HajimeSaito:


That kind of woman only exists in dreams. If any woman tells you that she fits all these requirements, then know straight away that she is playing with you..

Not only in dreams... change your social circle.

Caseless:
Go learn a skill, OP.

Lol

1. You are playing too hard to get

2. You are addicted to internet romance.

3. You love the melodrama.

4. You think all the good ones are already taken.

5. You let your partner mirandise you.

6. You are too concerned about what others will say.

7. You have such a bogus checklist.

8. You believe the fairytales in telenovelas.

9. You are yet to get over your ex.


Life Amends

Bluezy13:
Your first six paragraphs are nonsensical and fallacious which doesn't relate to the thread caption.

You last 3 paragraphs only shows the echelons of your mediocrity in application of the principles of comprehension passages which you should have been taught in your primary school.

I score you 10%.
Work on your intelligence, logical and technical know-how!!!

Ok. But am wondering why you took your time and were even patient enough to read all 9 paragraphs to the end, plus another 10 minutes to type a comment. I wouldn't even read to finish if I were you. Take a chill pill, not everything you see on the internet is for your consumption.

Mr intelligent, I greet you. Thanks for the comment anyway.

Meet a Nigerian girl between the ages 19 to 30, you better not be riding a car. If you drive and own a well furnished apartment, don't make the mistake of taking her to your home, she may never want to leave anymore. She don find husband material!

But wait o, why are Nigerian women so marriage obsessed? What's so important about marriage here anyway? Even ladies from financially well-to-do families these days are so damn desperate to get married, get laid, become pregnant and have kids-- raise a family, their family. It has come to a point where the type of man doesn't even matter anymore. In fact pot-bellied-widower men are the ones on a higher demand. A girl once told me a husband is a husband, once he can afford to take good care of himself and his wife.

I know you misogynists are happy that I am castigating the women, but sorry to disappoint you.

It is no fault of theirs. I am not in any way trying to blame the women who are desperate to get married. If you ask for their sincere opinions, most wouldn't even be thinking of marriage if no one was pushing them too hard to get married before their 30th birthday.

Elsewhere in other climes, people want to live a life of value. They want to find a partner, fall in love and live a happy life. Marriage is seen as an "end" and not "a means to an end". Marriage is not a necessity. If you find someone who you feel you can live the rest of your life with, then you can proceed with the nuptials. But if you choose to be celibate or just cohabitate with whomever you please, nobody gives a hoot. It's your life and your choice.

Come to Nigeria, a woman of 25 years is constantly mocked with the question "you never marry?" while single men twice her age will be bragging about how "na them de rush us!"

Wondering why most Nigerian brides are visibly sad on their wedding days?

Simply put, such women are pushed into marriages they don't desire. They are indirectly rushed to get married to men they don't love, and at a time they ain't even ready. Put yourself in the shoes of these women, what better option is there to choose if everyone keeps asking why you ain't married yet. Not very many have the confidence, and boldness to stand firmly and resist such societal pressures. This to me is an advanced form of "forced marriage".

Where are the true women advocates? I am 100% with you on this one.

Life Amends

evy800:
If this kind of woman is worth fighting for then am certainly in the wrong relationship

It is never a crime to re-think it, neither is it too late to decide what's best for you.

She has been hurt and even abused too many times it is hard for her to love and trust again. This woman needs you to be patient like a saint and stoic like a dove. You must learn to deal with issues equably and never lose your temper. You must understand that deep down beneath, she’s not as complex as she appears to be. She’s soft as silk but only has a broken shell. You have to set a constant reminder that this woman have had her fair share of life’s trials and tests. Having been challenged time and time again, She’s too careful not to get hurt one more time – especially not by you. She has been through a lot making it hard for her to trust that easily.

......... more at https://chofam.com

5. Take it slow, be patient, do not rush at getting intimate with her.

6. Be sincere with her always, let your word be what you mean and always be true to your word

7. Lastly, if you are not a hundred percent sure about your feelings then you better stay away!

https://chofam.com/2018/04/how-to-love-a-woman-who-been-hurt-rough-turburlent-past/

This type of woman is really worth fighting for

We all have our relationship preferences. We all have some peculiar qualities and characteristics we want in a mate.

For those who have experienced true love and understand how pleasurable it feels, nothing feels better than loving someone and having them love you back with thesame zeal.

However, we ought to be extra-cautious as the more we love, the more vulnerable and exposed we become.


But if the woman you are trying to woo satisfies the following conditions, then she is really worth your time.


1. She likes you and it’s no big deal saying it out loud

2. She takes the lead

3. She supports your dreams and ambitions in life

4. She introduced you to her best friends

5. She’s got her own life goals

6. She puts up with your flaws

7. She forgives


Life Amends

Money is the most important ingredient in every relationship.

Yes,

It is a sad fact but that’s the reality.

Although many social activists are trying to effect a social change, it will take a long time to achieve this.

In lesser developed economies like ours, you stand a better chance of getting someone to love you when you are financially all right. If you are not, all your abundance of emotions and good traits may just be a waste. All your dreams and assurances of the future may not even be considered.

https://chofam.com/2018/07/why-never-relationship-you-cannot-afford/

Let's say you meet someone and you are attracted to them, you get them talking, and discover that they are as pretty on the inside too, just as you had envisaged. It didn't take long, you fell helplessly in love.

But that's when your problem begins. You have felt the same way for many girls/guys like this in the past but it didn't end quite well. Now you are confused as to what you really want from this girl/guy. Is it love you are feeling or is it just an infatuation? You are sure you are in love with them but you are not so sure where your new relationship is headed.

There wouldn’t be any qualms if you feel nothing, if you know it's just a one-night-stand. But, if what you forsee is a relationship that will grow into a long-term commitment, then there are certain Dos and Don’ts that you must follow.

And we are going to take this space and time to discuss a few of them.

https://chofam.com/2018/08/how-to-get-a-relationship-started/

You know you are beautiful, handsome, rich and shapely, yet you are still single. And you may be wondering what's wrong. Why your relationships are always short-lived. Why people who seemed crazy about you all of a sudden disappear without reason.

With all you've got, no one seems to want to be with you. You're so single and lonely while your not-so-good-looking friends are getting married every saturday.

Hold it there, worry no more, it might just be as a result of some bad habits you carry along. Most times we wear a habitual regalia without we ourselves having any idea that we are that way. There are some bad habits can ruin your love life and make a partner or potential suitor to lose interest in just a split of a second.

Here are some of these habits


#10. Talkativeness

It is good to express yourself. We all love to voice out our inner feelings and opinions but when the talking continues non-stop, it becomes a social nuisance. Talking much more than you listen makes you appear less caring.


#9. Drug addiction

Alcohol and other drugs takes you to a different world entirely. What you perceive as real may actually not be. Over time, you become self-conceited and insensitive to your partner without even knowing it. Alcohol and drugs are also known to increase anger, irritability and violence.

#7. Poor self-expression

Poor self-expression is a hell of a relationship breaker. As humans, our imperfect nature makes it necessary for us to devise ways to resolve disagreements amicably. Work hard to improve your listening and communication skills and always try to understand correctly what your partner is trying to communicate to you.

https://chofam.com/2017/11/10-bad-habits-that-can-ruin-your-love-life/

Many of us are secretly battling with addictions. These addictions may range from deep addictive habits like substance abuse to other behavioral addictions like s*x, Fear of missing out on social media or screen addiction.

While we are all familiar with substance addiction, lately behavioral addiction (e.g social media addiction) has become more common and hibitual. Most of us are free from substance addiction but still spend 16 hours daily on the internet, stake all our life savings on nairabet, watch p0rn when alone, m@sturb@te 5 times a day or eat to a binge.

A behavioral addiction is similar to and can be as habit-forming as substance addiction in that a person essentially becomes dependent on the pleasurable feelings that certain behaviors (like gambling) bring about, and begins to compulsively act out that behavior to reach that high time over and over again.

People diagnosed with a behavioral addiction show a loss of self-control over that behavior. They are led on by the pleasures of their desire and continue to indulge is such behavior despite the negative consequences it has on their health and social life.

An addiction is a habit we have become very accustomed to. If you must kick out an addictive habit, you must first of all make a bold decision to quit and be willing to follow through with this decision by putting in some effort together with zeal and determination.

Here are some few strategies that can help you to overcome your addiction.

https://chofam.com/2018/04/how-to-overcome-an-addiction/

Most interviewees when asked this question are overcome with perplexity, not knowing if to be frankly honest or give an answer that would impress the interviewers.

Here is how not to answer the question

Try as much as you can not to be so casually optimistic. Don't be the " I see myself at the top" type. This would expose your juvenility on career development and portray you as someone who feels "entitled". Also, don't be the big talker. Do not make any bold statements like you are going to be your interviewers boss in the shortest possible time -- especially if you have no idea about the inner workings of the company. "
When interviewers ask this question, this is what they are trying to decode.

When employers ask this question, here is what they are trying to decode

5. Employers don't want to hear how bad you want the job

There are many ways to answer the question. How you choose to answer it will determine how the interviewer will perceive it. For example “I have no experience in this field but I am a fast learner. I also enjoy helping others grow and inventing new ideas that can help in problem-solving. So if the company see these values in me down the line, I would be glad to work myself up to be part of the leadership or decision making role of this company”.

Do not go about telling the employer how bad you want the job and how you would do anything to keep working for the company. This portrays desperation and insincerity.

4. Employers need to know how long you plan to work

“I never used to ask this question thinking it was stupid until I saw an employer on Reddit narrate of how a prospective employee told him he planned spending his next five year in a foreign country and only needed a six months job to save some capital for the trip. Says a CEO on Reddit.

This question is very important in order not to make the mistake of hiring the wrong person for the job. Also, it is important to take note and not invest so much or too little in an employee.

Your answer will give the employer an idea of what to expect from you and where exactly to fit you in case you get hired.

https://chofam.com/2018/07/when-employers-ask-where-do-you-see-yourself-in-the-next-five-years-what-exactly-are-they-trying-to-decipher/

Do you know it takes only a fifth of a second to fall in love and just about a tenth of a second to make a good first impression?

Consequently, you must be at your best game meeting someone you like for the first time. A good first impression can create an effect strong enough to last a lifetime - especially on a first date.

Psychologists say it takes as little in time as three seconds for someone you are meeting for the first time to evaluate and form an impression of you. Just at a glance, a person may make an opinion about you based on what they see and perceive. Your body language, your demeanour, your mannerisms, and how you are dressed are all put together and summed up.

You must have heard the saying "no one gets a second chance to make a good first impression". First impressions say everything about you. Even very little things that may have gone unnoticed. Everything counts on a first date.

Below are some tips on how to create a good first impression on a first date.

https://chofam.com/2018/05/how-to-make-a-good-first-impression-on-a-first-date/

Scorpio October 23 -- November 21

Be careful with a Scorpio, they might just be cloaked to disguise.

It is hard to tell how exactly they feel or what they think about anything.

In whatever they do, Scorpios always have some kind of hidden plan and ulterior motive.

The Scorpio is the most conniving of all the Zodiac signs.

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First of all, trust is a very complex phenomenon. For some of us who have been betrayed countless times by persons we had trusted, we hardly ever want to trust anyone anymore. But that feeling seems to last only for while. It doesn't take long before we slip-off, lose our gaurd and fall face down for some trickster. Only then do we realise how foolish we have been right from the start.

But who do we trust? How can we tell a person who is trustworthy from a constar.

Fortunately for us, the stars have all the answers we seek.

By simply knowing the date of birth of a person, you can tell the likelihood of whether they are going to betray you in future or not.

There are some specific personality traits present in certain Zodiac signs that make them more likely to betray a person’s trust. This is not to say that these Zodiac signs are going to betray you and your Friendship for sure. But they may just exhibit certain personality traits and characteristics that make them very untrustworthy.

So whenever you meet anyone new, these Zodiac signs will help keep you guarded. They give a prior idea on what we should expect in the near future.

Read more
https://chofam.com/2018/08/here-is-who-you-should-never-trust-based-on-zodiac-sign/

Tell him he has a very bad taste on girls and they all have body odour. "Guy, the last girl you slept with here made my bedsheets stink so bad even after i had washed them three times with hot water" I bet you, he wouldn't want you to see any of his girls again. From that moment, he will start avoiding you and your apartment.

Arielle5:
It hurts so much...I cry even in my sleep. He seems to be handling the breakup well. I just want to get over the pain already

After a breakup, it is a normal to feel that way. This points to the fact that you truly loved him. But seriously, there are over 6 billion people on the planet! Handsome, single and rich guys half the number. Not to add that you are pretty and young. Don't waste that precious heart on someone who isn't deserving of you. Don't lose confidence in yourself. Don't blame yourself. You can cry if you want, but get your mind prepared and move on. There is so much joy on this world that you can explore. And just one person shouldn't be enough to stop you from accomplishing that.

MorningStar233:
Its too hard, even tho I keep asking my self y I'm feeling hurt despite his lack of remorse for what he did I still feel like talking to him, but no, I won't

Talk to me dear, I'm here

MorningStar233:
Its too hard, even tho I keep asking my self y I'm feeling hurt despite his lack of remorse for what he did I still feel like talking to him, but no, I won't

Talking to him doesn't in any way diminish your self-worth. You can keep the conversation casual. But if you really want to get over him, first of all forget all the self-blame thing. It wasn't entirely your fault that you broke up. Be positive, find distractions, go out more, meet new people, engage in more sporting activities, make yourself busier, in church or at work. It's only a matter of time, you are gonna meet someone more handsome and accomplished, and who will love you better.

jayauthentic:
Option 1::::: Get another date... surely there's gotta be someone else you kinda admire who's been on your matter for a while.. with this you'll handle the memories of your ex easily.
Option 2::::: Devote your time to the things of God, you'll find ultimate peace and joy.

Nice

First of all. Do you really love him? Do you ever see yourself spending the rest of your life with him? How compatible are you? Does he often subject you to abuse, and emotional torture all the time? Are you happier with him?

These are the questions you should be asking yourself. If you love him, and you want to be with him, then why not?

Secondly, how did he forcefully take your pride, did he seduce you or did he tie you down bdsm?

Don't let others or your religious indoctrination be an a obstacle to your happiness. Take your time to think about it.

Visit https://chofam.com You might just find what you need.

8. Openness

Learn to express yourself, he may not entirely agree with you but he'll definitely love and respect you more. Just say whatever the heck you are thinking. We love that!

9. Intimacy

But not just that kind of intimacy, deep intimacy spiced with affectionate lovemaking. Yes, sex must be a part of it.

Visit https://chofam.com for more entertaining love and relationship articles.

labake1:




It is not easy
The thought is killing me

Lol. It's never easy, I once unfriended, blocked, unblocked and resent my ex a friend request on facebook. She accepted and after a while, we became friends again. But I agree with Gusdino, getting a new crush as fast as possible was what kept me going during that period.

Please nairalanders, I need an honest review on this website https://chofam.com What can I do better?

The ill-feeling of devastation experienced after a breakup is only natural, and expected. People even feel heartbroken at the initial stages of getting over a toxic relationship. After all, it is said that “love is blind” and it has the ability to make people overlook their partner’s flaws.

At the end of a relationship, bad memories become overshadowed by good ones — making us want to blame ourselves. We begin to question our decision to break up in the first place, forgetting that the fault isn’t entirely ours.

But here is the goodnews, the pain is never going to last forever. Heartbreaks, like any other wounds, can heal — with the right dose of self-love, self-care, and a positive outlook – and an overwhelming wanting to move on.

Relationship experts have revealed some steps we can take to help us get over someone after a heartbreak.

https://chofam.com/2018/08/how-to-get-over-a-relationship-breakup/