BotherMleeper:


Ok.

I'm a bitter person.

Now, fukk off.

Go hustle to buy to your first car and stop bothering me.
I see you are an albino or low-budget bleaching boy. it will be inhumane of me to bother you. Everyone knows how disturbing it is for an albino when the are bothered and how painful it is for a bleaching guy when he is being questioned. Ooze off
Health / Re: Ladies, How Many Sanitary Pads Do You Use Per Cycle? by Futurejoy(f): 1:27am On Aug 09, 2020
nkechiasogwa:
Please what is the name of the pad you started using after you stopped using always pad
Norland pad
Politics / Re: Update On Ibom International Worship Centre.... Photos by Futurejoy(f): 1:25am On Aug 09, 2020
Ilaumoh:

That hateful is from abia state... The most dirty state in Nigeria
I don’t want to talk about that shithole where they pour their dirts in the middle of the road to demarcate it to be a 2lane. I served on IMO state too and I had to just pray that I was fixed in their town. I don’t want to talk about the ocean I swim from starting from “world bank last round about” to the Estate where I lived. At least we build bungalow in Akwa ibom state abi The resources and materials used to construct a bungalow in Akwa ibom and south west is used to construct a duplex or even 2 story buildings. My Igbo bike man that has lived outside your shithole for years said it with his mouth too.
When you hear Akwa-ibom , call it with respect and dignity, if I have a next life and I am not coming as an Akwa-ibomite, I will come as a Yoruba person . God forbid I come from anywhere near south east! You people are so untrustworthy, dubious , fetish (70% of the compounds there have burial posters there every month, they keep using their selves for blood money) . I don’t want to talk of the miserable Igbo man that married my grand aunty and till today, no one has a clue if she is dead or alive. Akwa- ibomites are the most beautiful people ever inside out

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Health / Re: Ladies, How Many Sanitary Pads Do You Use Per Cycle? by Futurejoy(f): 5:41pm On Aug 08, 2020
OgiPrincess:
I use 10-12 pads for each menstrual cycle.

They've been months where I used 14 pads

The rationale behind the question is that a pack of Always ® (I'll use Always ® for my analysis because it's the brand I use and are mostly familiar with the pricing and also it's the most popular brand in Nigeria) contains 7 pads for extra long pads and 8 pads for medium sized pads, which is clearly not enough for my cycle.

Pricing for Always ® ranges from 300-500 per a pack of 7 or 8. Because of the number of pads I'll be using, my safest bet is 2 packs of 7(extra long).

Depending on the quality and/or fragrance, I'll be needing 600-1,000 Naira every month. To me that's a lot.

How many households can afford that for their teenage daughters and mothers?

When I first started using pads I thought a pad was for one whole day(which didn't make sense to me then) but I continued to try and use one pad a day. I use the pad during the day especially if it's a school day and use rags at night... I don't even want to go into details as to my experience doing this because I still have scars in my vagina area as a result.

So most homes use rags, Which is unhygienic and unhealthy. The price of pads is high, even in all other brands still. A pack of pad should contain nothing less than 18 pads(night time and day time).

Condoms are cheaper than pads and are even given for free, that's a gross imbalance. I can't decide to not have periods anymore but sex is a choice.

How can one go about even making this heard in the appropriate quarters?
I stopped using always since 2013 when it use to itch me for no reason. I started using a brand pad and panty liners that lowers menstrual pains as well as infections and residual blood clots from previous period since last and I have been enjoying the good health of my womanhood .
A lot of pads in the market today has cause infertility issues to women as well as altered the vagina PH level thereby leading to a woman having infection or scars down there
Politics / Re: Update On Ibom International Worship Centre.... Photos by Futurejoy(f): 5:22pm On Aug 08, 2020
IspitonCowards:
i served in Uyo, the place is dead, no opportunities....poverty and illiteracy is rife in that state and to think it's an oil producing state
Which L.G.A did you serve
Autos / Re: How Innoson Military Trucks Are Manufactured (Photos, Video) by Futurejoy(f): 5:20pm On Aug 08, 2020
BotherMleeper:


You're celebrating the fact that he has a business? How. Many millions of people have businesses?

An ordinary corner store also provides for the families of the owners and their employees, I don't see what's there to make noise about.

But you people always love celebrating mediocrity because there's absolutely nothing outstanding that comes from your neck of the woods.

You think anyone who calls out your bullshit is bitter or envious, when you people don't even patronize IVM.

Hypocrites.
When I can afford a car, I most definitely will patronize IVM. Again, you are a bitter person!
Politics / Re: Update On Ibom International Worship Centre.... Photos by Futurejoy(f): 8:01am On Aug 08, 2020
Hellraiser77:
Nigg your state is highly underdeveloped, Uyo is a shanty town, Ákwà ibomites are mostly gatemen, keke riders, bike riders......the women prefer harlotery work, there is nothing for anybody in Ákwà ibom yet it receives the second largest monthly allocation after delta
Every member of your miserable family are gatemen , bike riders , Keke riders and harlots. You are just pained , and you have little or no information of Akwa ibom state

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Politics / Re: Update On Ibom International Worship Centre.... Photos by Futurejoy(f): 7:59am On Aug 08, 2020
rdokoye:


He said Akwa Ibom is poor - there's nothing wrong with being poor. But your buddy had to respond by referring to us all as criminals, then advocating genocide against us (ethnic cleansing). You think that's an equally weighted response?
Yes I think so.
Politics / Re: Update On Ibom International Worship Centre.... Photos by Futurejoy(f): 7:55am On Aug 08, 2020
jamesversion:
I don't know if someone told Akwa Ibomites that presenting a statistics table is the answer to the plethora of issues bedeviling Akwa Ibom.

Their population is largely uneducated, poor, unexposed, unsophisticated and unenlightened. And their Governors usually have a money-miss-road approach to development. And when you point out all these to them, they point a statistics chart to you.


When what is on the chart and stas table isnt tangible in real life, you need to do away with those charts and statistics tables and face reality.
Did you just say our population is poor and uneducated? You must be sick to spill that rubbish out of your mouth. Why am I even arguing with your sorry ass? I am sure you are just pained and have never been to Akwa ibom before

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Religion / Re: Olumba Olumba Obu Hands Over To Son, To Be Coronated As ‘King Of Kings‘ by Futurejoy(f): 7:45am On Aug 08, 2020
Jeromejnr:
Righteousness89. Based on the headline, over to you.
Righteousness no go see this one o...shior
Education / Re: Habiba Sule Adejoh Graduates With First Class From University College London by Futurejoy(f): 7:40am On Aug 08, 2020
SideInkom:
Nigerians are intelligent but the learning environment here is not conducive so we cram everything
I swear.
Romance / Re: I Broke My Leg When Doing A Mason Job,i Am An Orphan by Futurejoy(f): 7:37am On Aug 08, 2020
uchman:


Your account is new and we have not trusted you yet.
Why do you carry this matter for head as if na you break him leg?
You did not even wait to see the pictures of the broken leg before becoming " Mother Christmas "

With this little suspicious actions of yours,
you come put yourself for speed, spoil the guy format...

Make I even go check the date OP registered his account.

My hand no dey for this one...

OP registered on 02.08.2020
Mother Christmas registered on 05.08.2020

Na dem dem

Even the OP’s account was opened few days ago. Since I heard begging is a profession, I have wisen up.
Romance / Re: I Broke My Leg When Doing A Mason Job,i Am An Orphan by Futurejoy(f): 7:31am On Aug 08, 2020
Chairadam88:
Thanks but pls anything you can send pls do.
Even if it is 5,000 naira it will surely go a long way on balancing my medical bill.
Pls.
Balenciaga lipsrsealed
Romance / Re: I Broke My Leg When Doing A Mason Job,i Am An Orphan by Futurejoy(f): 7:30am On Aug 08, 2020
Chairadam88:
There is no format pls,I am in serious pains due to the injury I sustain when doing mason job.
I pray you don't be in this condition.
Oga, keep quiet. You are a scammer, you opened a new account to post this while you used one of your old accounts to message yourself as someone willing to donate to same you.
If you truly are in a life threatening condition, you will post pictures with proof from a hospital to back up your story . Anybody that drops 1kobo here is a goat
Autos / Re: How Innoson Military Trucks Are Manufactured (Photos, Video) by Futurejoy(f): 7:15am On Aug 08, 2020
BotherMleeper:
Cobbled together from prefabricated parts, not manufactured.

IVM does not manufacture shiit
At least he has a business, a business that is subject to better innovations in the future . That man has secured a future for his children and grand children. He has a brand to his name, he has several workers, he has made engineering students in Nigeria have practical experience that all our presidents put together since independence can’t give to the average mechanical engineering students . Instead of hating and being bitter, why not appreciate good things?
If you keep acting like this, you will grow old without achieving anything.

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Education / Re: Some Commonly Confused Animals: Can You Tell Them Apart? by Futurejoy(f): 1:22pm On Aug 07, 2020
pocohantas:
1— Leopard and Jaguar



Pic 1: Leopard
Pic 2: Jaguar

Pic 3: Black panther and his leopardess spouse. An article I read said they have been together for 4yrs. Some of you can’t even stay 1yr grin.

Pic 4: What is happening here?
I don’t like the fourth picture of the black panther and the leopard...they are committing fornication grin
TV/Movies / Re: Erica & Kiddwaya Caught Kissing Hours After She Called Off Their Relationship by Futurejoy(f): 1:07pm On Aug 07, 2020
Kabir5643:

There's literally no sense in your post
I heard people who watch pornography don’t reason well. So I totally understand if you don’t see sense in my talk
Family / Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Futurejoy(f): 8:20am On Aug 07, 2020
Regex:


Do you know if I've overcome mine and want to share with him how I overcame mine?

Or if I want to direct him to the person who helped me overcome mine?

Stop acting on your emotions like it's your only resort. Try logic first.
You didn’t state that now. I was just scared for the poster and I thought you were depressed seeking for a depressed person ....it’s always fatal.
TV/Movies / Re: Rat Spotted Inside The BBNaija House by Futurejoy(f): 7:16am On Aug 07, 2020
Righteousness89:
Spirtual killing Rat in a Spiritual killing Show..

Two Honest Question

How has your Spiritual Life been since you began watching this show?

What has your Dream been like?

Pls I will appreciate Honest Answers ..


My dream has been heavenly. Each time I think of the fact that someone will leave that house 85million Naira richer, I beem with happiness that Nigerian youths can also be rich without stealing money like our government and it gingers my hustle cool wink
Family / Re: Kwara Blue Eyes Family: Risikat Azeez-Ayegbami Speaks "My Husband Abandoned Us" by Futurejoy(f): 6:59am On Aug 07, 2020

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Family / Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Futurejoy(f): 6:51am On Aug 07, 2020
Regex:


Hey buddy.. We are in the same boat. Funny right? Nope. Shall we talk? Zero Eight 0 Seven Five Seven Six 4 One Five Eight.
If I slap you.... what do both of you want to talk about? You want to share your depressing stories together and end up hurting yourselves. You both don’t need each other right now, you need help to overcome this stage in your lives.
Family / Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Futurejoy(f): 6:38am On Aug 07, 2020
YoungandDepress:
cry
I know the sins of my past are catching up with me. Karma is hitting me from all directions.
I see my mates riding nice cars, living in their rented apartment, I cry.

Most of my classmates I finished secondary school with are now responsible graduates and here I am, stuck in 200level.

I see them in the street and I hide myself in shame and disgrace because I can't answer the catching up questions.

I still ask 500 naira from my parents just to go out.

I stayed through out the month of June without earning even one thousand naira by myself.

Sometimes I curse the day I was born and why I came through a mid level family and not a rich family.

God has abandoned me. I can't remember the last time I prayed. Not that I even care now.
I am turning into an atheist because of my frustrations.

Sometimes I think why not just die and end it all, I mean we are all going to die one day so what is the point, but then I think of my family and the shame it will bring upon them and at the same time I think what if I die and heaven and hell is real. It's funny how the thought of hell keeps me going and trying to do good with my life when I don't really believe in God anymore.


Safe to say, my suicidal tendencies are very low to non existent but I hope I have the courage to keep pushing. I hope one day, I just don't loose it completely.

Even my phone I am using to type this has a damaged screen which I'm half managing but it is what it is, I have no funds to fix it and no relative to help.

I mean I'm just here watching the days go by, taking evening walks around the neighborhood and thinking how my life would have been if I didn't mess it up or did all these happen to me so I can be a testimony to others if life decides to smile on me?
I have no idea.

I'M JUST A YOUNG, BROKE, MISERABLE AND DEPRESSED MAN.

I PRAY MY SOUL FINDS THE PEACE THAT IT DESPERATELY SEEKS.
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I just wanted to table my emotions here and vent out all the frustrations in my head because I have no one to talk deep with me. I hope to find little relief and seek solace in the peace of others.



I have been in your shoes before, broke , depressed with lamentations but I learnt a secret to life. The difference between a rich man and a poor man is while one is very optimistic the other is pessimistic . The poor man who is pessimistic always feel something bad will go wrong if he should do or attempt something while the rich feels he could hit a jackpot if he tried something, in fact he is excited about trying new things. That is why a wise rich man will always want to invest cos he knows he will either fail and lose money or hit the jackpot and become richer.
You need to work on your mind first, it’s tough but you can do it. Please stop lamenting about how much of a failure you think you are, stop saying you wish you were from a rich background, it’s a cage in the mind that limits the physical because our thoughts attracts anything we see in physical

Solution:
I need you to work on a routine for one month , it may sound stupid but as they say “there is no harm in trying”. Get a mirror, look into the mirror and look at yourself deeply, you need a medium sized mirror or a large mirror to achieve this, if you don’t have one, find it.
Look at yourself and tell your self truthfully the things you don’t like about yourself ,what you want to change in your life and why. When you start this therapy, you may not understand it’s effect but with time you will see.
Secondly, you wish you are from a rich home. Why not start reading books written by rich people and connect to what made them rich through your mind cos last last the Bible no lie when it says “as a man thinketh in his heart so is he” . If you think you are poor and miserable, you will continue to manifest in being more poor .




I really appreciate that you poured out your heart for help. It shows you can heal fast and be great.
TV/Movies / Re: Erica & Kiddwaya Caught Kissing Hours After She Called Off Their Relationship by Futurejoy(f): 6:13am On Aug 07, 2020
Kabir5643:
No talent show for this country

Only porn

Damn Niggarrrrrrr
Isoright
You sound like a porn addict that is why you know porn actions
TV/Movies / Re: Erica & Kiddwaya Caught Kissing Hours After She Called Off Their Relationship by Futurejoy(f): 6:12am On Aug 07, 2020
Professorcplus:
I hate BB Niger...
Only jobless youth watch this show...
This show is demonic...
But you are always First to comment on it...

You know your self. Continue
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TV/Movies / Re: Erica & Kiddwaya Caught Kissing Hours After She Called Off Their Relationship by Futurejoy(f): 6:11am On Aug 07, 2020
Righteousness89:
If you feel wat goes on there is normal, you must be Joking!!

Almost Everything there is Orchestrated by a force that is beyond the Comprehension of the people in there....

If you are Watcher of that program and you are Sincere with yourself, you will have had your own Personal Experiences of Strange and immoral habits ..
grin is this a prediction or a vision cos I am not understanding?
Agriculture / Re: Rescued Good Boy Needs A Home by Futurejoy(f): 7:43pm On Aug 05, 2020
I really wish I could have this dog, I lost mine on the 1st of February this year, she was a Caucasian I cried like a human had died, I couldn’t eat for days. it’s painful when people maltreat dogs, they have emotions and feelings too. Most importantly they bring good luck

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Agriculture / Re: 30k Twice A Week From My Pepper Farm by Futurejoy(f): 7:18pm On Aug 05, 2020
jethro2:


I think peppers are pruned at the base and not at the top
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