Family / Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 8:27pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
ultraviolet27:
This Idiot is a real Junkie I swear always talking off point, unrealistic and unreasonable So that Shim can be viewed as a Deviant/non conformist or be seeing as Woke!!this is an Idiot who may have never giving 500 to a needy Person before in His/Her life!!Shim too dey come online to Spew Garbage!!
So it's only the Rich that must help the Less privileged at all times they can't also repay by helping when they can?? Or you think giving aid is only financially? Your time and energy can also be used to render help So her staying with His Wife just for 2 days to assist is bad but She can dump Her lives Problems with this Man and He wouldn't hesitate
You are nuisance and you make me angry I swear na your type the Yorubas call asodi always facing the left if others face right like a Psycho
Even the very wealthy requires even little gifts as appreciation for what they do for you too it doesn't have to be eqiuavalent of what was gifted you though!! If not it will look one sided and ripped off and they may stop doing
Why does even God require us to show appreciations by thanking Him giving our lives in service to Him giving 10 percent to Him as tithe?? Even though He is an all provider ? It is to show that their should be reciprocity in relationships
Only Moronic leeches take and take without reciprocating!! exactly. They think it's only those who have much to give should be helping. as soon as you are down they will run from you and say you're exploiting and using them for selfish gains. life is wicked. one has to becareful |
Family / Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 8:18pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
IjebuWarrior:
Madam, didn't mean to brag... I personally donate >N5M annually to orphanages and widow(ers). It's my calling and my responsibility towards humanity.
Cuz you dey give ur poor friend's kids cheap rice and stew, we no go rest again, ba?
Madam, you no well, I swear. 🤬 abeg you dey madd. you never sabi where your madness dey start. why you nor carry the orphanage children for your house and feed them with that money if e sure for you? you think it's by giving money? your mate nor dey get orphanage homes? You dey mad? you think it's easy to care for children and show them love? that money you put, I dey give orphanage money too. carry children for your house and cook for them, wash plates and buy ingredients to cook for them. simple! oga you dey mad but you're too stupid to see.🚫 3 Likes |
Family / Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 8:15pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Fountainofyouth:
Bolded shows you clearly do not understand the bible which says love your neighbour as yourself not help, Bible also says you shall get in return meaning your reward is in heaven not getting a return from whom you helped, don't twist the bible to suit your narrative.
The husband clearly stated that she wanted the woman to stay as in sleep over with his wife in the hospital, so where exactly are you getting your assumptions from?
I clearly gave several suggestions and ways the woman can help without sleeping over in the hospital with his wife how can you not see that? Of all the people they know, must that woman be the one to sleep over?
I do not have time for unnecessary back and forth on something mundane that requires basic common sense and sound logic, it's simple, give wholeheartedly and expect nothing in return, let God or posterity reward you, simple.
you don't know the bible so shut up. early christains shared things between themselves and were helpful to each other. na people like you for say "nor touch my things" cos you don't know what compassion is like. not getting help from who you helped really? you're so dumb. |
Family / Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 8:07pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Fountainofyouth:
Bolded shows you clearly do not understand the bible which says love your neighbour as yourself not help, Bible also says you shall get in return meaning your reward is in heaven not getting a return from whom you helped, don't twist the bible to suit your narrative.
The husband clearly stated that she wanted the woman to stay as in sleep over with his wife in the hospital, so where exactly are you getting your assumptions from?
I clearly gave several suggestions and ways the woman can help without sleeping over in the hospital with his wife how can you not see that? Of all the people they know, must that woman be the one to sleep over?
I do not have time for unnecessary back and forth on something mundane that requires basic common sense and sound logic, it's simple, give wholeheartedly and expect nothing in return, let God or posterity reward you, simple.
it is you who is twisting the bible to suit your narrative. you have no compassion at all. David took Jonathan's son who was crippled to be eating at his table. when he went to war with his son Absalom , Jonathan son didn't follow him and David felt betrayed and gave his inheritance to his slave. it was when he came back from war he learnt that the salve deceived him. it's people like you will say David is wicked and heartless cos he helped crippled mephibosheth he don't have any right to demand his loyalty. What about the priest who was murdered cos of David? David took his son as his own. peoole like you will say David have no right over him despite David sworn to protect him with his life. you lots are the ones wicked . Thank God David no dey social media una for call am names. |
Family / Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 7:57pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Olumaeme:
Abeg no dey disturb yourself.
Na tit for tat I dey do.
I don't expect anything from anybody, and I don't sacrifice for anybody also, everybody dey he dey.
If I need you, I pay you, if you need me, you pay me, we deal and everybody goes their separate ways.
What is the benefit of me supporting you and you are not supporting me? And from the comments, you can see that most people are ingrates.
The fact that you are nice to people does not mean they will be nice to you.
Na the reality be that. na so! In fact this thread has opened my eyes. That's why some big rich men don't take boys from the street to learn their business or useful trade anymore. they will start accusing them of exploit and using them selfishly. Person want teach you how to catch fish, you say he dey command you to hold fish net. ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png) life na per head o. nor kill yourself for anyone cos tomorrow you will be surprised to see your name in the mud. |
Family / Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 7:51pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Olumaeme:
See this one.
Na why I say I no dey help poor people be that, what I do is strictly business.
You come, help me, I pay you, you find your square root.
I have something you want, I sell for you or you GTFO. Nobody is entitled to anybody by so doing Abi? So I don't expect from you, you sef don't expect from me.
You are ignorant because you don't know the whole story. When they had their own last born, na me use my car carry the woman go hospital in the middle of the night, leaving my own family behind. Sebi Lion too fit come chop them, I for leave her to labour till they are able to sort themselves out too nau.
As I talk, I to help poor people na the most stupid thing wey anybody fit ever do, and you sound like a typical poor person.
Kpele. my brother I wish I'm like you I for nor day this issue. imagine you risking your life to ride her to the hospital but she can't reciprocate even a little for your sick wife. na so the life just be. Thank heaven it's God who repays good deeds , if it was a human who will repay your good deeds people go die plenty. |
Family / Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 7:48pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
IjebuWarrior:
The useless lady is delusional and entitled.
She's very foolish and useless at the same time. She no get commonsense to understand basic life principles. Na frustration and anger go finish am las las. As you useless so, you think everyone useless and foolish like you? na people like you go watch your neighbour die of hunger but come outside to form saint. you stupid nor be small. |
Family / Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 7:45pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
escapadechuks:
You sound so sure about all you typed about me like you know me. Lol. You're just grasping at straws. You couldn't have been more wrong.
Anyway, truth is I help people when I can. It's not something to brag about. It's just basic human decency. But I don't help them expecting anything in return. . . Unlike you.
It's not too late sha. Change. You're too entitled and arrogant. It's not nice.
Calm down and reflect on yourself. You hate hearing the truth. That's why this post has entered 15pages and counting. If you want to help somebody, help them. If you don't want to help, don't help. You're nobody's God OK? She shouldn't need to turn her children to your nannies because you give them "something" after. Get off your high horse and realize you messed up.
They were surviving before you came along. They'll still survive without you.
Enjoy. you just dey cap for the internet bro. I know you can never let kids access your house for 2days straight. nor dey talk as if you get sense cos you don't. it's easier to spot someone being wrong while you can't take half of what they go through. It's basic human tendency to help and be helped. Even God wants us to follow his rules before he will help us. you saying they are surviving before me is laughable as I have never played superior to them. I'm not in a competition to see how long they will survive without me. it's the opppsite as I am terribly fighting for my privacy right now. The kids still come to my house and the mother still calls me for help. I really wished to be alone. |
Family / Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 7:35pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
IjebuWarrior:
Madam, once again...
You're indeed MADDD! 🤬 as you dey madd na so you dey type. You brain never develop well for this your madness and I'm sure you will soon start walking naked for this matter. continue to dey mad, you just dey start. rubbish. |
Family / Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 7:27pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
escapadechuks:
Atleast I don't go about using other people's children as my errand boys and girls. Change. you have not helped anyone but you have the guts to open your dirty mouth that they are being used. it's people like you that someone will give their last blood for but you can't reciprocate when they need blood to survive too. always judgmental about what they can't give. go and care for 5kids for months and see if you want send them errands. dirty hypocrite |
Family / Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 7:21pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Fountainofyouth:
You really are all up in your head, so I'm not surprised you arrogantly insist your opinion is right.
First off, the bible says do not allow your left hand know what your right hand does, meaning help and expect nothing in return, in fact the bible expects us to help from a distance, without publicity and fanfare.
Secondly, if the sick woman was single I would have excused the other woman on the basis of her not having anyone to help, even at that there is a limit to it because she is a married woman with kids, but this is a sick woman who is married, how exactly will you expect the other woman to leave her household to come stay with someone that has a husband that can care for her? Can't the husband take excuse at work to stay with his wife because there is no job that won't give him sick leave if he requests for it, why can't he do that? Doesn't he have friends around that he can take his daughter to so he can stay with his wife? Hell he can even let his daughter stay with that family to take care of while giving them little stipends for the assistance, that way, the woman can be available for her home at the same time helping them out with their daughter, more like killing two birds with a stone, why can't he do all these things?
Try to be logical in thinking it's not that hard, emotions will not get you anywhere, the highest that family can do is to visit the woman at the hospital if possible everyday and go back home that's all, not sleeping over when she has her family to cater for, wisdom is profitable to direct abeg.
The bible said w should help pur neighbours as ourselves. does it mean its only a giver who will help? so cos a giver as given , when he desperately needs help he should expect nothing in return? is that how it works? didn't the bible say what you give others you shall get in return? see how you made lots of excuses to back up the other woman who refused to render assistance to a sick person who has made sacrifices even against the wish of her husband to make sure her family is well off but you didn't offer any tangible solution in the least way she could have helped her sick friend. if she was a good person she would have gone out a bit to assist in any little ways she could. The husband said she rejected every thing they might have suggested. you are acting as if this is not Nigeria , do you think you can just request leave without meeting the terms of your managements? you want him to get sacked? as for his friends and family they may be too far from the hospital or engaged in something that they couldn't leave immediately to run to the hospital. That's why people don't help. You lots feel the giver is a stone or has no emotions. some people you will give your last drop water but they will let you die of thirst while holding a jug of water. becareful of helping people o. The world is a very wicked place. 1 Like |
Family / Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 7:00pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
okerekingsley90:
But konojunkie is right on the one. She has told you the truth. Nothing in this life sweet pass mind your business. You would save yourself from lots of troubles that person did not tell me any truth. it may sound like the truth to you but it's untrue to me and I will never take that person's opinion cos they are known for being so sentimental and argumentative. Click on page 6 to see how it ended between me and the mother. |
Family / Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 6:58pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
SAMBARRY: tell the mother in clear words and actions.no hide mouth talk am or be sounding apologetic, speak firmly and with conclusion.if after telling the mother the kids still come around,do something that will provoke the woman that will make her never to allow her kids around your house again.e.g when the kids come around (that's after you must have warned her o) carry broom and sweep their legs off your premises.anybody that is Yoruba knows the meaning of that.
No mother can stand watching her kids getting embarrassed or chased away so that trauma will be a reminder to her to ensure she doesn't allow her kids to your vicinity again I will do so o. thanks. 1 Like |
Family / Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 6:42pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Fountainofyouth:
See them, birds of a feather
You want a married woman to stay with your wife at the hospital when she has her own family to cater to, why can't you arrange where your daughter will stay till your wife is well so you can stay with her at the hospital? Why feel she has to be the one to do it on your behalf because you help her family? Did you ask permission from her husband? Or you feel they are at your mercy because you also clothe them? What if all her excuses are genuine? Such entitlement, smh, see the way you're even very condescending of people's life situation because you're above them, na only poor people get bad character?
Ko da, this life ehn, so many people lack conscience and genuine human sympathy.
it is you that lack conscience and human sympathy. you're the reason why some people help from a distance. someone who has been assisting you from her human compassion is sick to the extent she landed in the hospital, you can't render back that same compassion in her sick bed. her sickness didn't move you, the confusion of the husband not knowing where to put his child while he goes to work didn't move you. you're asking him if he knew she would take permission from her husband. yet the sick woman has gone without her husband permission to care and feed them. you're terrible. you lack compassion. you feel as long as the giver has given, the giver has no right towards having some compassion given in return. The bible said iron sharpen iron. The sick wife is very entitled even in her low point. you're a terrible person and you will soon experience what the sick wife has experienced too. 1 Like |
Family / Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 6:30pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
torqque7:
Don't mind her..see her even opening dirty mouth to try to justify her bad and arrogant behaviour. She is lucky she met a calm person that she can take advantage of because she give am dead phone or helped her small before. Your dirty mouth don ever help anybody for this life? go and carry 5kids in your house, cook for them, allow them access to your kitchen, prepare their meals, wash the plates and sweep the house for straight 3 months. dont allow them to touch anything chores for you o. then come out to give a ŕeview. Hypocrite 🚫 . I'm sure you will and can never do that. |
Family / Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 6:27pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
7upnigeria:
Apparently you have that 'use them as long as they're benefiting from you' mentality. I will not argue with you because it's a mentality of people who have low IQ, it's either you're UNEDUCATED or an OBIDIENT. Otedola donated N1 million each to 750 students of Augustine University who he didnt know, it was just to ease their burden and make life meaningful for them. Many people adopt children who are not theirs and give them meaningful lives. Come to the UK and see how millionaires donate heavily to orphanages just to share love and their wealth. You're seated in one corner of the world thinking everyone has a poverty decorated brain like you. we are not talking about otedola or other millionaires. what have you done to help the community as a whole? talk about yourself and stop debating like a confused human being. it's easier to criticise than give solutions to people's problems. what have you done to help ? |
Family / Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 6:24pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
IjebuWarrior: OP, You're MADDD! 🤬🤬🤬 na you dey madd. your madness just dey start. hypocrite wey no fit allow him neighbor children stay him for house and cook for them for even 2days dey want still talk. |
Family / Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 6:20pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
[quote author=torqque7 post=127128640]
Can you imagine the rubbish someone typed?no she born kids for you to be sending on errands na because of your tachere 200 naira that you dash them you now feel entitled to them been at your beck and call?I blame the poor woman for trying to keep a relationship with an opportunist and arrogant fellow.
Dem no born you well say you go send my kids on errands for you shey you want make ogun kill you?The woman even respects you and was been nice trying to even contact you after blocking her based on her alpha and Omega wey you be na,rubbish. You think the world revolves around your entitled ass? Entitlement ontop person children? You dey craze,what if the child goes missing or kidnapped?you think say na all this rubbish you are saying here? You better thank your God nothing happened to those kids when you sent them other wise na you for dey beg now and not feeling all arrogant and entitled.
how many people's children have you allow into your house to cook for them. have you allowed anyone's children access to your kitchen daily? have you allowed 5kids in your house daily? if no you're an hypocrite 🚫 |
Family / Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 6:18pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
frog12: AH. this na FAKE story ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png)
we ask serious question and see the reply.
![tongue](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/tongue.png) E pain am! lol. now it's a fake story cos I wished not to give birth withour being prepared for motherhood? your hatred go kill you las las |
Family / Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 6:17pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
frog12: AH. this na FAKE story ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png)
we ask serious question and see the reply.
E pain am! lol. now it's a fake story cos I wished not to give birth withour being prepared for motherhood? your hatred go kill you las las 1 Like |
Family / Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 6:15pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
tollyboy5:
Dont worry you can call me stupid na. Because i have also been leaching on you. If you have a pet like cat and you notice people ignorantly believe cat are trained by witches then make sure your cat is confined within your apartment and not disturbing others. Get your neighbor threat recorded and let her know you have evidence you want to harm your pet in case anything later happen to the Honestly speaking you must be an arrogant and terrible person hahjahhaha you came all out to show me hatred so I don't need your approval to be arrogant or terrible cos nothing will make me good in your blind eyes. so I may as well show you the terrible side you desperately wished to see. |
Family / Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 6:13pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
frog12: how many children do you have? why can't you send your children on errands? ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png)
I have lots of important things to achieve in my life before I start birthing kids. it's not due to lack of men but I want a quality life for my children so they won't suffer. I have to grown mentally, emotionally ,financially and spiritually to the stage that is nnecessary before motherhood will take place in my life. Sorry say I nor be baby mama! e pain you? 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Family / Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 6:08pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Obinzubechi: My dear I don't think you dropped this write up here for people's opinion because all what they're saying seems not to be sounding write to you, if you feel you know it all you shouldn't have come here asking in the first place.....you can't be too sure your friend actually told the daughter not to come, confront her and hear what she will say, and feeling entitled that the children must always do what you ask of them is too bad, for me that is know more help, because you are expecting something in return. I will defend myself cos I know all I put through just to make them happy. and it's very repulsive that they felt I am making the kids my slaves. when that is absolutely untrue. Other people are sending these same kids in the neighbourhood errands that are worst and inhumane without having the conscience of helping or feeding the kids. It's easy for you to say I don't want to accept what others are saying but I do know where it pains me right now and I will not allow it cos it's not my nature to use people as slaves. I now understand why people don't like helping others. it usually ends badly. |
Family / Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 6:00pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
7upnigeria:
Madam, the little change you have is getting into your head. They were not eating before you moved into their street abi. Haven't you heard? 'Who go help you no go stress you'. Nobody truly wants their kids becoming househelps, its financial situations that makes people consider such options. If you want to help them, please help. Stop looking for cheap labour. how many children that are not related to you have you helped or fed in your life? come and carry 5 children in your house, cook for them. then go out to buy ingredients that you will use in cooking their meals. wash the plates after they are done eating, sweep and arrange the house they disorganized. don't let them touch or do anything then come and give a review after months. hypocrite 🚫 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Family / Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 5:55pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
SAMBARRY: madam no be everything you go say here.the more you talk,the more your words are misconstrued to make you look like a bad person.
In the first place you don't even have any point to prove to anybody.God sees your heart and motives and he is a rewarder.he rewards everyone accordingly for their deeds on Earth Yes o. but I needed to put some point straight or they run with false narrative. imagine him judging my personality based on a street argument that he knows nothing about what led to it. can you imagine? 1 Like |
Family / Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 5:46pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
tollyboy5:
For you to even be in a street argument might reveal the kind of person you are. So you wanted the said friend to come and fight on your behalf? It seems you don't even put on a thinking Cap. She did the right thing as your friend to calm the other woman on your behalf and calm you down later. Sorry to say that your friend is way smarter than you are. You're just feeling you're better maybe because you're more financially stable. |
Family / Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 5:44pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
tollyboy5:
For you to even be in a street argument might reveal the kind of person you are. So you wanted the said friend to come and fight on your behalf? It seems you don't even put on a thinking Cap. She did the right thing as your friend to calm the other woman on your behalf and calm you down later. Sorry to say that your friend is way smarter than you are. You're just feeling you're better maybe because you're more financially stable. Don't be stupid. The person I had an argument with said she will poison my cat cos she doesn't like cats. so I should sit and watch while she yells and threaten my pet? I had to stand up for myself and defend my poor innocent cat who is being prejudiced for a being a cat. The lady was saying i sent my cat to harm her. imagine the nonsense. while we were exchanging words my friend came to pacify the lady while ignoring me. same lady she has even badmouthed to me to avoid in the neighbourhood o. you all find it very quick to criticise someone without caring to know how they feel. 2 Likes |
Family / Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 5:37pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
culf:
So the assistance you're rendering is a reward for the errand they run for you? You should see it as a privilege but no wahala, when one door closes, God opens another unless if they don't look up to God.
Hmmm! how many children have you helped in your life? |
Family / Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 5:35pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
9icetoo:
Your entitlement mentality is astonishing.
Truly, common sense is not as common as it ought to be.
Unless of course, you are just trolling.
Which makes your post and comments barely okay. how many children have you helped in your life to sit down and write rubbish? you can't even withstand 3kids that are not yours in your house for 1day let alone 5kids coming and going from your house daily. Let them come stay in your house so you can cook for them , be the one to go buy ingredients that you will use to cook for them to eat, allow them to do nothing but stare at you then come out and give me your review. nonsense! this one is talking about common sense when he doesn't have one in his head. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Family / Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 5:27pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
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Family / Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 5:25pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
SAMBARRY thanks for your kind words. I've given them space o but funny enough they don't want to give me space. I don't know how to drive the kids away from me. |
Family / Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 5:23pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
escapadechuks: Op doesn't sound like a very nice person.
Is her child your nanny? Or because of your small small help? Then stop helping and get yourself a personal errand person. Shior you that is a nice person how many of your neighbour's kids have you helped or allowed into your house on a daily basis? hypocrite 🚫 |