Magnoliaa:
Wearing natural hair: no.

Staying fit: yes, and this should be a general advice to anyone, really.

I'm talking about beauty girl not general lifestyle

lilvicky68:
A lazy man can be wealthy.. wealth must not come from hardwork.

An inheritance can make a lazy man wealthy

I purposely used the word-wealthy not rich. I'm very sure they have different meanings.

Look it up

Yes. At some point we have to be honest with ourselves.

There are so many beautiful Nigerian women that even the most racist misogynist would find it hard to deny.

We are so beautiful that racists have to constantly put us down to have a chance in life.

However, the power of our beauty seems to be lost on us.

We have to understand that beauty is as powerful as power and wealth. Beauty is power. The beauty of a woman is at par with the wealth of a man. A woman's beauty alone can fetch her a wealthy man.

But!!! We've missed it somewhere. And I know what's gone wrong. We have become so overwhelmed with "what has been" that we don't know what to in fact allow and disallow. We think everything goes when it comes to looks. Nope.

Everything does not go when it comes to looks. When it comes to looks, every enhancement must not deviate from the default natural state by more than 5%. Any thing artificial that surpasses 5% minimizes our physical appeal. When you put too much on what you already have, you are diminishing your looks ignorantly.


When it comes to our dressing, wardrobe, accessories, etc, anything may go but when it comes to our face and body, nature has given us a law that we must not deviate from else we risk losing some of our appeal.

As African women, we don't have heavy wavy hair like other ethnic groups, especially the ones that rest on both sides of our face. Nature has given us a different type of hair that is proportional to the structure of our face. Any deviation from this natural order, will lessen our beauty. We may find it difficult to see this "misfit" because we have become so accustomed to these deviant hair styles. It's akin to someone with a body odour not being able to perceive himself until another points it out to him. When it comes to hair, this is our present situation. We can't see the abnormality on us but others may see it.

Relaxing our hair and styling it however we want is not the problem. The problem is the additional hair we add to our hair that is disproportionate to our facial bones.

You may say you have a different kind of skull but as an African woman I put it to you that your natural hair is like every other African woman's with the exception of some few tribes that can be found only in certain regions.

Nature still gave you an afro textured hair because whichever way you style it, it won't diminish your beauty and youth like weaves and wigs always do.

Imagine how creative we would become with our hair in 10years time if we stubbornly refuse this ancient conditioning that has stuck to us for long and has degraded us into this women "who are trying hard" instead of "the brown birds" that we already are.

We think our hair can't do much for our overall looks but that's only because we've never embraced our hair to even begin to see all the unimaginable possibilities it can create for our overall outlook.

We are the only group of women with this type of hair that can be twisted into any style. At this present time all I can say is how blessed and ignorant are we among women!


In continuation, let me just say congratulations to the Nigerian ladies who have made keeping fit a part of their regular routine.
I see more and more Nigerian women embracing work outs and gym sessions.

It really takes a strong of resolve to keep your weight in check in this part of the world. I understand slim straight women and the kind of stigma they are subject to can push them into unhealthy eating lifestyles. Yet, I still believe they can still keep their weight and maybe do squats to create some curves or go for cosmetic procedures if they can.

Generally, Nigerian women have balanced slim bodies, not much extremities. But why do we not vigorously fight to stay in shape? Why do we not fight to have this power that can make our lives easier in this already tough world? Or are we not aware that beautiful people have easier lives? Or we prefer to bury our heads in the sand away from reality? Or we are just confused on how this world works? Or we think staying fit is only for the upper class? Are excuses ruling our lives?

But the law of nature can't be cheated. The more weight we amass the more unshapely we look, the more unshapely we look the more unappealing we look.

People fight their lives out to achieve wealth and status. Why? because with wealth and status comes influence and power. Power and influence drives you to the top of society.

Beauty is power. How can we not see it?

You prefer to walk around with weaves and wigs and round bodies when you know in your heart you can do better.

Being slim with a feminine curve is a strong natural appeal that no one can deny. And increase in body mass more than an acceptable weight would disfigure this.

You know what to do to look and stay beautiful, why are you not doing it in spite of the enormous advantages it brings? Or you want to eat your cake and have it? Have you ever seen a lazy wealthy man? Good! You will never see an ugly woman on a pedestal too.

Get real!

Patriotsleague:

In other words a whoore encouraging more of her kind to join the trade.

Being a biological woman is whoring! According to Woke chapter 1 Frm vs 1 to infinitum?

Graysons:
The most beautiful women in Nigeria are the Fulanis they have no competition when it comes to beauty in Nigeria.
Igbo women sabi rub bleaching creams,eg cursade and tura.

You say

shortgun:
The haters are coming you

Lol can they dare

When we talk of beauty in high concentration, I give the crown to Igbo women. It doesn't matter where they are from, which country they reside in. Igbo is beauty and beauty is Igbo.

Igbo women are undoubtedly the most beautiful women ever! Is it their pretty and well sculptured faces, their glittering skin no matter the shade, their height and well calved bodies. Have you seen the way Igbo women walk, such grace and elegance! In short Igbo women are the major reason Nigerian women rank high in the eye of every honest and independent foreign observer!

There is just something about Igbo women!

You know, I've always wondered why their men are a bit different from other black men.

Yea, its no secret that black men are the least ranked of all groups in the world and about sealing their permanent underclass status worldwide. Its no surprise, as we can see why they are like this. Still! There is something a bit different about Igbo men!

Ill summarise with 2 points:
1) Igbo men know there place and know where to step aside for their women to shine. You will never see Igbo men fighting for the "beauty spot" with their women. They simply step aside and let their women sit pretty! They are okay being invisible here and yet visible in other ways.
Who doesnt know that Igbo men are the most handsome in Nigeria, and even Africa, yet you will never see them brag about their looks. They just let their women have that spot. They are just more secure than the average black man

2) Igbo men are "creatively industrious" Its one thing to be hardworking, its another to be creative about it. If you like throw them into the darkest pit, they will make use of their brains! Because of this culture, Igbo men have successfully closed the wide gap between the rich and the poor in their society. They behave like gods. And operate with a divine mindset. They don't start their families until they are ready!

Can we say Igbo women have shapened the mindset of Igbo men wrongly? Of course not! Its the opposite as everyone can see! In short, If Igbo men can be transparent here, they will give credit to their women for being a major factor in their clamour for success. Imagine if Igbo women were cheap, and parting legs for losers, were would the motivation that has driven Igbo men to the top among their peers come from? They would have been like the average black man: Lazy and purposeless!

Truly the only reason Igbo men have remained this vibrant and productive is because Igbo women demand for vibrant and productive men! If Igbo women should change this demand, the loss of the igbo economy would be great. They have carried themselves in such a way that their men or any man dare not bring less than expected.

I might not be an Igbo girl by tribe but I am one at heart.
I will not criticise Igbo women rather I'll praise them for being smart enough to have a different kind of men

To non Igbo women who think a man calling you "not demanding or entitled" is a compliment, no, you are being cheap! Even shortsighted! My advice, be smart for your own good!

Beauty is a currency and men know that. That's why they demand for good looking women in exchange for their material resources. No man would be happy to part with so much for so little in return.

Could it be that the jealousy of Igbo women by non Igbo women is because they can't measure up and therefore are "humbled" to demand for less from men. Whereas Igbo women knowing what beauty they possess demand for more in exchange? Or am I over thinking.

Anyway, I'm just glad we have Igbo women amongst us and I can learn everyday from them and even tap their grace!

I'll name my daughter, Obiageli cos that's truly who she is.

Nonexisting1:
I approve of your wawulence. You vaginarians can go get them simps, they are useless to my gender after all.

Simp= Alpha male

JOACHINpedro:
A broke man shouldn't be in relationship. Agreed

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Nonexisting1:
At least we can agree on one thing. Let me guess. The rights you are talking about is the right to date successful men abi?

You are not my audience

Nonexisting1:
I have never in this my life heard a successful woman or female achiever call men broke so it leaves me with only one option. This one here is definitely from Allen Avenue.

I'm no successful woman or female achiever. I just know my rights

Boomboost:
Is babygirl also broke?

Where is food and clothing coming from?

Every girl child needs to benefit from every man in her life. Her father first and then her husband. She is entitled to their provisions. Its an overflow life

Yes dummy

You are just his fall back plan.

You are not his type.

He won't bring that mess near his ideal woman.

Even if you happen to be his type, you will depreciate in value in a short while and cease being his type.

He will never want to impress you. You cheap.

He will despise you.

He will marry you and take you through hell.

If by 0.000000001 chance he makes it, he will cheat on your ass with those gold digging women he complained to you about ( You remember? )

Now baby girl,

Let no woke Buffon decampaign you from a bright future. You carry generations in your womb. Birth them in abundance or not at all.

God finished creating everything before he created us his children and ushered us in. That's the perfect precedence to follow and a strong show of love. Men have the direct nature of God and always, I mean ALWAYS do likewise to those that are dear to them.

No matter how brilliant a student is, he must write and pass an exam before getting a good result record.

Same way, a broke man must come into financial stability before getting a good companion.

Disregard the grass to grace epistles, use your intuition, they are mostly lies and exxagerations to lure naive women into stagnant relationships, is it not Nigeria that you know where people can barely feed properly, women ageing like bananas for stress and many people's children have turned e-beggers for lack of care.

Men need women, ask Adam.
God created everything good for Adam including other planets/stars to enjoy yet Adam still felt lonely.

It wasn't Eve that was lonely, it was the man Adam that was lonely.

We have this certain truth that even if you give a man the whole world he would still be lonely. Only a woman-companion can satisfy him.

The only men that don't need women are men with a higher calling like Paul. Men with a different non worldly assignment. They have this energy that keeps them afloat.

But you see the average man, the only thing in his brain is how to make money and start a family with his dream woman.

As for women there is no record of us being lonely without men. So no one can say for sure women are incomplete without men.

What am I saying, you are the prize, even nature tells you so. Pay attention, if he doesn't have it together don't let him bring you in!

Cos "nice guys" are broke or timid or ugly or all of the above.

Zonefree:
This gender has a covenant with Evil.

Sexists, tribal bigots, same shallow brain.
Are you so afraid of thinking that you have to genderise and tribalise every issue.

Or you don't trust your brain in processing and transmitting information that you just put everything in a box to appear smart.

Traditional women are just "biological" women. Women who are nurtured by instincts and natural causes. Women who live and move within the boundaries of femininity and hypergamy.Respectful, cultured, gentle, kind, Not wide-eyed, quiet, cheerful, mostly submissive, respectful towards but not adherents of Modern Woke Culture, teachable, very hypergamous(not overt), Never confused or in arguments against their innate( and expected) personality and so on.

Men they want:
Traditional women just like any group of women want familiar men. Men who share similar values, belief systems and generally complement them. So traditional women obviously want, Traditional men. Men who are "biological". Groomed by instincts and other natural causes. Full protectors, generous providers, communal, creative, Strong, Very wise, respectful, brave, not easily deceived, clear thinkers, thoughtful, respectful towards but not adherents of Modern Woke Culture, Never confused or in arguments against their innate( and expected) personality and so on.


Men they don't want:
Non-traditional men: Eventhough nontraditional women have a hard time getting along with their male equivalents, I think its a fair match. It would be totally unbalanced and prehell to match a traditional woman or man with a nontraditional man or woman respectively.

So here are obvious traits of a nontraditional man: Woke, Not(or partial) protectors, Not(or reluctant) providers, groomed by modern cultures and movements, individualistic, Not(or partially) creative, weak, unwise, disrespectful, fearful, easily deceived, contradictory thought processes, talkatives, disrespectful towards societal biological contruct, confused and always in arguments against their innate(or expected) personality and so on.

I wonder at times when I see non traditional men raging at women and demeaning non traditional women, who are their female counterparts. Do they for once think, a traditional woman would want them?
I'm of course jolted back to the reality of the contradictory thought processes of the Non traditional men.

Fiscus105:



I will tell you this for free

Any spiritual filled things started from the person. If you are a type who is praying, reading bible , fighting, masturbating, clubbing, killing

Before u know, spirits of God/devil will enter you and spiritually filled you and start controlling you.


Any character, I insist any character, that you put on fight to control it, you will surely summont it.

LOL K

Fiscus105:


Maturity is supposed to make u manage your anger issues, not only with your wife/husband but with everyone.(for you not to enter problem and for you to be able to leave peaceful with husband/wife)

Everyone can go angry o, but we are managing it, for it not to put us in trouble.

If you start manage ur anger, by overlooking some issues, you will see that gradually u will be capable to manage it.

I'll tell you this for free.

There is a natural anger and there is a spirit-influenced anger.

Natural anger is the one you can control to a large extent. And its usually not that extreme(Any extreme trait you notice in people like shyness, quietness, talkativeness, dirtiness are spirit induced)

You see Spirit-influenced anger? You need a saviour! Because you are in a web you can't get out from by yourself.

If you try to control this spirit-influenced anger by yourself, at first, it would look like you are in charge, but do you know what will happen next?
The spirit behind that anger will just slide to another character trait, or area of your life or your health or all of the above!

They don't leave! They move into other areas subtily and "naturally" you don't see them until they start manifesting. Even when they show up you won't know they are responsible until you become "Spiritual" like "real spiritual" not the silly religious cloak.

One advice for people with extreme traits: Do not, i repeat do not go for deliverance. Avoid deliverance ministries if you don't want to end up in a psychiatric ward. Get a Saviour!

What they administer in deliverance ministry is temporal relieve. You need a Saviour!

Medianna:
Just like there are gold differences women there are also gold digger men.
Why will she offer Sex and money,respect, and loyalty to a man all at the same time.
The man will definitely take advantage of that.
Seeing her like a weak desperate woman.
Its is sad to see a man who does have money and sense. If a woman can be so intelligent enough to take care of herself why will she be disturbing herself with men who are not bold enough.

Women are not Gold diggers, its called hypergamy, which is absolutely normal.

Don't let men demonise our biological make up while preserving theirs.

Its very natural for women to desire wealthy men. The benefits are just too numerous for her: mental, social, financial, security, healthy kids, longevity, name it.

Any one that calls you a gold digger does not like you. He wants you to adopt a masochist mindset and eat dust with him.

Men want beautiful, quiet, cheerful and respectful women as partners and its normal even when many women are struggling with these qualities. The society expects them to meet those standards anyway.

Why can't men shut up and do the only thing women NEED from them: provide? Why would they fight nature and term us gold diggers and you accept?

litigator:



Hmmmm! Na wah. It is well.

I have noticed that Nigeria women seldom marry down the social ladder. They all want to marry their social equal or someone above their social standards.

But they will cry blue wolf if men do the same.it’s always easier for men to marry anyone.

Maybe because men value peace and stability in marriages, while women value financial security and jollymentations.

I stand corrected.

You know,
I also wonder why Nigerian men, as ugly as they are all desire to date the prettiest girls.

When you tell the average Nigerian man to name his spec, he will never say an average looking woman or a woman with a struggle face, he tells you he wants the softest, berriest looking of them while looking like the slightly reformed zoo escapee. Such guts! Such vain standard!

And they still wonder why their marriages don't last?

Same way women are pursuing the few well to do men. And settling for average or below eventually, is same way men are chasing the few pretty women and settling for average or below eventually.

Lesson for all: Don't be anyone's Settlement plan.